Post: #1

I'm a beginner when it comes to game and need some help on a situation. I have a girl who is digging me, but due to my job she is off limits for another 3 weeks, or else I will kill my career before it even starts. The best way to describe it would be a T.A. and student relationship. Even after the 3 weeks, any developing relationship would be long-distance for the time being.

The dilemma I have is that this girl passes every qualification I have to get consideration for main chick status, so I'd rather not write it off as hopeless. What do I do to keep her on the hook until the time is right, or do I just have to accept that it won't happen?

Post: #2

I think given that the relationship is "taboo," you can slow-play this and easily string it out for the 3 weeks.

Spending time together, having conversations, etc, without escalating things. Make it obvious that you're developing feelings but present yourself in such a manner that you seem to be purposely controlling yourself and showing restraint.

These restricted types of situations have a lot of potential for building a great deal of passion. Just be careful to not oversell her to yourself, as we often project exaggerated value into the things we covet.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #3

(07-12-2014 10:03 AM)Mongo Wrote:  I'm a beginner when it comes to game and need some help on a situation. I have a girl who is digging me, but due to my job she is off limits for another 3 weeks, or else I will kill my career before it even starts. The best way to describe it would be a T.A. and student relationship. Even after the 3 weeks, any developing relationship would be long-distance for the time being.

The dilemma I have is that this girl passes every qualification I have to get consideration for main chick status, so I'd rather not write it off as hopeless. What do I do to keep her on the hook until the time is right, or do I just have to accept that it won't happen?

The most I've kept a girl interested in me is about a week. 3 Weeks sounds like a really long time. But, if you had to do it, I would say just send her sexual, neg-like messages from time to time.

Post: #4

Nowadays there is a universal answer to the majority of questions on the newbie forum: Abundance

Once you see yourself resorting to starting a thread about how to get a particular woman, odds are you won't get her. That's the truth, no bullshit

Post: #5

(07-12-2014 12:25 PM)SydneyD Wrote:  Nowadays there is a universal answer to the majority of questions on the newbie forum: Abundance

Once you see yourself resorting to starting a thread about how to get a particular woman, odds are you won't get her. That's the truth, no bullshit

Yeah, half the threads I consider starting are demolished by, "go talk to more girls." I don't say that facetiously either. If you approach more girls, then this one won't be an issue. It'll naturally string itself out because you'll be too busy going after real (available) prospects and not wondering about this one.

Post: #6

Don't neglect your own self improvement.

Improve your own situation, she can choose to follow when the time is right.

Post: #7

(07-12-2014 10:15 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  I think given that the relationship is "taboo," you can slow-play this and easily string it out for the 3 weeks.

Spending time together, having conversations, etc, without escalating things. Make it obvious that you're developing feelings but present yourself in such a manner that you seem to be purposely controlling yourself and showing restraint.

These restricted types of situations have a lot of potential for building a great deal of passion. Just be careful to not oversell her to yourself, as we often project exaggerated value into the things we covet.

Thank you. I should clarify that I am currently more focused on improving myself, and don't chase after females, even this one. In this case, just being myself brought about her attraction, and I'm mainly looking to keep my current results going, while acknowledging that some of the dynamics of my job are changed as a result of her crush on me. I guess what I am getting at is that I need to know if I should just keep being myself or begin running game. Hopefully that makes sense.

Post: #8

(07-13-2014 04:11 PM)Mongo Wrote:  Thank you. I should clarify that I am currently more focused on improving myself, and don't chase after females, even this one. In this case, just being myself brought about her attraction, and I'm mainly looking to keep my current results going, while acknowledging that some of the dynamics of my job are changed as a result of her crush on me. I guess what I am getting at is that I need to know if I should just keep being myself or begin running game. Hopefully that makes sense.

You always have to be running game. Game, as Roissy says, is applied charisma, and thus it is an extension of the way you interact socially. And if you want pussy, 95% of the time you need to make the first move. It doesn't matter if it's not your top priority. You can focus on your job and self-improvement and still put in the effort required to get laid.

(07-13-2014 04:11 PM)Mongo Wrote:  Even after the 3 weeks, any developing relationship would be long-distance for the time being.

Why are you even considering this then? A long-distance relationship with a girl you haven't even banged?