Post: #1

I've been hooking up with girls for over a decade.

And confession: I don't think a girl has ever *loved* me fingering her. Girls have squirted when I fucked them doggie style. They've come on my face when I went down on them. But they've never said, "oh yes, just keep finger fucking me like that." I've never fingerbanged a girl to orgasm.

In fact, usually, if I start fingering a girl, it starts to feel a little weird and awkward after a few minutes, and they'll roll over or tell me to fuck them. Clearly I'm doing something wrong.

I've seen guys who are *amazing* with their fingers. I've been to mansion sex parties where guys said they could make every girl in the mansion squirt, and I believed them.

I've tried to follow their advice, and it didn't work. Either I go too hard, or too fast, or the mood is not right. I don't know.

Tips on fingering girls? It seems like the best lovers are always using their hands, it's a big part of being a great lover. But it never seems to work for me...

Post: #2

Unless you really dig fingerbanging... does it really matter?

On a side-note you should do a write-up on these mansion sex parties.

Post: #3

- Go slow, build it up and tease

- Know the region. The man is at the top of the boat. G Spot is the spongey part facing you at the top; I assume you know this, hooking up with girls longer than I have (over a decade) but for the lurking aspiring sexual lotharios not in the know

- The wetness will define how many fingers. Stick your fingers in her mouth before inserting for that porno fantasy bonus. Good litmus test.

- Dominate her: be in control of the pace, the power hierarchy and always be speaking/instructing her.

Squirting is down to the spiderman/come hither hand movements.

Spiderman: Stick your middle and ring finger inside of her and point your index and pinky down (hence spiderman). Start jackhammering up and down, move your forearm rather than your hand.

Come hither: Move your index and middle fingers in a 'come hither' motion. Increase intensity. This is more tiring than spiderman, I like to do it mid-fuck if I am about to bust a nut.

I like to rub her clit for extra effect, building it up until she climaxes, under my command. I prefer to push down on pubic bone for both of these.

Fingering is just a part of the puzzle. If you are making girls squirt anyways, you shouldn't really worry about it. I actually commend you for caring enough (unlike most) but I enjoy the feel of pussy too. Playing around with it, dominating it before it gets smashed.

Post: #4

It's not supposed to be the main course. It's supposed to make her want more.

Post: #5

This should be in the newbie section...sounds a bit...

Post: #6

(07-03-2014 03:54 PM)kaotic Wrote:  This should be in the newbie section...sounds a bit...

When I saw the title on the main RooshVforum page I thought for sure when I clicked on this it was gonna be in the newbie section.

Post: #7

I used to like fingering when I first started getting laid. Fingering is okay, but my fingers get really sticky and it's kind of annoying. I prefer to eat pussy (which sounds ironic since I'd rather have pussy juice on my face than my fingers). Once I made a girl orgasm from finger banging, but she was EXTREMELY horny. It took about 15 seconds, but had very little to do with my actual fingering skills.

These days I mostly only finger girls as a way to check if she's wet and ready for my dick to go inside of her. If she's not dripping wet then I might finger her some more or eat her out.

Post: #8

Noir has it right, for gspot squirting start with the spiderman two finger insertion (after proper licking/lubrication) and begin the "come hither" (pun) movement... once your forearm tires begin to use wholee arm motion to supplement it.
(Plus, great forearm workout)

Kiss her. Nibble on her ear. Necking. Etc.
I truly enjoy making girls cum, its an ego thing, so I always do this.
About 50% of girls ive been with in the past year have squirted from that specific hand setup.


Clit on the other hand? Find with a licked finger, then feel it out.
Every girl is different.
Some want porno hard rubbing, others such a light touch that I can hardly tell I'm making contact (hate those sensitive fuckers, they start squirming and then its damn near impossible to keep track of things.. always fun to pin them down and hold em still though).
And remember, clit is like a mega dickhead of sensitivity. Keep moisturized. Either lick fingers as things dry out and begin to gain friction, or dip into the ideally by now soaking wet well, that's right by where you're working.

Post: #9

(07-03-2014 03:21 PM)party1981 Wrote:  In fact, usually, if I start fingering a girl, ... after a few minutes, and they'll roll over or tell me to fuck them.

Say 'No' to fucking, say that you are in control of the orgasm, continue to finger and deny their desire to be fucked; plus the other advice so far. Fuck when they are most desperate for it.

Post: #10

I always finger girls for awhile before sex. I hate eating pussy but for foreplays sake I'll make her almost get off with my finger. Ive heard it hurts most girls if you stick your fingers in before they are wet at all, and some girls have a problem getting to that level of wetness without direct contact. Some girls say it hurts even if they are wet(obvious not slutty girls)..and theyre telling me fingering can hurt more than sex, sad.
You should stimulate her indirectly, above her underwear, and then below, making sure to hit her clit area. you should esclate to pealing off the underwear/pushing them aside and rubbing her clit mound really fast and put some pressure, and then finally she should be wet so put now you can go put one, two fingers in maybe work up to three though its usually not necessary. by this point it doesnt matter how you insert it she should be craving some sort of penetration. maybe 7 minutes of this and then sex. I usually make her suck my dick while she does this.

Post: #11

Fingering a girl is like checking the oil on your car.

Is there enough wetness to proceed?

If you have a girl preferring you to finger her instead of fuck her, that should be a warning sign that you're not doing something right, or maybe she's a size queen (if she asks for multiple fingers).

Post: #12

Hbo series cathouse had an episode where they went into detail about fingering. I would recommend watching that. Got everything I needed there. You're welcome.

Post: #13

(07-03-2014 06:11 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  Fingering a girl is like checking the oil on your car.

Is there enough wetness to proceed?

If you have a girl preferring you to finger her instead of fuck her, that should be a warning sign that you're not doing something right, or maybe she's a size queen (if she asks for multiple fingers).

Let me clear up some things:

1. I don't usually make girls come or squirt. Maybe 20% of the time. I mentioned this in another thread, and I mentioned the different factors involved. I try to act like it makes no difference, but I also know that she's going to like you more if you make her come.

2. Mansion parties are easy to attend, if you get involved with the swinger community. I've always dabbled in that community off and on. Where I live (Utah), most of the swingers are actually not that bad looking. Being a single male fucking another another man's wife while he watches - that's usually not the type of game talked about in this message board. But it's a reality and I'll mention it when it's relevant.

3. The girls don't ask me to finger them instead of fucking them - the opposite. They ask me to stop fingering them and start fucking them.

I understand your skepticism, and I appreciate your expertise. But the very best lovers I've seen, and heard about, emphasize the importance of hands. Fingers are stronger than dicks, far more flexible than dicks, and don't suffer from ejaculation/exhaustion. At least, they can last longer if you're doing things right. I think Noir gave great tips above on how you can use your fingers to make a girl come.

Post: #14

Another technique is Thumb and Finger Rub

Rubbing the thumb against the index finger or fingertips is commonly used as a money expectancy gesture. Its symbolism is that of rubbing a coin between the thumb and fingertips. It is often used by the street vendor who says, 'I can save you 40%,' or by the person who says to his friend, 'Can you lend me fifty pounds?'

So do that around her clit. sofly

you can speak out loud

"Count the money! Count the money!"

Post: #15

I have the most success with two fingers, ring and middle. Rub through panties till she's wet then pull them off, get the fingers wet and center the clit between the ball and first knucle. Rub in a circular motion, side to side and up and down simultaneously keeping the clit between your two fingers. Vary speed, listen to the feedback her panting gives you. When things get dry up there slowly run them down the labia and inside, then slowly back up, maybe a couple times to tease here. Then back at it. Usually mix up this two finger technique every couple minutes with spreading the pussy with pointer and ring while lightly tickling the clit for 30 secs or so. It's all about the feedback though, go with what she likes. They're all a little different as mentioned already.

Was banging a girl two weeks ago for the first time and did this move/motion with just my thumb while banging her sitting up/missionary and she goes, "Wow, that's like a porn star move or something!" She was 36. Sad how many women must go through life without ever really getting fked.

Post: #16

Knowing how to finger a pussy properly is a necessary and vital skill for turning a girl on, and especially if you find yourself with a girl who is naturally very tight (usually petite or asian girls can be like this) or who hasn't had any sex for a long time.

Once I had a girl who was NOT a virgin, but was so tight and nervous about having sex, that pushing my dick inside her was not going to happen without a lot of pain for both of us. Instead I had to slowly open her using one finger at a time. I started with my pinky and worked my way up through all 5 fingers until I got to the thumb and middle finger. After that I put in 2 fingers at once and finally 3. That made sure she was wet, opened enough and ready to be fucked then.

The advice about techniques from Noir, Laserbear and Lizard King above are very accurate. You can't just be fingering her. You also have to be kissing her or nibbling her ear, and definitively you have to be talking to her in a strong, confident, dominant way. Telling her that this is your pussy now, you are in charge and she has to do what you say...and saying she's a naughty bad girl...and so on. Make her repeat out loud what you tell her.

If you get a particularly shy or difficult girl, getting her to tell you her sexual fantasies while you finger her can also help loosen her up.

Make sure you stop every now and then to tease her, and get her to plead with you to continue.
Repeat that at least a few times until she is really wet and open enough for your dick.

When her eyes are closed, she is breathing heavily, her body is tense and twitching and she can't stand it any longer...make her beg loudly to be fucked by you.

Then enter her and fuck that pussy hard and deep.

Post: #17

Three words.

Come hither motion*

Post: #18

I only finger bitches when my forearms haven't gotten a proper workout in a while

Post: #19

Great posts in this thread. Tonight I'm meeting a girl who practically is dying for a squirting orgasm and my fingering techniques will be a big part of it. I've never fingered a girl as hard as she likes it before so I think I have a bit more to learn.

Post: #20

The thread title makes me think of the related South Park song.

For your listening pleasure:

Post: #21

I love fingering pussy. I've been surprised sometimes at girls acting like they've never been fingered well before. At one point, I googled to see if maybe other guys weren't into fingering the way I am. I found some of the same things that have been said in this thread, like guys saying they only stick a finger in to see if she's wet. To each their own I guess, but I love pussy, and I love the way it feels on my fingers. I love how warm and slick it is. I love feeling all the folds and crevices. I love the way a girl will grind against my hand.

It is true that some girls aren't into it. Some girls find it's too rough on their clits, or just don't like it. I greatly prefer when the girl is into it. I do get satisfaction from being able to get the girl turned, and even bring her to orgasm, but frankly, I just like fingering for my own sake, because I like feeling up a pussy.

Post: #22

My finger is mostly used to test whether or not her pussy is wet enough. I don't waste time on fingering, except when I'm trying to beat LMR. Licking works good when you're battling LMR too.

Post: #23

There is a Nina Hartley video that was posted on the forum awhile ago. Here it is:
/thread-5725-...l#pid77966

I've watched it a few times and put it to the test with three different girls. (Most recently last night).

My findings:
1. Made the girl last night squirt for the first time in her life.
2. The first girl I used it on said I should teach classes to guys on how to finger a woman properly!

While I am doing it I tell them to tell me how much they like it, how wet they are, how much they want my cock inside them,etc.

After the girl orgasms a few times she will be begging you to fuck her. You know what to do from there.

Caractacus Potts

PS the girl from last night...said she had never come so much or so many times in her life! lol I've learned more real world applicable skills from RVF than I ever did in school! Thanks to everyone here!

Post: #24

I've always had random dudes in the gym asking me what I do to make my forearms so big.

I think it's mostly genetic but I like to think it's because of all the finger banging I did in my formative years.