Post: #1

I've often avoided fucking in my social circle, because pre-game I had the experience of an ex alienating all our mutual friends. Unfortunately, I recently ignored my own advice I took a woman to bed who threw herself at me in a shared social space.

She was fun and attractive, but once I got the clothes off, I discovered she was a practitioner of push-up bra deception, and hiding a scar from surgery. I made it clear to her that I'm not looking for a relationship, and would do nothing publicly to let on to our mutual friends know, but now I'm also wondering if I even to hit it again.

How would you suggest telling the girl "no" without triggering the crazy that comes out when women experience sexual rejection? I don't want to risk burning the community or space I met her at. She shows signs of crazy, but the regular vaguely spiritual manageable kind. Still, I doubt this will be the last time I fuck a female friend, so having a game plan would be good.

Post: #2

Leave em better than you've found em. Also helps if you're unconditionally logically reasoned unavailable for the dating purposes.. I.e. you are married, but your wife had ran afoul of the immigration law and was deported for 10 years. And you have a kid she's raising in Idk.. eastern Europe.

Post: #3

(06-03-2014 04:04 PM)runsonmagic Wrote:  I've often avoided fucking in my social circle, because pre-game I had the experience of an ex alienating all our mutual friends. Unfortunately, I recently ignored my own advice I took a woman to bed who threw herself at me in a shared social space.

She was fun and attractive, but once I got the clothes off, I discovered she was a practitioner of push-up bra deception, and hiding a scar from surgery. I made it clear to her that I'm not looking for a relationship, and would do nothing publicly to let on to our mutual friends know, but now I'm also wondering if I even to hit it again.

How would you suggest telling the girl "no" without triggering the crazy that comes out when women experience sexual rejection? I don't want to risk burning the community or space I met her at. She shows signs of crazy, but the regular vaguely spiritual manageable kind. Still, I doubt this will be the last time I fuck a female friend, so having a game plan would be good.

Fade out, lay low around her and that circle. I'd just play dumb and keep contact at minimum.

Post: #4

You're right to make it clear that you don't want a relationship. Stay hard on that point, and look for signs that she might not be on board with what you're saying. If she wants a relationship, bail. As Kaotic said, fade her out slowly and don't let her get into your frame and fuck with you. Eventually, it'll just fade away.

Post: #5

Try joking with her that you are just looking to have fun and that you dont take casual sex serious ---> But make sure you say it jokingly and not seriously

Post: #6

Mostly good advice here I'd say.

(06-03-2014 05:19 PM)calihunter Wrote:  Leave em better than you've found em.

Not possible. Heartiste talked about this once, it makes sense logically, and I've found it to be true anecdotally. I can look at girls I've dated, FWBs, and ONSs and despite what I add to her life emotionally or physically or whatever (which I feel I do, usually good at psycho- emo-talk), my giant schlong invariably leaves them lower value then before.

Can't say they're always worse off I guess, but I'd never say they're better off.

Hell even my ex-wife, who technically left me, I can't say was better off afterward...I mean, I took her virginity.

Post: #7

(06-04-2014 03:00 PM)heavy Wrote:  Mostly good advice here I'd say.

(06-03-2014 05:19 PM)calihunter Wrote:  Leave em better than you've found em.

Not possible. Heartiste talked about this once, it makes sense logically, and I've found it to be true anecdotally. I can look at girls I've dated, FWBs, and ONSs and despite what I add to her life emotionally or physically or whatever (which I feel I do, usually good at psycho- emo-talk), my giant schlong invariably leaves them lower value then before.

Can't say they're always worse off I guess, but I'd never say they're better off.

Hell even my ex-wife, who technically left me, I can't say was better off afterward...I mean, I took her virginity.

Like this guy says dude, You may think that you've left them in a better place, but once u leave them they'll feel like there a hole where u used to be

Post: #8

"It's complicated" works wonders.

Post: #9

If you don't leave a hole in her heart when you leave, you didn't game her properly.

If a girl is happy to see you go, she never gave two fucks about you, nor did you convert her deeply.

Post: #10

(06-05-2014 04:03 AM)Kaebs Wrote:  

(06-04-2014 03:00 PM)heavy Wrote:  Mostly good advice here I'd say.

(06-03-2014 05:19 PM)calihunter Wrote:  Leave em better than you've found em.

Not possible. Heartiste talked about this once, it makes sense logically, and I've found it to be true anecdotally. I can look at girls I've dated, FWBs, and ONSs and despite what I add to her life emotionally or physically or whatever (which I feel I do, usually good at psycho- emo-talk), my giant schlong invariably leaves them lower value then before.

Can't say they're always worse off I guess, but I'd never say they're better off.

Hell even my ex-wife, who technically left me, I can't say was better off afterward...I mean, I took her virginity.

Like this guy says dude, You may think that you've left them in a better place, but once u leave them they'll feel like there a hole where u used to be

This makes me a little sad inside. As selfish as I am, I do want to make the world better in my own little way.