Post: #1

Girls are more needy for keeping things cool socially, so while they do like to outright shame guys with insults, I think it might be causing them drama or something because I've noticed at least one new, psuedo-subtle pejorative that's popping up.

"You are very persistent"

This is a less confrontational way to say creepy.. it allows them to maintain an air of condescension. It's a thinly veiled put-down.

The fucked up thing is that persistence used to, I believe, be a valuable characteristic in men. A persistent man was persistent because he had a strong purpose.

I bet we are going to see a lot of these kinds of condescending shaming terms soon taking the place of old clunkers like "creepy."

Post: #2

I'm creepyly persistent.

Post: #3

soup, you bought in to the losers frame. The distinction between an underhanded compliment and a thinly veiled put-down is how you react (if you do) to it.

Habit is persistence in practice. You have a habit of talking to beautiful women, that's a wonderful thing.

Post: #4

I've seen more and more dumb ass broads using "persistent" and "Conceited"

Post: #5

they think it means PESTistent (yes not an actual word)...

Post: #6

Grammar might be on its way out too

Post: #7

Noir, how you react is different from what the girl's intention is.

It's not buying into the losers frame to be able to see a shit-test/put down for what it is. The real loser is the guy who's obliviousness to these subtle aspects conversation results in him getting blown out.

Post: #8

"My, that's a big word for such a little girl." (smirk)

"Did you memorize that line from a magazine? It makes you sound inconsistent."

Post: #9

I always call them little girl

"Does your daddy know you're out this late little girl?"

Post: #10

(05-17-2014 08:14 AM)Blackhawk Wrote:  "My, that's a big word for such a little girl." (smirk)

hah, exactly what I was going to say. "[smirk, raise eyebrows] that's a big word".

I've made it a point recently to ask younger girls to explain why someone they've referred to as 'creepy' in a story is, in fact, creepy (since asking them to explain the rationale underpinning their feelings is always an amusing thought exercise). usually with the subtext that I think the word has become overused. more often than not they'll backtrack if pressed for some level of analysis.

I feel like I'm doing my small part to eliminate that tactic... lol

Post: #11

I think it definitely comes down to the way that the girl says "You are very persistent." There are two things this sentence could mean --
1. NEGATIVE: You're coming on way too hard/I'm too good for you/I can't wait to tell my friends about how weird you are
2. POSITIVE: Fuck me hard.

-- and it's a much easier tell in-person vs. online dating/Tinder.

Post: #12

Regardless of how it was said I would still take it as a compliment and push on. I am pretty laid back when approaching and have yet to hear this in my career though.