Post: #1

No this isn't a good bye melt down thread. Love the forum and its resources.

I'm a bit ashamed to admit this to you guys, but my interest in game has plumetted to very low levels. I've met up with Spyder from this forum (great guy btw) and I realized my night game blows to the point that the more senior members of this forum would shake their heads at me. I'm a fan of daygame, but for me the ROI is low unless i go for a massive amount of numbers. For this forum, my notch count is below average (35) but I feel satisfied with that number and journey which helped me understand what women really want.

Don't laugh, but that drive that got me into gaming women has left that hobby and pushed me into personal fitness, theology, and finance as new areas of experimentation and interest.

I'll casually game here and there since flirting is fun, but the extra notch just doesn't fire me up anymore so i've become more passive about it.

Has this happened to anyone else? Don't get me wrong, I still love women and look forward to a new lay but the thrill of the hunt has gone down considerably. I'd rather invest my time into other pursuits. Maybe dare I say it.... a long term relationship!!!

Will my lustful passion ever come back?

Post: #2

How old are you?

I am almost 36 and have almost 0 interest in women, unless they are very good looking and also have common sense. And that is so rare that I can go months and months without seeing a woman that gets me interested.

For me it is both a mix of the great knowledge I have learned at places like this and also just getting older and less sex drive, thank God.

Post: #3

I'm with you. My desire for game is declining for sure. It gets old. That said, I could see myself going on a bender here and there in the future but overall I'd rather read a book.

Post: #4

(05-07-2014 08:36 AM)It_is_my_time Wrote:  How old are you?

I am almost 36 and have almost 0 interest in women, unless they are very good looking and also have common sense. And that is so rare that I can go months and months without seeing a woman that gets me interested.

For me it is both a mix of the great knowledge I have learned at places like this and also just getting older and less sex drive, thank God.

Hee, i'm only 24 that's why i'm surprised by all this. I expected the hooliganism to last until I was at least 26.

Post: #5

(05-07-2014 08:42 AM)frenchie Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 08:36 AM)It_is_my_time Wrote:  How old are you?

I am almost 36 and have almost 0 interest in women, unless they are very good looking and also have common sense. And that is so rare that I can go months and months without seeing a woman that gets me interested.

For me it is both a mix of the great knowledge I have learned at places like this and also just getting older and less sex drive, thank God.

Hee, i'm only 24 that's why i'm surprised by all this. I expected the hooliganism to last until I was at least 26.

Ah, I gotcha.

I remember reading some place about how men can be "over sexed" if women are left to their own devices. In other words, all women convey is sex, sex, sex, sex. That is all they talk about, all they offer. And men no longer have an escape from this.

Maybe just being around it all the time, and being with enough women to realize sex is really no big deal and is often more a pain than some reward, you are just getting burned out on it. It would be like eating Prime Rib for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Eventually you will get burned out on it, even if it is a high dollar meal.

I think if you found a high quality woman, through and through, that this might not be the case. But there are so few of them out there today that it seems tough to find one of these gems.

Post: #6

I think it depends on where you are. Some places will suck the desire you might otherwise have to game girls constantly. Imagine for example if you knew that tomorrow you would find a bunch of hot chicks ready to bang same day where you lived. Would you bow out then as well? If you would then you're legit in your desire to bow out. If not it could simply be you're in a bad location(the US, the West, etc). Also you could be pursuing a lot of different interests that will lead to improving your life and if you're not where you want to be in those areas it could hurt your game, even to the point of bowing out. You need some level of self satisfaction at hand to pursue with ease.

Post: #7

I find that my interest in game is more about my ego than my sex drive now.

I felt cool being able to get a cute girl's number in a coffee shop and get her into my bedroom on a first date because 99% of guys couldn't, but I actually had little desire for sex and didn't even get laid.

My dick used to get hard for a gust of the breeze. Now I go days in a row with no blood flow down there. I'm not even 30 yet... Damn

Post: #8

(05-07-2014 08:46 AM)It_is_my_time Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 08:42 AM)frenchie Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 08:36 AM)It_is_my_time Wrote:  How old are you?

I am almost 36 and have almost 0 interest in women, unless they are very good looking and also have common sense. And that is so rare that I can go months and months without seeing a woman that gets me interested.

For me it is both a mix of the great knowledge I have learned at places like this and also just getting older and less sex drive, thank God.

Hee, i'm only 24 that's why i'm surprised by all this. I expected the hooliganism to last until I was at least 26.

Ah, I gotcha.

I remember reading some place about how men can be "over sexed" if women are left to their own devices. In other words, all women convey is sex, sex, sex, sex. That is all they talk about, all they offer. And men no longer have an escape from this.

Maybe just being around it all the time, and being with enough women to realize sex is really no big deal and is often more a pain than some reward, you are just getting burned out on it. It would be like eating Prime Rib for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Eventually you will get burned out on it, even if it is a high dollar meal.

I think if you found a high quality woman, through and through, that this might not be the case. But there are so few of them out there today that it seems tough to find one of these gems.

I agree. I'd be all over a high quality chick. Hot girl with some intellectual stuff going on (wow pipe dream there).

The irony is, the more aloof I am the more overt hits and IOIs I get from women I see in my day to day life. A part of me even feels entitled to not have to put any effort into gaming women since i'm so awesome. They should come to me and entertain my interests. Like I said, pipe dreams galore.

Post: #9

(05-07-2014 09:12 AM)frenchie Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 08:46 AM)It_is_my_time Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 08:42 AM)frenchie Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 08:36 AM)It_is_my_time Wrote:  How old are you?

I am almost 36 and have almost 0 interest in women, unless they are very good looking and also have common sense. And that is so rare that I can go months and months without seeing a woman that gets me interested.

For me it is both a mix of the great knowledge I have learned at places like this and also just getting older and less sex drive, thank God.

Hee, i'm only 24 that's why i'm surprised by all this. I expected the hooliganism to last until I was at least 26.

Ah, I gotcha.

I remember reading some place about how men can be "over sexed" if women are left to their own devices. In other words, all women convey is sex, sex, sex, sex. That is all they talk about, all they offer. And men no longer have an escape from this.

Maybe just being around it all the time, and being with enough women to realize sex is really no big deal and is often more a pain than some reward, you are just getting burned out on it. It would be like eating Prime Rib for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Eventually you will get burned out on it, even if it is a high dollar meal.

I think if you found a high quality woman, through and through, that this might not be the case. But there are so few of them out there today that it seems tough to find one of these gems.

I agree. I'd be all over a high quality chick. Hot girl with some intellectual stuff going on (wow pipe dream there).

The irony is, the more aloof I am the more overt hits and IOIs I get from women I see in my day to day life. A part of me even feels entitled to not have to put any effort into gaming women since i'm so awesome. They should come to me and entertain my interests. Like I said, pipe dreams galore.

I think all men dream to find a woman like they see on their TV or in the movies. Beautiful, dressed up in a feminine fashion, rational, logical, caring, protecting, loving. But we all know this doesn't exist in reality.

So most guys would settle for just a feminine woman, who embraces her feminine side and is sexy and nurturing. But in our modern society this is even a rarity.

What we are left with is mostly undesirable. And then you add in "been there done that" and throw in "I have to work hard to get that", it really gets old after a while.

Post: #10

You're running into a wall when you're approaching women and maybe you are just bored of it and then comes night game and you're even worse off.

You need a break.

Post: #11

I feel the same way. I'm 43 and have banged, I don't even know, 70, 80, 90 girls in my life. Most of them bieng in my teens and 20's The older I got, the less girls I had sex with. What becomes most important is quality, and I think the more you make yourself a quality person, the more life opens the door to being with a quality woman.

Sounds like a growth in self-development is what's occuring with you. Definately natural and a good thing for sure.

Post: #12

Quote:Definately natural and a good thing for sure.

What's natural about a 24 year old not waking up with a hard on every morning and drive to get laid?

There's something wrong here I can't tell you what but something because I'm 44 and wake up like this every day.

Post: #13

I agree with el mech.

And I think the OP knows something is up, and that's why he posted this thread.

Post: #14

(05-07-2014 10:18 AM)el mechanico Wrote:  

Quote:Definately natural and a good thing for sure.

What's natural about a 24 year old not waking up with a hard on every morning and drive to get laid?

There's something wrong here I can't tell you what but something because I'm 44 and wake up like this every day.

That's what is kicking me. Went to the doctor two weeks (unrelated to this) and even my labs check out fine. Heck my T levels are pretty high at 980 ng/dl and everything else in the blood work is well above board.

Gym has been fine too. Taking a week off for some exertion headache crap from jump roping too much, but i've been feeling better taking some time off.

For the record, I still pop random boners and when I see a hot chick I certainly do a "down-up". There's just no desire to push my luck and try to open.

Like I said, that "drive" has moved onto other interests for the time being. Heck I just powered through two books in the course of a month, the same level of hyper focus I had when approaching and getting girls.

Post: #15

I'm right there with you man. For me the problem with Game is that it doesn't build long term equity. There is no retirement plan that you're working toward by banging girls and getting better at game. You won't ever reach a point where girls just throw themselves on your dick. It is always grind. Sure you can become more efficient over time, but it will always be a grind and you will always have to work for it.

For me, I've found that starting and running my own business is something that challenges me deeply, but it is also a long term investment in myself, and the rewards are satisfying and long lasting. I'm building toward something, and that brings me happiness. Banging girls only pays off in the short term. So I think it is normal to feel what you are feeling.

Go ahead and pursue your other interests. It is important to see what will make you happy in the long term. Every guy is different. Eventually you'll get the bug back and want to bang new girls, and since you've learned the basics of game, you will be able to hit the ground running in the future.

Post: #16

(05-07-2014 08:36 AM)It_is_my_time Wrote:  How old are you?

I am almost 36 and have almost 0 interest in women, unless they are very good looking and also have common sense. And that is so rare that I can go months and months without seeing a woman that gets me interested.

For me it is both a mix of the great knowledge I have learned at places like this and also just getting older and less sex drive, thank God.

You mean Bieber's new girlfriend fails the boner test?

But, I'm with you, though. Unless she brings a lot more than just a couple of photo shoots at the beach, I'd gleefully pass her on.

Post: #17

I'm in this boat too. My last several bangs haven't done much for me aside from boost my ego. Night game is awful, and I typically have better things to do than daygame, even though I talk to girls wherever I go.

I get more gratification from reading, playing guitar, working out, and stacking cash.

All that said, this ONLY applies to me in the U.S. When I'm traveling it's a whole other story. Get me on foreign territory and I'm like a goddamn honey badger.

Post: #18

(05-07-2014 11:12 AM)michaelm Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 08:36 AM)It_is_my_time Wrote:  How old are you?

I am almost 36 and have almost 0 interest in women, unless they are very good looking and also have common sense. And that is so rare that I can go months and months without seeing a woman that gets me interested.

For me it is both a mix of the great knowledge I have learned at places like this and also just getting older and less sex drive, thank God.

You mean Bieber's new girlfriend fails the boner test?

But, I'm with you, though. Unless she brings a lot more than just a couple of photo shoots at the beach, I'd gleefully pass her on.

Are you freaking kidding me?

Post: #19

(05-07-2014 11:19 AM)el mechanico Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 11:12 AM)michaelm Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 08:36 AM)It_is_my_time Wrote:  How old are you?

I am almost 36 and have almost 0 interest in women, unless they are very good looking and also have common sense. And that is so rare that I can go months and months without seeing a woman that gets me interested.

For me it is both a mix of the great knowledge I have learned at places like this and also just getting older and less sex drive, thank God.

You mean Bieber's new girlfriend fails the boner test?

But, I'm with you, though. Unless she brings a lot more than just a couple of photo shoots at the beach, I'd gleefully pass her on.

Are you freaking kidding me?

I Kid you not.

Walking cliche? I don't know. My feeling at present about girls like her is ambivalent.

Post: #20

(05-07-2014 11:24 AM)michaelm Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 11:19 AM)el mechanico Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 11:12 AM)michaelm Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 08:36 AM)It_is_my_time Wrote:  How old are you?

I am almost 36 and have almost 0 interest in women, unless they are very good looking and also have common sense. And that is so rare that I can go months and months without seeing a woman that gets me interested.

For me it is both a mix of the great knowledge I have learned at places like this and also just getting older and less sex drive, thank God.

You mean Bieber's new girlfriend fails the boner test?

But, I'm with you, though. Unless she brings a lot more than just a couple of photo shoots at the beach, I'd gleefully pass her on.

Are you freaking kidding me?

I Kid you not.

Walking cliche? I don't know. My feeling at present about girls like her is ambivalent.

I don't know if it's a generational thing but you guys definitely have some things going on.

Post: #21

One possibility is you are probably just chasing the wrong girls.

Here's another thought. In my experience lifestyle and game go hand in hand. If I'm not fired up about a project I'm working on, or I'm not obsessed with achieving some goal my sex drive is considerably lower. On the other hand, when I am relentlessly pursuing a professional goal my sex drive goes through the roof.

Maybe you are just kinda apathetic about life in general right now? Something to think about.

Post: #22

(05-07-2014 11:31 AM)General Mayhem Wrote:  One possibility is you are probably just chasing the wrong girls.

Here's another thought. In my experience lifestyle and game go hand in hand. If I'm not fired up about a project I'm working on, or I'm not obsessed with achieving some goal my sex drive is considerably lower. On the other hand, when I am relentlessly pursuing a professional goal my sex drive goes through the roof.

Maybe you are just kinda apathetic about life in general right now? Something to think about.

That has been the case in the past, but like I said i've been diving deep into theology and finance. Both subjects have had me glued to books lately.

It's probably time to do some traveling.

Post: #23

(05-07-2014 01:05 PM)frenchie Wrote:  

(05-07-2014 11:31 AM)General Mayhem Wrote:  One possibility is you are probably just chasing the wrong girls.

Here's another thought. In my experience lifestyle and game go hand in hand. If I'm not fired up about a project I'm working on, or I'm not obsessed with achieving some goal my sex drive is considerably lower. On the other hand, when I am relentlessly pursuing a professional goal my sex drive goes through the roof.

Maybe you are just kinda apathetic about life in general right now? Something to think about.

That has been the case in the past, but like I said i've been diving deep into theology and finance.

Good man. Don't worry about sluts there's no shortage of 'em.

BTW: I predict even if you travel you aren't going to suddenly get the urge to be a banging machine. You're probably the type of guy who gets 1-3 hot girls on a rotation and then goes back to his usual activities.

Post: #24

(05-07-2014 08:26 AM)frenchie Wrote:  Has this happened to anyone else? Don't get me wrong, I still love women and look forward to a new lay but the thrill of the hunt has gone down considerably. I'd rather invest my time into other pursuits. Maybe dare I say it.... a long term relationship!!!

I feel the same way. I feel i need to progress into other areas of game, and by that i mean long lasting relationships.

Post: #25

If you wouldn't fuck Justin Bieber's new girlfriend then there is a definitely something wrong I think.

Or maybe you are just trolling ??