Post: #26

- Younger than me
- Shorter than me
- Gorgeous face
- Fit body
- No tats
- No Fake tits
- Not carousel ridden
- Feminine personality
- Not an attention whore
- Not a druggie
- Not an excessive drinker/partier
- Has a purpose in life

Post: #27

(04-29-2014 06:43 AM)big poppa Wrote:  

(04-29-2014 06:04 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  

(04-29-2014 05:47 AM)big poppa Wrote:  I've been dating this girl for a while now, virgin until I was with her.. Attractive, not an amazing body but very very bangable. Very rarely drinks, doesn't smoke, her friends are all 'good girls', none of them have been with more than 1 partner at 21-22 years old. She cooks, her parents are together, she respects her father, etc. etc.

Only thing is that I'm 22, and I don't how much longer I can continue leading her on because I will not be marrying for at least 10-15 years.

Am I going to regret letting her go? Are these girls easy to find? :\

As far as whether they're easy to find, where do you live?

I will say that yes, part of you will probably regret letting her go, at least sometimes.

But part of you will regret staying with her if you do too.

It's just the nature of a man.

22 is young and you've got your whole life ahead of you. You're also the same age, so that means she'll age just as fast as you will, which isn't really ideal from a man's perspective. It does suck to string them along for a long time when you're not as serious as they are too.

You could try being honest with her about the situation, but if she loves you, she'll find a way to rationalize sticking it out anyways. That's how women often work - their emotions make the decision and then they hamster it. And then she'll still blame you later when her attempts to change your mind over the years don't work.

So if you want to move on, you'll probably have to take full responsibility of cutting the cord yourself.

I guess it just depends on your goals in life. I'm sure some guys will pop in here and presume to have the answers you need, but at the end of the day, the solution for this particular scenario is something you can only decide for yourself.

In Australia unfortunately. (I will mention that this girl is of Indian background, therefore strong family values and marriage is until the end). She has done well escaping Western indoctrination, has a facebook but hasn't status updated once in the 1.5 years I've been with her. She's also happy to go an entire evening/night with me without once checking her phone. I feel like she is an extremely rare beast in these areas.

You're right. It's something I will have to decide for myself, and to be honest I already do know the answer. I will let her go, but I'm just kind of delaying it because she's a great girl.

Without finding these sorts of sites no doubt I'd be marrying her at 24 or 25 and probably be full of regret 10 years later.

If there is no reason to end the relationship, don't do it. Enjoy the time that you are with her and you can still see other girls behind her back. You don't need to be sexually faithful to her.

Just stay in the relationship till her greatness goes away, if it doesn't and the sex is damn good, she is the right one, marry her. But I doubt it though, the woman of our dreams doesn't really exist.

Post: #28

There's a girl my older brother is seeing and considering for long term(he hasn't swallowed the red pill completely but he has some aspects, but he is into long terms that lead to possible marriage). She's great, especially for DC standards, great figure and gorgeous face, cooks insanely well, doesn't party at all and hardly ever drinks, and she has an overall feminine demeanor. However, she is into hallucinogenic drugs(lsd, psilocybin etc), although she doesn't do other drugs. She is a huge advocate for them and believes they enhance creativity and mind or some garbage like that, my brother can't figure out whether this should be a deal breaker or not. I can't either. She was never promiscuous either and my brother said she was relatively hard to bed. She's an interesting case.. what would you all do?

Post: #29

Damn obviously alot of dates will filter this for you naturally, makes me slightly depressed that most females are hopeless.

Reading all these standards....makes a little bit like saying fuck it, why bother even having a girl, but at that same time, fuck what others think, i like what i like.

I mean the obviou and easy ones are not being a fatty, pretty, minimal drama, low maintenance, and has a positive mindset.

Post: #30

Pleasant, agreeable, gorgeous. I try to keep my list short as possible.

Post: #31

She has to be gorgeous (NOT hot), come from a good family and have a bit of an attitude. Too nice is boring to me.

Most important though is that she has to be more naive than me. If she can have a discussion with me about which drugs are the best, or how painful it is to get a tattoo, or teach me things about sex that I don't already know, she's not gf material.

Post: #32

Usually girls who come from nice families and don't do drugs or have sex wont have this attitude. And gorgeous girls are hard to come by period depending on your definition of it.

Post: #33

(04-29-2014 07:09 AM)UnW Wrote:  - Younger than me
- Shorter than me
- Gorgeous face
- Fit body
- No tats
- No Fake tits
- Not carousel ridden
- Feminine personality
- Not an attention whore
- Not a druggie
- Not an excessive drinker/partier
- Has a purpose in life

I agree with your entire list except for "shorter than me". Why do you say that? Now, if you're 6'2, I completely understand. No one wants to date an Amazon.

I'm 5'9 and my current LTR and my last were both just slightly taller than me. Of course, they were both wayy taller than me in heels. I fucking love it. To me, it's a complete status symbol.

Post: #34

I am married so no, I am not against the idea of long term commitment

1- Preferrably at least 10 years younger than me
2- doesn't drink, or does so occasionally or in a non social setting (drinking with her husband or other family members)
3-Didn't have more than 2-3 sexual partners, preferrably had sex only in a committed relationship. My wife was a virgin when I first had sex with her
4-Has traditional values/is conservative.
5-Has household skills
6- Likes children and knows how to care for them
7- Is well read/knowledgeable/educated
8- Slim body
9- Has to be caring. My wife wakes several times at night when i am ill to check on my fever.

Post: #35

(05-02-2014 10:21 AM)cmrocks Wrote:  

(04-29-2014 07:09 AM)UnW Wrote:  - Younger than me
- Shorter than me
- Gorgeous face
- Fit body
- No tats
- No Fake tits
- Not carousel ridden
- Feminine personality
- Not an attention whore
- Not a druggie
- Not an excessive drinker/partier
- Has a purpose in life

I agree with your entire list except for "shorter than me". Why do you say that? Now, if you're 6'2, I completely understand. No one wants to date an Amazon.

I'm 5'9 and my current LTR and my last were both just slightly taller than me. Of course, they were both wayy taller than me in heels. I fucking love it. To me, it's a complete status symbol.

I am of a similar height. For me, its a personal preference, I have pumped and dumped many girls who were slightly (or well) taller than me, but I feel more attracted to a girl who is shorter than me, maybe a feeling of male dominance being above her?

Post: #36

(04-29-2014 06:39 AM)Sargon of Akkad Wrote:  Looks:
- Pretty face, nice body (long sexy legs, nice waist and back).
- Has to be attractive without makeup: I hate waking up to a different woman than the one I went to bed with.
- Has to take good care of her appearance. Good style and grooming, but not high-maintenance.
- Good combination of cute and sexy.
- I'm most physically attracted to Asians, but this is not a must.
- long, naturally colored hair is also preferred.

Other:
- Should have experience living and traveling abroad as well as an interest in cultures/countries other than her own.
- Should have at the very least basic knowledge of history and the world outside her home country, none of this "Oh, do they also have four seasons in Foreignland?"-nonsense.
- Would prefer university education, but not too academic.
- Similar interests and socio-political views to mine, but not completely identical.
- Should be both warm (caring/affectionate, generally fun to be around) and level-headed
- Should be capable of critical thought
- moderate, social drinking
- Should smell nice and have smooth, soft skin.

Sex:
- Tight, nice-smelling, well lubricated vagina: I like girls who are already soaking wet the moment I put my finger down there.
- Should be about equally as horny as I am; sex about once a day is good.
- Should be good at giving head
- Should be into trying slightly kinky shit.

NOT preferred:
- tattoos, excessive piercings or body modifications,
- strong Westernization, particularly Americanization (not as much of a deal for me as for others, but still annoying, nonetheless).
- strong attrachment to a particular subculture e.g. hip-hop.
- Too many previous partners (no exact number, the upper limit will depend on other factors).

Dealbreakers:
- NO batshit insane ideologies (nationalism, extreme religious conservatism, racism, homophobia, conspiracy theories, radical feminism, etc.)
- No, absolutely NO New-Age beliefs (any mention of Mediums, Quantum Mysticism, "the Secret", crystals or GOD help you, Deepak Chopra, and I'm outta here).
- NO addictions (drugs/alcohol, gambling, etc.)
- NO baffling ignorance or stupidity
- NO fatties or anorexics
- NO moodiness, temper-tantrums, psycho-bitchiness, frequent crying fits, mind games, or anything similar; anything resembling a drama-queen is unacceptable
- NO other random things most of us would turn down a girl for (STDs, amputated limbs, mental illness, etc).

Ugh, the problem is that almost no girl these days fits such a description. It is seemingly impossible for a girl, even is she to be brought up in a respectable, pleasant home, to grow up respectable and pleasant, and not batshit insane.

I would add:
- racism. Often a girl doesn't outright hate a particular group. But she doesn't really like them either. I have run away in such situations to teach her a lesson, and because it's the right thing to do. And it cuts both ways. Some girls are so politically correct, you can't talk about certain things. You're walking on eggshells, especially girls who believe in feminism. Another sign to walk.
- uses the Internet/phone sparingly.

Post: #37

I don't mind fake tits as long as they look and feel natural. A good boob job, that doesn't have the typical fake boob look and feel, can make a girl much more attractive going from an A or B cup to a C.

Post: #38

(04-28-2014 05:22 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  Not all of us are against the idea of long-term girlfriends here.

What do you look for in a woman that makes her worth dating for you?

Personally, whenever I consider looking for a long-term, I screen for women who don't drink. It sure makes it trickier to get her in bed in the first place, but at the end of the day, people who drink make bad decisions.

Maybe not always. Maybe not often. But alcohol inevitably leads to slutty behavior. I'm not hating on sluts - I just prefer not to date them. Not to mention that if a girl can resist the huge social temptation of drinking, it speaks volumes about her general character.

Note that not drinking isn't a foolproof slut screen, but it does get you a good deal of the way there.

Smoking is a definite no-no. I might date a girl who drinks socially, at least on a casual basis, but no fucking way am I dating a smoker. I have in the past and it never stopped being a turn-off for me.

I also highly value a beautiful face. She doesn't have to have the most banging body in the world (she does have to at least be slender), but I'm not going to walk around with some busted-face chick on my arm.

No babies; no exceptions. And I definitely start losing interest if I hear a mention of not really knowing how to cook.

I've broken all these rules in the past, but the older I get, the more important they are for me.

Damn. We're on the same page. These are my exact rules, and I've broken them as well when I was younger, only to regret doing so. Now, it's a zero tolerance policy for exceptions.

I agree with you on the drinking in regards to its effect on women and what it usually means when a woman doesn't drink, or drinks very rarely.

Also, no tattoos, isn't excessively materialistic, and has to have parents that are still married (because then I know she understands how a marriage works).

Post: #39

(04-29-2014 06:39 AM)Sargon of Akkad Wrote:  Looks:
- Pretty face, nice body (long sexy legs, nice waist and back).
- Has to be attractive without makeup: I hate waking up to a different woman than the one I went to bed with.
- Has to take good care of her appearance. Good style and grooming, but not high-maintenance.
- Good combination of cute and sexy.
- I'm most physically attracted to Asians, but this is not a must.
- long, naturally colored hair is also preferred.

Other:
- Should have experience living and traveling abroad as well as an interest in cultures/countries other than her own.
- Should have at the very least basic knowledge of history and the world outside her home country, none of this "Oh, do they also have four seasons in Foreignland?"-nonsense.
- Would prefer university education, but not too academic.
- Similar interests and socio-political views to mine, but not completely identical.
- Should be both warm (caring/affectionate, generally fun to be around) and level-headed
- Should be capable of critical thought
- moderate, social drinking
- Should smell nice and have smooth, soft skin.

Sex:
- Tight, nice-smelling, well lubricated vagina: I like girls who are already soaking wet the moment I put my finger down there.
- Should be about equally as horny as I am; sex about once a day is good.
- Should be good at giving head
- Should be into trying slightly kinky shit.

NOT preferred:
- tattoos, excessive piercings or body modifications,
- strong Westernization, particularly Americanization (not as much of a deal for me as for others, but still annoying, nonetheless).
- strong attrachment to a particular subculture e.g. hip-hop.
- Too many previous partners (no exact number, the upper limit will depend on other factors).

Dealbreakers:
- NO batshit insane ideologies (nationalism, extreme religious conservatism, racism, homophobia, conspiracy theories, radical feminism, etc.)
- No, absolutely NO New-Age beliefs (any mention of Mediums, Quantum Mysticism, "the Secret", crystals or GOD help you, Deepak Chopra, and I'm outta here).
- NO addictions (drugs/alcohol, gambling, etc.)
- NO baffling ignorance or stupidity
- NO fatties or anorexics
- NO moodiness, temper-tantrums, psycho-bitchiness, frequent crying fits, mind games, or anything similar; anything resembling a drama-queen is unacceptable
- NO other random things most of us would turn down a girl for (STDs, amputated limbs, mental illness, etc).

Needless to say, I am afraid that if you look for a woman that fits most of these criterias you would have to look for ultra conservatives/right winger/religious girls. And yet you would consider that a dealbreaker - why though? These are the only "wife material" left in the USA.

I think women like you describe are just impossible to find nowadays.