Post: #1

Quora: Why would you *not* choose to marry a career woman?

Question:

Quote:It seems the prevailing belief in western society is, that men should marry women with equally ambitious careers. Yet I meet a lot of men who basically say they would not choose a to marry a career woman, would prefer to stay single instead (in this case "career woman" means somebody in a high-powered or technical career, such as a lawyer, doctor, or high level corporate career. A woman in a slower career such as nursing, HR, or retail seems not to carry the same negative connotations in men's minds).

The most common answers from men is that they feel career women are more likely to divorce and won't put in the time and effort required to be good mothers.

For men answering this question, what are your thoughts on marriage to high-powered or corporate career women?

My answer:

Quote:I personally chose not to marry a high powered career woman. I had plenty of chances, plenty of women who were determined that I should marry them, but I walked away from them all.

I learned that, if you are a marriage-minded man, you have lots of choices, so no need to compromise.

Ended up instead very happily married with 2 kids, to a woman who was clearly not on a career path, a poet actually.

My reasons were simple. I wanted a happy family and healthy kids. The women I met in high-pressure careers lived high-pressure, high stress lives. It was unlikely they would be able to slow down enough on their career to have healthy pregnancies and raise young children.

I know for a fact that young children need a mom around. I do not believe in sending toddlers to a day care while mom fights co-workers, then comes home angry. Little kids know the difference...they really do. I've seen too many kids totally screwed up by this.

People say "oh, the kids will be all right". Well, no actually the kids won't be all right. They will be screwed up and once a kid is screwed up as a toddler, they are never whole as people.

Also career women incur a lot of debt, especially if they are doctors or lawyers. So they can't quit to be a mom, even if they want to. In many cases their maternal instincts will kick in after the first kid and they will want to quit and just be a mom. It's a conflict to have to leave their babies, often when babies are crying for mom. This creates anger and resentment in the working woman, that will turn her sour and dissatisfied (even though she might be in denial about that).

That sourness and dissatisfaction is damaging to a happy marriage and a happy life.

So personally I found a woman who wanted to be a mom and had a satisfying career that enabled her to be a mom. I work a lot harder to provide and we have to forgo the gadgets and expenses that our neighbors have. But our neighbors have screwed up kids and we don't. So it works.

Of course the hamsters and white knights on Quora will vote this question down, trying to make sure that "men have a choice" is never shown as a valid argument in our society.

Post: #2

A woman in a high paying, high power career does not "need" a man as she has her own money, so unless you game her continuously she will not be as invested in the relationship.

This thought process works for her until she is hitting the wall or gets baby rabies. Then it's usually too late.

I have an aunt like this. Very hot in her younger days, did some modeling, etc. (Still looks pretty damn good at 54) Married and divorced twice before getting married the third and last time when around 39. Was actually able to have two kids that are normal at that advanced age, so she got very lucky.

btw-Her husband is about 10 years older than she is.

Post: #3

I would choose not to because they don't make good wives.

Post: #4

I'm enjoying the comments on Quora. The women immediately start attacking with strawman arguments or poorly disguise shaming tactics. The men are actually thoughtful.

Post: #5

Quora is a haven for political correctness, feminists and social warriors, women and men. I'd advise a strong stomach to read through their "social" categories

Post: #6

Great answer, as well as the ones above it.

The phrasing of the question is a great way to get perspectives like yours on a feminist place like Quora. Instead of, "Is a career woman a good choice for a wife?" It's "why do some men refuse to marry career women?" Or "why do men balk at dating overweight girls?"

I have to figure the reach of quora is still fairly low.


Haha I see you're getting IFT-ed (Indian Feminist Trolled) in the comments.

Post: #7

(04-27-2014 12:27 PM)Basil Ransom Wrote:  Great answer, as well as the ones above it.

The phrasing of the question is a great way to get perspectives like yours on a feminist place like Quora. Instead of, "Is a career woman a good choice for a wife?" It's "why do some men refuse to marry career women?" Or "why do men balk at dating overweight girls?"

I have to figure the reach of quora is still fairly low.


Haha I see you're getting IFT-ed (Indian Feminist Trolled) in the comments.

Yeah what is with all the indian feminist chicks? Don't they have their own blog to troll on?

Post: #8

(04-27-2014 12:18 PM)Teutatis Wrote:  Quora is a haven for political correctness, feminists and social warriors, women and men. I'd advise a strong stomach to read through their "social" categories

Some stuff on there is indeed incredibly pathetic.

Post: #9

" what is with all the indian feminist chicks? "

I met this Indian chick from the Caribbean, Guyana - very sexy. She was very quick to distance herself and her fellow Caribbean Indians from American and native Indian women, haha, basically called them losers.

Post: #10

Career women already have the so-called "corporate boyfriend". The company provides her with a set of rules, security and resources. She wakes up, dresses and puts makeup for the corporate boyfriend. The other females provide her gossip. The office beta males, entertainment and validation. She does not need a beta male (aka boyfriend, husband) other than for semen.

She only needs the Alpha cock. However, many career women are overworked and over-stressed. Their sex drive is low because all the stress hormones. They don't have much time for alpha males, and perhaps not even the drive to be fucked by them.

I regularly avoid dates with career women, and if I make one, I made her to drive to a bar near my place, prepared to either go for the band within hours, or to eject within the first 45 minutes of the date. If the latter occurs, I literally ask for the check, put my part with my share of tip, and leave immediately, without even saying goodbye. Minimal emotional investment.

Post: #11

Also worth repeating:

There's an element of perspective bias. Just as loser males assume that because they like sensitive, sweet women that a woman will like a sensitive, sweet man, these women assume that because they like a "strong" aggressive, material success-oriented man that men will like that kind of Woman.

Post: #12

I like how the leftist's ideas fired back on them. They want women to have it all a family and a career, yet real men refuse to comply. If it weren't for clueless betas and white knights those career women would never have children and be alone. More men need to wake up so that in the future all this leftist discourses will have their proper end.

Reality
Career women=cat lady, never married never had children
Wussified men(oppressed by the law)= loner, lives with parents

When the actual consequences of the leftist ideas take place that's when women themselves will start rejection feminism.

Post: #13

Unfortunately we are driven as men from a young age to make money and many of led to believe that money is the key to happiness. Two higher earners thus in the majority of mens eyes should equal increased happiness. I mean bigger apartment, nicer car etc.

Who do you think will have more fun in life though. Guys like Neil and Roosh who traveled the world at a time when they could make much more money from a deskjob. Truth be told most of these office drones live such boring lives despite making vastly more 99% of the population in many countries. I see it all the time. Guy who makes 300+k whose social life consists of going out to dinners with his wife and events hosted by the childrens private school. News flash, that is super super boring. So then these guys end up being retired and typically have say 1-10 million saved but they are then 65 years old and worn out.

Typically until they are 50+ they don't actually have all that much to show for it in terms of financial freedom. They often have an expensive house and have had many nice cars but little to show for it in financial assets.

The only time making a career woman makes sense is if you are dead set on living the rest of your life in America. You are also primarily driven by the possession of "things" rather than "experiences." Which is how most people are unfortunately...