Post: #1

I am finally matching up with a few attractive girls on Tinder- just when I had about given up hope. I see the "what should I text next thread" is kind of dying, and most scenarios are not getting suggestions. Regardless, Tinder is a different world as all attractions and comfort need to be build from scratch through essentially text messages. I'm talking to a sexy Latina here in GDL who, based on pics, I'd consider a 9 (I'm still crappy at embedding, but if there's interest in this thread I'll figure it out.)

[Just as soon as I break my dry spell I'll make a sincere effort to contribute to the knowledge-base of this forum, but will feel I'm full of shit if I do that now. So forgive my taking more than giving for now]

Basically I feel that I jumped the gun a bit. Is there any saving it? Before you call me beta in my style, notice that it was working until I went for the meetup logistics..

Me: Wow _____ you are stunning, and poetic. Where are you from.

Her: Hahaha, why do you say that? I live here in GDL, where r you from?

Me: Your long hair, smile, eyes... Hermosa! I'm from Colorado, been here a month. What about your small town before GDL?

Her: haha I was born in a small beach town called mazatlan, in the northwest of the country.

Her: How long are you gonna stay here?

Me: I spent a day in Mazatlan, on the drive here. It is beautiful, I'd like to visit again. I will live here for at least a year, maybe longer.

Her: What do you do?

Me: I'm a teacher at _____ Have you heard of it?

Her: Yes

Her: Nice

Me: ___ grade. It is fun, my kids are adorable! Why did you move here from Mazatlan?

Her: College

Her: I almost finish it

Me: Cool, what are you studying?

Her: Communications and digital media

Me: That's interesting, and you can be creative. What is a passion of yours? One of mine is motocross, as you can see.

Her: Disney

Her: Haha

Her: I'm really looking forward to go back to Florida and do another internship

Her: Working there or for the company in Burbank is a huge dream for me

Her: I also like ice skating and music, haha

Me: I can imagine it would be a wonderful job. I always liked the Lion King soundtrack, and movie also What are your favorite genres of music?

Her: Soft rock, 80s music, jazz
Her: Classical music
Her: I'm such an old lady haha
Her: What about you?

Me: I'd just add some country to that list, and it's mine. There's a great jazz lounge with live music near me. My fav classical composer it Gustav Holst, and yours?

Her: Tchaikovsky
Her: And Beethoven
Her: Where is near you?

Me: ____________. The jazz lounge is called __________.. And Russia has produced some great composers.

Her: Is a nice area. I've never heard of that place hahaha

Her: I'm going to bed, and you should too
Her: Ttyl
Her: XO

Me: Ok, buenas noches. xo
---------------------------------(next day)------------------
Her: Hi

Me: Hola magnifica. How is your day going?

Her: Great how's yours

Me: Very good. Later I am going to a social group where people chat and practice English and Spanish, at a lounge on _____. Want to join?

------------------------------------(dead air)----------------------

Any way to salvage this? I know I should wait, probably until tomorrow. Hence I am making this thread. I am thinking some kind of teasing or push/pull related to Disney, or maybe the old lady comment. How's about....

"I'll take you on a magic carpet ride, you'll be Beauty and I'll be the beast, but first I need to know if I'm dealing with a Cinderella or a wicked step sister."

Or maybe that is still to forward and would remind her of the plans she didn't respond to.

Thoughts? Hopefully others can get help/suggestions for Tinder as well.

Post: #2

Its tinder man. There are tonnes of options and girls have short attention spans.

I didn't read the above but just push for the meet and if it doesn't work move on.

I am banging new tinder girls every week and no conversation was that long.

Open > one or two funny/interesting lines > whats your number or facebook > lets do coffee/drinks this Thursday...

Its like buying a car- you find the advert you like and you call to set up a viewing time. I ain't going to talk to the person on the phone about the car for over an hour.

Less is more online I find. Keep the conversation for the meetup.

Post: #3

I agree with Atlantic. Shorten the conversation and invest less- look at your message compared to hers yours are way more lengthy/invested. My success from tinder has been when I keep it short and mysterious while making fun of them a little, usually about a pic or something they wrote about themselves. Ive recently been avoiding answering their questions and it works well for me. I tell them to give me their number so we can talk about x over a drink then pick a place near me and go for the tuthmosis formula. ive had many go cold, banged some, and a few flakes/psychos... its all part of it. Have fun man and dont overanalyze a tinder chick

Post: #4

I swiped left on this thread.

Post: #5

you're chasing too much. read all this https://www.google.com/search?q=heartiste+texting

Post: #6

should've number closed her first before asking her out!

Post: #7

TL;DR

Always number close ASAP....don't get into a long comfort convo.

Find out if she's a HB and not some SIF, number close.

I try to close numbers in a short amount of time as possible, it's integral on tinder because she'll have so many dudes clawing at her, she'll forget about you.

Post: #8

Thanks for the link calihunter, and for your inputs Atlantic, SD Guerro, wandenreich, and kaotic.

It's gone to FB messaging. She ended up sending me a message around midnight last Friday saying what club she was at. She is not quite a SIF, but a little thicker than her pictures suggest. Still very much WB. Didn't close that night. May still be in the cards.

Some amusing things I said yesterday:

"Hey bella, it's the beast."

"hahaha Hi"

"Why don't ya come see my magnificent library? Just don't try to take any of my roses "

blablabla... (not coming over but BS texting)

Post: #9

You're messaging yourself straight to the "do not pass go, do not collect pussy, return to masturbation zone".

Post: #10

(04-29-2014 04:36 PM)Travesty444 Wrote:  You're messaging yourself straight to the "do not pass go, do not collect pussy, return to masturbation zone".

Our previous conversations were enough to meet her at a club near my place- which she initiated. Is that not an encouraging milestone between Tinder and my bedroom? Of course, maybe I just lucked into a get out of jail free card.

My problems and reasons for not pulling were likely in-person- being a bit too intoxicated myself and falling into my sticking point of too much pull, not enough push.

My subsequent text is direct, somewhat creative, going for the meetup straight to my place in a playful way with some pull and also some push. Was it too cutesy, maybe? Dancing monkey? Her first 'blablabla' response was 'that was a good one haha' I guess not good enough, she did not come over.

Anyone care to provide better examples? This thread is titled "What should I Tinder next" not "Look at me bi***** I'm a pimp at getting laid on Tinder and otherwise!" Scenario: You met at the club, very interested, escalated a bit physically but no close. She is still interested. What would you text/message next?

I do appreciate the constructive feedback from many of y'all. Pure charity on your parts.

Post: #11

For those of you who watch Trailer Park Boys, imagine this piece of advice in the voice of Donnie: "Enough with the GOD DAMN COMPLIMENTS!"

Post: #12

Text mainly about logistics and make plans to see her again. But only make plans to get her out again if you think her buying temperature is high enough to want to say yes.

Thursday is a public holiday. Ask her if she has classes on Thursday.

Post: #13

As y'all might have predicted, that old lead went cold.

Here's one with a bit more game. I guess I failed a shit test toward the end. If you don't speak Spanish or feel like copy/pasting to translator, basically after basically agreeing to meet up the same day she asks what are my intentions, and sex will not happen. We've all heard that before... But how to respond over text/tinder? You'll notice I borrowed some stuff from Atlantic and McQueen, thanks guys for some good ideas.

Me: Fotos lindos. Hablas ingles?

Her: Tambien.

Me: I can already see, you are trouble. No bueno

Her: Lol

XD

Eres de?

Me:Soy de Colorado, USA. Sabes?

Her: Ha ok. Muy bien vives en gdl?

Me: Si vivo aqui

Her: Ho genial

Me: Estas libre manana o martes, despues de 5?

Her: Manana no el martes despues de las 5 trabajo
Hoy estoy libre
XD

<<(oh it's on.....)>>

Me: Tienes carro? Si no puedo pasar para ti

Her: No aun no tengo poco aqui

Para ir a?

Me: Podemos comer y ver una pelicula aqui. Te gustan camarones?

Her: Soy vegetariana sorry

Hahahahahaha
Yo ahorita miro una movie
sola y bebiendo
Gustas?

Me: Tengo mucha fruta y tequila muy buena. Podemos bebir y ver movie juntos

Me puedes encontrarse en un lugar cerca de ti, y decidir si quieres continue

Her: Como asi

Me: Andonde quieres encontrar (probably one of a few mistakes, asking her where to meet)

Her: (The shit test I failed) Con que intencion quieres verme?

Aclaro si es para sex no (her photos are as sexually suggestive as they come)

Me: Por buen tiempo y diversion (failing the shit test)

--dead air--

I thought my last text may be good nlp, but I bought into her frame by answering directly. Maybe something more absurd and ridiculous, or aggressive, would have been better.

Any suggestions?

Post: #14

Your Spanish conversations are horrible, being a native I can give you some pointers, however the most glaring mistake is that you don't build enough rapport for your potential bangs to trust you.

Mexican girls are more conservative, unless you happen to be a 9/10 then you will need to game her some more. The upside is that being a foreign already gives you an edge.

Post: #15

(05-11-2014 09:33 PM)Moto Wrote:  Hahahahahaha
Yo ahorita miro una movie
sola y bebiendo
Gustas?

This right here for instance, she is clearly fore playing a bit (idiotic I know). Instead of being direct you could have said "Gracias, voy a acabarme tu comida, espero no te moleste."

Be as indirect as you can while being playful.

Post: #16

Ya my Spanish is shit currently. That's probably the first priority for my success here. I rely on translator a lot as well, when texting. My directly ballsiness is not nearly as appreciated here than in the US. But I've also been friend-zoned by pussy-footing around, haven't found that middle-ground. Other advise I've gotten on this forum is basically- it's fucking tinder, meet up right away this isn't time for rapport. But in Mexico maybe it is.

Where about in Mexico are you?

Post: #17

I have yet to try extensively online dating, OKCupid is a waste of time here in Mexico for the most part, unless you are willing to drop your standards quite low or you are in DF. Never tried tinder before so I wouldn't know.

However, I can tell you from experience that this is a more socially conservative country than America, doesn't matter what social website you use, ONS are rare (again, assuming we are talking +7 chicks)

Currently I'm in Culiacan for a few months, will go back to Guadalajara afterwards.

Post: #18

Cool hit me up when you're in Gdl.

This particular girl is an asian with big ol' boobies and lots of tats. Very revealing pics. As for signs she is a slut, she is def a slut. So I figured less conservative than a typical Tapatia, as I'm sure she is.

Your text suggestion would have been good, and implied me going over there which would have made the most sense.

With Mexican Cupid I only managed to waste a lot of time and have some cyber sex which to me is worse than nothing since she flaked out on our plans to meet.