Post: #1

There's this girl in the gym, same time everyday. Vietnamese, stretches a lot. Real cute. Probably an 8. It's pretty obvious feminism hasn't hit her at all. She's an exhange student, lives here alone and is always by herself in the gym. Thing is: this girl is REALLY SHY. She's constantly facing the wall or looking towards the floor.

what would be the best way to approach her, making my intentions clear, without making her feel too uncomfortable?

Post: #2

You need to get out of the mindset of thinking about her reality. Stay in your Frame.

Her shyness is her problem not yours. Talk to her and make eye contact like anyone else. If she is shy she is probably lonely living here by herself.

Just be pleasant with her. Keep pushing the interaction, you will have to do most of the talking.

Remember shy does not mean innocent. She wants to be railed good and hard like any healthy girl does.

Ask her about her stretch routine or workout go from there.

Post: #3

Ask her how she likes her eggs; sunny-side up, scrambled, or fertilized?
Just kidding.
Go and introduce yourself, start up a simple conversation. Have her join you on a run, get some protein shakes to go.
If she doesn't understand english just put on some running shorts and do hamstring stretches in front of her so she can spy your helmet.

Post: #4

I'm pretty sure she wants to get railed yeah. No girl squats like that just for her own fun.
great advice. Will approach tomorrow!

Haha spokepoker
Pure gold

Post: #5

She desperately wants to talk to someone, trust me, I know a girl like that. Hot 9/10, shy, pretty much always alone, everyone wants her but rare have the balls to talk to her so she is constantly trying to get some attention while in not too whorish way. Ask her something that isn't yes or no question, if she starts talking and doesn't stop in less than six seven seconds then she's glad someone talked to her and she's lonely. It's all easy mode from that point.

Post: #6

yeah like it has been said, shy girls are easier to pull than really outgoing girls because they don't get as many opportunities to date. You can say anything to her as long as you say it with the right body language.

Post: #7

Body language is another thing I'm not sure about. Just be open and confident I suppose? I'm a pretty big guy, low body fat. Typical gym guy really. Should I be more aware of my body language? A lot of people are intimidated. I would like to prevent this

Post: #8

Approached her and asked her why she was always alone. She said she just goes to school, the gym and home and likes the "alone time". She's not as cute from up close. Not sure I'd go through the effort of gaming her too much. Should her answer be seen as an indication of total lack of interest?

Post: #9

(04-10-2014 05:07 PM)nogamenick Wrote:  Approached her and asked her why she was always alone. She said she just goes to school, the gym and home and likes the "alone time". She's not as cute from up close. Not sure I'd go through the effort of gaming her too much. Should her answer be seen as an indication of total lack of interest?

Sorry to bust on your pick-up technique, but drawing attention to something like why she's alone was not the best idea. It shows you've been observing her for a while, which ups her "hand" and possibly makes her put you in the "creepy" slot.

If I hadn't arrived late on the scene here, I'd have suggested you asking for help with something. Often shy people feel displaced and are awkward socially...except when they feel they are being useful to someone else.

So if you ask for directions, help with exercise, recommendations on gym equipment, etc., that's the best opening. This is called "elder game" or "senior citizen" game in these parts, but despite the silly names it really does work. Often a well-placed question will cause a shy woman to spring to life and become overly helpful.

That, in turn, lets you go back the next time and build from there ("You were helpful -- I almost feel like I should buy you a drink/lunch" is a good teasing line for this, since you dangle the offer but don't make it). If she takes the bait, you can even reverse it: "Actually, I just said that because I forgot my credit card and wanted to see if you'd want to take me out to lunch -- I'm good for it, but just not today."

One of my best pick-ups came at a Fourth of July fireworks celebration when I planted myself next to a girl and asked in rapid success if I could share her blanket, get some of her drink, and eat some chips. People were laughing at this. When she obliged I asked "Hey, can I have $20 too?" To which she responded "Only if you spend it on me." Those were the days.

Post: #10

^ Yes never get so personal so fast with a shy person.

Talk about gym related things.

Funny she isn't as cute up close.

Don't pedestalize, approach a girl sooner thab later. Talking with a girl is always different than checking her out across the room.

Post: #11

Point is she knows I'm always at the gym. She knows I wouldn't need to ask her anything really but it might work. I see her there everyday, she sees me everyday. This is just the first time I decided to talk to her. She said she's been here for about half a year and doesn't know anyone yet. Doesn't seeem like she's worth
talking to..

I appreciate the advice guys. I need to brush up my game a lot. By practicing a lot I suppose.
I like those lines anyway. I can see them working. Approaching sooner than later is another great idea.

Is there any point in approaching her again? How would I go about this.

Post: #12

Have her help you stretch. Then go have some pho together for lunch. Inquire more about her, let her talk about herself. Just keep going up to her as if you are good ol friends, casual.

Post: #13

(04-10-2014 02:09 PM)nogamenick Wrote:  Body language is another thing I'm not sure about. Just be open and confident I suppose? I'm a pretty big guy, low body fat. Typical gym guy really. Should I be more aware of my body language? A lot of people are intimidated. I would like to prevent this

You can prevent that by giving reassuring smiles. but if thats all you know about body language I would suggest really doing research on it. There's so much to it, and in my opinion it's the most important part of attraction.