Post: #26

(01-18-2011 10:10 PM)Qtip Wrote:  Read some study saying 13 minutes is the average for men. I always have trouble first time i've slept with a girl. The desensitising trojans work wonders for me. As for fixing it going raw, drink a few beers, hit it twice?

I also hav trouble the 1st time I'm with a girl. usually if shes super hot, or I barely know her when we fuck. Matter of fact, met a really cute girl on OKcupid on monday, went out mon night and I fucked her last night. Even after 4 drinks, I came as I was sliding in; she'd been building up the sexual tension for 5 hours at the bar....fell asleep, woke up at 4am hard as a rock and fucked the shit out of her for about 30 minutes. Sent her in a cab home. Goodnight moon!

Post: #27

(01-19-2011 12:03 AM)InternationPlayboy Wrote:  Having the right buzz always works for me, not too many though or it either doesn't get up or I don't get off. Also, the hit it again strategy should also work well. I always last a lot longer the second round.

I don't always cum the second time. If I do it's often by bj.

Post: #28

Then start having more sex with hotter girls on a conistant basis

Post: #29

(10-26-2011 11:04 PM)evanb Wrote:  

(01-19-2011 12:03 AM)InternationPlayboy Wrote:  Having the right buzz always works for me, not too many though or it either doesn't get up or I don't get off. Also, the hit it again strategy should also work well. I always last a lot longer the second round.

I don't always cum the second time. If I do it's often by bj.

I have this happen a lot too...it takes so long on the second go round that I just quit...HA HA! Then again, the last time I raw dogged was in the 90s. With a condom, it's hard for me to get that second one.

Post: #30

Alcohol and bud will help you in this situation. I've gone in raw so much that I'm used to it but I remember how it was the first few times. Heaven on earth!! I also last longer with the lights on because I can see an ass pimple, stretch marks, or any flaws on her body. Turns me off a little but I keep on trucking.

Post: #31

Most 'sexual dysfunctions' are psychologically based. In general they are caused by anxiety.
This book goes into depth on that: http://books.google.com/books/about/Resu...hLMKk9R54C

I'd try to listen to your dick. If you're cumming 'pre-maturely', it might be a matter of your subconscious self not wanting to be with that chick. If you really wanted to be with that girl, you would on all levels (conscious and subconscious)*. This is why I hate the phrase 'pre-mature ejaculation'- it makes the whole thing seem like you are at fault. That's bullshit. There's meaning behind your actions, even if you aren't aware of them, and there's probably a good reason why you're dick wants to cum so fast.

That said, it could just be that you're not fully throwing yourself into the fuck.. It is possible to take control of your nut with sheer will. It's like taming a wild horse. You have to really plow through and fight against cumming- which is really just her dominating the moment. Harness any anger you have about that and use it to fuck the shit out her. Take the reigns.

Say to yourself "fuck this pre-cum shit" "fuck her" and then literally do it. Use energy from your anger to override your pre-cum.

Don't let her dominate with her moans and all that. Also, don't let her start fucking you fast if you feel the nut on it's way. You must dominate. Slow down- everything has to be on your terms. Or pull out if you're getting too aroused, and then get back in and go slow and make that you're congruent with yourself on all three of sex levels: emotionally, intellectually and physically. For example, you don't want to be physically fucking her hard if you aren't having strong emotions to ride you through it.

Fucking is not just about ejaculating. You can do that to yourself better and faster than anyone. It's about getting the biggest orgasm. Do this by being totally engaged on all levels. It's very hard or impossible to get off with such intensity through masturbation. If it was easier, we'd all just stay home instead of gaming girls.

Also, jerk-off all the time if you aren't having sex a lot. Orgasms are very good for your prostate, which can influence when you cum. Try to fuck lot's of girls too. This will reduce your performance anxiety.

*For the guys who can't cum and are just hard- anxiety is at the root of this as well. Delayed ejaculation is another way of not connecting, or pushing away. When this happens to me, I'm usually just not into her enough.

Some related things from Roissy's poon commandments:
XV. Maintain your state control

You are an oak tree. You will not be manipulated by crying, yelling, lying, head games, sexual withdrawal, jealousy ploys, pity plays, shit tests, hot/cold/hot/cold, disappearing acts, or guilt trips. She will rain and thunder all around you and you will shelter her until her storm passes. She will not drag you into her chaos or uproot you. When you have mastery over yourself, you will have mastery over her.

X. Ignore her beauty

The man who trains his mind to subdue the reward centers of his brain when reflecting upon a beautiful female face will magically transform his interactions with women. His apprehension and self-consciousness will melt away, paving the path for more honest and self-possessed interactions with the objects of his desire. This is one reason why the greatest lotharios drown in more love than they can handle — through positive experiences with so many beautiful women they lose their awe of beauty and, in turn, their powerlessness under its spell.

Post: #32

Just my own 2 cents- you'll start upping your times the more you go raw dog, it just comes with continued experience. Not much more you can do other than bang as much as you can. Fucking my gf (now ex) raw on a near nightly basis for 3 years has gotten me to the point where, even over half a year after breaking up with her, it's unusual I go before 20 min with any girl.

But, there are also those cases every now and then when a chick has a pussy so tight, warm, and wet that it's a god damn struggle to make it past 2. Those times it's fucking heaven on earth. I've found thinking about sports scores and stats helps a lot, it puts you out of the "sex zone" mentally.

Post: #33

I always though premature ejaculation meant coming without even being properly aroused, like guys shooting their load just thinking about sex or before the girl had actually even touched their dick. I don't thinking fucking for 10 mins counts as being premature, you've been fucking, you've reached climax and you've came, how is that premature?

Post: #34

(10-27-2011 01:28 PM)KingofScotland Wrote:  I always though premature ejaculation meant coming without even being properly aroused, like guys shooting their load just thinking about sex or before the girl had actually even touched their dick. I don't thinking fucking for 10 mins counts as being premature, you've been fucking, you've reached climax and you've came, how is that premature?

I'm not sure it's possible to bust without arousal, but 10 minutes wouldn't be considered premature. Premature would be dudes that bust in their pants before even getting in the pussy, or dudes that squirt shortly after penetration, or after just a few pumps. Also, some guys go soft immediately after busting - I've been fortunate enough to stay hard even after I squirt, so I can keep putting in work and often I don't even give chicks any indication I nutted.

Post: #35

(10-27-2011 01:30 AM)soup Wrote:  Most 'sexual dysfunctions' are psychologically based. In general they are caused by anxiety.
This book goes into depth on that: http://books.google.com/books/about/Resu...hLMKk9R54C

I'd try to listen to your dick. If you're cumming 'pre-maturely', it might be a matter of your subconscious self not wanting to be with that chick. If you really wanted to be with that girl, you would on all levels (conscious and subconscious)*. This is why I hate the phrase 'pre-mature ejaculation'- it makes the whole thing seem like you are at fault. That's bullshit. There's meaning behind your actions, even if you aren't aware of them, and there's probably a good reason why you're dick wants to cum so fast.

I always figured the opposite of this - if you were busting a nut in 3 pumps it was natures way of saying "you should have babies w/this chick." thats why you would be much more inclined to blow a fast wad w/a hot chick then a fatty. if you aren't shooting quickly your body is telling you "no matter what you do i'm not letting this bitch be the mother of our child."

Post: #36

If shooting too quick is a problem and you can't remain hard afterwards my advice would be to stock up on some viagra, you might come quick but you'll be able to keep fucking afterwards and come a few more times. One pill and I can fuck all night and cum as many times as possible without going soft.

Post: #37

Use masterbation as a training tool. Get yourself almost there, then fight it off. Train your dick!

Post: #38

It's a reflex...it's designed to be pretty quick.
You have to delay the reflex.

Either 3 or 4 beers
or
Antii depressants will make you last longer

Post: #39

The cure for premature ejaculation....carry these pics around with you on your smartphone/idevice when having sex. If you still shoot after watching these pics, you got bigger issues!

Post: #40

My old man and I were talking about women. He said, "I don't see what's the big deal- it's just a tube with mucous.. and some fur around it."

Post: #41

(01-13-2012 03:22 PM)MiXX Wrote:  The cure for premature ejaculation....carry these pics around with you on your smartphone/idevice when having sex. If you still shoot after watching these pics, you got bigger issues!

This works. Sometimes if I'm trying to maintain longer I'll close my eyes and imagine I'm fucking whoopi goldberg. Another trick is to look at something stupid in the room and just think really hard about it..like the light fixture. The key is to disassociate from yourself and take your brain on a little vacation so you can't focus on what your dick is doing.

That said, 10-15 minutes is good. My average is 45 minutes and I think that's just too long for most chicks.

Post: #42

(01-13-2012 04:15 PM)PRiMEFuNK Wrote:  

(01-13-2012 03:22 PM)MiXX Wrote:  The cure for premature ejaculation....carry these pics around with you on your smartphone/idevice when having sex. If you still shoot after watching these pics, you got bigger issues!

This works. Sometimes if I'm trying to maintain longer I'll close my eyes and imagine I'm fucking whoopi goldberg. Another trick is to look at something stupid in the room and just think really hard about it..like the light fixture. The key is to disassociate from yourself and take your brain on a little vacation so you can't focus on what your dick is doing.

That said, 10-15 minutes is good. My average is 45 minutes and I think that's just too long for most chicks.

"My average is 45 minutes "


Fuck me !
You must need a skin graft on your member after a few 45 minute bones...I find that hard to believe!

Post: #43

(01-13-2012 04:15 PM)PRiMEFuNK Wrote:  My average is 45 minutes and I think that's just too long for most chicks.

Are you counting the drive over to her house and a round of drinks?

Post: #44

(01-13-2012 07:27 PM)Pilgrim37 Wrote:  You must need a skin graft on your member after a few 45 minute bones...I find that hard to believe!

Sometimes dude, scabs are never fun. One thing is that I don't do them back to back, way too much work. All girls are different tho, some love it and some hate it.

(01-13-2012 08:18 PM)Tuthmosis Wrote:  Are you counting the drive over to her house and a round of drinks?

It's some sorta mental block I have to not let myself go. Usually I'm intentionally disassociating from myself to make it last longer. Best description I can give of disassociation is that while you're boning you start meditating on something other than getting your nut.

Post: #45

Just have a "wankathon" Sunday, jerk off using a condom and keep stopping yourself before you come, do this for at least an hour

Post: #46

Lol at thinking of Whoopi Goldberg haha. I like what Primefunk said about focusing on something in the room...just let your mind be free as if you're meditating. That's what I usually do. Hell, I've gone over what I need to the next day in my mind while I'm hitting it.

Post: #47

Ejaculation is all a state of mind. Practice makes perfect, but even if I'm with a girl I've been banging for months... if I am in a heightened state of mind and extremely horny, chances are I'm gonna blow within the first 5 minutes. Typical session is more like 20. You have to learn to calm yourself down... so whether that means looking away, changing positions, slowing down, or thinking about baseball (or your mother), just do it. The downside to this is sometimes you reach a point where it becomes near impossible to finish.

Post: #48

I'll share something that a mentor suggested, that helps. Breath - If you consciously, slow down/ control the rhythm/ speed of breath then you can unexcite yourself to a good place.

Post: #49

Avoid too much foreplay beforehand. If she's been slobbing your knob for 10 before you stick it in your apt to blow real quick.

Whatever you do, don't think about 'not blowing your load'. If you start thinking about it then you brain is going to be all focused there, and it will make it 10x harder.

If I feel like I'm going to blow too early..I just blow, slow down for a couple minutes while it's all sensitive, and then ease right back into it..never even take it out. Obviously this is only with a girl you trust enough to nut in.

Post: #50

Premature for whom? Think about it and get back to me.