Post: #1

Long story short:

Completely over my ex (been 2 years), found red pill a year ago, been seeing a few girls, I've had the greatest sex life the last 6 months.

My ex creeps my Instagram and says "Hi" this morning.

CALLS MY WORK to say she misses me, broke up with her BF, wants to hangout after work, wants my number, and wants to come say hi.

I played it cool negging her, saying IDK when i'll be gone, but I'll grab her number. I've got plans tonight (seeing a girl tonight) anyways.

Strategy: I know EXACTLY what she's doing, she wants emotional comfort and wants to fuck. Because I'd bet everything that she did the same exact thing when I dumped her.

NOW: What would you guys do ? Just fuck the shit out of her for as long as you can ? Or steer completely clear and tell her to fuck off ?

This is an opportunity I'd like to take full advantage and be alpha as fuck.

Girls breaks up with beta, wants the alpha that dumped her, alpha fucks her, she wants Alpha back, but Alpha kicks her to the curb, she then goes back to beta.

NEED responses FAST ASAP

Thanks -CHEERS-

Post: #2

I would satisfy her ego, but only a bit.

After she has got used it, aloofness should work.

If you become the drug, she becomes a junkie.

Post: #3

(03-29-2014 12:44 PM)mental Wrote:  I would satisfy her ego, but only a bit.

After she has got used it, aloofness should work.

If you become the drug, she becomes a junkie.

Satisfy her ego by what ? Fucking her once or?

You're saying the more we hangout the more she'll want me right ?

Yeah I'd like to play this cool, distant/aloof for sure.

I wouldn't mind having her in my rotation but a distant one.

Post: #4

Think for a little bit: what does she like?

Give her that.

Then withdraw it.

But do not use emotion - it must all be business and efficent; adapt to the situation.

P. S.

First stop caring about her.
If you start to care, then you start to prove yourself, and she will sense that; your ego will become your enemy

Post: #5

My suggestion is fuck her the way you wanted to fuck her but never got the chance.
Pure caveman game once you get her alone.
Ravage her body and use her like a toy for your pleasure.

Then disappear.
Minimally text her and never call her. Keep her chasing you.
Make her do things she wouldn't normally do just to be in your presence.
She'll continue to chase you and accept your frame until she gets fed up or meets another guy who can give her what she wants.

Post: #6

(03-29-2014 01:00 PM)mental Wrote:  Think for a little bit: what does she like?

Give her that.

Then withdraw it.

But do not use emotion - it must all be business and efficent; adapt to the situation.

P. S.

First stop caring about her.
If you start to care, then you start to prove yourself, and she will sense that; your ego will become your enemy

She wants def wants to fuck, our sex life was awesome, i just got fed up with her BS. I'll give her a little comfort and a good fuck.

I have NO emotion invested in her, actually I like this other girl I'm seeing tonight. But I agree don't care, give her a little bit.

Post: #7

I went through this recently and all I can say from my experience is to avoid her completely. The same problems that plagued you in the relationship will not be so easily avoided when you are "just banging." Most likely you will fall right back into the relationship you once had. With mine thats exactly what happened, plus the added inadvertant risk of staying with her, I had to cut it off because it dragged me down.

Post: #8

(03-29-2014 01:03 PM)kinjutsu Wrote:  My suggestion is fuck her the way you wanted to fuck her but never got the chance.
Pure caveman game once you get her alone.
Ravage her body and use her like a toy for your pleasure.

Then disappear.
Minimally text her and never call her. Keep her chasing you.
Make her do things she wouldn't normally do just to be in your presence.
She'll continue to chase you and accept your frame until she gets fed up or meets another guy who can give her what she wants.

This ^^^
She is auditioning for cum-receptacle so dangle the lead role in front of her for as long as you like.

Post: #9

(03-29-2014 01:03 PM)kinjutsu Wrote:  My suggestion is fuck her the way you wanted to fuck her but never got the chance.
Pure caveman game once you get her alone.
Ravage her body and use her like a toy for your pleasure.

Then disappear.
Minimally text her and never call her. Keep her chasing you.
Make her do things she wouldn't normally do just to be in your presence.
She'll continue to chase you and accept your frame until she gets fed up or meets another guy who can give her what she wants.

This is EXACTLY what I want to do. Give her a good fuck then keep it cool and aloof.

Post: #10

(03-29-2014 01:06 PM)Vaun Wrote:  I went through this recently and all I can say from my experience is to avoid her completely. The same problems that plagued you in the relationship will not be so easily avoided when you are "just banging." Most likely you will fall right back into the relationship you once had. With mine thats exactly what happened, plus the added inadvertant risk of staying with her, I had to cut it off because it dragged me down.

See here's the thing, i'm sort of emotionally invested (which means been banging/seeing) another girl. I definitely wont be getting sucked back into a relationship with my ex, I actually just lol'ed thinking about that.

Post: #11

(03-29-2014 01:11 PM)kaotic Wrote:  

(03-29-2014 01:06 PM)Vaun Wrote:  I went through this recently and all I can say from my experience is to avoid her completely. The same problems that plagued you in the relationship will not be so easily avoided when you are "just banging." Most likely you will fall right back into the relationship you once had. With mine thats exactly what happened, plus the added inadvertant risk of staying with her, I had to cut it off because it dragged me down.

See here's the thing, i'm sort of emotionally invested (which means been banging/seeing) another girl. I definitely wont be getting sucked back into a relationship with my ex, I actually just lol'ed thinking about that.

it seemed funny to me too and I was actually highly annoyed by her, so much as to say mean things about her to her, and just generally be a dick. Not healthy. I too thought I could get a little on the side without consequence, just like in the relationship she wouldnt stop without total control. Dont underestimate them..

Post: #12

STATUS REPORT:

Came by work chilled in the back office, man she looks older (the wall is creeping on her), she def doesn't look as attractive as i remembered her.

We talked - she was nervous and jittery, also very very fidgety. I came off cocky, funny, cool, calm. She brought up the fact she just broke up with her BF a few times (hint? or stuck on him?)

I didn't remember her being this super bubbly and kinda had a crazy eye, she mentioned her ex did alot of coke on the weekends and she had to stop because she liked it alot. (perhaps that's why she seems a little off?)

She hinted at how she stopped drinking liquor, doesn't throw up, doesn't go to clubs or parties anymore, how she's over the whole scene (all things that caused me to dump her)

She went over how she regretted how things ended, how we had such a great sex life (hint), how I haven't changed (in a good way), blah blah blah, she started tearing up talking about how i was such a big part of her life, she loved me so much, and she misses me.

I'm stonewalling all of this playing it cool saying things like, "I'd miss me too" "Well shit happens" "I haven't given it much thought" etc. (inside i was kind of happy that all this confirmed I made the right decision to dump her)

She kept seeing if I could leave work early, what my plans were that night. Kept it mysterious saying I needed to handle work all day and I already had plans with friends that night (included the main girl I'm seeing)

I played it off and kept control of the convo, then ended it on my terms, telling her to text me later, and I'd figure out a day I was free that we could meet up.

We hugged outside of work and she took a big whiff and said "mmmm i miss that scent, come here again" I put my hand in front of as she gave me another hug and said with a smirk "Maybe if you're lucky that scent will be all over you next time, text me and I'll make it happen"

She texted me right after she left saying your as handsome as i rememberd, i said "yeah i get that alot" she sent a pick of from a long time ago making out, all i said dang that's an old picture)

So I didn't hear anything back after that about 2 days later, texted her last night (i think that was a mistake) saying - "what's your schedule look like ? I may have evening free this week" - could've worded this better.

No response of course. Checked her instagram today and it looks like her ex commented laughing on her newest picture. (I'm pretty sure now they just got in a fight that day, and she wanted validation from an EX aka me)

I feel like her coming and seeing me was pointless, the way I see it I totally could've fucked her that night, the day she came to my work. But honestly, I had something 100x's better on my plate that night anyways. Besides I was getting paid while she was spewing all that BS.

THOUGHTS/QUESTIONS:

Now I'm not a vet, but is this worth pursuing (as a fuck and putting her in the rotation) or just toss it aside since I've already had it and if she comes to me, deal with it then ?

What could have I done better here to maintain my frame and dominance in that interaction with my ex ?

Post: #13

I think texting her and attempting to hangout with her was you just giving her validation. she is seeking attention and you gave it to her. she probably came in her pants when she received that text from you. i wouldn't pursue it if she didnt respond to that text.. you should be the one being chased (and besides, you have other bitches anyway, why care about this one?). Now in the future if shes blowing you up and its clearly just to get fucked, then yes, pursue but don't wait days on end to do it. You said yourself she's not as good looking as before anyway.. dont get caught up on one chick, especially a crazy ex girlfriend

Post: #14

Seems like you played it TOO cocky and aloof. Should've dialed that back a bit.

Post: #15

She's seeking validation.

I wouldn't waste my time at all with her.

Keep it moving with better women, why go back to the vomit like a dog?

Post: #16

Had a similar situation with an ex who cheated on me a few years ago (Really messed me up at the time, but anyway)

Bumped into her a couple of months back. she's looking pretty good but is just as crazy as before. A few texts later she's at my place, a few drinks, "We're not having sex tonight", 20 minutes later we're rawdogging it like mad.

She then got a call from her boyfriend (who she lives with), I hear "I love you lots, see you now," from her before she gets her stuff and heads out. She didn't even shower before going home.

I'm not complaining. It was a good lay. She texts me later saying she doesn't cheat, she just needed some sex because he isn't giving it to her.

crazy hamster mind that one has....

Post: #17

(04-02-2014 02:24 AM)Phoenux Wrote:  Had a similar situation with an ex who cheated on me a few years ago (Really messed me up at the time, but anyway)

Bumped into her a couple of months back. she's looking pretty good but is just as crazy as before. A few texts later she's at my place, a few drinks, "We're not having sex tonight", 20 minutes later we're rawdogging it like mad.

She then got a call from her boyfriend (who she lives with), I hear "I love you lots, see you now," from her before she gets her stuff and heads out. She didn't even shower before going home.

I'm not complaining. It was a good lay. She texts me later saying she doesn't cheat, she just needed some sex because he isn't giving it to her.

crazy hamster mind that one has....

Classic hamster logic right there, what a messed up chick.
Looks like you did the right thing, got out with your sanity intact previously, and got yourself a sweet ONS with no strings.
Respect.

Post: #18

Incidentally, I had something similar (without the lay) from an ex who got in touch all of a sudden, a while ago, after her man broke up with her.
I responded probably a bit too eagerly at the time. With a bit more game, I probably could have secured a few rolls in the hay and gotten outta there.
Since then, she's been in touch on and off, sometimes appearing sweet, but other times showing that horrible cold feminist gender studies side to her, that always chilled me to the bone.
Just recently, I was away for a few days and as it was my birthday, several people got in touch with me, to give me their good wishes for the day.
The ex also got in touch, completely oblivious to the day in question (not that it bothered me) but her cold, curt, entitled, Teutonic, joyless responses were in stark contrast to the genuine warmth expressed by everyone else.
It struck me then and there, I needed to extinguish this woman from my life straight away.
Nada, no more contact, finito, she had her chance to be with me again, but she blew it.
From now on, my time is spent on people who appreciate and respect me, nobody else gets my time.

Post: #19

Now that I think about it I probably did play it to cool, it looks she wanted to hangout that night.

Incidentally, she snapchats me last night real quick, I teased about being rude and not responding to my text. She played dumb saying "what text". I said about meeting up, text me.

I'm almost positive she was snapchatting me while her ex/or current bf went to the bathroom. She probably deleted the text I originally sent her. I don't have any remorse or regrets if she's still with him and starts fucking me.

She then blows my phone up this morning (i ignored it). Then call her about 10 minutes later.

She kept rambling about her job blah blah blah. I cut her off and went straight into asking her what's her schedule look like. I told her I need a for sure answer because my time is important. So she said she's down to come over tonight.

My whole goal is just to smash her out, perhaps keep her in rotation.

You're all right, she's seeking validation and I shouldn't play the game.

Of course if she's blowing up my phone to hangout then I'll do myself the favor and take advantage of it.

If she doesn't end up hanging out with me tonight no big deal, I've got other plans I can work with since I overbooked today anyways

A flake isn't worth chasing anyways, besides I'm the prize she wants. She'll have to come get it, if not, forget her.

Post: #20

(03-29-2014 01:03 PM)kinjutsu Wrote:  My suggestion is fuck her the way you wanted to fuck her but never got the chance.
Pure caveman game once you get her alone.
Ravage her body and use her like a toy for your pleasure.

Then disappear.
Minimally text her and never call her. Keep her chasing you.
Make her do things she wouldn't normally do just to be in your presence.
She'll continue to chase you and accept your frame until she gets fed up or meets another guy who can give her what she wants.

OR

What you could do is what the first half of this post says, THEN

Only call her once a week to come over to your place to Fuck. THEN

Kick her out of your house after your done (DON'T LET HER STAY THE NIGHT WITH YOU)

This keeps inline with the second part of the quoted post AND get you a woman added to your harem.

Do this untill she starts to want to get serious (about 2-3 months of doing the above)

If she starts acting out, start ignoring her more and being aloof etc. if she starts to ask you "where is this going (after about 3 months) just let her know that you see a lot of women for sex. Tell her "If she's cool with that then great." Then End the conversation.

Either she will:
A)be cool with it for another few months
B)get mad and leave
C). . .there is no C

if A keep the same routine

if B add her to your facebook, but dont contact her again(you should alrady have girls you're a;ready fucking or have fucked on your facebook).

Usually what happens when She "wants to know where this is going" happens is that she found a beta guy to give her a relationship. But she wants you for obvious resaons. She's probably already Fucked him once or twice. The reason you keep her on facebook is because usually after B happens she'll be "in a relationship" with a beta relationship guy.

EVENTUALLY she'll get bored of him and break up with him. so about a few months later, check if she's single again then phone her up, rinse and repeat. Or she'll just contact you again anyway.

There's a whole large game to all of this, basically, once you get up and running (without having to deal with any other life problems not having to deal with women) You should have a large amount of women to choose from.

Post: #21

I agree fuck the shit out of her, keep her around once a week (which is typically my rule anways).

See I don't use FB or pull girls from FB. It's from tinder, okc, pof, or going out hunting.

I agree she wont be staying the night. There is only 1 girl in my rotation who spends at most 2 nights a week at my house, but she's way above the others I talk to and surprisingly I actually like this one.

My major obstacle is GETTING my ex to come over, once she over at my house, the rest is easy.

I doubt she's going to want to see where this is going when she more than likely still have a BF, if she does want to relive our relationship she'll be in for a rude awakening. I've got no problems saying I'm single, I like it that way, If you're down with that great, if not, there's the door.

You guys on the forum have been fucking awesome ! Cheers !

Post: #22

(04-01-2014 09:13 PM)Christian McQueen Wrote:  She's seeking validation.

I wouldn't waste my time at all with her.

Keep it moving with better women, why go back to the vomit like a dog?

With little or no effort would it be a bad thing to bring her into the rotation though ?

While I do agree why go back, I can always kick her to the curb.