Post: #51

Do you ever get to spend any time around UofH? I visited one of my friends down there when he was in dental school and it seemed like things changed in that neighborhood really fast, especially to the south or southwest (I'd have to look at a map to be more specific). I'd risk it all for some Lupe Tortilla though. The girls working to become dental assistants weren't too bad either.

Post: #52

UofH is a definite niche. You need insiders who throw parties for the bored out of their mind commuters and even more bored out of their mind residents of the dorms.

Easy pussy is slain there but that specific conversation is better had offline.

Post: #53

Double post, delete

Post: #54

I always shied away from social circle game because

1) I have one bang to my name and always felt if I had a bad performance from a girl from social circle game it would spread quick and I would get a bad reputation/no bangs no matter how funny/charismatic/physically attractive I became

2) I always aspired to get 100 bangs and want to fuck all types of girls. It would seem damn near impossible to do that if I was well known by several circles and "cheated" on a girl I hooked up with.

Are these fears nonsense? Truth be told I would rather have my life be centered around social circle game. It just seems like a healthy way to live my life as opposed to approaching girls 10 times a week

Post: #55

(09-13-2017 11:55 AM)Thrill Jackson Wrote:  I always shied away from social circle game because

1) I have one bang to my name and always felt if I had a bad performance from a girl from social circle game it would spread quick and I would get a bad reputation/no bangs no matter how funny/charismatic/physically attractive I became

2) I always aspired to get 100 bangs and want to fuck all types of girls. It would seem damn near impossible to do that if I was well known by several circles and "cheated" on a girl I hooked up with.

Are these fears nonsense? Truth be told I would rather have my life be centered around social circle game. It just seems like a healthy way to live my life as opposed to approaching girls 10 times a week

Truth be told, social circle game can be the most efficient if used correctly. Try to keep that lane open because it presents you with warm leads and pre-selection.

One of the main roadblocks to approaching is that initially you don't have any value built up or no one to vouch for all of your great qualities. Meeting girls through friends/family has been my easiest pulls, and it doesn't get messy as long as you set expectations from the start. Don't play the boyfriend role if that's not your intent. Be the mysterious, cool and interesting cat that everyone enjoys being around.

As far as your 100 notch aspirations it's very achievable, you may just have to mix up your hunting grounds ie social, approaching, online etc

Post: #56

(09-13-2017 12:10 PM)MY DETROIT PLAYAS Wrote:  

(09-13-2017 11:55 AM)Thrill Jackson Wrote:  I always shied away from social circle game because

1) I have one bang to my name and always felt if I had a bad performance from a girl from social circle game it would spread quick and I would get a bad reputation/no bangs no matter how funny/charismatic/physically attractive I became

2) I always aspired to get 100 bangs and want to fuck all types of girls. It would seem damn near impossible to do that if I was well known by several circles and "cheated" on a girl I hooked up with.

Are these fears nonsense? Truth be told I would rather have my life be centered around social circle game. It just seems like a healthy way to live my life as opposed to approaching girls 10 times a week

Truth be told, social circle game can be the most efficient if used correctly. Try to keep that lane open because it presents you with warm leads and pre-selection.

One of the main roadblocks to approaching is that initially you don't have any value built up or no one to vouch for all of your great qualities. Meeting girls through friends/family has been my easiest pulls, and it doesn't get messy as long as you set expectations from the start. Don't play the boyfriend role if that's not your intent. Be the mysterious, cool and interesting cat that everyone enjoys being around.

As far as your 100 notch aspirations it's very achievable, you may just have to mix up your hunting grounds ie social, approaching, online etc

Would my lack of sexual experience make social circle game a waste of time? Or will it help me overall in terms of game.

Post: #57

(09-13-2017 12:10 PM)MY DETROIT PLAYAS Wrote:  Truth be told, social circle game can be the most efficient if used correctly. Try to keep that lane open because it presents you with warm leads and pre-selection.

One of the main roadblocks to approaching is that initially you don't have any value built up or no one to vouch for all of your great qualities. Meeting girls through friends/family has been my easiest pulls, and it doesn't get messy as long as you set expectations from the start. Don't play the boyfriend role if that's not your intent. Be the mysterious, cool and interesting cat that everyone enjoys being around.

As far as your 100 notch aspirations it's very achievable, you may just have to mix up your hunting grounds ie social, approaching, online etc

Yess! I love SCG for those very reasons. For me, personally, I'm looking for an LTR and it allows me to eliminate non-sequiturs without having to invest a significant amount of time or resources into them. I cannot tell you how many bullets I've dodged by essentially having he ability to "test drive" bishes before investing in them.

Post: #58

A great thing about social circle game is can compound on itself. Add a new person or two to your social circle each year and you just added a lot of acquaintances and a lot of new chicks. A lot of new chicks that are waiting for a new exciting and different dick(you).

Post: #59

I'm ready to admit I have a serious deficiency in connecting/bonding with most people, and I'm not sure how it can be overcome. Here's what I've realized:

High school & college were massive social environments and, like everyone, I gravitated toward associating with people who were like me.
My family, obviously due to genetics, is like me.
I work in a technical/highly specialized field, so my coworkers are handpicked to think in a certain way, like me.
Every LTR I've had, I honed in on because she was in many ways like me.
This forum is designed for people who largely think like me.

Basically I've spent almost all my life in a bubble surrounded by people who are similar to me, and now when I find myself in a position to interact with someone who isn't necessarily like me--say just chatting up some dude at the gym or talking to random girls in a bar--I feel like I'm communicating with a different species. It just isn't enjoyable 90% of the time, and needless to say you can't connect with someone unless you're genuinely enjoying each other's company.

Like many guys in their 20's, my social circle is dwindling as I gradually lose touch with the friends I had from my hometown and from college. So I look for suggestions on how to make new friends as a grown adult, and my stomach turns when I read advice that essentially amounts to "join some random-ass group and make everyone there like you," because deep down, I recognize that I'm not currently capable of that (not trying to insult the OP at all, as he put together a nice post that I'm sure is of value to lots of guys here). For whatever reason, I just feel on a totally different wavelength from most people.

Can anyone relate to this?

Post: #60

(09-13-2017 09:32 PM)Delta Wrote:  I'm ready to admit I have a serious deficiency in connecting/bonding with most people, and I'm not sure how it can be overcome. Here's what I've realized:

High school & college were massive social environments and, like everyone, I gravitated toward associating with people who were like me.
My family, obviously due to genetics, is like me.
I work in a technical/highly specialized field, so my coworkers are handpicked to think in a certain way, like me.
Every LTR I've had, I honed in on because she was in many ways like me.
This forum is designed for people who largely think like me.

Basically I've spent almost all my life in a bubble surrounded by people who are similar to me, and now when I find myself in a position to interact with someone who isn't necessarily like me--say just chatting up some dude at the gym or talking to random girls in a bar--I feel like I'm communicating with a different species. It just isn't enjoyable 90% of the time, and needless to say you can't connect with someone unless you're genuinely enjoying each other's company.

Like many guys in their 20's, my social circle is dwindling as I gradually lose touch with the friends I had from my hometown and from college. So I look for suggestions on how to make new friends as a grown adult, and my stomach turns when I read advice that essentially amounts to "join some random-ass group and make everyone there like you," because deep down, I recognize that I'm not currently capable of that (not trying to insult the OP at all, as he put together a nice post that I'm sure is of value to lots of guys here). For whatever reason, I just feel on a totally different wavelength from most people.

Can anyone relate to this?

Yeah for sure.

For me when I started game I was all about the approaches. Then I realized my day to day life affected how successful my approaches were. The more I was sociable and had the opportunity to practice rambling/storytelling the more success I had with approaching

After that however I realized how easy it is to bond with somebody who isn't that similar to you. As long as you are similar age it's much easier to ramble about your environment/where you grew up/the neighborhood you live now/current events/local news/etc.

After rambling for about a hour with about anybody who is around the same age as you and has positive vibes in the conversation is going both ways you got yourself a solid prospect for a friend. Even if you just have one similar hobby (for example: both like UFC) invite the guy to watch a PPV event at a bar and build a memory together (no homo)

From there you guys have something else to ramble about in the future and can build off that to strengthen the relationship. Always keep an abundance though. Keep in touch with the guy but make friends with other guys to create a social group. Also because it would gay and akward to hang out with one guy all of the time.

Post: #61

(09-13-2017 09:32 PM)Delta Wrote:  I'm ready to admit I have a serious deficiency in connecting/bonding with most people, and I'm not sure how it can be overcome. Here's what I've realized:

High school & college were massive social environments and, like everyone, I gravitated toward associating with people who were like me.
My family, obviously due to genetics, is like me.
I work in a technical/highly specialized field, so my coworkers are handpicked to think in a certain way, like me.
Every LTR I've had, I honed in on because she was in many ways like me.
This forum is designed for people who largely think like me.

Basically I've spent almost all my life in a bubble surrounded by people who are similar to me, and now when I find myself in a position to interact with someone who isn't necessarily like me--say just chatting up some dude at the gym or talking to random girls in a bar--I feel like I'm communicating with a different species. It just isn't enjoyable 90% of the time, and needless to say you can't connect with someone unless you're genuinely enjoying each other's company.

Like many guys in their 20's, my social circle is dwindling as I gradually lose touch with the friends I had from my hometown and from college. So I look for suggestions on how to make new friends as a grown adult, and my stomach turns when I read advice that essentially amounts to "join some random-ass group and make everyone there like you," because deep down, I recognize that I'm not currently capable of that (not trying to insult the OP at all, as he put together a nice post that I'm sure is of value to lots of guys here). For whatever reason, I just feel on a totally different wavelength from most people.

Can anyone relate to this?

I can't. I'd mentally starve without conflicting opinions. I've hung out with everyone from rich traditional Republican yuppies to bohemian, starving artist commies. I run on good conversations and can't live without them.

And it's not as simple as make everyone like you. Brown-nosing shits get picked up from a mile away. It's about being fun and having a good time even if means that 99% of the people you deal with feel like aliens.

Crack a joke, laugh at one, get angry, raise hell, smile, dance, etc. Choose life. If you're having fun people will want to be around you. If you're not then people don't.

If you're losing your social circle and are actively in an echo chamber, you've stopped living and stopped growing. You've stagnated and that's a disgusting state of affairs to be in.

And let me be real here, 99% of people bore me. I exchange numbers like how a slut goes through dick, but it's that 1 in a million person I meet occasionally that changes my view of the world and that keeps me going.

It's about sifting through the garbage for the gold that's very clearly in there. And these people are the ones that will help you grow.

And how you meet those people is by experiencing things that are enjoyable and fulfilling in the real world. I get more fulfillment sitting in the cafe with a cigarette and coffee talking with some 60 year old I don't know about the weather than I do going back to this wretched hellhole known as the internet where everyone's a marketer now, some shit is happening that's making everyone miserable/the world is falling apart as we know it, or oh my fucking god another damned cat video.

Anyways that's my two cents.

Post: #62

@Delta

You're not supposed to connect with most people. That's natural. Especially if you're above average mentally. Majority tends to think and act in certain way for certain reasons. The more you differ from the common ways of thinking and acting the more difficult you will find to bond with someone. That doesn't mean its tough to have chit chat laugh and be acquainted with random people.

Game helps to feel open towards people without fear. But who you really let into your world is up to you

Post: #63

Holy shit gentlemen. Tonight I experienced a mere sliver of social circle game. I live in a second tier (at best) American city and because of someone I connected with based on a shared interest in "PUA" I got to meet club owners, big players, etc. and go behind a rope and get bottle service. I was talking to 8's like they were my little cousin, girls who would not even say "fuck off" to me otherwise. I'm far from being an Innovative Casanova, but based on what happened I can say with a fair amount of confidence that being a lone wolf compared to running in a real social circle is equivalent to bringing a BB gun to war versus an Uzi. Really enlightening. I will do whatever is necessary to keep it going and you should too.

Post: #64

(11-17-2017 01:59 AM)Sisyphus Wrote:  Holy shit gentlemen. Tonight I experienced a mere sliver of social circle game. I live in a second tier (at best) American city and because of someone I connected with based on a shared interest in "PUA" I got to meet club owners, big players, etc. and go behind a rope and get bottle service. I was talking to 8's like they were my little cousin, girls who would not even say "fuck off" to me otherwise. I'm far from being an Innovative Casanova, but based on what happened I can say with a fair amount of confidence that being a lone wolf compared to running in a real social circle is equivalent to bringing a BB gun to war versus an Uzi. Really enlightening. I will do whatever is necessary to keep it going and you should too.

Glad to be of help.

Keep it going man. Social circle is the fastest way to get with legit 8s and 9s in the States these days.

Though word of advice. Start growing yourself mentally(and physically of course too) as it'll help you survive in any kind of situation socially with anyone you want. And of course up your style game.

Best of luck and Cheers!

Post: #65

(09-14-2017 08:07 AM)XXL Wrote:  @Delta

You're not supposed to connect with most people. That's natural. Especially if you're above average mentally. Majority tends to think and act in certain way for certain reasons. The more you differ from the common ways of thinking and acting the more difficult you will find to bond with someone. That doesn't mean its tough to have chit chat laugh and be acquainted with random people.

Game helps to feel open towards people without fear. But who you really let into your world is up to you

Can't believe I just saw this.

This is an absolute lie. The more open your mind is to other options the more likely you are to relate to others. An open mind understands perspective.

It allows you to sift through both those that have different than normal minds and the common man to find diamonds in the rough. There's plenty of people in the loop that are good people and there's lots of more unique individuals that are complete delusional scum.

Being different than the norm just simply allows you to differentiate between those things and bond more easily with those that are worth it. And of course appreciate those that are truly good.

Post: #66

(11-17-2017 02:03 AM)Comte De St. Germain Wrote:  

(11-17-2017 01:59 AM)Sisyphus Wrote:  Holy shit gentlemen. Tonight I experienced a mere sliver of social circle game. I live in a second tier (at best) American city and because of someone I connected with based on a shared interest in "PUA" I got to meet club owners, big players, etc. and go behind a rope and get bottle service. I was talking to 8's like they were my little cousin, girls who would not even say "fuck off" to me otherwise. I'm far from being an Innovative Casanova, but based on what happened I can say with a fair amount of confidence that being a lone wolf compared to running in a real social circle is equivalent to bringing a BB gun to war versus an Uzi. Really enlightening. I will do whatever is necessary to keep it going and you should too.

Glad to be of help.

Keep it going man. Social circle is the fastest way to get with legit 8s and 9s in the States these days.

Though word of advice. Start growing yourself mentally(and physically of course too) as it'll help you survive in any kind of situation socially with anyone you want. And of course up your style game.

Best of luck and Cheers!

Thanks, Comte. Inspired by this thread: /thread-65725.html and all the talk about blazers I threw together something simple but effective with what I had lying around. A dark solid color shirt, jeans, blazer, and some cool shoes. I'm convinced. I don't have a lot of money to throw around but I'll be going to the fancy mall with the Nordstrom's etc. soon and beefing up my wardrobe.

As a side note I've been holding on to a rep point for while, but HankMoody has more than earned it with some of his recent work lately.

Post: #67

(11-17-2017 02:25 AM)Sisyphus Wrote:  

(11-17-2017 02:03 AM)Comte De St. Germain Wrote:  

(11-17-2017 01:59 AM)Sisyphus Wrote:  Holy shit gentlemen. Tonight I experienced a mere sliver of social circle game. I live in a second tier (at best) American city and because of someone I connected with based on a shared interest in "PUA" I got to meet club owners, big players, etc. and go behind a rope and get bottle service. I was talking to 8's like they were my little cousin, girls who would not even say "fuck off" to me otherwise. I'm far from being an Innovative Casanova, but based on what happened I can say with a fair amount of confidence that being a lone wolf compared to running in a real social circle is equivalent to bringing a BB gun to war versus an Uzi. Really enlightening. I will do whatever is necessary to keep it going and you should too.

Glad to be of help.

Keep it going man. Social circle is the fastest way to get with legit 8s and 9s in the States these days.

Though word of advice. Start growing yourself mentally(and physically of course too) as it'll help you survive in any kind of situation socially with anyone you want. And of course up your style game.

Best of luck and Cheers!

Thanks, Comte. Inspired by this thread: /thread-65725.html and all the talk about blazers I threw together something simple but effective with what I had lying around. A dark solid color shirt, jeans, blazer, and some cool shoes. I'm convinced. I don't have a lot of money to throw around but I'll be going to the fancy mall with the Nordstrom's etc. soon and beefing up my wardrobe.

As a side note I've been holding on to a rep point for while, but HankMoody has more than earned it with some of his recent work lately.

I've said this before, but if you're tight on money you might as well head to the nearest Ross or Marshall's. You'll occasionally find some gold there. So look there first before you shell out what little you have of your money.

And although Hank is right in his takeaway that congruency is important(another thing I've stressed myself over the years), it doesn't really hit the heart of the matter.

Style is a personal choice suited to who you are. If you feel comfortable in a blazer. If you feel comfortable in a jean jacket wear that instead. Or a leather jacket where that.

Clothes should feel like a second skin to you. And you may hear guys say they feel most comfortable in a hoodie. Well if anything it's a representation of their laziness. Your clothes bring out who you are on the inside. The more you experience life, associate with people, and appreciate art(music, paintings, etc.) the more you will get style and your eye gets sharper.

These days I only feel comfortable decked to the 9s or in my boxers. I've more or less phased out wearing shorts or pants around the house(unless I have company).

Of course feel free to check in to the Fashion and Style Lounge. If you have any questions.

Post: #68

If I could rep Comte 10 times I would.

There's some aspects of social circle game that dont get a lot of mention. Funnily it doesn't get talked about too much. I'm talking about the post-bang public treatment.

So you did everything right, you bang a girl from your circle (maybe even got her falling in love), and God forbid you bang ANOTHER girl in that same social circle.

How do you treat her/them in front of everyone? It's a fine line between discretion and making the girl thinks you are ignoring/using/dumping her.

It's hard to tell people to just "treat them exactly like pre-bang". You as a disciplined player can muster the willpower to show no sign that you bang the girl (easier said than done though). But the girl, if she likes you and not a slut, won't. She will linger around you longer, look at you more often, and accidentally stray her hands on you. It doesn't take a genie to know who is sleeping with whom in a circle, its the people who cant seem to keep their paws off each other.

There are trouble on 2 fronts as I see it:

1. The girl's front: post-bang she will expect you to give her more attention, so good luck just simply brushing her aside or treating her just as a friend. If you maintain a too neutral front you risk pissing the girl off. A woman scorned...

I've seen it happen regularly. My buddy is a player in the circle. He moves from girl to girl and usually post-bang he doesn't manage well the attention he gives her, and the girl goes nut. It ended up with him being ostracized from the group and had to leave for a year, losing almost all friends and credibility. The only thing that saves him from being burned sooner is that some girls are sluts and dont mind a ONS with a guy in her circle.

2. The other alphas' front: Comte is absolutely correct that you dont want to be the top-alpha, too much work. Be just the cool guy who is always there is more than enough. Problem is, once you bang a girl it's hard to hide it from other alphas who are also prowling. IF they aint stupid they can smell it a mile away, and will try to make your life much harder.

The only way I managed it back then, was to be on "friendly competition" with the other alphas. So throwing out bets on who could bed who first. Very dangerous though because if you are found out you will be demonized as "those guys", and the top alphas will do everything to shift the blame on you.

Post: #69

I actually wanted to bump this old gem despite the fact that me and OP might started off on the wrong foot, kind of want to know more.

OP, how do you build a social circle that actually does get you into contact with a lot of good looking women or the kinds of scenes they run in?

My only luck with social circle has come from having roommates who were involved in Greek Life back in college but I feel like that is what made it easier in college. You kind of knew what crowds were going to have the hot girls in it, usually Greek Life or anywhere the sports teams partied hard.

Now nightlife is another answer although I noticed that a lot of the social hot girl types usually ended up going out a lot on the weekends anyways. The other issue is that I have found it tough to actually meet people most of the times when out alone by myself as well.

Other than those scenes, my luck has not been that great with social circle game. I find that a lot of the crowd I run into is heavily male and ends up being a situation where I am with a bunch of dudes trying to get chicks into the social circle. The other situation is that I find the crowds I am running in most of the times are heavily dudes and tons of feminist types or if we go the religious community route, too many of the good girl types that spit on the idea of drinking and having fun on the weekends.

I feel like most of the times social circle game either results in you having tons of dudes in your circle who aren't really game friendly or you have a lot of uglier chicks.

So other than the bro crowd of former frat guys in college which is almost impossible to break into unless you got really lucky and had them as roommates afterwards or the nightlife scene, what other options are there?

Like what kinds of crowds do a lot of the higher status people like hot girls and cool guys run in?

Post: #70

Lately I have been having this trend of getting nowhere with a girl in loose social circles (where there are friends of friends so I don't know them before). Often there is almost no alcohol involved, mostly catching up over coffee or dinner. My verbal game seems ok, they seem interested, compliments from them, IOIs, playing guessing games etc. and I get the number. And when it is time to go home, I end up isolating her to go in the same direction as her but I am not totally sure what's the best way to continue the interaction from this point. I arrange a meetup on another day when bidding farewell but most numbers go silent a couple of days later.

What has worked for you when it comes to the end of the day event and you have got the girl isolated. It seems like this last stretch has been quite a disaster for me though I have had her walking with me by herself.

Would it be a wise move to suggest popping over to my place or suggest a drink though it is only about 6 or 7 in the evening?

Or is it better to not create that situation of her and me after the event but instead hit her up a couple days later rather than trying to isolate on the same day?


On a side note: Is it a worthy lead when a girl says 'You can get my number from your friend.' after hanging out as a group?

Looking forward to hearing your opinions

Post: #71

(01-14-2019 05:40 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  Lately I have been having this trend of getting nowhere with a girl in loose social circles (where there are friends of friends so I don't know them before). Often there is almost no alcohol involved, mostly catching up over coffee or dinner. My verbal game seems ok, they seem interested, compliments from them, IOIs, playing guessing games etc. and I get the number. And when it is time to go home, I end up isolating her to go in the same direction as her but I am not totally sure what's the best way to continue the interaction from this point. I arrange a meetup on another day when bidding farewell but most numbers go silent a couple of days later.

What has worked for you when it comes to the end of the day event and you have got the girl isolated. It seems like this last stretch has been quite a disaster for me though I have had her walking with me by herself.

Would it be a wise move to suggest popping over to my place or suggest a drink though it is only about 6 or 7 in the evening?

Or is it better to not create that situation of her and me after the event but instead hit her up a couple days later rather than trying to isolate on the same day?


On a side note: Is it a worthy lead when a girl says 'You can get my number from your friend.' after hanging out as a group?

Looking forward to hearing your opinions

bump.
Any suggestions for loose social circle events that involve no alcohol? I have found that going all the way or at least getting the kiss on the same night is essential for a future date and that means setting up insta dates after that event might be necessary.
Your experiences?