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RE: Jealous female friend of girl i'm dating?
(02-08-2014 01:05 PM)Onto Wrote: I wouldn't say anything about it. If you did it will just create drama.
Yeah i was thinking in keeping it quiet, but sometimes i think that maybe her roommate
wants our relationship to be ended, so she can be talking negatively about myself to my girl...
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RE: Jealous female friend of girl i'm dating?
(02-08-2014 01:31 PM)orko Wrote: (02-08-2014 01:05 PM)Onto Wrote: I wouldn't say anything about it. If you did it will just create drama.
Yeah i was thinking in keeping it quiet, but sometimes i think that maybe her roommate
wants our relationship to be ended, so she can be talking negatively about myself to my girl...
I would say something. But you might want to confront the roommate directly in sort of a bemused way in front of your girl like this: "Hey, why'd you delete me as a friend? Didn't like my music posts?"
You want to bring the jealousy out in the open because the roommate will be "working" your girl when you're not around, saying things like "Do you really like him? Are you sure he's the one?" Your girl is gonna hear this anyway, so she should know there is a motive/agenda behind it.
You're dealing with a jealous roommate. I dealt with one in college too and those quotes are direct from the jealous roommate I dealt with. The roommate probably likes you in some respect (which is what was up with my situation), so you can have that as a point of pride. But...if she succeeds in breaking the two of you up, she'll lose all respect for you.
Dunno if you've had sex with your g/f yet, but I would recommend as much intimacy as possible (esp. high quality) because sexual intimacy trumps female friendship for most normal females.
Good luck. My own version of this situation didn't go so well. It'll help to have another girl in reserve in case it goes to hell (I ended up returning to my steady g/f with my tail between my legs although she didn't know that).
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RE: Jealous female friend of girl i'm dating?
(02-08-2014 01:52 PM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote: (02-08-2014 01:31 PM)orko Wrote: (02-08-2014 01:05 PM)Onto Wrote: I wouldn't say anything about it. If you did it will just create drama.
Yeah i was thinking in keeping it quiet, but sometimes i think that maybe her roommate
wants our relationship to be ended, so she can be talking negatively about myself to my girl...
I would say something. But you might want to confront the roommate directly in sort of a bemused way in front of your girl like this: "Hey, why'd you delete me as a friend? Didn't like my music posts?"
You want to bring the jealousy out in the open because the roommate will be "working" your girl when you're not around, saying things like "Do you really like him? Are you sure he's the one?" Your girl is gonna hear this anyway, so she should know there is a motive/agenda behind it.
You're dealing with a jealous roommate. I dealt with one in college too and those quotes are direct from the jealous roommate I dealt with. The roommate probably likes you in some respect (which is what was up with my situation), so you can have that as a point of pride. But...if she succeeds in breaking the two of you up, she'll lose all respect for you.
Dunno if you've had sex with your g/f yet, but I would recommend as much intimacy as possible (esp. high quality) because sexual intimacy trumps female friendship for most normal females.
Good luck. My own version of this situation didn't go so well. It'll help to have another girl in reserve in case it goes to hell (I ended up returning to my steady g/f with my tail between my legs although she didn't know that).
This guy's got it. It's not something mentioned here a lot, but a friend or roommate spilling bad shit to your girl is going to be a disaster if you don't handle it.
I made friends with the roommate of the girl I'm pursuing, even set her up on a date with my buddy (wingman, he's not interested at all), and boom after months I closed that night.
Otherwise, tons of intimacy, figuring out how to be alone, etc.
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