Post: #1

This last year has been truly fruitful in terms of game. A lot of sex, a lot of new notches, a lot of lessons learned, and even some moments of feeling 'in love'.

There are a lot of factors that play into it, but I've noticed in particular that the more I focus on systematically applying key basic principles, the better my results get.

Key word here is 'systematically'. As in, even when I don't feel like it.

Case in point is the first approach of the day, which is almost always when I'm getting on the subway.

The minute I see a cute girl who I think I'd like to possibly get naked with, I go and say 'hi'. Sometimes it's pretty half-hearted and I'm still waking up and look & feel tired.

But I stoically make myself do it.

I've found that this first approach inoculates me from giving a fuck for pretty much the rest of the day. It's like a give a fuck vaccine.

Even if the first girl blows me off, which happens often, there's something about it that fortifies me for the next 12 hours.

After this, chatting to girls happens almost on autopilot.

I say almost... but of course there are a lot of other habits I'm systematically practicing in parallel (good body language, awareness, eye contact, voice projection, scanning for IOIs, etc). It's just that this one came first to mind.

The journey of a thousand bangs begins with one approach. ...or something.

Post: #2

I like this. I have no excuse to not approach cute girls when I see them, but for some reason I rarely do. I am going to adopt this "first approach" principle and get my lazy (scared?) ass into gear.

Post: #3

@OP... great points. It's about mastering the fundamentals, and the way you do that is practice until they become habit. The first approach thing is key.

Post: #4

Glad you posted this.

Always helpful to have these reminders from time to time…and it's very true - as soon as you chat up a girl early in your day, whether it's a full on direct approach, or just a friendly hello, your mind changes gears and talking to girls the rest of the day becomes much easier.

…On the contrary, when you continuously see cute girls and make bullshit excuses, like "I need to get in the zone" before I start approaching, or "nah, this isn't the ideal situation right now," "I'll approach the next cutie I see," that's when you start building anxiety and avoiding day-game.

The best days are when you become social as soon as you leave your house and start the day, and remain talkative and bold until you come home at night.

Post: #5

Yeah, I do this a lot when I'm not in the mood to do something I need to do to get better at it. I force myself to do it so that it eventually it becomes a part of my routine. When I'm scared to approach a girl or stuck on something to say, I just imagine her as being the lowest possible rating on the scale and say fuck it.