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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/05...90676.html

"People who are into kinky sex may be psychologically healthier than those who are not, says a new study. Researchers found that people who were involved in BDSM -- bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism -- scored better on certain indicators of mental health than those who did not bring kink into the bedroom, reported LiveScience.

The study, which was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in May, surveyed 902 people who practice BDSM and 434 people who prefer so-called "vanilla" (non-kinky) sex. Each person filled out questionnaires regarding their personalities, general well-being, sensitivity to rejection and style of attachment in relationships. The participants were not aware of the purpose of the study.

Despite past assumptions that BDSM proclivities might be correlated with previous abuse, rape or mental disorders (research has shown that they're not), this survey found that kinky people actually scored better on many indicators of mental health than those who didn't practice BDSM, reported LiveScience. According to Reuters, BDSM-friendly participants were found to be less neurotic, more open, more aware of and sensitive to rejection, more secure in their relationships and have better overall well-being.

Andreas Wismeijer, a psychologist at Nyenrode Business University in the Netherlands and the lead author on the study, told LiveScience that people involved in the BDSM community may have scored better on these surveys because they tend to be more aware of and communicative about their sexual desires, or because they have done some "hard psychological work" to accept and live with sexual needs that are beyond the scope of what is often considered socially acceptable to discuss in the mainstream.

This research isn't necessarily representative of the general population since participants were selected on a volunteer basis, but it does support the argument for removing BDSM from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). In the current DSM, BDSM fetishes are listed as "paraphilia," which essentially encompasses any "unusual" sexual preferences.

Fetish communities have argued for years that harmless sexual tastes should not be listed next to mental disorders. Perhaps this research will help bolster their case."

I don't care about the men who are into being dominated, but it's clear from popularity of books like 50 Shades of Grey that America's women are missing being dominated. Maybe they need it to be healthier.

Chalk it up to men being less so, or women being more so, but the need exists and there is no amount of political activism that will change these ancient desires.

Maybe America's feminists need to do some "hard psychological work" and recognize that being dominated might actually be better for women.

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This is further evidence that you can find studies that will say almost anything.

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Whooo hooo I'm normal!

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On one hand, I'm overjoyed. On the other, I'm terrified of how 400 lb. feminist whales will use it to prove that they're "just fine psychologically (their mothers had them tested)".

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^lmao. ineed to check that movie out.

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There is a factor many times overlooked, the feminism movement from late 19th century was formed by lesbians and ugly women bitter and despicable enough that no man wanted to marry, in a era when spanking wives or daughters not matter the age was the norm and female hysteria was very well known problem, lesbians hate hate watching men giving order to women and hate more watching women liking the male dominance, we can say that feminism is not only a big shit test but also the biggest epidemic of female hysteria in human history.

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(01-28-2014 02:43 AM)Combored Wrote:  

Very good spanking technique- nice backhand. I never keep my hand on the ass. Will try next time.

Post: #10

Authentic self expression is almost always good for your health.

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(01-28-2014 02:35 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  Authentic self expression is almost always good for your health.

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I was gonna make a separate thread for this, but this one will do. It actually quotes the same BDSM study that Soup posted above, that in a study of 902 ppl, those ppl who are into BSDM are more emotionally stable than "vanilla" ppl.

Article I came across today:

"I’m a feminist who enjoys being dominated during sex. Help!"

ok, so we already knew this very well at RVF... bitches love to be choked and man-handled. It's part of them wanting to be dominated by a strong man. This is what instinctively turns them on. Nothing new here.

What's new maybe, is that this is written in an article in the "Life" section of Canada's biggest national newspaper. Kinda cool!!

Some good advice for the "feminist" readers:

Quote:"Turn off the “what does this say about me” girl brain and enjoy the ride."

Yeah, that's right! Bring out that inner submissive sluttiness.

Quote:The question:

I consider myself quite the feminist – I really think gender equality is very important, but sex with my new boyfriend has me questioning my feminist ways. We have been having sex for three weeks now and it gets physical. To my surprise, I have found I like to be dominated. He hits me during sex and chokes me, and I actually like it. I find myself asking for it. How can I be a feminist and still enjoy this?

The answer:

You’re not alone. Actually, I couldn’t find a single woman who didn’t, on some level, enjoy submission, à la Anastasia-Christian Grey style. Of course that isn’t to say that a woman who would fully reject 50 Shades doesn’t exist. But there is a reason why the dom-sub erotic trilogy is an international bestseller, and believe you me, it’s not for the beautiful prose.

Pain and sex, power and pleasure: These are the two sides of the same leather-tassled furry-zebra handcuffs. To me, the thrill of a good bedroom romp is surprise and respect, with a little dash of verboten thrown in. Only you can determine what that dash is.

Colleagues blushed, friends gushed and every softball girl, dog-park lady, and oversharing waitress I asked about bedroom domination said they’d consider themselves a feminist, but they also enjoy being “thrown around a little” by their partner. “There’s a time and a place to be manhandled,” says my best friend, “and it’s so good when it’s done right.”

Still, I should have braced myself for the full confession from Alexandra, my real-estate agent and probably the most powerful, self-confident woman I know. (Picture successful, convertible-driving, classic-rock hot blonde.)

“Oh, yeah, I totally want to be respectfully choked,” she offers without hesitation. “I want to be spanked and told it’s time to punish me. … I like to feel like he owns me a bit.”

Good for her, I say, trying to play it cool. She knows what she wants and asks for it – which is, I surmise, the ultimate definition of a feminist. Alexandra says her love of power in her professional career translates to a “power fetish” in bed.

“Listen, the last thing I want to do after spending the day telling people what to do and how to do it at work is to come home and dictate what happens in the bedroom.”

And here’s good news for all of us – er, all of you. A new study involving 902 volunteers, from last month’s Journal of Sexual Medicine, found people who are into kinky sex – particularly those who have a thing for bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism – are more emotionally stable and more secure in their relationships than their “vanilla” counterparts.

Still, I get a little sweaty advising you that physical abuse is cool. The choking also sounds dangerous, particularly since he’s a new boyfriend. So I called a professional pain-inflicter, Montreal dominatrix Mistress Magnum. A quick glance at her Twitter account at my desk and I’m feeling a little short of air myself.

“You have to really trust someone to want them to choke you. You are honouring your dom with that trust,” says Magnum, whose hourly sessions can run up to $360 and whose website lists dozens of menu options. “With neck play, it’s very high risk behaviour, “ she says from her home office. “In the moment you’re so passionate and having this hot amazing sex, and the next you could be dead.”

She advises you to talk to your new guy about the choking before it happens again. Let him know you like it, but establish a safety signal with him before he places his hands around your neck. And this should go without saying, but let’s say it any way: If ever there is a time this “bedroom play” is non-consensual, you end that relationship on the spot.

Magnum has “played” with submissive females and says women have a much higher pain threshold in the moment, so know when enough is enough. “She has to feel safe, even when she’s being choked.”

Magnum says your man should look into “smart ways” to inflict pain, too, ones that don’t leave marks or bruises. Start by warming up the skin: “You lightly slap the area to increase blood flow, then you can really start going,” she instructs, in such a way it sounds lackadaisical for an office interview in the middle of the afternoon.

Still, Magnum says all of this is perfectly normal, although she understands that “emotionally it might cross some wires.” She’s a good person who wants people to be happy in their “regular” lives. What you like in the bedroom shouldn’t interfere with how you define yourself.

Just as Magnum, who practices a service called ball-busting behind closed doors (you don’t want to know), is actually a very sensitive, caring woman in real life, so too are you a feminist who likes to be dominated.

From the most overly analytical person you’ll ever meet, I say stop overthinking this: Turn off the “what does this say about me” girl brain and enjoy the ride.

All is fair in love and war and the bedroom.

You like what you like; if it’s choking, so be it. But in sex, as in all relationships, safety, communication and trust is key.

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Women can become feminists, but it doesn't change their biological nature: they like to be dominated in bed.

Case closed.