Post: #1

Hey,

I started watching porn around age 12 or 13. First, it was just the normal vanilla stuff, then it became lesbian porn, threesomes, cum compilations and anal sex gang bangs, humiliation etc.

I had a strange masturbation technique as well I preferred, which was to masturbate by putting a high pressure on my penis by just squeezing it between my hand and my stomach, sometimes laying on the stomach and sometimes on the back. I sometimes masturbated up to 5 times a day when I was bored, too.


I suffered from delayed ejaculation/anorgasmia with every girl I was with. Even with the girl I loved I could simply not come from sex with her, although I was into it. My dick just didn't feel much and as a result, I got bored from just hammering. At that point, it really became a problem for me. I started using viagra and used it many times since, something I will not do again neither.

Last year, there was another girl (with some psychological issues) that added another problem. She sometimes indirectly told me my penis was too small ( it is actually 6,3 x 5,4). It seriously destroyed something in me, because if my penis was small, how could I have the kind of sex I desired, really "fucking" a girl? This and other more or less related reasons made me never really get hard on her and I ended it very soon. This was during my abroad studies in Asia and there were other women who barely could take my dick. Another time in a club, some random girl spontaneously grabbed my dick and afterwards showed me the "small" sign with her fingers while smiling.
I think these incidents have since made me nervous about a girl touching my dick. When dancing, I avoid cavemanning and when we get down to business I can't get it up. I am too stressed out and anxious. My libido has become shit.
I couldn't get it up for my new years ONS neither. I just can't have spontaneous sex it seems.

End of the story: I could not, until today, come in the girls I had sex with and recently, suffer from ED as well. I could come from blowjobs and handjobs recently, but only if I imagined hardcore porn stuff.
I have developed some kind of hatred towards sexual girls and I think that all of this is definitely not normal.

What the hell can I do about it?

Post: #2

Stop watching porn immediately and refrain from fapping at least for some weeks. Then, learn to masturbate only when you really feel like it and only by thinking of women you interacted with in RL. Educate yourself: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com and /thread-12879.html

Post: #3

How old are you now? (Don't have to answer this publicly, maybe PM, just trying to get more context on your situation)
Have you tried giving masturbation a hiatus for a few months?
Have you tried getting erection from mental only?

Post: #4

Based on what you're saying, I think you have some anger issues and need to talk to someone about them. It's easy for stuff like that to bleed over into your sex life because sex is primal and hits you where you live in your brain. Everybody's got things like this, but if it's affecting your sex life, you owe it to yourself to address whatever's bothering you.

Post: #5

A. Your slightly on the higher end of average in length. Your above average in girth. your dick is not small. never trust what a woman says, especially some drunk slut in a club that just grabbed your dick.

B. Quit jerking off and watching porn. Start working out.

Post: #6

(01-21-2014 07:29 PM)Corroncho Wrote:  Based on what you're saying, I think you have some anger issues and need to talk to someone about them. It's easy for stuff like that to bleed over into your sex life because sex is primal and hits you where you live in your brain. Everybody's got things like this, but if it's affecting your sex life, you owe it to yourself to address whatever's bothering you.

+1

Post: #7

How is your energy level? How old are you?

Stop taking viagra, never take it again till you are over the age of 50. Start exercising everyday, get a personal trainer if you have the money for it and make sure he makes you work hard. Stop masturbating, make this your number one priority.

Fuck what these girls said to you, I never listen to what girls tell me, never. The size of your dick means nothing. Your goal is to fuck and move to the next girl, who gives a fuck if they think that your dick is small.

Post: #8

(01-21-2014 06:32 PM)Puck21 Wrote:  Last year, there was another girl (with some psychological issues) that added another problem. She sometimes indirectly told me my penis was too small ( it is actually 6,3 x 5,4). It seriously destroyed something in me, because if my penis was small, how could I have the kind of sex I desired, really "fucking" a girl?

The rest of the advice in this thread is golden. On this point, next time you're with a girl take out a dollar bill and ask her out long it is. Prepare to be amazed at the wide variety of answers you get (it's 6.1" long). Girls suck at estimating and comparing physical dimensions. She was saying it to fuck you up, don't fall for it.

Post: #9

In addition to the advice above I would recommend deep breathing/meditation practice as part of your physical exercise regiment. Chinese qiqong and yoga have some helpful breathing exercises.

Post: #10

Listing penile dimensions and a detailed description of how you jack off? I'm smelling a troll...

Post: #11

eh, I don't think he is trolling.

This forum might help:
http://www.pegym.com/forums/beginners-fo...1-a-4.html

Your penis is a muscle and if you work it properly and exercise it(like any other muscle), you can really make good gains and improvements. If you masturbate in an unhealthy way, then you can really do damage.

Post: #12

I agree, good advice in this thread, though I don't know about that pegym link. Seems a bit strange, and btw, the penis is not a muscle. Not knocking it if it works for guys, but I don't think you need to go down a rabbit hole about jelqing and penis exercises right now. You've got enough going on in your head as it is.

My input:

1) Use ED drugs if you need them. Don't sweat it, lots of guys do. If you think about it, the sexual demands of modern life are a lot different than what most men of the past had to deal with. You'd mostly get a wife at 18 and bang the same woman until you died at 60. 'Performing' with a new girl all the time is not something that most of our ancestors probably dealt with.

2) Your penis is for your pleasure. It's your sex organ and it is designed to get you off. For getting her off, you have your mouth, hands, her hands, vibrators, whatever.

2a) If you aren't enjoying what you are doing--if you are banging away and getting bored and aren't going to come--feel free to stop and say, "It's just not happening for me tonight." Girls understand not being able to get off, they can't always either.

2b) Learn to feel comfortable asking for what you really want in bed. If you need to fuck her a certain way or have a finger in your ass or whatever to have a good time, say so. People who openly express their desires without shame are charismatic.

3) Laying off porn and masturbation is a good idea. Dan Savage, the sex columnist, has answered some questions about this, you might search his archive. I think he talks about the "death grip"--guys who masturbate with such a tight grip, no vagina can match it. His advice is to retrain yourself, primarily by just refusing to get off the old way. Once your body knows the only way it gets to come is with a gentler touch--and once your balls get heavy enough--it'll happen.

Post: #13

It's all becoming clear to me now:






But seriously, cutting out the porn, as others have suggested, would be step one.

Post: #14

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Post: #15

Porn is not the problem.

That would be like saying that a guy with "rapey" eyes is molesting you.

Whatever your problem is, and you definitely have one, you should try easing out of it.

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Post: #16

(01-22-2014 02:38 AM)soup Wrote:  Whatever your problem is, and you definitely have one, you should try easing out of it.

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That response is more 'troll' than the OP's original post asking for help, imo.

Post: #17

Ok guys, this is no troll thread.
Concerning why I listed all of the things abov yes it might sound wierd and trollish if I look at it again, but I am just looking for the reason why I have got these problems at the age of 20. I obviously cannot talk about this to someone I know, so I thought this forum might be a good adress.
I know all of these yourbrainonporn websites but always fail, I will do this my number one priority again, thanks.

(01-21-2014 07:29 PM)Corroncho Wrote:  Based on what you're saying, I think you have some anger issues and need to talk to someone about them. It's easy for stuff like that to bleed over into your sex life because sex is primal and hits you where you live in your brain. Everybody's got things like this, but if it's affecting your sex life, you owe it to yourself to address whatever's bothering you.

Who should I talk to in your opinion?

(01-21-2014 08:53 PM)AntiTrace Wrote:  A. Your slightly on the higher end of average in length. Your above average in girth. your dick is not small. never trust what a woman says, especially some drunk slut in a club that just grabbed your dick.

B. Quit jerking off and watching porn. Start working out.

Thanks. I already workout heavy, I used to live very healthy and workout heavy a few months in a row lately and plan on doing it again, I haven't watched porn videos since 8 months, maybe once a week or once every two weeks, I looked at some pictures but that's about it.
But I also can't know if it works because I don't have a steady partner. Should be a next priority.

(01-21-2014 09:39 PM)pitt Wrote:  How is your energy level? How old are you?

Stop taking viagra, never take it again till you are over the age of 50. Start exercising everyday, get a personal trainer if you have the money for it and make sure he makes you work hard. Stop masturbating, make this your number one priority.

Fuck what these girls said to you, I never listen to what girls tell me, never. The size of your dick means nothing. Your goal is to fuck and move to the next girl, who gives a fuck if they think that your dick is small.

Unfortunately, I have no money for a personal trainer. I go to the gym 3 times a week. My energy level...mostly shit. I had a blood test done due to a viral infect and my testosterone was around 4 ng/ml, went to the doctor again and asked if this is normal for my age, and he said "yeaah everything over 2,7 is good and above 4 is amazing!"

(01-21-2014 10:37 PM)master_thespian Wrote:  eh, I don't think he is trolling.

This forum might help:
http://www.pegym.com/forums/beginners-fo...1-a-4.html

Your penis is a muscle and if you work it properly and exercise it(like any other muscle), you can really make good gains and improvements. If you masturbate in an unhealthy way, then you can really do damage.

I did this for some time but it is incredibly time consuming, I had some pain when stretching, jelqing was very hard because I would always go soft and I think it was not healthy for my mind. My thoughts were always about my dick size.

Post: #18

(01-22-2014 05:02 AM)Puck21 Wrote:  Ok guys, this is no troll thread.
Concerning why I listed all of the things abov yes it might sound wierd and trollish if I look at it again, but I am just looking for the reason why I have got these problems at the age of 20. I obviously cannot talk about this to someone I know, so I thought this forum might be a good adress.
I know all of these yourbrainonporn websites but always fail, I will do this my number one priority again, thanks.

[quote='Corroncho' pid='634189' dateline='1390350587']
Based on what you're saying, I think you have some anger issues and need to talk to someone about them. It's easy for stuff like that to bleed over into your sex life because sex is primal and hits you where you live in your brain. Everybody's got things like this, but if it's affecting your sex life, you owe it to yourself to address whatever's bothering you.

Who should I talk to in your opinion?

(01-21-2014 08:53 PM)AntiTrace Wrote:  A. Your slightly on the higher end of average in length. Your above average in girth. your dick is not small. never trust what a woman says, especially some drunk slut in a club that just grabbed your dick.

B. Quit jerking off and watching porn. Start working out.

Thanks. I already workout heavy, I used to live very healthy and workout heavy a few months in a row lately and plan on doing it again, I haven't watched porn videos since 8 months, maybe once a week or once every two weeks, I looked at some pictures but that's about it.
But I also can't know if it works because I don't have a steady partner. Should be a next priority.

(01-21-2014 09:39 PM)pitt Wrote:  How is your energy level? How old are you?

Stop taking viagra, never take it again till you are over the age of 50. Start exercising everyday, get a personal trainer if you have the money for it and make sure he makes you work hard. Stop masturbating, make this your number one priority.

Fuck what these girls said to you, I never listen to what girls tell me, never. The size of your dick means nothing. Your goal is to fuck and move to the next girl, who gives a fuck if they think that your dick is small.

Unfortunately, I have no money for a personal trainer. I go to the gym 3 times a week and use a supplements like zinc, vitamins, magnesium, creatine, fish oil. My energy level...mostly shit. I had a blood test done due to a viral infect and my testosterone was around 4 ng/ml, went to the doctor again and asked if this is normal for my age, and he said "yeaah everything over 2,7 is good and above 4 is amazing!"

(01-21-2014 10:37 PM)master_thespian Wrote:  eh, I don't think he is trolling.

This forum might help:
http://www.pegym.com/forums/beginners-fo...1-a-4.html

Your penis is a muscle and if you work it properly and exercise it(like any other muscle), you can really make good gains and improvements. If you masturbate in an unhealthy way, then you can really do damage.

I did this for some time but it is incredibly time consuming, I had some pain when stretching, jelqing was very hard because I would always go soft and I think it was not healthy for my mind. My thoughts were always about my dick size.

Post: #19

(01-22-2014 05:24 AM)Puck21 Wrote:  

(01-22-2014 05:02 AM)Puck21 Wrote:  Ok guys, this is no troll thread.
Concerning why I listed all of the things abov yes it might sound wierd and trollish if I look at it again, but I am just looking for the reason why I have got these problems at the age of 20. I obviously cannot talk about this to someone I know, so I thought this forum might be a good adress.
I know all of these yourbrainonporn websites but always fail, I will do this my number one priority again, thanks.

[quote='Corroncho' pid='634189' dateline='1390350587']
Based on what you're saying, I think you have some anger issues and need to talk to someone about them. It's easy for stuff like that to bleed over into your sex life because sex is primal and hits you where you live in your brain. Everybody's got things like this, but if it's affecting your sex life, you owe it to yourself to address whatever's bothering you.

Who should I talk to in your opinion?

It can be expensive, but a psychologist/psychiatrist is probably the best way to go. Psychiatry gets (rightly) blasted as a pseudoscience, but they are still trained to listen, ask, uncover and recognize people's issues. Whatever it is that's bothering you is not new under the sun, but if you don't address it and talk it out, it won't just go away on its own.

Post: #20

Puck21,

You have an abnormal method of masturbation which is affecting your erections. How old are you again and for how long have you been jerking off this way?

Go here and check out if this pertains to your situation

http://www.healthystrokes.com

As the others have said, CUT OUT porn and fapping to at least once a week (even make a BIG deal out of it, kinda like a date with yourself once a week. Sounds funny? Do you wanna get better and heal?). If you say you work out hard regularly, then not fapping will give you a raging boner every week because of all the testosterone you are producing.

Your dick has forgotten how it feels to be inside a vagina. You need to reaquaint it to poosy.

Post: #21

(01-22-2014 02:38 AM)soup Wrote:  Porn is not the problem.

That would be like saying that a guy with "rapey" eyes is molesting you.

Whatever your problem is, and you definitely have one, you should try easing out of it.

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Are you aware that porn destroys many people lives?

Post: #22

Puck: I had a similar problem. I masturbated in abnormal ways and although I was able to convince 20 or so women to get in bed with me I struggled to get it up every time, and finished very rarely.

I haven't made a full recovery yet, but I can tell you that yourbrainonporn.com has changed how I view the world -- and especially porn.

Honestly man, porn is toxic, and masturbation isn't much better in my opinion. I'm done with both.

PM me if you have any more specific questions.

To the guys above saying that he's trolling, I can promise you that porn-induced delayed ejaculation is a real growing concern among young men. One of my friends whom I convinced to quit watching porn thanked me last week; he's a totally different guy now.

Best of luck!

Post: #23

(01-22-2014 04:11 PM)HankRearden Wrote:  Puck: I had a similar problem. I masturbated in abnormal ways and although I was able to convince 20 or so women to get in bed with me I struggled to get it up every time, and finished very rarely.

I haven't made a full recovery yet, but I can tell you that yourbrainonporn.com has changed how I view the world -- and especially porn.

Honestly man, porn is toxic, and masturbation isn't much better in my opinion. I'm done with both.

PM me if you have any more specific questions.

To the guys above saying that he's trolling, I can promise you that porn-induced delayed ejaculation is a real growing concern among young men. One of my friends whom I convinced to quit watching porn thanked me last week; he's a totally different guy now.

Best of luck!

Care to breakdown your strategies on how you gave up masturbation?

We have a thread on this subject /thread-12879.html

Post: #24

(01-22-2014 05:10 PM)pitt Wrote:  

(01-22-2014 04:11 PM)HankRearden Wrote:  Puck: I had a similar problem. I masturbated in abnormal ways and although I was able to convince 20 or so women to get in bed with me I struggled to get it up every time, and finished very rarely.

I haven't made a full recovery yet, but I can tell you that yourbrainonporn.com has changed how I view the world -- and especially porn.

Honestly man, porn is toxic, and masturbation isn't much better in my opinion. I'm done with both.

PM me if you have any more specific questions.

To the guys above saying that he's trolling, I can promise you that porn-induced delayed ejaculation is a real growing concern among young men. One of my friends whom I convinced to quit watching porn thanked me last week; he's a totally different guy now.

Best of luck!

Care to breakdown your strategies on how you gave up masturbation?

We have a thread on this subject /thread-12879.html

Will do. Need to finish up some work but will write a post there afterwards.

Post: #25

Healthy strokes?
I am floored. A whole site addressed to proper fapping! Gotta love the internet.