Post: #1

Whats up everybody,

Another aspiring player here. This forum has helped me out for sure and I've read bang and been trying to incorporate some of it into my daily life. So here is my situation-

First date with a hot little mexican chica tonight. I met her at her work; she's a waitress at her families restaurant and we seemed to hit it off; she talked to me the whole time and was showing lots of interest. She got busy so I dropped the card and told her to txt me her number. She ends up giving me her number so I called her once and left a message...no answer. A few days later she starts texting me and I set up a date for 8 p.m. and I told her Id confirm the location today. My plan was hop to a couple cool bars by the beach then walk the beach. I remember when I met her that she basically works 2 jobs all day cus her family owns a restaurant so she works an am job then closes down the restaurant.

Early this morning she suggests a spot for tea and says if we can do it early because she has to work very early the next day. This is obviously not me leading. What would you do? The spot she suggests is a cool cafe and there is a good brewery across the street that we could bounce to or should i just stick to my game plan?

Thanks!

Post: #2

Unless the location is strongly unfavorable for you, just dismiss it as her being decisive and don't read too much into it. Others might disagree, though.

p.s. do you know if this caffe has people sitting on couches next to each other, or on chairs opposite to each other? That factor influences how much you get to touch her a lot.

Post: #3

(01-14-2014 11:17 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:  Unless the location is strongly unfavorable for you, just dismiss it as her being decisive and don't read too much into it. Others might disagree, though.

p.s. do you know if this caffe has people sitting on couches next to each other, or on chairs opposite to each other? That factor influences how much you get to touch her a lot.

Thanks HCE-I wouldn't say its unfavorable but it gets crowded and its a mix of tables and couches. There are lots of private corners though and it's kind of a romantic vibe. Everything is all dark natural stained wood and dim lighting. I do know the bartenders at the brewery so that would be good to do both.

Post: #4

Why not play the 'im sure you are tired of restaurants and cafes, just come to my place' as you told us shes a waitress? If you really hit it off well and you didn't seem like a creep then she will come over. And the whole plan would be a time-saver if she wasn't really that interested.

Post: #5

Thanks for advice fellas; I went with Eel's and just met her there and I took the lead easily. We sat next to each other wherever we went and I started kino in beginning and escalated slow and steady until I was touching all over with no resistance and she was reciprocating. Find out she is on the rag and leave with a handy and a preview of her magnificent breasts to come. I will make sure to schedule the next date once rag time is over.

Post: #6

(01-15-2014 03:23 AM)SDGuerro Wrote:  Thanks for advice fellas; I went with Eel's and just met her there and I took the lead easily. We sat next to each other wherever we went and I started kino in beginning and escalated slow and steady until I was touching all over with no resistance and she was reciprocating. Find out she is on the rag and leave with a handy and a preview of her magnificent breasts to come. I will make sure to schedule the next date once rag time is over.

Nice work!

Post-game analysis: I think you may have been overthinking this; you want to be a leader, but if a girl texts you and wants to meet up and suggests a place, that's her chasing you, which is a great position to be in.

Now, if you ask her out and she tries to change the place you want to meet, that's a different story - she's trying to take control from your frame. What you really want to watch out for is a chick trying to upgrade the meeting spot to a place that is more expensive and/or less amenable to escalating, or just shit test you into bending to her.

The purpose of "leading" is to build attraction; a girl who is like "meet me at _____" is definitely into you so you don't need to worry about flexing a "leader" vibe at that point.

Post: #7

Thanks for the feedback you're right I was over thinking it; now next step is do I wait it out a day or hit her up tonight while it's fresh in her mind?

Post: #8

(01-15-2014 04:31 PM)SDGuerro Wrote:  Thanks for the feedback you're right I was over thinking it; now next step is do I wait it out a day or hit her up tonight while it's fresh in her mind?

I usually wait until the day after a date (two days after a night date) to hit a girl back up, to give her a chance to miss me and to text me first which sometimes happens. You don't want to be TOO fresh in her mind or she can feel suffocated. Give her a chance to miss you without losing momentum

Post: #9

Surprised this went as well as it did.

Applause!

WIA

Post: #10

Thanks; to be honest I was surprised too but I've been doing things differently and reading action over what girls say lately since reading bang and getting on here. She came across as more conservative than she is so I hit her up and planted a seed for next week just so she didn't feel like the slut she is. She told me she was going to send a boob pic which she sent quickly after our convo along with a few pics of her modeling new sexy outfits. Thanks roosh and forum

Post: #11

(01-16-2014 11:02 AM)SDGuerro Wrote:  Thanks; to be honest I was surprised too but I've been doing things differently and reading action over what girls say lately since reading bang and getting on here. She came across as more conservative than she is so I hit her up and planted a seed for next week just so she didn't feel like the slut she is. She told me she was going to send a boob pic which she sent quickly after our convo along with a few pics of her modeling new sexy outfits. Thanks roosh and forum

I wouldn't necessarily call her a slut. Females are just much, MUCH more likely to be receptive to physical escalation if she is intensely attracted to you and you keep her on her toes, so she feels like she just wants to be completely overwhelmed by you. Too many guys get caught up in calling girls sluts who get physical with them quickly without really looking at the surrounding situation.

Post: #12

I hear you and Anderoid, good point. I'm sure she's pretty into me so I'll chalk it up to that and keep the same game going next time I see her- gradual and steady escalation.

Post: #13

Hey guys!

I just thought about posting this here instead of creating a new thread since I have the same problem.

I have a date tonight with this Latina I had already kissed, when I suggested her a place to meet (near my place) she suggested another location in the centre. She's new to the city but still- she wants to take the frame.

I am not planning on agreeing with this but I wonder if I should suggest another venue or stick with the initial one. What do you guys think?

Post: #14

What was the initial venue? If it's a bar, rethink it...unless that's all u have to suggest

Post: #15

(06-15-2016 02:20 PM)IAmAlpha504 Wrote:  What was the initial venue? If it's a bar, rethink it...unless that's all u have to suggest

My plan was to go Hookah and then venue change to the bar but I only told her to meet me at the subway station near my place and she suggested to meet Dwntown..

Post: #16

I don't see what it would cost u tell her, broadly, what ur plan is. I don't recommend u let her decide.

Post: #17

(06-15-2016 02:41 PM)IAmAlpha504 Wrote:  I don't see what it would cost u tell her, broadly, what ur plan is. I don't recommend u let her decide.

I ended up suggesting another hookah lounge near her place and we fucked later at her place. Thanks for the advice!