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RE: Hitting the road...
(01-11-2014 10:32 PM)Ironbound Wrote: Ah, man I'd love to, I'm very nervous just hopping on a plane alone and leaving. It'd be nice with a friend, but most of my friends arent of the sort to really travel. And just over all apprehension.
Any tips, guys? haha
Okay - never mind, don't go. You're a pussy.
haha Just giving you shit, bro.  Seriously though - step outside of your comfort zone. We've all been there, but you're an adult now; go see what the world's all about.
Wait for your friends and you'll be doing that your whole life. That's what most people do and look at the results most people get in their lives...
If you really are iffy, hell, fly to a city that has a few forum members and meet some of the guys from here. That'll still foster more adventure and independence then leaving your home with a pack of guys you know. Shit you'll be way ahead of where I was at 20 if you do that.
I can also assure you that if you fly to a popular destination and stay in a tourist area, you'll probably have new friends by the time you get to your room. If you really are worried about being alone.
20 years old. Just out of a relationship. A bit of freedom and money for some travel.
Any red-blooded American male in his right mind would kill to be in your position.
Go.
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RE: Hitting the road...
(01-11-2014 10:32 PM)Ironbound Wrote: Ah, man I'd love to, I'm very nervous just hopping on a plane alone and leaving. It'd be nice with a friend, but most of my friends arent of the sort to really travel. And just over all apprehension.
Any tips, guys? haha
leave 'em behind.
IF they're good friends, you can hit em up if you end up back there after you've been around.
If not, they'll just drag you down into a wasted youth, and it sounds to me like you're already outgrowing them. You'll meet new friends soon enough.
(This post was last modified: 01-12-2014 04:43 AM by Vroom.)
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RE: Hitting the road...
You're 20 years old and you have a couple of grand in the bank? GO!
I would have loved to have that money when I was 20. I think I had about twenty pounds to my name.
Hop on a plane to South-East Asia. Then maybe look at a way to stay there (If you have a degree = Teach English. If you don't, you're gonna have to do something which is beyond the brain capacity of this lazy bastard). Alternatively, get a fake degree on Khao San road, eventually you'll fool SOME employer with it.
At 21 I moved to South Korea with £500. 16 months on, I'm still alive haha.
So, you've got more than enough money for a good trip somewhere, and potentially enough for a start-up.
And with regards to your friends: Well, it may be hard breaking away from the pack, but ultimately, you are the biggest authority on your life. Do what you have to do to fulfill your needs as a man. I'm a VERY simple man. I moved because I like hot weather, Asian woman, and I wanted to carry on going out four days a week like I did at university. In the UK, I wasn't gonna get that. I love my friends, but they weren't moving forward. (Plus I HATE chavs and the aggressive nature of English people. And I want to live in different countries, rather than just visit).
In fact, looking at Facebook is a constant reminder of how bad it would have been if I'd stayed. Life hasn't moved on for 95% of them in the past two years. The other day they went to 'Mazzas' (The chavy club in my home town of 40,000 people. We used to go there aged 17 as it was the only place that wouldn't ID us). That's gotta get old soon.
Occasional updates are usually nothing more than a photo of the 'Friday beer' at the office, or a club photo where eight thirsty Beta's are huddled round a fat 6 in a dress that could fit a septic tank.
In third year people always used to say "It's time for me to go and join the REAL world, ho ho ho". Well that idea had me terrified. I like my bubble. My immature bubble. I see friends posting "On Wednesday's one year ago I was always hungover from a night at Sobar. Nowadays I'm on the train to London at 5am".
It didn't have to be that way :/. I'm constantly reminded that the alternative is a grey cubicle in Swindon with a picture of David Cameron looking at me. The culmination of the week being a beer with the LADS.
So yeah, I've gone off on an incoherent ramble.
Go on holiday, sod your friends and perhaps make it longer.
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RE: Hitting the road...
It's hard to quantify the value of living for a while on the road, and/or abroad. Each person will get something different out of it.
To me, living abroad and talking with weird, interesting people helped me to be a bit weird and interesting myself. It definitely made me a lot smarter.
The point is that getting away from home, especially in a foreign country, will change you. You won't know how it will change you.
It's like shuffling the deck when you're dealt a mediocre hand. You don't know what the cards will bring, but when you are unable to make anything good out of the cards you were dealt, shuffle the deck and let the cards bring what they may. Let all the chips fall onto the table and see where you end up.
If that thought excites you, you should try it. If it terrifies you, you should especially try it. I promise you that if you take it seriously and are open-minded, you will become a better person, and certainly smarter, more capable, and interesting.
You'll see opportunities that you cannot now - that's the killer that people can't see. You don't know that there are opportunities out there, because they only present themselves when you make that change.
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RE: Hitting the road...
(01-11-2014 10:11 PM)Ironbound Wrote: Listening/reading about roosh, hearing stories from other cats, I really just want to say fuck it, and hop on a plane and explore a random nation.
Thing is, I'm only 20, turning 21 real soon. Did a bit of traveling with my father around the middle east, but I'll never forget those days. I'd love to relive all of that.
I have a couple grand in the bank, so I'm really considering taking a few months off from the works of daily life to hike it out to somewhere....alien.
What do you guys think? Anyone ever do this? Any experience? This a bad idea? good idea?
Recently sorted an old LTR, wanna live it up again...
I left at 18, 20 now got more than 12 months abroad. Regret nothing. Only problem is I'm not sure how I would feel coming home doing a 8-4,. Got so much more experience than anyone at home who is just doing the same day in and out for all their life.
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RE: Hitting the road...
(01-12-2014 05:08 AM)LeightonBlackstock Wrote: You're 20 years old and you have a couple of grand in the bank? GO!
I would have loved to have that money when I was 20. I think I had about twenty pounds to my name.
Hop on a plane to South-East Asia. Then maybe look at a way to stay there (If you have a degree = Teach English. If you don't, you're gonna have to do something which is beyond the brain capacity of this lazy bastard). Alternatively, get a fake degree on Khao San road, eventually you'll fool SOME employer with it.
At 21 I moved to South Korea with £500. 16 months on, I'm still alive haha.
So, you've got more than enough money for a good trip somewhere, and potentially enough for a start-up.
And with regards to your friends: Well, it may be hard breaking away from the pack, but ultimately, you are the biggest authority on your life. Do what you have to do to fulfill your needs as a man. I'm a VERY simple man. I moved because I like hot weather, Asian woman, and I wanted to carry on going out four days a week like I did at university. In the UK, I wasn't gonna get that. I love my friends, but they weren't moving forward. (Plus I HATE chavs and the aggressive nature of English people. And I want to live in different countries, rather than just visit).
In fact, looking at Facebook is a constant reminder of how bad it would have been if I'd stayed. Life hasn't moved on for 95% of them in the past two years. The other day they went to 'Mazzas' (The chavy club in my home town of 40,000 people. We used to go there aged 17 as it was the only place that wouldn't ID us). That's gotta get old soon.
Occasional updates are usually nothing more than a photo of the 'Friday beer' at the office, or a club photo where eight thirsty Beta's are huddled round a fat 6 in a dress that could fit a septic tank.
In third year people always used to say "It's time for me to go and join the REAL world, ho ho ho". Well that idea had me terrified. I like my bubble. My immature bubble. I see friends posting "On Wednesday's one year ago I was always hungover from a night at Sobar. Nowadays I'm on the train to London at 5am".
It didn't have to be that way :/. I'm constantly reminded that the alternative is a grey cubicle in Swindon with a picture of David Cameron looking at me. The culmination of the week being a beer with the LADS.
So yeah, I've gone off on an incoherent ramble.
Go on holiday, sod your friends and perhaps make it longer.
This, I am just sick and tired of the routine of life. All my friends and co workers, either doing nothing all day, smoking copious amounts of drugs, or working the inevitable 9-5. I love my friends, i just dont get how they dont get bored of the same usual shit day in and day out
Thanks for all the motivation and tips guys  I'm going to start looking into warm tropical climates to explore. South America and South east asia is looking good right about now.
I just cant shake the thought that setting foot on a country with no contacts, almost no plans, nothing in particular to do, will just end in disaster....
Fuck it oh well lol.
Man this feeling of freedom right now, to think I was going to give it all up to some girl a few months back....
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