Post: #1

So if you guys are aware, I have just gotten out of a LTR. I used to game girls during the day, but I never kept the numbers and would release them back into the wild.

Well, catching fish is easy. Keeping the fish is a different bet.

There is a temp at my office that works reception (she'll be gone by the 31st of December ). She's a solid 7 and we hit it off well. I ended up getting her number and kept the text game to a min . Since i'm staying in town for Christmas, I visited her today and flirted as usual. I said, "I've never been ice skating before." and she of course flipped. I asked, and of course got a yes. However, she gave me the warning of, "I'm kinda seeing someone."

I looked back and chuckled a bit. I said back said, "Oh, that's going to make our affair that much more clandestine."

I've read a lot of posts about this and for some reason it has me nervous. I'm probably over thinking it a bit, but the signs are all there that she's into me so i'm going to push for it.

Any other pitfalls I should be aware of?

Post: #2

Na, overthinking it. Just go for it. She's leaving soon and sounds like she wants some different action (you) before she goes back to wherever she's from.

Lubricate the situation by eventually getting some alcohol involved either at your place, or bars near your place for easy extraction up to your place.

If she mentions "sort of relationship" or gives any push back, I'd ignore it or say "K" and move on.... keep pushing the interaction forward.

Keep us posted with an update.

Post: #3

(12-17-2013 10:05 AM)frenchie Wrote:  So if you guys are aware, I have just gotten out of a LTR. I used to game girls during the day, but I never kept the numbers and would release them back into the wild.

Well, catching fish is easy. Keeping the fish is a different bet.

There is a temp at my office that works reception (she'll be gone by the 31st of December ). She's a solid 7 and we hit it off well. I ended up getting her number and kept the text game to a min . Since i'm staying in town for Christmas, I visited her today and flirted as usual. I said, "I've never been ice skating before." and she of course flipped. I asked, and of course got a yes. However, she gave me the warning of, "I'm kinda seeing someone."

I looked back and chuckled a bit. I said back said, "Oh, that's going to make our affair that much more clandestine."

I've read a lot of posts about this and for some reason it has me nervous. I'm probably over thinking it a bit, but the signs are all there that she's into me so i'm going to push for it.

Any other pitfalls I should be aware of?

It's either a pre-emptive rejection (a sort of friendzoning), a shit test or just a plausible-deniability routine run by her subconscious to salve whatever mixed feelings she may have. "Kinda seeing someone" has null factual value, so I would take actions over words. 50-50 chance you are boning her before she says it again. She's probably shit-testing you and giving herself an out where if she decides she doesn't like you she can eject politely with an excuse.

Post: #4

(12-18-2013 04:19 AM)BadgerHut Wrote:  

(12-17-2013 10:05 AM)frenchie Wrote:  So if you guys are aware, I have just gotten out of a LTR. I used to game girls during the day, but I never kept the numbers and would release them back into the wild.

Well, catching fish is easy. Keeping the fish is a different bet.

There is a temp at my office that works reception (she'll be gone by the 31st of December ). She's a solid 7 and we hit it off well. I ended up getting her number and kept the text game to a min . Since i'm staying in town for Christmas, I visited her today and flirted as usual. I said, "I've never been ice skating before." and she of course flipped. I asked, and of course got a yes. However, she gave me the warning of, "I'm kinda seeing someone."

I looked back and chuckled a bit. I said back said, "Oh, that's going to make our affair that much more clandestine."

I've read a lot of posts about this and for some reason it has me nervous. I'm probably over thinking it a bit, but the signs are all there that she's into me so i'm going to push for it.

Any other pitfalls I should be aware of?

It's either a pre-emptive rejection (a sort of friendzoning), a shit test or just a plausible-deniability routine run by her subconscious to salve whatever mixed feelings she may have. "Kinda seeing someone" has null factual value, so I would take actions over words. 50-50 chance you are boning her before she says it again. She's probably shit-testing you and giving herself an out where if she decides she doesn't like you she can eject politely with an excuse.

Interesting, we're hanging out on friday. I will report back then.

Post: #5

(12-18-2013 07:38 AM)frenchie Wrote:  

(12-18-2013 04:19 AM)BadgerHut Wrote:  

(12-17-2013 10:05 AM)frenchie Wrote:  So if you guys are aware, I have just gotten out of a LTR. I used to game girls during the day, but I never kept the numbers and would release them back into the wild.

Well, catching fish is easy. Keeping the fish is a different bet.

There is a temp at my office that works reception (she'll be gone by the 31st of December ). She's a solid 7 and we hit it off well. I ended up getting her number and kept the text game to a min . Since i'm staying in town for Christmas, I visited her today and flirted as usual. I said, "I've never been ice skating before." and she of course flipped. I asked, and of course got a yes. However, she gave me the warning of, "I'm kinda seeing someone."

I looked back and chuckled a bit. I said back said, "Oh, that's going to make our affair that much more clandestine."

I've read a lot of posts about this and for some reason it has me nervous. I'm probably over thinking it a bit, but the signs are all there that she's into me so i'm going to push for it.

Any other pitfalls I should be aware of?

It's either a pre-emptive rejection (a sort of friendzoning), a shit test or just a plausible-deniability routine run by her subconscious to salve whatever mixed feelings she may have. "Kinda seeing someone" has null factual value, so I would take actions over words. 50-50 chance you are boning her before she says it again. She's probably shit-testing you and giving herself an out where if she decides she doesn't like you she can eject politely with an excuse.

Interesting, we're hanging out on friday. I will report back then.

Don't bring it up at all. Act like she never said it. If you discuss it, you're playing into her frame and she's made the rules.

Here is the good news: If she were even a bit serious about whatever it is, she would have totally rejected you. Girls who are into their boyfriends don't make plans with other guys. What she wants is some action or drama. So find a way to give that to her -- and if the door is open, go full speed ahead, totally ignoring whether she's "seeing someone."

The bad news: Speaking from experience....the only downside I can see is if she agreed to this date to make him jealous and either tells him about your plans or brings you to a place he is. This happened to me once. Not fun. Some women get the same thrill creating drama that men get when a woman takes her blouse off. Watch out if she's this kind.

Post: #6

(12-18-2013 07:49 AM)Days of Broken Arrows Wrote:  

(12-18-2013 07:38 AM)frenchie Wrote:  

(12-18-2013 04:19 AM)BadgerHut Wrote:  

(12-17-2013 10:05 AM)frenchie Wrote:  So if you guys are aware, I have just gotten out of a LTR. I used to game girls during the day, but I never kept the numbers and would release them back into the wild.

Well, catching fish is easy. Keeping the fish is a different bet.

There is a temp at my office that works reception (she'll be gone by the 31st of December ). She's a solid 7 and we hit it off well. I ended up getting her number and kept the text game to a min . Since i'm staying in town for Christmas, I visited her today and flirted as usual. I said, "I've never been ice skating before." and she of course flipped. I asked, and of course got a yes. However, she gave me the warning of, "I'm kinda seeing someone."

I looked back and chuckled a bit. I said back said, "Oh, that's going to make our affair that much more clandestine."

I've read a lot of posts about this and for some reason it has me nervous. I'm probably over thinking it a bit, but the signs are all there that she's into me so i'm going to push for it.

Any other pitfalls I should be aware of?

It's either a pre-emptive rejection (a sort of friendzoning), a shit test or just a plausible-deniability routine run by her subconscious to salve whatever mixed feelings she may have. "Kinda seeing someone" has null factual value, so I would take actions over words. 50-50 chance you are boning her before she says it again. She's probably shit-testing you and giving herself an out where if she decides she doesn't like you she can eject politely with an excuse.

Interesting, we're hanging out on friday. I will report back then.

Don't bring it up at all. Act like she never said it. If you discuss it, you're playing into her frame and she's made the rules.

Here is the good news: If she were even a bit serious about whatever it is, she would have totally rejected you. Girls who are into their boyfriends don't make plans with other guys. What she wants is some action or drama. So find a way to give that to her -- and if the door is open, go full speed ahead, totally ignoring whether she's "seeing someone."

The bad news: Speaking from experience....the only downside I can see is if she agreed to this date to make him jealous and either tells him about your plans or brings you to a place he is. This happened to me once. Not fun. Some women get the same thrill creating drama that men get when a woman takes her blouse off. Watch out if she's this kind.

She lives in the burbs about a half hour north of the city. I doubt he'll be any problem thanks for the heads up. I'll report back on friday.