Post: #1

First time poster, long time reader of Rooshv, Virgil, ROK etc.

Currently I have a "girlfriend" who's 18, been going out like 1.5 months. She already caught me once talking to multiple girls on facebook. Made a rookie mistake, luckily I said all the right things and we were having sex later that night.

Fast forward 3 weeks everything going fine, came home to a friend request from a chick who is more attractive then mine, also 18. We have one mutual friend (my gf). I message her "do we know each other?" Conversation goes on and I tell her I have a gf etc. She gets very aggressive and tells me shes looking for a hook up doesn't care about my gf/ she won't tell anyone. Stand my ground try to keep the whole I have a gf can't do it type thing going. In the back of my mind I keep thinking this is to good to be true this has to be a setup by my gf a test of some sort.

She finally gives up after asking for my number after 2 tries and says " give me ur number incase something happens in the future" I crack and give it to her, she texts me 5 min later "Hey so did you want to meet up tonight or what?"

Has this happen to anyone else ever? So far i've been stand offish and cautious. I'd love to rail this chick out but to me just seems fishy. Don't wanna go for it and find out its all a set up.

Am I paranoid? The girl from clearly seems legit and i'm not worried about a fake profile etc. I'm worried about my gf being friends with her and putting her up to this. Any thoughts greatly appreciated.

Post: #2

(11-12-2013 10:25 PM)Brissbrass Wrote:  First time poster, long time reader of Rooshv, Virgil, ROK etc.

Currently I have a "girlfriend" who's 18, been going out like 1.5 months. She already caught me once talking to multiple girls on facebook. Made a rookie mistake, luckily I said all the right things and we were having sex later that night.

Fast forward 3 weeks everything going fine, came home to a friend request from a chick who is more attractive then mine, also 18. We have one mutual friend (my gf). I message her "do we know each other?" Conversation goes on and I tell her I have a gf etc. She gets very aggressive and tells me shes looking for a hook up doesn't care about my gf/ she won't tell anyone. Stand my ground try to keep the whole I have a gf can't do it type thing going. In the back of my mind I keep thinking this is to good to be true this has to be a setup by my gf a test of some sort.

She finally gives up after asking for my number after 2 tries and says " give me ur number incase something happens in the future" I crack and give it to her, she texts me 5 min later "Hey so did you want to meet up tonight or what?"

Has this happen to anyone else ever? So far i've been stand offish and cautious. I'd love to rail this chick out but to me just seems fishy. Don't wanna go for it and find out its all a set up.

Am I paranoid? The girl from clearly seems legit and i'm not worried about a fake profile etc. I'm worried about my gf being friends with her and putting her up to this. Any thoughts greatly appreciated.

Post: #3

So this is a stupid question and clearly i'm just paranoid?

Post: #4

No, chicks definitely pull shit like this. Especially when they're 18.

The question is: Do you want to be dating a girl who's going to be pulling this shit.

If the answer is no then you go ahead and try and hook up with the girl. Either your girlfriend put her up to it, in which case you can break up with her in good conscience and move on. Or she didn't and you can bang her hot friend.

If the answer is yes then keep reading the forum until you realize it should be no.

Post: #5

(11-12-2013 10:51 PM)Brissbrass Wrote:  So this is a stupid question and clearly i'm just paranoid?

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Post: #6

Thanks for the sound advice Ensam.

Post: #7

Has that girl wrote on your GFs wall recently? What how she knows her? Same school? Same hometown? Is her profile legit?

If she isn't a close friend, has a legit profile then it probably isn't a setup.

And if it is? Then you have a funny story to tell.

Post: #8

I think Ensam makes a really good point.

Post: #9

You've got to go G.I. Joe. And what I mean is you've to recon this broad. Gather as much intel as you can on her and her social circle. Use non committal language, and keep her on the hook, but don't say anything that can be used against you. Example, compliment her, but always bring up your girl. There's nothing wrong with starting a bidding war.

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Post: #11

The 1.5 months had me laughing too. Also made me think to hard about how someone would mathematically cut a month in half. Especially if it was 31 days.

If a girl is throwing the pussy at me like that with that kind of verbage I always proceed with caution. Do some homework on her if you can.

Probably wants to get back at your 1.5 month gf for something.

Post: #12

That's happened to me several times so far, and it has always been a girlfriend testing me (which the girlfriend in question would readily admit sometime later with a "by the way, did you know that I tested you with a fake profile" statement without me even asking).

Post: #13

Back in college, had a gf's good friend begin messaging me constantly on that stupid website. Think the friend got fed up and ended up at my front door asking if I'd like to fuck. After refusing a few times and kicking her ass out, I got a call from my gf saying that I passed her test. Found that rather irritating.

Dumped her the next day because I don't put up with that childish shit.

Post: #14

Check their friendship on facebook and you will quickly find out if it's fake or not.

Post: #15

Well gentlemen the plot thickens.

So texting with the gf today when randomly she sends screenshots of the FB conversation I had with this girl. Not the whole conversation just parts and in particular the part where I gave my number.

BB: "I knew it was a trap, I don't appreciate that at all"

GF:"well i don't appreciate you giving other girls your number"

BB:"w/e don't bother coming over tonight. I thought we were past this bullshit."

GF:" I'm still coming over. The thing is i didnt' even plan it. You messaged her & then it happened"

She goes on to say that a friend of the girl who messaged me sent it to her and that she knows of the girl but doesn't talk with her. She offers up no explanation as to why the mutual friend of the two would send this to her other then "thats what girls do they tell each other things" (aint that the fucking truth) I press her as she continues to claim no prior knowledge other than she was sent the conversation randomly.

So did the girl just try and get me to say something to get back at my Gf knowing she was going to send our convo to the mutual friend. Or did she send the convo to brag to the mutual friend and mutual friend felt bad and sent it to Gf? Trying to figure it all out. Either way don't think I said enough to get the GF to break up with me but still don't know if she set the whole thing up or not. As in whether I should be breaking up with her or not.

Additionally the girl I messaged is compromised and can't be trusted that's even if she was trying to be semi legitimate in the first place.

Post: #16

Like the posters above said and what your last post confirms... it was a setup.

As a general rule, Brissbrass (and I think this is especially true of anything online-related): If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

No need to press your girlfriend for the truth. She's not going to fess up anyway. Even if she does, what do you get out of it?

Charge it to the game, so to speak. It's a learning experience. Enjoy her 18 year-oldness for as long as you'd like and don't get her knocked-up.

Post: #17

(11-13-2013 02:05 PM)Brissbrass Wrote:  Well gentlemen the plot thickens.

So texting with the gf today when randomly she sends screenshots of the FB conversation I had with this girl. Not the whole conversation just parts and in particular the part where I gave my number.

BB: "I knew it was a trap, I don't appreciate that at all"

GF:"well i don't appreciate you giving other girls your number"

BB:"w/e don't bother coming over tonight. I thought we were past this bullshit."

GF:" I'm still coming over. The thing is i didnt' even plan it. You messaged her & then it happened"

She goes on to say that a friend of the girl who messaged me sent it to her and that she knows of the girl but doesn't talk with her. She offers up no explanation as to why the mutual friend of the two would send this to her other then "thats what girls do they tell each other things" (aint that the fucking truth) I press her as she continues to claim no prior knowledge other than she was sent the conversation randomly.

So did the girl just try and get me to say something to get back at my Gf knowing she was going to send our convo to the mutual friend. Or did she send the convo to brag to the mutual friend and mutual friend felt bad and sent it to Gf? Trying to figure it all out. Either way don't think I said enough to get the GF to break up with me but still don't know if she set the whole thing up or not. As in whether I should be breaking up with her or not.

Additionally the girl I messaged is compromised and can't be trusted that's even if she was trying to be semi legitimate in the first place.

Your girlfriend is lying-she set the whole thing up.

And now you're worried about whether you "said enough to get the GF to break up with me"

Think about that-after she pulled this sneaky shit and lied to you you're worried that you're at fault and SHE might break up with YOU

Needy, needy, needy.Get the abundance mentality-there's lots of girls out there; you certainly don't have to consider a girl you've only been dating for 6 weeks to be your exclusive girlfriend and you damn sure don't have to put up with this.

Tell her you know she's lying and tried to manipulate you and you don't stand for that and dump her ass. Laugh in her face. Start gaming other girls today. hopefuly she'll she you with a better looking girl in the near future and that will really drive her insane . That's the best revenge

Post: #18

As MrXY said. Even if you want to continue fucking her, make sure she knows you are willing to just up and walk away. And don't stop looking for something hotter, just do it outside of her social circle. Mainly to avoid all the hassle you've just been through, not because you give a damn what she thinks.

In a relationship, the party who holds the power to walk away holds all the power.

Post: #19

Sobering words of wisdom MrXY thank you.

Post: #20

You knew all along it was a setup, I've learnt to trust my gut feeling on things and looking back its rarely wrong

Post: #21

Abundance mentality is the way to go. Start going after other girls and let your current girl know that you will not tolerate that kind of behavior. Put her in her place.

Post: #22

You guys are a bunch of rookies.

Solution: Write her back proposing a threesome with your girlfriend.

Post: #23

^ And then once they've performed for you, next them both. Your gf is not worthy of your continued committment because she plays such childish head games. Neither is the friend, for that matter, for helping her.

Post: #24

Update 3: GF was home when I got home and had gone on my computer and found the forum. Had it sitting up on my computer when I got home. Lets just say it went all down hill from there and we won't be seeing each other anymore.

Lessons learned: -don't have an 18yo Gf
-don't leave your computer up without a password
-don't trust girls
-don't be needy
-game multiple chicks at one time

thanks guys for all the advice it can only get better from here.

Post: #25

(11-13-2013 05:51 PM)Brissbrass Wrote:  Update 3: GF was home when I got home and had gone on my computer and found the forum. Had it sitting up on my computer when I got home. Lets just say it went all down hill from there and we won't be seeing each other anymore.

What did she think of, and say about, the forum? Don't leave us hanging.