Post: #1

I already banged Suzy 2-3 times in Jan. of this year, but haven't seen her since. She lives overseas. Only connection we have now is random greetings on Facebook.

Today, after no "hellos" in 3 weeks from either party, I asked how she was feeling. She replied something like: "Not good, I'm stressed by my boyfriend..." He had never come up in our conversations.

Anyway, rather than give her advice and be her friend, I told her something like: "I don't know him, and I don't like talking about other guys, so just ask your other girl friends for advice. We should def. hang out again sometime though."

Now, I think I did right by not getting into a 20 minute messaging session about her boyfriend. I wan't her to view me as a "friend with benefits" though and the word friend is in that phrase

Why am I clinging to this overseas girl? Well, for one she gave real good head. Also, if I do get a chance to see her again this year, would the best advice upon first contact just be minimal talking, take her out for drinks, and hope she gets the horniness again? I just don't want her to get 2nd doubts about fucking with me. I know that's kind of Beta, but she can be considered out of my league.

How would you have handled the whole Facebook convo?

Post: #2

You seemed ticked off. Sure youve banged, but youre not there, so since having a boyfriend is kind of like wearing sunglasses youve focused on this mysterious one word "interloper" way too sharply. You couldve joked "oh bf, how quaint" and ran with any number of bf destroyers.. from hows the sex?, toi bet you get treated to a dinner and a massage ecery weeknight

Post: #3

Listen for a minute or two then hit her with "It's great talking about that guy but I rather talk about us instead." She should get the point.

Post: #4

(10-01-2013 08:48 PM)Mr.GoodThread Wrote:  How would you have handled the whole Facebook convo?

I would not have had a facebook convo to begin with. Just to be clear, this chick is in a different continent and not someone you are currently dating?

I would suggest you cut off all contact until you are going back to her country, and at that point you can use facebook to try to set up a meeting time and place and don't get into any back and forth conversations.

And you can't really hold this conversation against her, you asked her how she was doing, she answered honestly.

Post: #5

Never get hung up on one girl, and never let yourself revolve around them. The best player thing you can do, is do your own thing and not give them a second thought. The fact that she even has this much power over your emotions is bad. Just let her go...Find new chicks to bang.

Post: #6

This is what I thought. I just think its weird to cut off all contact for like 10 months. But I get what you're saying.

(10-02-2013 03:38 AM)master_thespian Wrote:  

(10-01-2013 08:48 PM)Mr.GoodThread Wrote:  How would you have handled the whole Facebook convo?

I would not have had a facebook convo to begin with. Just to be clear, this chick is in a different continent and not someone you are currently dating?

I would suggest you cut off all contact until you are going back to her country, and at that point you can use facebook to try to set up a meeting time and place and don't get into any back and forth conversations.

And you can't really hold this conversation against her, you asked her how she was doing, she answered honestly.

Post: #7

(10-02-2013 08:51 AM)Mr.GoodThread Wrote:  This is what I thought. I just think its weird to cut off all contact for like 10 months. But I get what you're saying.

10 months is a long time to dwell on any girl or to dwell on any specific hook up that may then come.

I thought that you handled the matter well in the first conversation on FB, once you had already opened it up and received her response.

Now, as others have said, including Master_Thes, probably no need to communicate with her much at all until your next trip. Then I would not count on her as a bang.. but just as a possibility of a bang - but cross that bridge when it comes and don't dwell on it too much and in the meantime work on other bangs or whatever else you do in your regular time and don't give her too much thought, as others have already pointed out.

Post: #8

I think it's fine what you did. Trust me with these girls that are far away there's no need to initiate conversation with them and even when you do, it can be a month away and just be a 'hi'. The Croats and Poles I'm in contact with all initiate conversation with me

Post: #9

You want to still bang her? Then string her along until you get bored.

Post: #10

React as if she had sais "my friend".

Then change the subject.

- "Oh, im stressed because my friend has been acting a bit weird and jealous"

- "Thats though. So, when are you free? lets meet up this weekend for drinks"

Post: #11

It's not a big deal - you fucking BANGED dude!