Post: #1

Hi guys, I'm a new(virgin) gamer here, and while I've read just about everything Rooshv and Heartriste have ever written, I'm at a loss as to how to apply it in a small college (1800 ppl) environment.

I had some solid game going with a banging 9 at least in the preorientation week, and all the girls loved me. And the funny thing was I enjoyed every minute of it. I felt godlike. But in the couple of weeks as I got back to campus people thought I was "mysoginistic" and I said too much shit to girls. It got pretty bad and half the people in my dorm hated me so I went back to my old blue pill social mode. I enjoyed being a dickish asshole, but perhaps I went too far. I'm still looking for the charming asshole, but well liked medium in between.

I feel like my social circle game is near nil. I can't even get a drunk hookup and I'm really frustrated. I have a group of guys that I hang with a bunch, but we don't all chill together, its more like spaced out hang times with only a couple of them at a time. And I'm not regularly surrounded by beautiful women. I hope this doesn't make it seem like I'm socially awkward or anything because I'm not. I got elected class president by introducing myself to as many random people as I could. I really need your guys's help. I feel a little bit hopeless, as my plan to be the coolest motherfucker on the campus tanked pretty quickly. Any tips/thoughts on the matter and how to regain my state? If you guys want to ask any questions to clarify things, I'll do my best to answer.

Post: #2

You probably come off as an insincere "sales" type. If you're at a small liberal arts college that might not fly.

Learn active listening. That means stopping talk, then rephrasing what you think the other person said. Keep your voice lower if you are louder than others.

One thing someone said to me in my college days which I thought was really funny/true was " Everybody is so busy thinking of what they are going to say that nobody listens to anyone."

Post: #3

I'm betting that nobody at your school really cares.

In any event, if you want to grow your social network, you've got to meet people and cause them to have fun with you.

Halloween is coming up, so it's perfect time to organize a
- haunted house
- scavenger hunt
- or just a cool dress up party

So you can downplay your Heartiste commentary and get into the spirit of things.

WIA