Post: #1

I have always believed that we transfer our state to other people. And that we can do this either consciously or unconsciously. Ever notice how you get a lift whenever you meet a happy person? Well, I also thinks this works with attraction and I got to personally experience it the other night.

I was talking to this girl, her husband, and his sister - pretty face but not so great body. Initially, I thought she was cute but I wasn't really sexual attracted to her. But I could also tell she was sexually attracted to me. Anyway, I ended up talking to this girl for most of the night even though she wasn't the best looking girl I had met that night. And an interesting thing happened, the more I interacted with this girl the more attracted I found her to be. If she wasn't there with her husband I would have pushed for a close towards the end of the night. In a matter of two hours this girl was able to raise MY attraction level to her quite a bit. Now how did she do this?

She did it by expressing her attraction to me. When we were talking she would lean into me, press her breast against my arm. She would look at me directly in my eyes. Her eyes would sparkle with excitement when she was talking to me. She would touch me a lot. She would talk very close to my mouth - her mouth being just a few inches away from mine. By doing all of these things she was conveying her attraction for me TO me. And by doing so she slowly raised MY attraction level for her. And it pretty much happened automatically I didn't even realize it was happening until I started to feel uncomfortable because her husband was sitting right there. I don't think there was anything I could have done to stop it even if I wanted to except to leave. Actually, I did leave a few times, but I kept going back - that's how strong this kind of stuff is...

This is what I mean when I say your desire is your strongest weapon. The ability to express your desire, the way this girl did that night - in a blatant and apologetic manner, can and will increase someone attraction level for you. This is also a good filter for girls that just want some attention and are not attracted to you at all - they will simply become uncomfortable and leave. I was impressed how smooth and confident this young girl was - I felt like I was the girl being picked up. And she served to remind me that this is an area I have to tighten up on.

PS This is not the first time this has happened to me but it's the most recent and it just served to remind me about how powerful this can be. The only problem with using this is that you can't fake it, it's not a "pickup" technique, your attraction has to be real. I wonder if you can fake this through standard kino escalation...I think if you are good enough actor you might be able to.

Post: #2

Cliff Notes version:

Girl smiles at you.
You get a boner.
Girl game recognized.

Post: #3

If that's what you get from this then my writing ability must need serious work too. Will make a note to work on it

Post: #4

Just teasing playa. I tend to break things down to the simplest form. I agree that women can gain a point or so with a decent personality.

Post: #5

Ok It wasn't her personality. The other girls had cool personalities too. It was her ability to express her attraction - that's the point I think is important. There is a whole field of thought in the PUA community that you shouldn't show your interest. I am saying that you should do exactly the opposite BUT it is important HOW you do it. You have to be smooth and subtle.

Post: #6

She sounds like a close talker.

Post: #7

This is not related to the point you are trying to make.

I believe the fact that she was with her husband influenced her behavior.
She would've acted differently if she was there with her friends.

I grabbed this cute petite girl walking by at a club last night.
Our conversation was going pretty well from the beginning. she was very friendly and sweet.
When I asked her if she came here with her friends, she mentioned her bf.
I told her I really appreciated telling me that so I didn't have to waste time anymore with her. (we laughed)
I had to let her go but there was some weird tension between us while splitting from hugging each other.

Later, I saw her dancing with her bf and kissing just like any other couple in love.

I ran into her when she was by herself. this time she was acting in a seductive manner, grabbing my waist, touching my cheek etc. She was going home with her bf obviously but I felt like at least I should try to take her to the corner for make out. But I figured she was just Cockteasing me.
She knew I wouldn't do something that crosses the line. Even if I did, she could blame me acting improperly since she notified about her Bf. 'I told you I have a BF!!' (all after touching me in a way only interested girls would do)
I think she just wanted to test her value in the market.

Did you try to get her number?
Have you thought about taking her to the private area, make out with her and return her to her husband?

I kind of regret not pushing it further. (should've squeezed her ass to see the reaction, should've asked her to go to restroom etc)

Post: #8

It's more than just physical attraction sometimes.

It's feminine attraction. You're not attracted to her at first but the more you're around her and she flirts with you and expresses her femininity the more you become attracted.

I've noticed this too. One time I winged for my friend when I had no interest in the girl, and the girl was extremely flirty and attracted to me. I picked up on this but went along, and before I knew it I was attracted to her and although our interaction was brief I had re-occurring thoughts about her the rest of the night. She kissed me too, without me initiating.

Girls have game too.

Post: #9

Well, that's the weird thing, I wasn't thinking of her in sexual manner in the beginning. It was only towards the end that I noticed I had become more sexual attracted to her. Another time I was in a bar just chatting with these two women. Both where about 5 - 6, very latin, not might type at all. But then one started doing the same thing and by the end of the night I was making out with her like crazy. Even when I was making out with her I was surprised by myself. Objectively I could look at her and say to myself I don't find her attractive but emotionally what I felt was different.

BUT think I if a guy did the same thing to girl who wasn't attracted to him it would also work, have the same effect. I don't think it would work if you had ZERO attraction for the person.

Post: #10

I believe that these phenomena that you are describing is called building attraction or game.

Post: #11

(08-04-2013 03:30 PM)Nomad77 Wrote:  Ok It wasn't her personality. The other girls had cool personalities too. It was her ability to express her attraction - that's the point I think is important. There is a whole field of thought in the PUA community that you shouldn't show your interest. I am saying that you should do exactly the opposite BUT it is important HOW you do it. You have to be smooth and subtle.

I had a similar thread a while ago about being gamed by a woman.

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Post: #12

Yep, it's something like that - female Game but I am not sure she was doing it consciously.

Post: #13

This is very real.

Attraction and emotional states can be transferred I believe because the limbic system is blind.

Once it gets revved up, the mood is set.

Ever wake up from a dream in a particular mood but you can't remember what happened in the dream?

Also, thanks to mirror neurons, a person's emotional state can reflect another's.

That's why they put fake studio audience laughter in sitcoms.