Post: #51

Congrats Sugar!

Glad to see the improvement, you'll find SF to be hit and miss (heaters followed by downers) like any major city. Just need to make those normal tune ups, style, tone, venues etc.

The haight is a huge hit or miss spot.

Marina, soma, nob hill, mission, Polk street.

Rest is bunk

Post: #52

(09-06-2013 08:04 PM)Checkmat Wrote:  What kinds of shit tests have you been seeing? Nice work with 3 in one week, that is g as fuck

What kind of shit tests am I seeing...I had to think about that, because they are subtle.

One thing that I think is the common theme is women are testing me for neediness. I wouldn't say it's necessarily unconscious, but it probably is.

I have been ignoring for the most part, and I think I'm calibrated enough to almost ignore them without noticing.

Some examples are things like:

Not laughing at something I said, which is obviously funny (ignore, and keep talking)

One girl said should we split this round, which was the third round, after we had shared the bill for round 1+2. I said no I'll get this round don't worry, you can get the next one. I think she said something like 'maybe there won't be a next one.' I didn't even respond or acknowledge what she said, just seamlessly kept talking about what I was talking about previously. The fourth round was at my house (thanks Tuthmosis!) and we were in bed less than 10 minutes later.

Being tense, uptight, or disagreeable at the beginning of dates (this could just be nervousness) Ignore and have fun.

I'm still trying to figure out what to do when the girl is continuing to not give compliance. I used to think this is an attraction issue, but in many cases I think it might be a comfort issue. Like if you suggest going another place and she doesn't want to or has excuses.

Post: #53

Sounds like really unpleasant girls to be around.

Post: #54

I feel like it's female nature to always try to get the male hamster going in the beginning. I just make sure that I try to not let that happen.

Post: #55

I got with another girl Sunday, she was a young girl from DC who was staying with me. I rent out a room short term occasionally. She went out to dinner Sunday and before she left, we were flirting quite a bit. There is a look a girl gets in her eye after holding eye contact with you for a few seconds that is unmistakable. It's impossible to describe. Stayed in bed with her all night Sunday and into Monday.

Post: #56

Went on a couple dates in between and got destroyed on one. One was with a Russian girl. I met her where she wanted to go, instead of insisting on where I wanted to head. In retrospect I should have flake on her or said I would not go.

I had another one that went ok, but the girl did not come back when I said 'try this new drink at my place I've been working on making.' She hesitated for quite a while before deciding, so I guess she was thinking about it. Kissed before she got in the cab, but it wasn't a great vibe when she left, so I just walked home.

Post: #57

I am getting a lot of "too fast" comments lately from girls. Cant figure out what I'm doing uncalibrated. These are girls that are generally attracted, but not DTF I guess.

The last couple dates said or implied that. One girl wouldn't come home with me for that drink I talked about inventing.

The other took me to her house but wouldn't do more than a brief kiss.

Not sure what to do? Escalating harder doesn't seem like the right move.

Post: #58

You should get a good costume and check out the clubs this weekend. Even if it's not your style, they'll be out in the masses. 620 Jones/Infusion/Temple all over Marina.

Post: #59

(10-28-2013 10:12 PM)Sugar Wrote:  I am getting a lot of "too fast" comments lately from girls. Cant figure out what I'm doing uncalibrated. These are girls that are generally attracted, but not DTF I guess.

The last couple dates said or implied that. One girl wouldn't come home with me for that drink I talked about inventing.

The other took me to her house but wouldn't do more than a brief kiss.

Not sure what to do? Escalating harder doesn't seem like the right move.

Are you presenting yourself as boyfriend/husband material???

Or, are you presenting yourself as fun loving playboy?

If you present yourself as a "provider", girls will often buy into that "frame" and thus expect you to behave as a "provider". (multiple dates, traditional romance, wine and dine, etc.)

If you want faster, no strings attached sex, it's better to present yourself as more of a bad boy/playboy type.

Own the fact that you want sex, be authenitic and honest about your intentions.

This will allow you to better screen for girls who are
DTF.

Get them drunk, touch them, escalate, go for it. Don't present yourself as a potential husband.

Hope this helps. Not sure if this is even your issue?

Post: #60

Thanks Feo, Gio.

Gio, yeah I don't know. I was on a crazy hot streak throughout Sept and the beginning of this month, yet I've just been getting my ass kicked lately.

I am going through a cold streak.

I went on a date tonight and got destroyed. The girl was average, and still I felt no attraction coming my way. She left after one drink.

I might need to polish up my game a little bit, and my sleep schedule's been somewhat off.

I suspect a BIG part of the problem is I am no longer approaching and I am going on too many internet dates these days.

I need to work on having a better schedule too as far as sleep, eating, etc.

Post: #61

I did have one ok date last week with a very hot swedish girl. Too hot for SF. She wasn't DTF but has been jumping all over texts and is super responsive to me so I am gonna try to get her out again.

Post: #62

(10-29-2013 03:41 PM)Feo Wrote:  You should get a good costume and check out the clubs this weekend. Even if it's not your style, they'll be out in the masses. 620 Jones/Infusion/Temple all over Marina.

Hey Feo, yeah I would be down, I think a weekend out there is just what I need. Too much pussying around with internet bitches.

I think I still have your info, so I may hit you up.