Post: #26

She text me again wanting to talk. Whats the downside if I meetup and have sex with her one last time?

Post: #27

(06-04-2013 05:30 PM)murrb Wrote:  She text me again wanting to talk. Whats the downside if I meetup and have sex with her one last time?

None really. Despite plenty of heartache for me in my early relationships, I've NEVER regretted getting one last fuck in, and even in situations where I got broken up with, one last fuck was good.

Post: #28

(06-04-2013 05:30 PM)murrb Wrote:  She text me again wanting to talk. Whats the downside if I meetup and have sex with her one last time?

IMO, let her earn her way back to you. Cooking, cleaning, good sex, and buying you shit is what's required if she wants to get back with you. Of course, you keep banging girls on the side. As for meeting up with her, if you sense anything wrong, BOUNCE! Maybe she'll fuck you then claim you raped her. If you do bang her, don't drink before you both fuck and secretly record it on video, JUST IN CASE.

You never know with chicks these days.

Post: #29

(06-04-2013 05:30 PM)murrb Wrote:  She text me again wanting to talk. Whats the downside if I meetup and have sex with her one last time?

Wanting to talk doesn't equal sex. Tell her she can come over and "make it up to you." If she doesn't go for that, cut her loose. In fact, either way, cut her loose afterward.

Post: #30

Not good enough man. If she's not sending you sentimental texts reminding you how much you mean to her, she isn't that broken up over it. And why isn't she calling you to tell you this? She should be leaving you desperate voicemail messages by now. You guys went out for months, that's long enough for young chicks to react emotionally to being dumped. Unless they don't really care and have been messing around with their ex-bf's, or at the very least toying with the idea of getting back with them.

I say - blow her off. If she's serious, she'll be persistent and keep contacting.

Post: #31

why would you care about banging a girl youve banged multiple times one more time. its not worth anything

Post: #32

(06-04-2013 11:48 PM)GenJx Wrote:  why would you care about banging a girl youve banged multiple times one more time. its not worth anything

I disagree. This girl was still talking to her ex. which is BS

I had a steady girl who demanded I quit going to my favorite little bar because she thought too many of the regular girls flirt with me.

Told her to kick rocks. 2 days later she's had a few shots and begs me to fuck her "one last time" she says in a text. I don't agree until she comes to the text where she says I can do whatever I want to her because " no one fucks me like you do"

She let me try anal one time but couldn't so this time I fucked her in the ass hard!! Saw her 2 nights later in a basement club downtown all over some other dude. She was probably fucking him all the long! The fact that I had pounded her ass 2 days earlier was worth a ton in this situation!

Post: #33

"he had cheated on her"

That is an ultimate neg to some women. They will always be seeking his approval.

Post: #34

(06-04-2013 11:48 PM)GenJx Wrote:  why would you care about banging a girl youve banged multiple times one more time. its not worth anything

I didn't say you should care about it, I said that you should do it if the situation presents itself. Besides, if it's really the last time you ever fuck her, don't hesitate to enjoy the opportunity to pull out all the stops.

I've had some great break-up fucks.

Post: #35

Well she apologized and yadda yadda to me. I dont know if it was heart felt or not but I let her spend the night tonight. My plan is hey if shes cheating like a mother fucker I might as well use this oppurtunity to figure her out a little better and learn stuff for the future. Is far as im concerned I will just tell her whatever she wants to hear but try to extract as much data as possible.

First off I still use a flip phone so I was super weary about using her iphone because I might click something that is irreversible. I'm actually nervous as fuck but I did it anyway.

Anyway I can see she has been sent a handful of texts from guys who are probably trying to get in her pants. She has ignored all of them as far as I can see.

I started to check her facebook but after I had click on a message the little bubble of that persons face wouldn't go away but I eventually figured it out and I hope I did it right.

I actually drank a energy drink right before bed so I am bored as fuck because she is sleeping and I dont want to wake her up.

Post: #36

It's too late for this guy. She has him.

Sigh

Post: #37

Yep, I can already tell this guy is gonna be learning the hard way.

If I called my girl out on her texting an ex, I broke up with her, and she didn't beg and cry for my forgiveness - I would know I had made the right decision.

Post: #38

I hope not but maybe so. I am no longer emotionally attatched to her at all. Now I just want to get as much information as possible. I have never gone through a girls fb or texts messages before but it was pretty fun.

I'm hoping I could find something really incriminating and then similar to "The Art of Travel" suck her into believing that I dont know anything and then lay down the epic dagger like he did in that movie.

Post: #39

(06-09-2013 02:46 AM)murrb Wrote:  Well she apologized and yadda yadda to me. I dont know if it was heart felt or not but I let her spend the night tonight. My plan is hey if shes cheating like a mother fucker I might as well use this oppurtunity to figure her out a little better and learn stuff for the future. Is far as im concerned I will just tell her whatever she wants to hear but try to extract as much data as possible.

First off I still use a flip phone so I was super weary about using her iphone because I might click something that is irreversible. I'm actually nervous as fuck but I did it anyway.

Anyway I can see she has been sent a handful of texts from guys who are probably trying to get in her pants. She has ignored all of them as far as I can see.

I started to check her facebook but after I had click on a message the little bubble of that persons face wouldn't go away but I eventually figured it out and I hope I did it right.

I actually drank a energy drink right before bed so I am bored as fuck because she is sleeping and I dont want to wake her up.

Don't you think you're wasting your time trying to get some dirt on her?

Post: #40

What information do you think you will get? If she really is still talking to him? That he might be banging her? Who cares man. It will only infuriate you more.

I hope you banged her when she stayed over. Cut her off to show her how you feel. Silence after sex is the best revenge.

Post: #41

If I were you I'd have broken up with her just to prove to myself that I could - based on some of your posts in this thread here. Sometimes when you feel your frame slipping or things are getting out of whack, you've got to step back and take a pause. Women use the famous line all the time - "I think we should take a break" - so why not you?

Not to mention that you seem to be on the fence too. A week or two apart could have been a chance to sow your wild oats and collect your thoughts. Figure out if this relationship is really where you want to be in your life.

The worst part is that you're really in for a rough road now. Here's the way I always look at it: if you can prove she's cheating or feel strongly enough that she wronged you, break up with her and have it done with.

But don't stay with her only to prowl her phones and fuck with your own head for the rest of the relationship. That's not fair to either of you.

If there is something dicey going on, there's no way to know; you're just going to torture yourself and lose a lot of power in the relationship. You can only control what you can control, and if it comes out in the wash later down the road, deal with it then.

I got caught talking about banging other girls by a gf before and she flipped out right there in my brother's house with his whole family trying to sleep. At three in the fucking morning. So I tried to break up with her right then and there; I just didn't want to deal with the whole dynamic from there on out.

She feigned some outrageous emotional breakdown, and I finally gave in, but I told her that the only condition was that if we were staying together I didn't want to hear her shit all the time about "where am I going" and "am I fucking someone," etc.

If she wanted to be together, that was her choice and not a free pass to make my life a living hell.

Unfortunately, you're on the flip side of that right now (though obviously not to such one-sided extremes). And as a man, the leader of the relationship, it's on yourself to acknowledge that you can never know for sure and that the only person you can trust 100% is yourself - and that's not really her problem, at the end of the day.

In fact, it's a fact of life we here on the forum accept already, so nothing lost.

Part of being a man is walking away when you smell bullshit, sure. But another part of being a man is having a stable enough frame to deal with the consequences if you can't hunt root it out but stick around regardless of the stench. So unless you've got a good enough gift of gab to talk a guilty woman into fessing up (if she's even guilty), then it's time to plug your nose and move past it.

Of course, you can just decide to fuck her and leave emotions out of it completely, but that looks to be a no-go from where I'm standing. At least without that one or two weeks off to re-frame your relationship it does.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #42

On a side note, my brother was living with his girlfriend for years - I want to say about 7, maybe more. She's a total bitch; the worst kind of American trailer trash. Treated everyone in the family like shit as if they had something to prove to her, insulted my other brother and I on multiple occaissions, and always barked at my bro over the most random shit. And on top of this, he was paying all the bills AND she wouldn't even cook or clean.

And ugly too! WTF!

As you can see she was a real winner, and my brother was miserable for years - even tried to break up with this woman MULTIPLE times, and every time she threw a coniption fit and begged him to stay. On and on about how she loved him and was going to become a better woman, more kind-hearted, less bitchy, and pull her weight, etc. He's a pretty sensitive guy and pretty blue pill (though quite the player when he's single), so he fell for it every time.

Recently, though, he came across a letter she'd written to her ex-boyfriend, bitching about my bro and how much of a loser he was and saying she didn't know why she was with him.

This bitch has been living off him for years. Imagine that - sticking around for some whore to save her emotions and she's communicating with exes and talking shit behind his back...

Anyways, when he found the letter, he threw her out - huge weight lifted off his shoulder. Now she's moaning and groaning on Facebook about single woman power and the messed up shit men do.

I haven't talked to him in a bit, but I hear he's fucking some bartender now.

Gotta love happy endings...

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #43

This girl seems okay. If she's really not responding to these guys, then I don't see what the deal is. Guys are gonna thirst.

Post: #44

This is what I would do.
eg)
you started arguing with your buddy in his car. would you just say 'fuck this, drop me off' out of nowhere?
I would waist at least till I see a bus stop so I can 'transfer'

So in that case, I would just keep her as a company till the next girl comes around. you know girls do this all the time.

Post: #45

I let her spend the night again and we had sex and then cuddled afterwards. I wake up early in the morning and we end up having morning sex before I kick her out so I can go to work. She kept hugging me up at my condo and I was like "What are you trying to see how long you can hold me here before I physically kick you out so I can go to work?".

Then we head down the elevator and before it gets to the bottom she starts staring at me and then she says "I love you"

I think she had said it once before to me but it was easily ignored. This time it was very obvious so I had to respond.

I said "I dont believe you" I then gave her a kiss and went down to my parking garage floor.

How can you receive text messages from your ex and then less than 2 weeks later tell me you love me? haha

Post: #46

(06-09-2013 02:46 AM)murrb Wrote:  First off I still use a flip phone so I was super weary about using her iphone because I might click something that is irreversible. I'm actually nervous as fuck but I did it anyway.

Anyway I can see she has been sent a handful of texts from guys who are probably trying to get in her pants. She has ignored all of them as far as I can see.

I started to check her facebook but after I had click on a message the little bubble of that persons face wouldn't go away but I eventually figured it out and I hope I did it right.

What happened to the is this alpha threads? Because this definitely isn't.

That girl is walking all over you and she doesn't even know it.

Post: #47

you know she already fucked him right. after you kicked her out guess whos cock she ran to...
or maybe it was another guy. these girls have multiple backups in this day and age. not trying to get you down but thats how these girls operate. trust your gut

Post: #48

Monkeys never let go of a branch before getting ahold of a new branch.

Post: #49

A lot of the advice you have been given is B.S, most guys in your position would not kick her to the curb so easily.

The only problem I have is checking her phone and Facebook, why do you need to do that? This shows me that you are not over her and the girl has a hold on you.

I would try and find another girl to deal with on the side. If your girl is good looking chances are dudes are going to be hitting her up, especially ex boyfriends.

Your in Croatia right?

Post: #50

My girls x always hits her up. I know she's addicted to me and looks at him like a lame so I don't give a fuck and don't let it bother me.

I also do a lot of dirt myself so I can't get mad at her for innocent shit. At the end of the day she knows she can leave me whenever she wants but she stays loyal.

Put a dog on the leash and it will run away when you let go. Never give the dog a leash and will always stay by your side.