Post: #1

Although i have a girlfriend, i really enjoy practicing a cold open with women during the day. Day game is significantly easier for me than night game.

However, when i talk to certain girls out in public during the day, they sound nervous when they reply to me.

I am having problems figuring out if this is a good or bad sign. Are they nervous because a really attractive guy is talking to them or are they nervous because some guy they've never met before could hurt her? Note i'm normally going to and from work in standard business casual clothes. Here's an example of what i'm talking about:

On bus, girl sits down and has an open seat next to her. The seat has someone left over pistachio nuts. I look at her and the seat and go, "I paid to clean this bus." and proceed to push the trash onto the floor to sit next to her.

Lame opener, but who cares. We talk for a little bit and I'm getting weak hooks in the conversation and what seems like nervousness.

Personally, i think i'm registering it as "Not interested" but i've heard that girls aren't nearly as forthcoming with their interest. Should i continue forward with the flirting and convo or just let it die?

Post: #2

Hey this is a good topic.. I got some advice for you on this one. Don't let their nervousness deter you from your goal which is to talk to her, and get her number. A lot of girls are nervous because they aren't used to guys talking to them like this in a public situation. Most girls are used to guys they don't know hitting on them in clubs, but day game is the best and trust me she will remember you long after your encounter is over. And also as a man, take control of the situation. She's just a girl, remember you are the big strong man. Men run the world, women are just pretty little things that dress up for us to make us happy. Remember your always in control of what's happening. Women just wander around until something good happens or some cool guy comes up to them and changes their boring life.

Don't worry about the nervousness and keep going...

Post: #3

(05-21-2013 08:42 AM)frenchie Wrote:  Are they nervous because a really attractive guy is talking to them or are they nervous because some guy they've never met before could hurt her?

A little of both. They are unsure.

Nervous is normal.

(05-21-2013 08:42 AM)frenchie Wrote:  Should i continue forward with the flirting and convo or just let it die?

Continue to chat and flirt.

Put her at ase. Make her less nervous.

Post: #4

as for girls reactions.. always expect combination of skepticism sarcasm nervousness excitement etc. just confusion. usually that's not your bad game. that's just how girls usually react. it's automatic reaction to unfamiliar situation even when their emotions tells them you're interesting and attractive. don't fight it. diffuse it. empathize with the person in front of you first and focus on the game second...

- is everything ok? if i'm too straightforward just let me know to slow down
- i didn't mean to scare you it's just the way i was raised
- i know i may be awkward let's just both breathe for a moment
- are you ok? hey i come in peace, it's fine, i just wanted to have a quick chat with you if you don't mind
- are you not in a mood or am i too intense?

if after 1-3 minutes she's still stiff/closed then maybe it's time to excuse yourself. if it's ok then start flirting

Post: #5

assume the sale.

Post: #6

Put away your knife.

Just kidding.

People, in general, don't like strangers talking to them for whatever reason. They assume the worst. Give them the best.

Post: #7

i live in a 2nd tier city and spain and sometimes yeah, girls get nervous when i talk to them on the street. i think it's not a bad sign in the sense that i'm not doing anything wrong (that sign would be avoidance). but i wonder, have any of you gotten a girl who was initially nervous and gotten her to have sex? seems like a long and unlikely process.

Post: #8

(05-23-2013 04:56 PM)rivelino Wrote:  i live in a 2nd tier city and spain and sometimes yeah, girls get nervous when i talk to them on the street. i think it's not a bad sign in the sense that i'm not doing anything wrong (that sign would be avoidance). but i wonder, have any of you gotten a girl who was initially nervous and gotten her to have sex? seems like a long and unlikely process.

Yes with two examples.

Example 1:
Nervous girl, social circle game (I assume this is common in Spain) and I never put the moves on her, just made myself available. After 2 months, we fucked and it was spectacular. Key lesson: The more she trusts you the better show she will put on for you in bed.

Example 2:
Nervous girl, aware of my reputation... SNL, was shitty in bed as I didn't qualify her enough physically. She ended up sucking in bed. Of course it is hit and miss, but she has to feel like she deserves the D.

Apart from time creating this 'deserving' feeling, you have to be congruent and keep your boss-mode from the start.

IMO, I don't waste time on nervous girls unless their looks are worth it, too time consuming unless I genuinely enjoy her company.
Another thing: If she is good in bed, she sure as hell won't be nervous when you meet her. Girls who are confident are the best lays.

Post: #9

Who cares if they're nervous?

You aren't doing anything wrong by having a friendly conversation. Keep the conversation going until her nervousness fades
away and she can see you're a normal interesting guy.

If she continues to act nervous then the interaction probably has less of a chance of going anywhere, but I'm a strong believer in holding an approach until you know with 100% certainty that she has zero interest in talking to you.

A lot of times if you keep at it, she can warm up to you and eventually it'll go somewhere.

Post: #10

You can always point out the awkwardness of what you are doing then tailor your conversation according to her reply.

Post: #11

(05-28-2013 08:35 AM)bojangles Wrote:  You can always point out her nervousness then tailor your conversation according to her reply.

Fixed.

Post: #12

(05-28-2013 07:16 PM)Gmac Wrote:  

(05-28-2013 08:35 AM)bojangles Wrote:  You can always point out her nervousness then tailor your conversation according to her reply.

Fixed.

yeah that's what I meant, cheers lad