Post: #26

OP, any practical suggestions on how to find girls who crave this dynamic (or rather, making it easy for them to find you) on craigslist, POF, etc, such as catch-phrases to use, descriptive language, openers, etc..?

Thank you!

Post: #27

As an experiment, I messaged a bunch of girls on POF with the opener, "you can call me daddy".

None of the young, desirable girls responded with anything serious.

So far, I got a # from a chubby 32 yr old 6 (with what seems to be an inflated sense of self).

Exchange as follows:

Me: you can call me daddy

Her: Oh Yeah? I can huh? Y am I so special?

to be determined

I mean, I already no I'm pretty special, I guess we're just waiting for u to catch up....

so u do need a spanking

Currently? No. Occasionally? Yes.

123 234 1234 [gave my #]

999 333 4444 I can do that too

Post: #28

(05-17-2013 12:58 AM)la passione Wrote:  As an experiment, I messaged a bunch of girls on POF with the opener, "you can call me daddy".

None of the young, desirable girls responded with anything serious.

So far, I got a # from a chubby 32 yr old 6 (with what seems to be an inflated sense of self).

Exchange as follows:

Me: you can call me daddy

Her: Oh Yeah? I can huh? Y am I so special?

to be determined

I mean, I already no I'm pretty special, I guess we're just waiting for u to catch up....

so u do need a spanking

Currently? No. Occasionally? Yes.

123 234 1234 [gave my #]

999 333 4444 I can do that too

Why do you post in the gayest possible colors on male player forum?

Post: #29

la passione: I'd make it more exclusive: "If you play your cards right, I will let you call me Daddy"

something more like a carrot on a stick, and not something thrown like it has no worth. Being Daddy's little girl must be earned, and it means something. It requires something.

Also, how to find girls who crave this dynamic: All of them.

Seriously, all of them.

Post: #30

(05-17-2013 11:08 AM)King Solomon Wrote:  la passione: I'd make it more exclusive: "If you play your cards right, I will let you call me Daddy"

something more like a carrot on a stick, and not something thrown like it has no worth. Being Daddy's little girl must be earned, and it means something. It requires something.

I'll keep this in mind, thanks.

Quote:Also, how to find girls who crave this dynamic: All of them.

Seriously, all of them.

I suspected this was the answer. Well, assuming that's true, what would you say sets most girls apart from so called "naturals" i.e., the handful I've been with who were the first to put it out there ("is it ok if I call you daddy" during the throes of passion) and who got off from the model in a massive, MASSIVE way and wanted to make it an ongoing thing from the get-go. I'm thinking there must be varying levels of self-awareness concerning this on the girl's part (?)

Post: #31

hang-ups due to programming.

For all the promiscuity going on in America, we are still sexually repressive in different ways.

Some girls don't have the hangup and understand that its hot and erotic and just go for it. Some girls, however, have not been exposed to even basic kink, and are not comfortable with it. Their schoolgirl friends programmed her to think certain stuff is uncool, or they were such haters that they criticized everything and made the girl unwilling to go down certain roads to avoid being ostracized by the herd.

50 Shades of Grey and stuff like it is helping banish some of this, as some of the repression is lifted and more 'deviancy' becomes mainstream. (Its not deviant, it was just made taboo by the Christian right etc)

You can experiment and screen for the naturals by using certain terminology in your conversation and see if she picks up on it. If she does, you're good. If not, you can either play it off entirely, or just know that you'll have to introduce the concept tactfully. Many of them are naturals but don't know it yet- if you lead them into that role they will not resist and will relish it. I always encourage them to "let themselves go" which is a blanket statement for "abandon all your hangups and get DOWN any way you like"

If you can demonstrate that they are safe in this setting, they'll be willing to explore all kinds of shit

Post: #32

Wow thanks for this post.

I've noticed a change in my game which strangely correlated to my own relationship with my mother.

I used to see her as a perfect being. Obviously a farce, but her word was god. When i would hit on women, the style and ability i was flirting with them is way different than what i do now.

During the summer of 2009, i began to see her differently. I'm not sure why, but she just became human and pretty much similar to every other girl.

The following 3 years i proceeded to do a ton of business. Some sort of weird flux between maternal love of a woman and paternal.

Nowadays, i parent and boss women around with a little bit of charm thrown in. But i really just parent women far more instead of the opposite.

A lot of the feelings of crushing i get now are definitely paternal in nature. I thought it was weird and i cursed Freud for once again being right. At least i'm not the only one who had something similar happen.

Post: #33

In the West this is just another social construct - this separation of paternal love and sex. In the East sex/love is intimately entwined with paternal love. As a Chinese girl once told me: in China, a daughter is called the father's lover. Chinese girls will often use the term big brother as a form of endearment. To provide sex within the construct of paternal love and security is what every woman wants deep down inside.

As always xsplat you are operating on a deeper level...