Post: #1

I'm young and just joined the corporate workforce.

When I did so, my attitude was "unacceptable" for an office. Basically I was too cocky and confident and joking. In an office it made people uncomfortable.

In order to keep things chill in the office, I have calmed down, but I feel like it's honestly affected me all over. I feel like in my game, I've also toned down. You can't "fake" doing something most of the day 5/7 days a week and not have it begin to affect you. I have started internalizing the quiet politeness needed in an office.

How do you guys who need to keep it reigned in at work just switch back to outgoing, gregarious, cocky, teasing, etc. when you're gaming and then work regular jobs which require you to suppress that stuff?

Post: #2

Who told you it was "unacceptable"?

Post: #3

Strange. Share some examples of what rankled them.

Post: #4

Maybe you are talking about talking like a homie, hustler, drug dealer? acting too friendly, using slangs, having certain accents? this has nothing to do with being confident.
I really don't know how you talk but I don't like being around those people talking like what I said above.

Do you like an office job? well then you have to follow their guidelines or do you want to work at construction site where you can talk about how you fucked this girl last night and guys will love to hear?

Post: #5

One person's "cocky and confident and joking. " is another's rude and presumptuously personal.
You might not be reading your environment well, or you may have contempt for "PC" Manhattan.

Manhattan votes 90% Democratic. There's a little more to it than being "PC". Not saying this is you, but they're some of the smartest, highest income people the world and don't like someone who they consider a rube making fun of them.

Post: #6

This has nothing to do with political correctness or political ideology. There's a certain culture in offices depending on the industry. I'm sure it's the same in any city at the office. Most of us understand there's a certain way to behave at work, just like there's a particular way to dress. You're not in a frat house, or a bar with your boys, or even at home. If the environment at the office is affecting you this negatively, you should rethink what you're doing for a living.

Post: #7

(05-11-2013 11:13 PM)Timoteo Wrote:  This has nothing to do with political correctness or political ideology. There's a certain culture in offices depending on the industry. I'm sure it's the same in any city at the office. Most of us understand there's a certain way to behave at work, just like there's a particular way to dress. You're not in a frat house, or a bar with your boys, or even at home. If the environment at the office is affecting you this negatively, you should rethink what you're doing for a living.

I think this touches on it the most accurately.

Do you work in an office? Do you find it easy and unproblematic to wear one persona 40+ hours a week and then switch when meeting chicks? Maybe i am still new to it and will adjust, but it seems awful.

You are right about reconsidering my professional path.

Post: #8

I can relate to this. If you act too confident in an office setting it will turn people off and have a negative impact on your career.

Post: #9

It's about tailoring your persona to the audience. The way you speak and act around your friends is going to be different than the way you interact with your boss, family, clients, etc. At your core, you're still who you are, but you make adjustments.