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Setting up the First Date
Hey guys.. long time reader, first time poster. Been following this site for a while, way back when MiXX used to post here. Anyway..

Currently I only have two girls on rotation, both of which I like and see them about once a week.

The problem I'm having is when I'm meeting new girls, my week is usually already booked up with the two girls i'm currently seeing and other personal stuff. I end up scheduling the 'first date' for the next week and by the time the following week comes around I feel like the attraction is lost which usually results in flakes. I'm not sure whether to schedule a meet-up the same week I met these new girls or to somehow maintain attraction over the phone/text for a week.

Is a week time gap too long?

Appreciate the insight.
05-02-2013 02:30 PM
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RE: Setting up the First Date
(05-02-2013 02:30 PM)3Hundred Wrote:  Hey guys.. long time reader, first time poster. Been following this site for a while, way back when MiXX used to post here. Anyway..

Currently I only have two girls on rotation, both of which I like and see them about once a week.

The problem I'm having is when I'm meeting new girls, my week is usually already booked up with the two girls i'm currently seeing and other personal stuff. I end up scheduling the 'first date' for the next week and by the time the following week comes around I feel like the attraction is lost which usually results in flakes. I'm not sure whether to schedule a meet-up the same week I met these new girls or to somehow maintain attraction over the phone/text for a week.

Is a week time gap too long?

Appreciate the insight.

Kudos on having 2 chicks and still being hungry for more © A. Bourdain.

A week is too long in general, and given the options that a young hot girl typically has, RVF recommends that you go for the lay the very night you meet them.

As for your 2 main chicks, schedule them for particular days, Wed and Saturday, and then do your hunting and side piece dating on the remaining days.

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05-02-2013 06:01 PM
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RE: Setting up the First Date
Yeah definitely trying to work on the SNL aspect.

But for instances where it's just not possible, and/or day game. What is most ideal for setting up a date.. sometimes when I meet new girls, most of my current week is already mapped out with the two girls i'm currently seeing, and other basic stuff. Should i push for a date within 1-3 days?

Like i said i've been scheduling them in for the next coming week and usually will get responses like - "Yeah, Sure!" or "Okay Great Smile". but by the time next week comes around, it's a whole different story. Not every girl backs out but some do.
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RE: Setting up the First Date
(05-02-2013 07:06 PM)3Hundred Wrote:  Like i said i've been scheduling them in for the next coming week and usually will get responses like - "Yeah, Sure!" or "Okay Great Smile". but by the time next week comes around, it's a whole different story. Not every girl backs out but some do.

Well that's your answer right there.

Girls are all about their moods and feelings and have the attention span of hamsters

Meet them as quickly as possible even if the logistics aren't great for a SNL

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(05-02-2013 07:06 PM)3Hundred Wrote:  Yeah definitely trying to work on the SNL aspect.

But for instances where it's just not possible, and/or day game. What is most ideal for setting up a date.. sometimes when I meet new girls, most of my current week is already mapped out. Should i push for a date within 1-3 days?

Like i said i've been scheduling them in for the next coming week and usually will get responses like - "Yeah, Sure!" or "Okay Great Smile". but by the time next week comes around, it's a whole different story. Not every girl backs out but some do.

I don't know your schedule, but here's how I would run it

Main chicks - always get Friday/Saturday.

Hunting for and dating new chicks - get the rest of the week.

meet a chick on Sunday/Monday - date on Wednesday or thursday
Meet a chick on Wed.Thursday - date on sunday and monday

The real problem here is that you haven't decided what's more a priority in your life - maintaining a harem or fucking new chicks.

You can't have it all.

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05-02-2013 07:20 PM
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RE: Setting up the First Date
Treat every interaction as a date. I'm a big fan of the insta-date.

Keep it short and fun and follow up with, "Listen I gotta go. Let's
get together for a drink sometime".

If your schedule is full (it sounds like it is) push for drinks that same night.
Fuck it. You've got nothing to lose and women reward boldness.
Trust me on that one.

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RE: Setting up the First Date
(05-02-2013 07:11 PM)MrXY Wrote:  Well that's your answer right there.

Girls are all about their moods and feelings and have the attention span of hamsters

Meet them as quickly as possible even if the logistics aren't great for a SNL

Yea and that's exactly how I feel.. even though they are agreeing to the future meet, it just doesn't feel as solid. well put

(05-02-2013 07:20 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  I don't know your schedule, but here's how I would run it

Main chicks - always get Friday/Saturday.

Hunting for and dating new chicks - get the rest of the week.

meet a chick on Sunday/Monday - date on Wednesday or thursday
Meet a chick on Wed.Thursday - date on sunday and monday

The real problem here is that you haven't decided what's more a priority in your life - maintaining a harem or fucking new chicks.

You can't have it all.

WIA

This is typically what I usually try and accomplish, although one of the main girls is only free from monday-wednesday.

I'm not sure whether I want a harem as you say or just simply fucking new chicks. One night stands are great, but I like the feeling you get when a girl (especially a new one) starts pursuing you rather than me chasing her.
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RE: Setting up the First Date
(05-02-2013 08:54 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  Treat every interaction as a date. I'm a big fan of the insta-date.

Keep it short and fun and follow up with, "Listen I gotta go. Let's
get together for a drink sometime".

If your schedule is full (it sounds like it is) push for drinks that same night.
Fuck it. You've got nothing to lose and women reward boldness.
Trust me on that one.

Parlay your response really speaks to me. In my head I think one of the reasons i've been scheduling dates a week down the road is because I don't want to appear as being desperate or overly excited. A reoccurring theme I started to notice is my impatience. Sometimes my nerves/emotions get the best of me when I'm talking to a new girl that I've picked up the night prior. To combat this I developed the habit where I schedule dates the next week.. which seems to have backfired lately.
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