Post: #101

@MichaelCorleone thanks for your reply. A few more questions if you don't mind:
1. Since you say she was religious I assume she went to church regularly?
2. Was she eastern orthodox or roman catholic or of another religion entirely?
3. Did she deem certain sexual acts impermissible due to her religion?
4. Do you think that her religious upbringing was a major factor into her being a good wife and trying to make it work?
5. Did you share her religious views?
6. If not did she also ask you to convert to her religion or partake in the activities of her religion?
7. In the case that you did not share her religious views, was this a point of conflict within the marriage?

Thanks for your answers.

Post: #102

OP thanks for sharing your raw story with honesty, really feeling for you mate.

I want to remind you that you had a really successful marriage for a significant period of your life, and thats an achievement to be proud of, and happy about.

Also, I know it doesn't seem like it now, but take it from a man who was married for 15 years, despite a nasty heartbreaking divorce, life gets back to being awesome in a few years.

Very awesome.

So don't beat yourself up, think of the good things you have enjoyed, and will in the future.

Best of luck and kind regards mate.

Post: #103

(04-06-2013 01:57 PM)Veloce Wrote:  It's understandable but I think the RVF should implement a rule that anyone waxing ecstatic about how hot a particular girl is needs to provide pics as a reference point. Face blurred or blacked out, whatever you gotta do.

That doesn't necessarily solve the problem.

Post: #104

(06-01-2017 04:14 AM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  OP thanks for sharing your raw story with honesty, really feeling for you mate.

I want to remind you that you had a really successful marriage for a significant period of your life, and thats an achievement to be proud of, and happy about.

Also, I know it doesn't seem like it now, but take it from a man who was married for 15 years, despite a nasty heartbreaking divorce, life gets back to being awesome in a few years.

Very awesome.

So don't beat yourself up, think of the good things you have enjoyed, and will in the future.

Best of luck and kind regards mate.

I think his wife had a successful marriage, look at her trajectory versus his trajectory. She started with nothing and went up in value, sure she's older but higher in value nonetheless. How many women do you know that are making 6 figures? How many of them are you fucking? It looks like he just stayed the same so the question becomes what value did he get from her because she sure as hell got a lot of value from him. Pussy isn't value. I'll repeat that. Pussy isn't value.

I don't know the OP but it seems like in those years he didn't advance as a human being though having financial wealth and a good part of that has to do who he partnered with and why. He invested in her and less so in himself and notice how in the end he thinks it's his fault that it ended. All of this talk of her trying to make it work, how much of that effort was expended in her just accepting him for who he is and what he's done? Or maybe that's what she finally did and decided that there just wasn't a match. Why didn't he come to that conclusion? Why with all of the financial trappings was he unable to be that man who women want to be with and around?

Post: #105

Great story and thanks to the OP from sharing.

From what I see, he did very well.
It sounds like he found one of the "good" ones and married her. If she didn't like him she would of ran of a long time ago.

Most normal marriages aren't even lasting that long. I hear more stories about awful divorces than I do about nice marriages.

He is still young and can go back to the well, find another Slavic beauty and do the process all over again.

Don't understand why he is getting such hate.

Post: #106

(06-01-2017 08:08 AM)BassPlayaYo Wrote:  

(06-01-2017 04:14 AM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  OP thanks for sharing your raw story with honesty, really feeling for you mate.

I want to remind you that you had a really successful marriage for a significant period of your life, and thats an achievement to be proud of, and happy about.

Also, I know it doesn't seem like it now, but take it from a man who was married for 15 years, despite a nasty heartbreaking divorce, life gets back to being awesome in a few years.

Very awesome.

So don't beat yourself up, think of the good things you have enjoyed, and will in the future.

Best of luck and kind regards mate.

I think his wife had a successful marriage, look at her trajectory versus his trajectory. She started with nothing and went up in value, sure she's older but higher in value nonetheless. How many women do you know that are making 6 figures? How many of them are you fucking? It looks like he just stayed the same so the question becomes what value did he get from her because she sure as hell got a lot of value from him. Pussy isn't value. I'll repeat that. Pussy isn't value.

I don't know the OP but it seems like in those years he didn't advance as a human being though having financial wealth and a good part of that has to do who he partnered with and why. He invested in her and less so in himself and notice how in the end he thinks it's his fault that it ended. All of this talk of her trying to make it work, how much of that effort was expended in her just accepting him for who he is and what he's done? Or maybe that's what she finally did and decided that there just wasn't a match. Why didn't he come to that conclusion? Why with all of the financial trappings was he unable to be that man who women want to be with and around?

Can you please explain why pussy isn't value?

Post: #107

(06-01-2017 09:51 AM)Il Bersagliere Wrote:  Can you please explain why pussy isn't value?

Because healthy women are just as horny and love to fuck men they want to fuck.

The myth that men want women's bodies and that it doesn't go both ways is a kind of informal cartel behavior. A woman can be the most cock-hungry hedonist imaginable and still convince a man that he needs to make her car payment to get her to put out. We are socialized to this pattern. This is false, but it relies on Dread Game.

The reality is that if she actually wants you, you should be able to use Dread Game, too. If she wants you, she knows other women want you.

If she wants to trade sex for resources and isn't happy trading sex for sex, she's eventually going to bang somebody who she really wants to bang.

Post: #108

(06-01-2017 09:51 AM)Il Bersagliere Wrote:  Can you please explain why pussy isn't value?

Meaning it has the same value as your dick and so it's a wash when you're sizing a woman up to determine what value she has. That's how I see things. In my opinion if you're thinking any other way you are operating at a disadvantage because it will cause you to devalue yourself in your quest to get it. Women love to fuck, they give pussy away freely except when they think you think it's worth more than your dick. Thirst creates the "illusion" that pussy has value.

Post: #109

(06-01-2017 11:01 AM)BassPlayaYo Wrote:  Women love to fuck, they give pussy away freely except when they think you think it's worth more than your dick. Thirst creates the "illusion" that pussy has value.

This is much like OP's belief that his wife "sacrificed" her youth to him. He had adopted the pervasive message that she was doing him a favor by being with him and that he should feel lucky to have her at any price.

She got everything for the low, low price of a decade of boning. Poor thing.

Post: #110

(06-01-2017 11:09 AM)Jetset Wrote:  

(06-01-2017 11:01 AM)BassPlayaYo Wrote:  Women love to fuck, they give pussy away freely except when they think you think it's worth more than your dick. Thirst creates the "illusion" that pussy has value.

This is much like OP's belief that his wife "sacrificed" her youth to him. He had adopted the pervasive message that she was doing him a favor by being with him and that he should feel lucky to have her at any price.

She got everything for the low, low price of a decade of boning. Poor thing.

And guys think he got a great deal. Digest that for a moment.

Post: #111

(06-01-2017 03:00 AM)eddie_7 Wrote:  @MichaelCorleone thanks for your reply. A few more questions if you don't mind:
1. Since you say she was religious I assume she went to church regularly?
2. Was she eastern orthodox or roman catholic or of another religion entirely?
3. Did she deem certain sexual acts impermissible due to her religion?
4. Do you think that her religious upbringing was a major factor into her being a good wife and trying to make it work?
5. Did you share her religious views?
6. If not did she also ask you to convert to her religion or partake in the activities of her religion?
7. In the case that you did not share her religious views, was this a point of conflict within the marriage?

Thanks for your answers.

He hasn't (won't?) answer this and I like where you are going, because even though guys may talk about this topic on the forum, if he doesn't buy into that tradition or mindset, he's not leading and cultivating that for her and their future.

As others have said, I don't think therefore the guy really wanted to get married. Eddie and I admittedly are coming from a different, but very important angle here, though.

Post: #112

BassPlaya and Jetset are bringing up an issue that has become a modern day paradox or possibly better stated "dilemma" which I've asked before but few run with. Namely, "Excuse me Miss, what exactly aren't you getting out of this? It sounds like an all-win or no lose situation for you." With the advent of birth control (save for risks of disease and otherwise that also both males and females are subject to), what "risk" does a woman have? That's what all the payment or resource backing was for in the past --- the risk of getting pregnant when a guy wanted to get laid. I know the current situation (women anyway, lol) isn't logical, but they act like it's not a win all the way around = they get validation, attention, maybe get off, resources, you name it ... the dude only gets 1 of those, and loses on all other accounts. And they still complain. There you go boys, another thousand reasons not to take bitches seriously. If she doesn't bring something more than pussy, well yeah, you know the answer.

Post: #113

(06-01-2017 03:00 AM)eddie_7 Wrote:  @MichaelCorleone thanks for your reply. A few more questions if you don't mind:
1. Since you say she was religious I assume she went to church regularly?
2. Was she eastern orthodox or roman catholic or of another religion entirely?
3. Did she deem certain sexual acts impermissible due to her religion?
4. Do you think that her religious upbringing was a major factor into her being a good wife and trying to make it work?
5. Did you share her religious views?
6. If not did she also ask you to convert to her religion or partake in the activities of her religion?
7. In the case that you did not share her religious views, was this a point of conflict within the marriage?

Thanks for your answers.

She used to read the Bible every night before she went to sleep when I met her, I am agnostic borderline atheist after being raised Catholic. After she met me and started being my girlfriend, I slowly weaned her off of the religious stuff, and after about 6 months she had broken from it, but when you are raised in a strict religious household and you are a country girl I guess you value marriage more, maybe that's why she tried for so many years, thing is her trying for so many years just discouraged me to change, because it just served to reinforce the notion in my mind that there was no way she would leave bc if she was she would have done it by now, I didn't grasp for some reason eventually people give up. We went to church one time in the 14 years I knew her. She was a fringe Christian religion that was almost baptist like, I don't want to name it here. She was really into sex and religion never impacted that even before I weaned her from it. In time she became agnostic/atheist like me seeing religion for what it is. Sorry, I didn't answer earlier, but I didn't want to keep the thread going, but since it got bumped specifically for your question, I thought I would address it.

Thanks again everyone for the responses...Cheers and I wish everyone the best. i hope the thread from the beginning many years ago until today was informative and useful.

I also want to especially thank some of the posters specifically the ones that were encouraging and empathetic to my current situation, because you guys know how truly gut wrenching it can be to go through an ordeal of this type, it is truly life changing, and many of your posts I read over and over again.......and to the guys who weren't as empathetic, because most likely they have never experienced divorce, I truly hope you never have to endure it.

Post: #114

MichaelCorleone


First of all... this is an "in your face" fucking reality check to every reader here.

It took balls to open up the way you did, and then to take follow up questions.
Many RVF guys are younger, and have not experienced as much of Life's Road
as the OP.

Be thankful guys... This is a window to the future, you may not expect, or envision.

I am with Rudebwoy... Don't hate on MC. He is only sharing real talk.


Feel for ya MC.. 1,000% true what you write. Lived it also.

Sometimes, we are our own worst enemy.

Props.
Support.
Respect.

The Breeze

Post: #115

(06-02-2017 11:03 AM)Kid Twist Wrote:  BassPlaya and Jetset are bringing up an issue that has become a modern day paradox or possibly better stated "dilemma" which I've asked before but few run with. Namely, "Excuse me Miss, what exactly aren't you getting out of this? It sounds like an all-win or no lose situation for you." With the advent of birth control (save for risks of disease and otherwise that also both males and females are subject to), what "risk" does a woman have? That's what all the payment or resource backing was for in the past --- the risk of getting pregnant when a guy wanted to get laid. I know the current situation (women anyway, lol) isn't logical, but they act like it's not a win all the way around = they get validation, attention, maybe get off, resources, you name it ... the dude only gets 1 of those, and loses on all other accounts. And they still complain. There you go boys, another thousand reasons not to take bitches seriously. If she doesn't bring something more than pussy, well yeah, you know the answer.

To me if a woman doesn't have value beyond her body and you're willing to take that in exchange for half of what you own materially and the value you have acquired as an individual you are no different from someone that pays for pussy. That's right, you're a "trick". You can't be awake thinking like this, you can't be "red pill" thinking like this.

Post: #116

(06-02-2017 11:06 AM)MichaelCorleone Wrote:  

(06-01-2017 03:00 AM)eddie_7 Wrote:  @MichaelCorleone thanks for your reply. A few more questions if you don't mind:
1. Since you say she was religious I assume she went to church regularly?
2. Was she eastern orthodox or roman catholic or of another religion entirely?
3. Did she deem certain sexual acts impermissible due to her religion?
4. Do you think that her religious upbringing was a major factor into her being a good wife and trying to make it work?
5. Did you share her religious views?
6. If not did she also ask you to convert to her religion or partake in the activities of her religion?
7. In the case that you did not share her religious views, was this a point of conflict within the marriage?

Thanks for your answers.

.

I also want to especially thank some of the posters specifically the ones that were encouraging and empathetic to my current situation, because you guys know how truly gut wrenching it can be to go through an ordeal of this type, it is truly life changing, and many of your posts I read over and over again.......and to the guys who weren't as empathetic, because most likely they have never experienced divorce, I truly hope you never have to endure it.

Michael, thank you for the thread, and wishing you many more EE muff))

Post: #117

I think he had no choice but to support her. What do you expect when you basically 'adopt' a young girl? and Why would she be with him if she has to work full time and she can just hang with other young guys like her?

Losing half of the assets at the end is different though.

(06-01-2017 11:09 AM)Jetset Wrote:  

(06-01-2017 11:01 AM)BassPlayaYo Wrote:  Women love to fuck, they give pussy away freely except when they think you think it's worth more than your dick. Thirst creates the "illusion" that pussy has value.

This is much like OP's belief that his wife "sacrificed" her youth to him. He had adopted the pervasive message that she was doing him a favor by being with him and that he should feel lucky to have her at any price.

She got everything for the low, low price of a decade of boning. Poor thing.

Post: #118

Thanks to the OP for sharing.

You say you are atheist/agnostic. I don't understand why you got married in the first place?

I don't see the point of marriage without kids

Post: #119

(06-02-2017 11:06 AM)MichaelCorleone Wrote:  

(06-01-2017 03:00 AM)eddie_7 Wrote:  @MichaelCorleone thanks for your reply. A few more questions if you don't mind:
1. Since you say she was religious I assume she went to church regularly?
2. Was she eastern orthodox or roman catholic or of another religion entirely?
3. Did she deem certain sexual acts impermissible due to her religion?
4. Do you think that her religious upbringing was a major factor into her being a good wife and trying to make it work?
5. Did you share her religious views?
6. If not did she also ask you to convert to her religion or partake in the activities of her religion?
7. In the case that you did not share her religious views, was this a point of conflict within the marriage?

Thanks for your answers.

She used to read the Bible every night before she went to sleep when I met her, I am agnostic borderline atheist after being raised Catholic. After she met me and started being my girlfriend, I slowly weaned her off of the religious stuff, and after about 6 months she had broken from it, but when you are raised in a strict religious household and you are a country girl I guess you value marriage more, maybe that's why she tried for so many years, thing is her trying for so many years just discouraged me to change, because it just served to reinforce the notion in my mind that there was no way she would leave bc if she was she would have done it by now, I didn't grasp for some reason eventually people give up. We went to church one time in the 14 years I knew her. She was a fringe Christian religion that was almost baptist like, I don't want to name it here. She was really into sex and religion never impacted that even before I weaned her from it. In time she became agnostic/atheist like me seeing religion for what it is. Sorry, I didn't answer earlier, but I didn't want to keep the thread going, but since it got bumped specifically for your question, I thought I would address it.

Thanks again everyone for the responses...Cheers and I wish everyone the best. i hope the thread from the beginning many years ago until today was informative and useful.

I also want to especially thank some of the posters specifically the ones that were encouraging and empathetic to my current situation, because you guys know how truly gut wrenching it can be to go through an ordeal of this type, it is truly life changing, and many of your posts I read over and over again.......and to the guys who weren't as empathetic, because most likely they have never experienced divorce, I truly hope you never have to endure it.

MC,

Thanks for sharing your experience with the forum. Ignore the haters. These are valuable lessons guys can use.

We all have bumps in life, but we need to keep marching forward. I hope you can get back into the game and enjoy life.

Post: #120

What is the best way to bring her over, immigration-wise? Also, is it true that one can only get 2 fiancee visas/life? Is the waiver reasonably granted after that number? Are there any other ways to bring chicks over?

I'm also experimenting with tourist visas, but those aren't given out to third world chicks easily. Anyone know these thngs? I may post a thread.

(04-06-2013 02:59 PM)MichaelCorleone Wrote:  

(04-06-2013 01:57 PM)thedude3737 Wrote:  

(04-06-2013 12:33 PM)MichaelCorleone Wrote:  [quote='thedude3737' pid='413585' dateline='1365268851']

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Dude I am not posting pics of my wife, 5'10" green eyes and dark brown hair, weighs about 125-130 I would guess.

The other thing of interest she said that taught me something when we were dating, bc everyone in Latvia has grey or blue eyes and some green she thought brown eyes were the most beautiful by far. It taught me that beauty is rarity even regarding eye color.

It's understandable but I think the RVF should implement a rule that anyone waxing ecstatic about how hot a particular girl is needs to provide pics as a reference point. Face blurred or blacked out, whatever you gotta do.

Sorry man , u r just going to take or not take my word for it. What reason do I have to lie? I am not an attention whore and have never posted here before. I just wanted to tell my story, what I have learned from it, say how all her hot friends married guys w no game and recommend NEVER ever to marry an American girl, plus also shed a bit of light on the USCIS process. It is amazing how so many people w certain dreams settle in life and I wanted to let u guys know that if I could pull off what I did then a lot of u guys could too. Plus answer any questions u guys have.

Post: #121

(06-03-2017 02:31 AM)zanetti Wrote:  You say you are atheist/agnostic. I don't understand why you got married in the first place?

Saying others are "hating" who are pointing out obvious truths as the above is abdicating responsibility.

We all need to take a few steps back and review what we are doing here. First, the whole point of the forum is to post and get quality feedback. Yes, that includes criticism, because some of us care about truth and making good decisions --- both for people like the OP and other readers interested in the topic. Throwing out emotional terms out like "hating" is a feminine ploy to deflect criticism... criticism that may be valid and that one can grow, learn and understand from.

I could talk about this more, but for now, the most important part of the above is in fact the distillation of "if you don't believe in anything, marriage makes little sense, both for you, your spouse and any potential children".

Post: #122

OP

Thanks for the report. Respect for taking a mature attitude in admitting your mistakes and dealing with the criticism. We need more honest reporting here and accounts of mistakes with the lessons learned.

Post: #123

(06-03-2017 02:31 AM)zanetti Wrote:  Thanks to the OP for sharing.

You say you are atheist/agnostic. I don't understand why you got married in the first place?

I don't see the point of marriage without kids

He got married because he met a hot chick and he wanted to be with her.

Marriage is the union of two people, with the intent to have kids.

I don't speak for the OP, I would assume he wanted to enjoy the fruits for a little longer before the rugrats hit the scene.

What is the co-relation between religion and marriage?

Have you been married/had a long term girlfriend!

Post: #124

(05-31-2017 11:59 AM)MichaelCorleone Wrote:  I will try to tackle all 4 last posts in one. In a divorce with no kids and no house, we sold the house and were renting currently, you total up all assets including retirement, it doesn't matter how much each person is making its just an asset division with no kids and no house, so the lawyers literally make a spreadsheet and you horse trade until it gets to 50/50 so very rarely does one person not have to give something to the other person asset wise because very rarely is it gonna come up 50/50. Its the law, pretty much 50/50 so it isn't one person trying to take from the other person, but you have the option to fold to the 50/50, or you have a prenump, the prenump was pretty much useless bc in the end we were virtually equal in assets and the differential was small, and I will be honest she was willing to fight for every single penny until the end, the differential was slowly getting destroyed by lawyer fees so I just said F it in the end bc I got sick of paying lawyers and the money was so small I chose to end it.

What could I have done differently? I could have put some effort into the marriage the last 3-4 years when things got a bit rocky. Honestly, my biggest regret is that I put zero effort into helping things improve. She never gave up tried for years, she went to counseling herself, etc. begged me to go I refused. Bottomline is I never ever thought she would leave so I saw no incentive to put any real effort into saving things. I took her and the marriage for granted. If I really knew that she would really possibly leave, I would have put forth some effort. That's my biggest regret. Yeah, I wish now I would have put some effort forth but I didn't and she wanted it to work so badly I figured she'd never leave. Bottomline, I was kind of dumb.

Making 6 figures does not equate with Jamie Dimon, most people in finance after 2-3 years are making 6 figures. She really changed when she got into the work world, she became more westernized, but she still cooked from scratch, cleaned, she even cut the grass without me asking sometimes and she was great in bed. She worked very hard in life and in work. She succeeded in work because of her hard work, discipline, and determination, yeah I paid for her school and mentored her but she did the work and she succeeded and she got promotions and made more and more money. There are multitudes of lazy Americans that get their school paid for get plenty of mentoring and don't do anything with their lives. She wanted kids for years, I was the one that put it off, I was all about both of our careers and the money, and with her being 10 years younger, I figured I had the time to put off having kids. And now at 44 I kind of figured out I waited too long, but as I mentioned before, part of me wonders whether I really wanted kids. Yeah, if you have kids the marriage is more likely to last, 66% of divorced couples are childless, but if you are just staying together for the kids, what kind of life is that for you. Yes, it also incentivizes you to work at it harder, but man I know quite a few couples that hate each other but stay together for the kids, and studies show the stress of a kid lowers happiness, believe me I researched it big, because I wondered for weeks after she left whether I should have had a kid. So yeah, having kids keeps the marriage together, but maybe for the wrong reasons, for the kids at the expense of the parents more often than not it seems. IMHO anyway and the stats are pretty telling.

Robreke, you said the thread was kind of depressing bc you were looking for LTR in EE. I don't think it should be discouraging, she was a damn good wife, all of her friends that married Americans are still with them, and I shoulder most of the blame for it not working, just needed to put a bit of effort forth and I didn't. It's all what you want, I didn't want a stay at home Mom/homemaker, I paid for her school bc I wanted a wife that had a good job and made cash and contributed financially, and that part worked out. Yes, once she was out in the work world and was making good money at prestigious firms she changed a bit, but that was inevitable. Regarding being westernized, I mean she never gave up her values, she never cheated (that I am aware of), she cooked, cleaned, let me do pretty much anything I wanted and I could go anywhere etc. If anything her values kept her in the marriage the last 3-4 years because she refused to give up on the marriage she didn't want a divorce. Regarding having kids and leaving a legacy, people may disagree with this but once you dead and gone does it really matter what you leave behind, you are gone. Only thing I was ever concerned with was because she was 10 years younger after I was gone and she lived for 15-20 years or whatever after I was gone would she be ok, with the age differential I was never going to be alone but she was going to be after I was gone.

If you think that you don't have to put forth any effort to improve things because you don't think the other person would ever leave, and yeah you arent' totally happy, but as a guy I was content, you get apathetic. She almost left 4-5x the last few years, and I would change for 6 months then revert back to the way I was and the cycle would repeat. It's easy to see it all now, but I missed it then. Again, if I knew she'd really leave I would have put more effort in bc frankly I put zero effort in. So she is sitting there trying her best for 4 years, sending me long emails crying out for help, I ignored them all, refused counseling, just laughed it all off thinking she'd never leave and then she surprised me and left. From the research I have done, it appears that I was pretty par for the course that women cry out for years, the guys ignore it, then feel blindsided by them leaving, that's why I think 75% of divorces are initiated by women. Women reach a point where they give up and once they do, you really cant change their mind. This divorce was years in the making, I just didn't see it or believe that it was possible. I really hate to get into my personal mistakes, but suffice it to say the main reason was I put no effort into improving things. Regardless of what anyone thinks, marriage after 14 years together is sometimes work and both people have to be putting in effort, I wasn't.

If anything, my experience should encourage you all to find good EE women, because she was a good wife, and most of my friends that married EE are together and happy. We all started relationships with them when they were 19-21.

Put on a pedestal, if I would have done that none of this would have happened, she was low maintenance. She stuck it out for years man, she wanted it to work, she didn't want to leave, any American girl would have mailed it in years ago with no kids. IMHO, it doesn't matter where a girl comes from you gotta work a bit at marriage sometimes, and bc our history and me always seeing her as the little girl I saved, I always subconsciously felt she owed me, so I never put in any effort. Once a woman lives in the USA for 15 years makes good money, etc. they are gonna change man and its inevitable. I wanted a successful wife, I got it and didn't change my demeanor towards her in time, really bottomline. Her next guy will see her for the successful professional she is and give her the respect she deserves and has earned. I always saw her as the girl I saved so never respected her the way she should have been, and just took her for granted. I was kind of selfish in the end, but you live and learn in life, but me like so many others only truly learn the hard way. I have learned my lesson, it's just kind of tragic she had to leave for good for me to finally see the light.

You keep mentioning not giving her 'respect.' What do you mean by that? I work so much, it's a chore just to not neglect a LTR, needing blogging or reading time, podcasts, etc. to recharge.