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Hi people

So I wanted to reach out to you guys for some advice… sorry its long but it’s a good story about living the dream (kind off)…moving to NY and marrying my ex for a GC.

I moved NY four years ago I met my ex for a GC. I am going to be honest and tell you how we met – I met my ex on Craiglist…she ran call girls and when I called her for the first time..I told her I was willing to swap my UK passport for a US one..She seemed interested. She is Dominican but born here (NYC) after a while going on dates she told me she had a daughter (which was fine with me because she was hot and I wanted a GC)…so months of dating etc we started sleeping together and kind of made it official and became a item. When I first started dating my ex I was amazed how hot she was and thought I pulled a stunner (looking back now my mates didn’t think she was all that, she was just typical Dominican..fat ass small tits but I like that…face was nice but even so the hottest girl I have been with).
I told her in the past I dated loads of girls hotter that her…I am 5’5 and she was perhaps 5’6…. As time when on I was really insecure and needy sometimes she would wear heels and tower over me and it was uncomfortable for me…she was just hot.
I wanted her attention and every time we argued to make it up too her I would buy her gifts etc. then it would create the peace… every time we went out I paid for her and her daughter sometimes she would offer… I knew I earned more money than her so it was fine – it was my choice and I wanted to be with her…so a year later we move in together: me and her and her daughter…I paid for the furniture rent etc… so anyway… three years later the pattern was all the same…less affection…she was happy when I bought her stuff…sometimes I get a bit of love…. Found she was talking to a guy on fB …found someone in her work building was sweet talking her… we went on holidays…China…DR Dubai.. Her family loved me…but maybe I created all the arguments because I was so needy… I mean when we used to argue I used to say “I am only with you for the GC”… we got married in the first year and two years later I reaslise I am not enjoying my life in NY…so I wanted to leave the apartment ( it was too high rent). I wanted to spend more money on me and enjoy going out with my mates…sometimes I didn’t go out as I was worried about spending my money on me when it needed to go on the house and bills etc but I would buy everything… She always had money to go out!!

She always used to tell me I was the only guy who she could call a best mate and she loved me and she wanted to marry and have my kids.
So before I got my GC she was worried I would leave her so I paid her $10k to show her I wasn’t going to run off…that was my life savings kind of…but normally GC are $25k so I got a bargain!
Anyway last June I told her I was leaving the apartment and we can still be together but I want my freedom. So she said that was my plan all along to get the GC and then leave her.

So after I moved out she moved into a one bedroom with her daughter , she took all the furniture and the TV. I moved in to a apartment and have a roommate ( I moved into his apartment) its small and It wasn’t possible to take the furniture if I wanted it or if I had a choice too…time passed and we started to see each other ..I would meet up with her go on dinner dates with her…but it was like we get what each other wants from each other but we never did it…or what I really mean is I tried my hardest to get things back to normal but it was like she had no brain and didn’t give in….it was like she had something in her head saying “don’t let this guy in” that’s what it was like for three years… it was handwork…

Anyway from June last year to Dec 2012..we had a on/off relationship… me saying I love her…we argue…she tells me she loves me, misses me, I’m her best mate…” then the cycle repeats …

So in Dec I go back to London after 2 ½ years and towards the end of my stay in London during the night..I received some notifications on my FB. It was this guy who was giving her a rating number on each of my pictures with her, for example“5”, “7” “9” 3” etc or … I sent him and pm and said “mate who are you after T*****s” (sorry *** stand for surname of my ex). I got no response

Then, when I got back to work in NY I checked out this guy’s FB profile and guess what… his FB cover had a picture of her kissing him…

All this time when I was in London she told me she misses me…she is heart broken cried on the phone me telling why can’t we just be in love…why do I make it hard?? (Yeah it my fault right!)
So when I saw that FB stuff I called her at her work and she said she wasn’t dating and I was like I saw it on his bloody FB… I told her she broke my heart and told her I would never call her and never did apart this. I heard she was struggling to pay the rent and one day in argument she met some and he treats and well and gave her money for rent…a true gentleman she said. This guy wasn’t particularly good looking…much taller and fat ..very Hispanic.. Works at Goldman Sachs in there photocopying department.. (Pointless info)..seriously though. I was kind of glad that was who she moved on too. Felt so good because I know I am better looking.

Just so you know when I first came to NY four years ago a few months in I lost my job in the markets…and I got a new job – I got the job because I told my employer I am due to get a GC in Jan (which was true) so he gave me the offer and I joined.. Two weeks into jan I told him there is a delay in my GC and he was like okay I will pay you as a contractor…so he was paying me without tax, this went into my bank account every month… however toward the end of 2011/April 2012 – there was still no GC…so my boss got really worried and said he needes my wife (ex GF now) social number so he can link the payments to her so he can say he paid her… the trouble is the money I got paid every month I spent it without taking away the tax so now we owe the IRS $13k it’s not a big issue to me and not even to my ex…sometime I used to worry she would be vindicated and call my boss and tell him all my secrets that I run a side company on the side and take business away from him (no money has come through yet doing this but my boss loves me because I make him money always)…so if she did tell my boss I will prob lose my job and then I would def not pay the IRS money and let her suffer…but I will pay it and act like it’s under name even though it’s not…
So what’s my point to all this?

Well every couple of week my accountant give me a notice from the IRS about how much money is owed..I then call my ex and tell her I have it all under control. I do it to calm me down because I always think she will tell my boss about my stuff…I don’t care if I lose my job but I got a pretty comfortable job…I get paid good and I can do fuck all sometimes…he is an old dude and he just cares if I make money… if I was to move I know I would get more money but not the working environment. Plus it’s just me and my boss.

I live in Queens and went to get my hair cut in the Bronx. I go to the same salon my ex goes too. My ex has been going there for five plus years and she introduced me to this salon and the owner. I always go there but I go either early on sat mornings or take a day of during the week or leave work early to get down there to avoid bumping into her… The place is all Dominicans so I always go there because I know them and now that I am single I like to see if I can get another Dominican girl.. So two weeks ago it was a Tuesday and I took a day off work…I called up the salon and told them I am coming up around 2pm…so I go there and the salon is empty. I am sitting in the waiting room and the owner (a woman) calls me into the room to get my cut during the conversation she asks “how is Liz” (my ex) and that she hasn’t seen her for a very long time. I have told her a couple of times in the past we have broken up but maybe she just forgets or doesn’t understand my accent!!! So I told her we broke up and she was like this stuff happens… By the way I haven’t actually seen my ex since last October 2012 till this point…so anyway as I walk out into the waiting area room to pay guess who is there… my EX!!! I do a double look as I can’t believe it but I am still very calm and relaxed (by the way I go out of my way to avoid her…she should be a work at that time…but I suppose she took a day off). I pay the bill and walk towards the door which she was sitting next too. I ask her if she wants to chat and she agrees. All I spoke about was the IRS that I am working on it and its always on the top of my mind…she then said she has her accountant on it and she said she would call her accountant there and then to find out what is going on with…I said No as I had to go to the gym…which was true and I had my gym bag with me so she knew it was true… the conversation was about five minutes not more and as I was talking she had this smile like it was like ”how come you’re here…happy to see me… WTF are you doing here/it’s a small world kind of smile)..anyway as I was leaving her I gave her a respect bump with my fist and said ”you’re looking good Liz” – I said that out of being polite she wasn’t…she was wearing very casual clothes you would clean your house in…no make up nothing…hair was a mess…but I was looking very good… I know when I look good because I get girls looking at him.. Not being big headed or anything just describing it was perfect time to be looking good. So I walked away to get on the subway to go to the gym… as I walked away I knew that I played It so cool…I didn’t give two craps about her…

So since that point till yesterday I had to speak to her…I received another letter from the IRS saying money is due but the language was much stronger on the letter so I called her and told her about it…she also gets these letters but perhaps she doesn’t call me because I call her first and tell her not to worry. So why does she needs to call me. But speaking to her yesterday I kept the conversation only about IRS but also said “happy birthday for tomorrow” (which is today now). I was being polite… I don’t care about it too much..she said she would talk her to accountant and get back to me…I am starting to think she doesn’t give a shit about this IRS stuff but it’s quite serious because they will come after her…she will tell my boss…I will lose my job…he will have to pay it to stop then going deeper and I will just start a new job again…fair play really getting a job is easy.

I emailed her to her work address today to say “hi I never heard back from you regarding the accountant I hope you do get back to me” In the subject line I wrote: Happy Birthday”. I got an out of office saying she is out till the 3rd to 9th March and it included her new mobile number. I deleted this email.
I can’t afford to pay the money off so thats why they keep sending the letters and I can’t call the IRS and sort this out as all the details are in her name… so it’s all up to her… I don’t know why I give a shit about it at all really I suppose I finally got an easy going boss and I don’t want her to mess it up if she could…all my mates say if she was going to do it by now she would (her telling my boss about my side company.

One friend said to me it’s like I wanted to reach out to her and it annoyed me…but the question is am I subconsciously after her again…I don’t think I am. I won’t ever go back with her but sometimes I do think about the fun we have and do think about her but I am still trying to get another girl….

I don’t go on enough dates but I am out sleeping with some girls playing the game but none of these girls have what she had in personality or looks… and are not Latin… but I am working on this…


Just to add:
I love NYC and did whatever I had to do to stay here and for the all the years I was with my ex her daughter’s father was in prison… I writing that bit to say I bloody tried to make this work with her daughter and be a good guy even though I hated her daughter sometimes… I think my ex knew that too!!

So the question again am I subconsciously after her ?


What are your thoughts…

Cheers for this guys…
Ash

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Quote:What are your thoughts…

For now, just two:

1. TL;DR
2. What is a GC?
   

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GC = Greencard

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Can't believe I just read that.

You should have done your research on Dominican women from NY.

I would leave the states and go to Eastern Europe if I were you.

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Sorry, couldn't do it. It was just too long...

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(04-03-2013 04:12 PM)MidniteSpecial Wrote:  Can't believe I just read that.

You should have done your research on Dominican women from NY.

I would leave the states and go to Eastern Europe if I were you.

Wait. The OP married a DR chick? And shit went south?

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I got to the part where you moved back to NY, couldn't last any longer

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Welcome to The Red Pill.

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I skimmed your post and none of it made sense to me.!If you marry a US citizen you don't get a green card right away but what you do get right away is a social security number and the work permit. So what was that talk about your boss paying you under the table?

Seems like IRS is after her and they don't know you exist. Enjoy that!

What's your status in the country now? Still got your GC?

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You met a woman on Craigslist, who I assume is a hooker, was a hooker, or was a hooker booker. Paid her $10,000 for her to marry you. Your still legally married.

Your main concern should be getting kicked out of the US and banned from returning.

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I don't get it. You married her for GC. then you should get the hell out as soon as you get the real one (after 2 years, they give you conditional one immediately)
Why do you talk about trying to be a good person to her and her daughter??? are you nuts?

It's a business deal. you compensate her and you get GC and then you guys shake hands and say bye.
How much did you spend on her total???

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That was quite some post! I won't be as hard on you as others since you have posted it in the newbie forum and I can sense some vexation in your post.

So your question you wanted asking was 'are you subconsciously after her?' I would say there is no subconscious about it. It's clear for all to see. You don't write long posts like that about chicks you don't give a fuck about. You don't check guy's FB accounts who are banging chicks you don't give a fuck about. You certainly don't message them! You don't have as much contact with women you don't give a fuck about. My contention is that you are suffering from a bit of one-itis. No shame there, we have all had it, all felt the highs and lows interpreting every text message you receive, romanticising the past as being all good when in reality it was usually nothing of the sort except for a few brief highlights. Some of us are further down the evolutionary red pill path that is all. You'll look back and laugh one day.

So how do you move on ( believe me you really do need to move on from an average looking whore dispatcher off of Craigs List ) really move on and not give a fuck about her? First sort out whatever business you have to do with the IRS or whoever, get that mess sorted and then don't ever contact her again, ever. Delete her FB page. Don't fucking romanticise about how much fun she was. And start getting out there banging women again. Move on mate, think more highly of yourself and who or what you are capable of getting. You don't need no average looking whore dispatcher in your life. Bang those women all you want but leave those women to have relationships with men from her own country who also don't have much going for them.

This woman sounds like she was just milking you, you paid for her shit. Don't do that again. You bought her shit to placate her you said. That's amateur game man. Women who do that don't respect you. The first time she gave you shit you should have said "I don't accept that attitude from my women". If she did it again then you should have kicked her out. I know it's hard as you were into the girl but better to go home and cry into your pillow for a week than have some woman walking over you. But all that will come with time. No shame in what you did but learn from it for fuck sake.

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You want a Dominican girl again because of how you feel about your ex. I recognize that because I also feel that way about girls who look like my ex.

Just know that it won't do you any good and you may be coming across as needy because every other Dominicana is going to look to you like your salvation. And you're gonna put her on a pedestal.

Game other women. Stay away from Dominicans.

Damn, I'm going to take my own advice.