Post: #1

First of all, this is not a gay thread, and I'm not a troll, so everybody calm down.
Here's the story. A guy from my gym noticed the significant gains that I've been making lately (I wish chicks did the same...). He started asking me for advice, and since he's a skinny newbie, I taught him some of the stuff that I've learned during the long years I've been lifting. Then he asked when do I usually hit the gym, so he can learn some more from me. I don't have a schedule, so he asked my number to catch up with me later. Sure mate, no problem.
He never called me, but one week later I see him in the gym again, and it's all cool, I taught him more stuff.
I think he didn't call me because in his eyes I'm a guru, who must not be disturbed. After all, you think twice before calling up your professor, or the CEO of your company, or the awesome ripped dude from the gym.

I don't want to brag or anything, but could it potentially be part of the reason why girls flake on me as well? For instance, the simple average girl, bearing a few extra pounds, working as a cashier in clothes shop, flakes on me. I meet her again by accident, and she's all friendly, I would say even blushing slightly. Maybe because in her eyes I'm the handsome ripped guy with a master's degree in science, who fluently speaks 5 foreign languages and roams around the town on a motorcycle?
Or this other time, the chick jumps at me and we make out, then she runs to her friends, then they go to cheer for their other friends who're break-dancing on the street. I happen to know some moves as well, so I find the girl, tell her to hold my coat, and go to show off what I've got and get lots of respect from other dudes. The girl, however, suddenly becomes cold to me.

Post: #2

Disclaimer before I say it - I am sure THIS IS NOT the reason. But potentially they could just think you are a boring bastard? Don't mean that in a nasty way.....I am a boring bastard myself.....!

Post: #3

(03-13-2013 05:27 PM)sportbilly Wrote:  Disclaimer before I say it - I am sure THIS IS NOT the reason. But potentially they could just think you are a boring bastard? Don't mean that in a nasty way.....I am a boring bastard myself.....!

Sometimes girls ask me if I think they're pretty. Or they tell straight up "you only like me coz you're drunk. You'll be gone the next morning". Or the milf who wouldn't allow me in her apartment "look at me: I'm old. I'm sure you must be getting lots of girls". Or the two girls after 15 min chatting "why did you approach us in particular?". These can't be all shittests. I think some of those girls really feel inadequate for me. If I try some teasing, they get visibly sad and angry (except the real pretty ones)

Post: #4

As we all know: it's easier to hide out and live in mediocrity than it is to face the intimidation of what we feel is greater than ourselves. After all, that's why we're here. We decided we didn't want to live our lives like that anymore.

So yes, that could be a reason. Most girls are pussies just like most guys are pussies. That's why most of them never leave home without their cliques, because they no they can't hold their own. The power is in the numbers, isolate them and the false sense of power they have quickly wears off (once they realize this they start trying to get back to the source of their power "I gotta get back to my friends"). Seduction 101.

As for the dude: He probably thinks he can't keep up with you. He rather not show up, than show up and look weak. I'm guessing he didn't really do organized sports in high school; that's when you learn to check egos and punk ass insecurities at the door.

Post: #5

without knowing who you are and what you look like, or even if it is because of YOU, possible reasons are:

1) you're too high value. guy is intimidated

2) you're boring

3) guy just trying to be nice and ingratiate your friendship by putting you into the esteemed "mentor" position

4) guys are like girls, unless a deep relationship/friendship is present, they just flake a lot of times

if something like this is actually affecting you, it's because you're a newbie in the social game who's getting attention for the first times by both girls/guys as someone who is cool. nothing wrong with being a newb but recognize it for what it is & keep trucking on.

fuck, myself, if someone who I perceive as way higher value than me invites me to do something, I fight a battle in my head about whether to go or not because of insecurities and feelings of relative worth(lessness). I usually chalk it up and go because I know I can learn from it, but other times I might be somewhat busy and use that as a legitimate excuse to chicken out. it's all part of THE PROCESS MAN!!!

Post: #6

One week? Rather than being overwhelmed by your awesomeness, it seems more likely that the guy just had things to do and figured he'd see you in the gym. if he's talking to random people at the gym, he is probably a social guy and unless he is gay didn't consider scheduling a meeting with you at the gym a high priority.

Post: #7

Besides. What do you care? Live your life. Let others live theirs. If he wants advice he'll ask. Unsolicited advice is welcome like sand grain under eyelids

Post: #8

(03-14-2013 03:58 PM)calihunter Wrote:  Besides. What do you care? Live your life. Let others live theirs. If he wants advice he'll ask. Unsolicited advice is welcome like sand grain under eyelids

I don't give a shit about the guy in the gym. I'm trying to understand why chicks flake on me that much.

Post: #9

an ancient proverb says.. once you make a thread about guy flaking on you, you're on your own

Post: #10

People are fuckin' weird, man. That's your answer.

Post: #11

(03-14-2013 05:24 PM)alphanov Wrote:  

(03-14-2013 03:58 PM)calihunter Wrote:  Besides. What do you care? Live your life. Let others live theirs. If he wants advice he'll ask. Unsolicited advice is welcome like sand grain under eyelids

I don't give a shit about the guy in the gym. I'm trying to understand why chicks flake on me that much.

Because you care

Post: #12

(03-13-2013 05:37 PM)alphanov Wrote:  

(03-13-2013 05:27 PM)sportbilly Wrote:  Disclaimer before I say it - I am sure THIS IS NOT the reason. But potentially they could just think you are a boring bastard? Don't mean that in a nasty way.....I am a boring bastard myself.....!

Sometimes girls ask me if I think they're pretty. Or they tell straight up "you only like me coz you're drunk. You'll be gone the next morning". Or the milf who wouldn't allow me in her apartment "look at me: I'm old. I'm sure you must be getting lots of girls". Or the two girls after 15 min chatting "why did you approach us in particular?". These can't be all shittests. I think some of those girls really feel inadequate for me. If I try some teasing, they get visibly sad and angry (except the real pretty ones)

Sounds like average girls are intimidated by you. Solution: Approach hotter women.

Post: #13

(03-15-2013 11:55 PM)Samseau Wrote:  Sounds like average girls are intimidated by you. Solution: Approach hotter women.

I've noticed that hotter girls are more receptive to game, while the mediocre ones are barely able to flirt. Furthermore, all the blow offs I've ever got came from mediocre chicks. The hot ones who are not interested in me at least come up with a polite way to end the conversation.
The problem is where to find enough hot chicks, because the nightlife is infested with shitty people...