Post: #1

I am super negative...everything I think most of the time is bad, condescending, limiting, angry and stereotyped....

I think the worst of people and almost every situation...

anyone have experience with this?

Post: #2

You sound either like -abe- or draintree

Post: #3

I used to be pessimistic. It's smarter for making decisions to be pessimistic. However - as you may have noticed - it is a huge handicap towards social interactions.

There's no easy fix and it will take months to see substantial results. The approach I used was essentially practice. Find something you are being negative about, and put forward some positive characteristics. Keep doing this. The technique is called autohypnosis by psychologists - you can look that up for more details.

It will be tedious and drain a ton of your energy. But after a week it won't be so hard - after three to four weeks it'll be a habit. At that point you'll begin to make much better first impressions.

Good luck.

Post: #4

I enjoy trying to help negative people. It's interesting to me.

They focus on the negative. I ask them if they want to be negative..? They say, "no".

I say. "So then be positive". They say, "I can't".

They can't control their own mind and thoughts.

I think its just all the years of being around complainers,losers, haters, fear mongers, and newspaper headlines.

Post: #5

On the other hand I like to tell them to OWN THAT TO THE MAX and be even more negative. Like a super dark villain from cartoons. It usually gets them happy and positive and the whole charm is lost.

Post: #6

(02-10-2013 04:49 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  I think its just all the years of being around complainers,losers, haters, fear mongers, and newspaper headlines.

haha, reminds me of the bill hicks "well laid ted turner" bit