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RE: Swedes marrying Thai's
i had a thai gf for 6 months - she was 7 years older than me. broke up with her a few weeks ago.
i'm beta as fuck i know...
anyway, she was incredible, feminine, kind, caring and the only reason i broke up with her was because i want to bang other girls and she wants to get married. she spoke fluent english and had a good business mind. also thai women age very well. not like western women.
if i was 40yo and looking for a wife then she would have ticked all the boxes.
my brother bought us a book on thai-western relationship dynamics and it was really eye-opening.
havhing read this book i think i was pretty lucky and don't think for one second that all or most thai girls are to be idealised as marriage material.
in most cases cultural values will clash hard - thai interdependence and family vs. western independence, etc. it's a very different culture and value system. it's not all roses.
there's a strong track record of older western men moving to thailand and building a house up in the north-east and getting screwed over with payments to family, and ultimately divorce. a lot of thai-western relationships do fail.
i don't necessarily blame the thai girls and absolve these guys of criticism. many of these guys will put a ring on anything with no rational analysis that true men are supposed to engage in prior to making important life decisions.
if these swedish guys are getting middle class thai girls from bangkok or chiang mai then they are doing very well and have (most likely) made a commendable choice of partner.
but if they're shacking up with semi-illiterate, superstitious peasant girls from isaan that live up to the thais' well-deserved reputation for ignorance and lack of common sense, then i'm not sold on the merits of marrying these girls just because they're thai, young, feminine and cute.
here's a fun fact: thailand is the best place in the world if looking for a surgeon to reattach a severed penis. there's a good reason why this is the case.
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RE: Swedes marrying Thai's
(01-20-2013 11:07 PM)solo Wrote: (01-20-2013 05:58 PM)Vicious Wrote: Quote:You can't just look at the number of people currently married (all of them) and say the divorce rate is 0%.
I've said nothing of the sort. 47% is the figure I've given. The rate of any one year is divorces divided by marriages (#).
I suck at math so I shouldn't get involved here, but I thought the rate we're interested in the percentage of marriages which end in divorce. I would think that is not the same as dividing the number of divorces by the number of new marriages in any given year, but like I said I could be wrong.
Vicious is correct with how the number is calculated.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce_demography
People tend to like big all encompassing aggregated numbers so we can argue about them relentlessly for multiple valid reasons why its going up or down (see unemployment rate). They do have their uses since its can give you a quick view of the overall trends but always always segment to get a better picture of what's actually going on (which may prove the overall trend wrong).
In my view, probably you're correct in the fact it's probably not necessarily the best metric for tracking success of marriages. This would be because we are taking 2 unlike populations and comparing them. The metric tracked here is an input / output for marriage.
number of people who are single converting to being married per year
number of people who are married converting to divorced per year
Metrics derive from strategic goals and I feel the implied goal with that number is "are we getting and keeping enough people in marriage? If not why?"
For divorce rate to be more meaningful, you would need other numbers to supplement it since divorce rate won't give you an idea of how many marriages of a certain year succeed/failed. But, perhaps that was determined to be a desire of the original number. I feel using percentage of marriages that divorced, preferably segmented by age, instead of crude divorce rate to be a better number.
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RE: Swedes marrying Thai's
(01-21-2013 12:11 AM)Walderschmidt Wrote: (01-20-2013 11:37 PM)DVY Wrote: (01-20-2013 08:15 AM)scotian Wrote: I'm probably going to end up marrying a foreign woman some day but I don't think I'd bring her to Canada
Scotian, heres where you are short-sighted. Bring your wife back to Canada/USA to give birth. That way your kid has a dual-citizenship.
My 2c.
I think he's avoiding bringing her back to Canada specifically because of the Canadian divorce courts and the possibility that his future could "assimilate" into the Canadian culture.
I'm not sure how Canada does it, but I imagine the kid would have a Canadian passport by virtue of having a Canadian father.
You hit the nail on the head there man, if I do ever get married and have kids, which I plan on doing someday, I'll either be working in country as an expat or work seasonal, as I do now. Work 4-6 months a year in Canada and spend the rest of the time abroad where my money goes A LOT farther.
I think it would be too stressful on a woman from say Asia or Latin America to uproot her from her family and bring her to Canada; new country, culture, language barrier and absolute shit weather. Also the chance of being raped in divorce court and the likelihood of my kids growing up to be entitled brats, raising a family in North America is a gamble these days.
God damned them all, I was told we'd cruise the seas for American gold, we'd fire no guns-shed no tears, now I'm a broken man on a Halifax pier, the last of Barrett's privateers!
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RE: Swedes marrying Thai's
(01-21-2013 12:46 AM)scotian Wrote: (01-21-2013 12:11 AM)Walderschmidt Wrote: (01-20-2013 11:37 PM)DVY Wrote: (01-20-2013 08:15 AM)scotian Wrote: I'm probably going to end up marrying a foreign woman some day but I don't think I'd bring her to Canada
Scotian, heres where you are short-sighted. Bring your wife back to Canada/USA to give birth. That way your kid has a dual-citizenship.
My 2c.
I think he's avoiding bringing her back to Canada specifically because of the Canadian divorce courts and the possibility that his future could "assimilate" into the Canadian culture.
I'm not sure how Canada does it, but I imagine the kid would have a Canadian passport by virtue of having a Canadian father.
You hit the nail on the head there man, if I do ever get married and have kids, which I plan on doing someday, I'll either be working in country as an expat or work seasonal, as I do now. Work 4-6 months a year in Canada and spend the rest of the time abroad where my money goes A LOT farther.
I think it would be too stressful on a woman from say Asia or Latin America to uproot her from her family and bring her to Canada; new country, culture, language barrier and absolute shit weather. Also the chance of being raped in divorce court and the likelihood of my kids growing up to be entitled brats, raising a family in North America is a gamble these days.
I find that women don't like to live too far from their families. You can work around this with game and hand, but it's just another thing you'd have to be thoughtful about.
In my case I plan to expatriate if ever get married.
The only thing I can't decide is what country I would most prefer to get married in.
It seems like Asians make the best wives and are most submissive, but fitting in with her family and making social connections over there is hard for a westerner.
Maybe I'll go for Italian or Brazilian.
Where would you think of expatriating to?
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RE: Swedes marrying Thai's
(01-21-2013 03:19 AM)Vicious Wrote: (01-20-2013 11:30 PM)Asaxon Wrote: Pdog, Sweden's fertility rate is listed as 1.8 in your link. This is not good but below sustainable (2.1 is needed for maintenance of a stable population).. If you combine that with the rest of the world at 3 to 4.5 plus the fact the ethnic Swedes have a fertility rate of 1.2 ( the 1.8 is boosted by immigrants) the argument for blondes dying out seems rather bulletproof unless there are some major changes.
I have no idea where you get these numbers but since the "ethnic" rate looks suspiciously low I suspect Heartiste or similar. The conclusion is nevertheless premature.
Nevertheless, some quick math however shows that it would take about 1500 years for "ethnic" Swedes however to die out. And that's assuming a lot of things like no major events affecting birth rates in (we've had 2 just the last 100 years), the fertility rate being stagnant (it's not, but growing over the last 10 years), immigrant population not assimilating with the "ethnic" (which we actually know it does), life expectancy remaining constant (it's not) and that "swedish genes" are somehow regressive (which is absurd but it makes the math easier). So this alleged bulletproof argument about the decline of the white man appears wafer thin if you look beyond the single data point.
The alarmist pieces about so-and-so race dying out are almost exlusively thrown at you in their altered fashion when it serves someone's agenda.
No one's saying the Swedes are gonna go extinct. The original claim was that the current phenotype for Swedes will disappear.
This means that swedes in 150 years from now will look much different from swedes today. That's all. It's hardly a big claim, and it has nothing to do with racism.
Huge intermarriage + decreasing fertility = evolution at work.
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RE: Swedes marrying Thai's
(01-21-2013 12:53 AM)Walderschmidt Wrote: (01-21-2013 12:46 AM)scotian Wrote: (01-21-2013 12:11 AM)Walderschmidt Wrote: (01-20-2013 11:37 PM)DVY Wrote: (01-20-2013 08:15 AM)scotian Wrote: I'm probably going to end up marrying a foreign woman some day but I don't think I'd bring her to Canada
Scotian, heres where you are short-sighted. Bring your wife back to Canada/USA to give birth. That way your kid has a dual-citizenship.
My 2c.
I think he's avoiding bringing her back to Canada specifically because of the Canadian divorce courts and the possibility that his future could "assimilate" into the Canadian culture.
I'm not sure how Canada does it, but I imagine the kid would have a Canadian passport by virtue of having a Canadian father.
You hit the nail on the head there man, if I do ever get married and have kids, which I plan on doing someday, I'll either be working in country as an expat or work seasonal, as I do now. Work 4-6 months a year in Canada and spend the rest of the time abroad where my money goes A LOT farther.
I think it would be too stressful on a woman from say Asia or Latin America to uproot her from her family and bring her to Canada; new country, culture, language barrier and absolute shit weather. Also the chance of being raped in divorce court and the likelihood of my kids growing up to be entitled brats, raising a family in North America is a gamble these days.
I find that women don't like to live too far from their families. You can work around this with game and hand, but it's just another thing you'd have to be thoughtful about.
In my case I plan to expatriate if ever get married.
The only thing I can't decide is what country I would most prefer to get married in.
It seems like Asians make the best wives and are most submissive, but fitting in with her family and making social connections over there is hard for a westerner.
Maybe I'll go for Italian or Brazilian.
Where would you think of expatriating to?
Not quite sure yet but I figure it'll be somewhere in SE Asia or south America, Africa is also an option but definitely a long shot. Basically I would expat somewhere I can practice my trade, although I may have to go back to school to upgrade my skills.
There are a lot of options out there such as Singapore, Indonesia, Thailand, Brazil, Colombia, Chile, South Africa for full time expat jobs. The other option is pretty good too, working in Canada for a few months then spending my free months wherever I want.
Like Harry said in his OP, a lot of young Aussie guys who work offshore or in the mines are doing this now, its not so popular among the rotation workers in Canada who are also offshore and in mining but its something that I've done for awhile and will likely continue to do so. I'd like to go expat so I can earn a tax free living and not have to fork over tens of thousands of dollars to the Canadian welfare state, an unsustainable pyramid scheme that I don't agree with and will only get worse as our demographic time bomb explodes.
God damned them all, I was told we'd cruise the seas for American gold, we'd fire no guns-shed no tears, now I'm a broken man on a Halifax pier, the last of Barrett's privateers!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZIwzRkjn86w
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