Post: #1

Alright, I am a believer in the "bros before hoes" school of thought. Recently, I was out with a kid that I would consider a friend. It all started fairly innocent where we were buying computers, and decided to get a drink (food in my case) at a nearby restaurant. He decided to call his female friend (I assume he was banging her in the past) to pick him up.

At the meantime we're chillin at the bar and I am messing with the hot Ukrainian bartender etc. The friend comes in and I am talking with her and him. Eventually this kid decides to become withdrawn while, I, and the friend are talking. I am not trying to game her, just chillin and talking. Later on, this kid decides to throw a hissy fit that I was ignoring him and macking on his female friend.

Anyway I tell him that obviously that was not the case and he is drunk. Anyway, we split later at night and this female friend drives him home (they live in the same hood). Pretty much from that point on, I have been pretty distant from him and that spazz out from that night. We work together but I keep it professional at the office and nothing has changed on that front.

Circling back to the top, I was not intentionally running game on his friend, but I am not 100% that I was not either because 1. This is my lifestyle 2. She was initiating conversations. Besides he may have banged her in the past however he had not call her off-limits either. I usually don't mess with his friends. He's a nice guy, very social, but shit gets ugly when he's drunk. This time it was directed towards me.

So I have dropped him. I can't roll with whiny little kids who feel insecure about themselves. Right choice, fellas?

Post: #2

I feel ya...unless its your legit boy, like your boy that you grew up with and been boys for years and years and know each other without having to ask...then its questionable. but if its just someone u consider a friend, whatever, you can make new ones

Post: #3

(04-07-2010 08:38 PM)Biz Wrote:  I feel ya...unless its your legit boy, like your boy that you grew up with and been boys for years and years and know each other without having to ask...then its questionable. but if its just someone u consider a friend, whatever, you can make new ones

Respect.

He's not one of my boys but had the potential to be a solid member of the crew..not anymore. I can't be watching my back every time we roll out.

Post: #4

I would've done the same thing.

Post: #5

(04-07-2010 10:53 PM)Roosh Wrote:  I would've done the same thing.

Thanks, Roosh!

Post: #6

The best game is the game you aren't even trying to run. That's when you know you've arrived. You weren't in the wrong, and why should you take heat because girls are into you? It's easier to get out of the hurricane's way than it is to stop it.

I had a very similar situation with a very good friend recently. He's got a girl, HB7ish, very nice sweet girl and he knocked her up. He instantly asks me if I'm running around on him with her and I nearly beat his face in for it.

Add insult to injury when it's a 6-month relationship (to our 10-year friendship) and it ain't hard to tell the way he acts that they probably won't even be together this time next year. Nice girl as I said, but very clingy and insecure, and he doesn't like that shit any more than the next man.

Then again, for all his bluster and pseudo-alpha posturing he's insecure as fuck and he once saw me snag a girl cold from one of his other friends who he knows I dislike and is apparently 'respected' for his game. I do have a bit of a rep in this circle.

Why did he ask? Get this...Because she is a nice girl and is nice to me...I return the favor by being nice to her. Novel concept isn't it?

I don't try to run game on her (see; my first sentence), I talk, we joke, I have no interest in her, she always jumps up to hug me and kiss me on the cheek when I leave, but I'm not some hater. I don't trash talk him to her, I don't escalate anything and I don't go out of my way to help her...

No but trust me, I've been in friendships that ended over a girl and I've seen it many times. A sage piece of realism for you; even if you have NO game, it's way easier to find a girl to bang than it is to find a true, loyal friend. Funny how many people will turn you just for a sniff of pussy.

Post: #7

The closest I had from this was once going out with some chicks. Three guys, three girls only two were hot. Cinema, etc. We go to a bar. Two of the guys are good friends. They are also good friends from me, but not to that level. One of the hotest chicks are interested in me. But from some reason one of the guys is trying to help the other to hook up with the girl that is interested in me. I´m used to having guys wanting the same girl than me, but competition being from another guy helping another guy picking up a chick. was something I wasn´t expecting.

I know that buddies shouldn´t fight for hoes, but it´s the fact that somebody values more a hoe than a friend that really get my nerves. I ask the guy "WTF are u doing?", he makes like he doesn´t know what I´m talking about. The answer gets me more angry and I punch him in the face. He´s going to get back at me. I grab his shirt and say "because you were my friend for your own good don´t moove a muscle".
After this I started walking home.

If I could go back I would have probably made things different.

Post: #8

(04-08-2010 09:53 PM)Nonpareil Wrote:  A sage piece of realism for you; even if you have NO game, it's way easier to find a girl to bang than it is to find a true, loyal friend. Funny how many people will turn you just for a sniff of pussy.

This is so spot on.

Guess whose calling me, texting me like a girl now? That same kid. Funny I never thought that some tenets of the game can be applied to dudes.

In retrospect this was a loyalty test that he failed miserably.

Post: #9

(04-08-2010 10:13 PM)Pepini Wrote:  The closest I had from this was once going out with some chicks. Three guys, three girls only two were hot. Cinema, etc. We go to a bar. Two of the guys are good friends. They are also good friends from me, but not to that level. One of the hotest chicks are interested in me. But from some reason one of the guys is trying to help the other to hook up with the girl that is interested in me. I´m used to having guys wanting the same girl than me, but competition being from another guy helping another guy picking up a chick. was something I wasn´t expecting.

I know that buddies shouldn´t fight for hoes, but it´s the fact that somebody values more a hoe than a friend that really get my nerves. I ask the guy "WTF are u doing?", he makes like he doesn´t know what I´m talking about. The answer gets me more angry and I punch him in the face. He´s going to get back at me. I grab his shirt and say "because you were my friend for your own good don´t moove a muscle".
After this I started walking home.

If I could go back I would have probably made things different.

Pepini,

Getting physical is not worth it. Usually guys like that will self-destruct on their own. I don't fight over girls - it's a sexual free market, if I can't get one hottie, I'll work on another.