Post: #1

Over the past say 2 years I have had 3 or 4 girls tell me I need to be more adventurous. I'm pretty sure this reflects the going out aspect vs. behind closed doors aspect. I'm not sure how to rectify this without beta-dumping money. Suggestions please.

Post: #2

You are too rigid, women want excitement in their life. Be more spontaneous, make stuff as fun as possible. You don't need money to do that.

Post: #3

Heartiste has a lot on this subject. Search his site under "aloof" or "indifferent".

Post: #4

You need to BECOME a more adventurous person. Take up skydiving

Post: #5

Do some traveling, it will force you to become more adventurous. At the same time you can use the travel forum and go to the places where you can find hot women who aren't too hard. 2 birds with one stone.

Post: #6

(12-09-2012 04:06 PM)Don Wrote:  You are too rigid, women want excitement in their life. Be more spontaneous, make stuff as fun as possible. You don't need money to do that.

Exactly. This isn't about how tight-fisted you are with your cash.

These chicks are sensing that you are reserved socially (even though you may not be reserved when it's just one on one in the bedroom). A good rule of thumb is when you face the prospect of doing vs not doing (e.g., attending an event, meeting new people, etc.), opt for the proactive choice. This will expand your comfort zone over time.

Post: #7

you are dealing with shit tests. Mentally reframe that.

frat boy getting laid left and right: is he adventurous? Fuck no. He sits right in the frat house ripping bong hits.

Movie star? sits on his ass and lets people entertain him.

Kings and lords and los generales: off base jumping? Fuck no. They all sit on the throne and never move.

Taking advice from a chick you want to bang is dumb. So when the words come out of their mouth along the line of "you should"

...you *should* immediately respond with "jawohl mein furher!" or something to that effect. That right there translates to "adventurous answer" in a chicks head.

"you should get a tattoo"
------"i have some butterflies 'down there'
"you should wear this shirt"
------(tie on head like a do rag)
"you should buy a honda"
-----"i caught my mexican landlady doing donuts with my last car."

Etc

Post: #8

Motorcycle.

Post: #9

(12-10-2012 11:46 PM)Grit Wrote:  you are dealing with shit tests. Mentally reframe that.

frat boy getting laid left and right: is he adventurous? Fuck no. He sits right in the frat house ripping bong hits.

Movie star? sits on his ass and lets people entertain him.

Kings and lords and los generales: off base jumping? Fuck no. They all sit on the throne and never move.

Taking advice from a chick you want to bang is dumb. So when the words come out of their mouth along the line of "you should"

...you *should* immediately respond with "jawohl mein furher!" or something to that effect. That right there translates to "adventurous answer" in a chicks head.

"you should get a tattoo"
------"i have some butterflies 'down there'
"you should wear this shirt"
------(tie on head like a do rag)
"you should buy a honda"
-----"i caught my mexican landlady doing donuts with my last car."

Etc

He might be getting shit-tested, but the girl probably is right... OP probably is boring and needs to change his lifestyle..