Post: #1

Any help appreciated.

My girlfriend (about 5 months) is breaking up with me because her friend (who introduced us) told her that she saw me kissing some girl at a bar (which didn't actually happen). The friend was telling me just before this that she was thinking about cheating on her boyfriend, and I told her if I was her boyfriend I'd punch her in the face. She got pissy about that but I didn't realize it would go to this point.

I don't know what to do. I went to gf's house after and we fought it out but then fucked and again in the morning. I figured friend would say she made it up in the morning but she is sticking to her story that it happened, and now gf is breaking up with me over it. She keeps asking me to admit that I kissed some other girl but it didn't happen, and I have no idea what to do. She believes her friend over me since they have known each other since they were little. The girl I allegedly kissed says she didn't even see me at the bar. I've apologized for the situation and tried to move forward but gf keeps trying to get me to admit it, and says she thinks I'm a liar and scumbag etc.

What is my move here? I care about girl and she puts in the work so I would like to stay with her for a little longer. Also it will look really bad (at college) if we break up over something that I didn't actually do. My gf isn't in my college so it looks doubly worse as my friends know I didn't actually do it, so I get no points there.

Thanks in advance.

Post: #2

Maybe it was ment to be.

Post: #3

Have it ever entered your mind that its a lame excuse to kick your ass out? I would tell her, that I couldnt be in a relationship with her and her psycotic female friends and having to deal with whatever bullshit they fabricate. Leave and dont look back.

Post: #4

Yeah, you really shouldn't fight to stay with her too hard.

If you were more like, "I didn't fuckin do that shit, if you don't want to believe me, then fine, fuck it, I'm gone. Believe your dumbass friend over me if you want, but I didn't do that shit, and I'm telling you I didn't do that shit. If you can't believe me or trust me then this relationship is pointless." Then walk out and don't contact her. She would probably attempt to contact you in a few days if you did this - she would probably come running back, but if she didn't come running back, then fuck it, her loss, go find some new chicks to fuck with.

That's what you should have done, but I'm guessing you didn't do that, so it's probably too late to save your situation... you could try that though, just say your sick of the bullshit and sick of trying to convince her that you didn't do it, because you know you didn't.

Post: #5

Having a girlfriend in college kind of defeats the point of college.

Post: #6

I agree with ToddH 100%. College us suppose to be about orgies, drinking and more sex and SNL's!!

You're in college man, who cares what your friends think! Trust me after college, you'll never see them again! So enjoy what makes you happy, not what makes others happy. Be an alpha not an ass kisser.

Post: #7

" Having a girlfriend in college kind of defeats the point of college. "

Well said.

Post: #8

Bro. All the advice your getting here is solid. Though If your gonna keep trying to stay with this bird, tell her like they said "If your gonna believe her over me, then FINE." and cut all contact with her. Don't call her or take her calls until she is coming back to you, leaving you voicemails, apologizing ect. If she doesn't come back, then she never really gave a shit about you in the first place. If she does, and you still want to deal with her, start having a new attitude with her. Be the boss, in complete control at all times, and taking no shit under any circumstances. Good luck, Peace.

Eduardo

Post: #9

Thanks for all the advice, you guys helped me come to my senses about this. It was just something I've never dealt with before, someone making up a story just to fuck me up, and I semi-panicked.

Anyway I played it cool like luke and all is well. Sequence of events for the curious: She came over to "get her stuff back from my apartment," when she showed up I took her across the street to get lunch. We played scrabble, though she resisted, I made her play, warmed her up. Got back to mine, I ignored her attempts to launch into a rant about what happened. Hung out for a little, I didn't really say much as usual and let her chat on about her friends and her mom and whatever. Eventually I put on a movie we had been wanting to watch for a while, laid down on the couch, and the game was over. I've learned with things like these you just ignore it and don't get angry, let the person cool down for a few days, show you are legitimately interested in moving past it, and squash it.

Post: #10

Move on. Although it seems like it, its not a big deal and, likely, its in your favor.

Post: #11

sticky thread is your answer.