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The Alpha Exit:Tin Man Edition from /attachment.php?aid=8537

Great find IMHO its one of the last articles on his blog. I remember a time about several years ago long before I ever learned about game, alpha etc. I finally hooked up with a girl I had a crush on. We had a mutual friend and I found her through her on Facebook. So added her and we eventually made plans to go out. We went to a Latin bar that night and danced etc etc. go back to her place and it was on!!! Spoke to the mutual friend and she told me she had a great night, said I was a great dancer but she wanted to be friends!!! I thought ok, whatever!! Anyhow, few weeks pass and she calls me up and we make plans for A second and eventually third date. the third date I said I will come by your place and we can have some dinner there and do a date night. So she ate, we watched the movie and she seemed cold. Stand offish. So, I thought nothing if it nd left. Never to see her again.

Now, I will spare you all the details, I realize some red flags:
She would always respond to texts, but never pick up the phone
She recently broke up with an ex
Has a sister with a mental disorder ( wrong term) but she told me her sister is mental, crazy in a sense getting into fights with her boyfriends and husband, divorced. ( I think the apple doesn't fall far from the tree and she may have some issues herself) I think so
Had dinner and drinks with her brother and sister in law on the second date,,,,thinking its soon but she seemed old fashioned and wanted to settle down
Third date, dinner, then Never saw her after. Didn't even respond to my phone calls, but the texts she did. Saw her online dating profile and Facebook pic with a new dude a few weeks after.

Now, we actually got along well when we went out etc. but after reading the Solomon post /attachment.php?aid=8537
I can relate as when a woman gets it into her head that she doesn't know you, you are a ghost to her. No chance becoming friends or f buddies whatever. It stung a little bit. I had a chance to date a former crush etc etc. that's when I believed in falling in love, getting married etc. doing the "right thing". Today, that same man, would have never done the same thing, except for the part of fooling around on date one.

I know today I made many mistakes but glad I learned from them.

Back then I wondered how can someone disappear or turn you into a ghost if you will after 3 good dates. But after thinking about it my conclusion is she had too many issues!!!!! I feel women don't make men into ghosts unless they have another man in their lives. Usually they don't like being single, unlike men. So my conclusion, if you ever find yourself in a situation where a girl moves that fast with a questionable past, RUN! I m glad that I experienced this. I wish her well and want to send a thank you to her for making me follow this path.

Women have every right to turn you into a ghost. It's our failure as men in not seeing the red flags. Thinking back, I see what I did wrong. Whatever you do, pay close attention to any "flags" in her past or current behaviour and family if you want to settle down.

Post: #2

Your story is a little bit confusing. Did you bang her on the first date? You may be thinking about this a bit too much. Sounds like she met someone that she liked more and decided to cut you out. Some women can keep multiple dudes in their rotation, but most don't. Having you around, while she's with the new guy, would make her feel like a bit of a slut.

If you didn't bang her, then she just wasn't into you.

Post: #3

Find another Bang, get movin, other sluts out there

Post: #4

(11-09-2012 05:51 AM)tomtud Wrote:  Back then I wondered how can someone disappear or turn you into a ghost if you will after 3 good dates.

The problem here is that you should be turning women into ghosts and making them make long posts wondering what happened, not the other way around. She probably just found someone else. Move on.

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(11-09-2012 09:37 AM)IQVX Wrote:  

(11-09-2012 05:51 AM)tomtud Wrote:  Back then I wondered how can someone disappear or turn you into a ghost if you will after 3 good dates.

The problem here is that you should be turning women into ghosts and making them make long posts wondering what happened, not the other way around. She probably just found someone else. Move on.

I know! This happened several years ago and I am sooooo over her. Reading the blog and the post where he had to pick up his stuff outside of her apartment reminded me of how they can literally make you into a ghost. As I said, this was before I discovered game if you will.