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(10-25-2012 01:38 PM)DVY Wrote:  Elaborate please. How do you describe your tastes/expectations, especially with it sounding amazing?

(10-25-2012 02:31 AM)XXL Wrote:  "i'm single i know what i'm looking for". then she asks about it. then i tell her my tastes/expectations in a way that sounds amazing

i tell what i find very attractive and not surprisingly these are traits that every women would like to have. from psychological standpoint..

- it gives them "ideal" to live up to if she decides to stick with me. expectation force the other person to bring the best personality to the surface around me. it's like you are in some high status person's house and you control yourself to be cool to not fuck up your impression.

- it shows i have standards so she feels qualified just by being there with me, in other words she feels "special".

- it shows my personal boundaries and things i don't need to surround myself with. it also convey that stupid behaviour will be called out.


ok so my taste is... tall, slender, beautiful / feminine, classy / caring / good in bed, horny / high tempered / not jealous / adventurous/sporty .. girl. these are all positive traits. i talk about it in a way it sounds cool. yes, it sounds like an ideal and that's the point. the higher level you shoot for higher level you might actually achieve. you give somebody an ideal to shoot for, they can't get it but they try hard and reach high level. but when they shoot for mediocrity then they can actually get it.

- tall/slender/beautiful - it's given cause i can choose that off cold approach

- feminine/classy - i tell that feminine eloquent and graceful women are just amazing, that they're comfortable in different environments and can talk to different people, that they're social and easygoing, they dress well which is huge,

- caring - i tell that it's oh so pleasant to watch a girl who can take care of details and be thoughtful,

- good in bed/horny - i tell them that classy women who also are total horny sluts in bed are top woman on earth, that it's like the most amazing mix known to a man ever, that woman in touch with her sexuality is my dream, that i can't imagine a girl being cold, that i hate shy girls in bed etc.

- not jealous - tell that i love girls who feels secure enough to be ok with me talking to other girls, who don't get all cranky over some stupid shit like not answering phone when i didn't hear the ring, etc.

- high tempered - i tell that i love enthusiastic vibrant women with energy

- adventurous/sporty - i tell that sport is big thing and i like when a girl have that adventurous side who can play with me this or that even if she acutally can't, that i hate typical princesses who can't sweat or move or just do something physical, etc.


so the way i describe it is "i love / i hate". when you say you love something about the person that person will be more likely to behave in a way you like to get approval. it's classic validation. "he likes me like that, i get ego
boost when i'm like that, it feels yummy to my self image, i will be like that".

notice that these traits/tastes are pretty common. but the fact that i talk about it early it on is uncommon [cause most guys play it safe and say whatever to keep a chick happy]. let's say a chicks smokes. if we got something going on i tell her it's disgusting and i would never date her and i would not even kiss her cause it tastes awful but we can be friends, barely. or let's say a girl shows overall social grace, i compliment that, i say that's amazing how she conduct herself and that i feel like we can date for 5 days to see if she's for real or it's just some mask she put on for tonight. stuff like that. to break it down it's validation game mixed with personal stardards. i point out something positive/negative about her and appreciate it or dismiss with smile in playful way [never seriously, i'm still quite random guy after all]. this is very different from saying stuff like "you're cute" or "you're not that smart". <- these are just random vague comments with no power.

that's also quite good way that you handle GF question. instead of answering yes/no/etc start talking what you love/hate about girls.

- do you have a GF?
- you want to know what i like, ok, blablabla..

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