Post: #1

As I've been hitting up my city's nightclubs, I'm getting 'cooler' and closer to being in the in-crowd in the scene. The crowd where everybody hot pretty much gets high & sleeps with everybody else.

I've grown pretty astute to girlcoding among groups of 9 & 10 girls to indicate acceptability of a guy to go be temporarily accepted by them. Subtle nods, eye-coding, routine lines, and girl-girl interruptions.

Last night, I saw this crossfit trainer I know very casually through mutual friends. He's part of the cool "in-crowd." I made some brief small talk with him. I wasn't completely warmed up and I was slightly off-state, but he was hanging out with 2 male friends and a female friend. one of the male friends - a type equivalent to my city's jersey shore type - took a look at me & actually nodded "no" visibly to Crossfit - the same exact girl-code that girls give one another to indicate a guy is "not worthy." I stuck around chatting for a little bit, and the guy-coding dude complimented me on my kicks (chucks) as he was wearing the same - I couldn't tell if this compliment was a tooling/troll-type or a test of some sort. I replied, "Yeah they're classic, cant get any better" - don't even know if that was the right response or not.

I was actually surprised as shit by this, I had never seen cool guys code one another with another guy, but then again I more than likely have been completely missing it. Is this shit common? Have you noticed this before among the in-crowd dudes?

Post: #2

Are you sure they weren't gay?

Post: #3

I think you are being overly self conscious. not every nod or gesture from one person to another in your group is about you.

Post: #4

(09-30-2012 07:24 PM)Some guy Wrote:  Are you sure they weren't gay?

Yeah, I know a couple girls the crossfit guy hooked up with. He was with a date too.

(09-30-2012 07:38 PM)plague Wrote:  I think you are being overly self conscious. not every nod or gesture from one person to another in your group is about you.

I do have a tendency to be paranoid sometimes, but this was pretty obvious. The affliction dude looked at me, then did the guy-code nod to crossfit guy.

Post: #5

Don't guys want to hang out with another guy who look like he can help them getting girls?

At a club, it doesn't matter who you are. If a guy sees you getting a type of a girl he wants, he will have a respect for you and would want to hangout with you.

I bet if they see you pulling girls, they will want to talk to you.

It sucks people change their views on you based on girls you have.

But that's how club is?