Post: #26

Scheduled a meetup with a sort of marginal girl (around my upper limit for chubby) from OKC. I also made a Fetlife account and stumbled onto her FL profile. She doesn't have any face pics, but it's the same username and the info all syncs up. She's evidently pretty plugged into the local community, which could be useful, but...ew.

Post: #27

A piece of gold from the site.


   
Her daddy is trans. I'm thinking what we will see in 10 or 20 years. Maybe something like
"Half ton women who waaaaaalk!"

I think I delete this image after a few days (might be considered private).

Post: #28

Not too great for mass/cold approach, in fact the site will time you out for 24 hours or something if you send too many messages and friend requests in a short time period. However, the "events" section is where you should focus your energy. Find some events/meetups/happy hours/ "munches" (people just getting together and eating at a restaurant) near you and go meet some fellow kinksters. The quality overall isn't great but there are definitely gems in the rough to be found.

Post: #29

Have pulled 3 girls now total from here, and while there's definitely a cap on quality, there certainly are some gems like LastKing said. These are women who felt the need to post themselves on a website dedicated to kink, so in my experience there's always something a little off with their personalities, but that doesn't mean a handful can't be hot. There are a lot of fatties, but then again, it's a form on online dating - there will always be a lot of fatties to wade through.

Take the bdsmtest.org test and paste the results in your bio. (Hopefully 'Dominant' is near the top)
Make your bio something super generic about how you're kinky and confident yet respectful.

One of the girls I met showed me her inbox - it was all "Dom" guys messaging her degrading shit. We've all been with a girl we met online and hit it off with who showed us her inbox and blew our mind with both the a.) volume of messages and b.) frequent vulgarity. Since this is a fetish/kink/sex site, just imagine all of that on absolute steroids. Being "normal" in your opening message is more qualifying-as-normal on Fet than it would be on any other site.

This could just be the hand I was dealt: While the girls I met WERE kinky, and had a variety of wild interests, when we had sex it was still relatively vanilla. That is to say, these girls really are totally content with mostly vanilla sex, despite being on a Kink site. Basically, you don't need to construct a dungeon in advance of having a FetLife date over. Your bedroom and typical bang routine should do fine.

Post: #30

In some ways the site is ahead of the curve for the rest of society. Follow Fetlife if you want to see what strange sexual practice will be on the horizon in a few years. For instance, it was the first place I encountered the term "Cis-woman" (and BTW, this was the point I decided the insane were in control of the asylum).
From what I read, there is an infiltration into groups for women on Fetlife by MTF trannies. The trannies have caused two responses: 1) The use of the term "female identified" to get around the term "women only" and, since this means any dude who wants to hit on chicks can go inside so long as he puts on a dress, 2) gatekeepers who patrol the forum and kick out trolls who aren't "real".
What's bizarre is the qualifications the gatekeepers use. They look up the profile of suspected trolls and see if they are in groups which don't support their agenda. They also try to profile "cross dressers". Go figure.