Post: #1

For years I've noticed that young people from Asian countries who are living in the United States often engage in social activities or other activities in male/female trios: two men and a woman, or two women and a man. I've always assumed that the purpose of that is so that they can enjoy the energy of a mixed-sex group while keeping sexual tension under control: while a man and a woman going out to do things together might feel constant tension as to whether or not they ought to form a romantic couple, and two men and two women might feel tension about whether they ought to form two romantic couples, in a male/female trio, at least one of the two men, or one of the two women, will almost always tend to cockblock or twatblock the other two group members. One thing that's mysterious to me is how much conscious acknowledgement there is in the formation of these groups: for example, if, say, an Asian male chemical engineering grad student says to an Asian female electrical engineering grad student, "I'm almost out of star anise; would you like to go Grand Mart with me to get some more?", will the two of them hold off on actually doing that until they can find a third wheel?

Has anyone here ever successfully opened and isolated with one of these trios; and if you did, did it lead to a bang? And were there any awkward consequences afterwards, for you or for her?

The only time I ever opened one of these trios, I was naked, at Gunnison Beach in New Jersey. This mainland-Chinese trio of two women and a man, all business students at some nearby college or university, had shown up at around 5:30 on a Saturday, as the regular beach crowd was starting to thin out, and they were sitting chatting on the beach wearing bathing suits. Obviously they'd somehow heard about the Gunnison Beach scene and were interested in checking it out, without actually participating. I figured that some actual social contact with a naked person would be good for them and good for the beach, and in the best-case scenario, maybe one or more of them might actually get naked themselves. I introduced myself to them, using as an excuse the true fact that sweat was making sunscreen run into my eyes and stinging them, and I wanted to borrow a tissue. I ended up having a nice hour-long chat with them, and they seemed totally cool with the situation, not offended at all. As I talked with them, I could see that one of the women was a little less inhibited than the other, and looking back I think I should have tried to prod her a little bit into taking her suit off, and then, if she'd done it, into going for a swim with me--and then who knows what that might have led to. But nude beaches and opening sets were pretty new territory for me at the time, and so I was cautious.

I really need to beef up my Mandarin and then try to open some Chinese male/female trios using conversation practice as an excuse, both here in the Washington area and next summer at Gunnison.

Post: #2

Depending on whether the Asian guy in the group is a beta orbiter or an AMOG. It is actually easier if it was two guys and one girl because the guys will usually be orbiters and will just stand there while you chatting up their lady. If it is one guy two girls, the guy might be an AMOG and may cockblock you if you don't engage him. And a lot of times the trio might have some triangle dynamic going on (both girls are fighting for the guy). Thankfully, it is very easy to tell if an Asian is an orbiter or an AMOG.

Personally I would just stick with single set. Even if you get the number, after you leave, the guy will talk shit about you (probably will use the word "creep) if he didn't have the balls to straight out cockblock you before.

Post: #3

Interesting insights. I take it that by "single set[s]" you mean "women who are by themselves".

Post: #4

I never understand why people would day game approach a woman who isn't by herself. It is very hard if not impossible to isolate during the day. If you only try to close one of them, the other persons in the group will be cockblockers after you left.

Post: #5

(09-25-2012 12:22 AM)anewtypedude Wrote:  I never understand why people would day game approach a woman who isn't by herself. It is very hard if not impossible to isolate during the day. If you only try to close one of them, the other persons in the group will be cockblockers after you left.

Agree. I don't see the point on wasting your time in a two set when there are so many other girls walking around alone (in a high traffic area). You could try it with a wing, but the results will be shitty.

Post: #6

Part of the reason these trios, specifically the two-women-one-man type, fascinate me is that there's a little voice inside me wondering, "What if the guy would really like to get together with one of the women, but his shyness, and his acquiescence to the going-out-in-trios principle, is preventing him from doing it? If I could captivate one of the women, he'd feel freer to go after the other, and everybody would be happy". Kind of like the typical situation where two couples going on a double date are in a car, the bolder couple starts making out, and then the other couple starts making out also just because making out has now become the thing to do.

Based on what the preceding posters have said, maybe this notion of mine is unrealistic, though I'd be interested to hear from anybody who thinks otherwise.

I am going to be opening swimsuited Chinese trios at Gunnison Beach next summer, though, using my beefed-up Mandarin. Regardless of what the outcome for me might be, if those trios are going to show up at Gunnison wearing swimsuits, they deserve it.

Post: #7

The girl I'm banging right now was in this situation when I met her. None of them were Asian. I got the ugly one's number on a stupid non-sexual pretext, and then asked her for the cute one's number.

That said, I don't think what you say of Asians is specifically true. What I *do* see of Asians is them going in these big sexually mixed groups to bars, they dominate one small part of the venue like a couch and then they don't really mix with anyone else.

Post: #8

(09-25-2012 08:25 PM)basilransom Wrote:  I don't think what you say of Asians is specifically true.

Maybe they're not doing it in your neck of the woods, but here in the Mid-Atlantic and Northeast regions it's such a prevalent phenomenon that it's impossible to miss. I've seen it thousands of times over the years.

Keep in mind that I'm talking about young people from Asian countries who've come to the United States in their teens or twenties, and haven't fully absorbed the language and culture. Young people of Asian ancestry who are culturally American (whether they're American citizens or not) don't seem to form these trios to any significant extent.