Post: #1

Fellow RVFers, I've been thinking about where I am right now and what I've become regarding game,relationships, sex and all goes in between.

I am sure many if not all here get bored pretty fast after banging a girl multiple times. No surprise there, the thrill of the catch is gone, its just banging to get something out of your system. It does not matter if the girl is a nice girl, and good LTR material.

Looking back to the few serious/semi-serious relationships I've had in the past, I see that the main reason I end the relationship is because of that, I just get bored, but not because I choose to, really.

Because of this, an interesting thought came to my mind. Is the key to a good long LTR, less frequent but mind-blowing sex?. Keep in mind that I am not talking about a monogamous relationship, just an answer to "solve" (?) this "issue"(?) I mentioned before.

For example, its exciting when you are gaming a girl you haven't banged. The thrill of the hunt is exciting, as well as when you finally get what you want. It is still exciting when you keep enjoying from the reward you already obtained, but then, not so much...

Now, what would happen if you were with a girl (post-bang), you want to keep having sex, but sometimes she does not put out, and sometimes she does (and when she does, the sex is mind-blowing), its annoying, yet effective? Would the thrill of the hunt be something that repeats itself but still without the knowledge of when you are capturing your prey again? Would that keep and hold your interest?

Of course, as in all things in life no matter how long they have lasted, everything reaches and end. Also remember that this thought has nothing to do with being faithful.

What are your thoughts?

Post: #2

The key is great sex, chemistry, and keeping things fun and interesting. In my opinion the best indicator a relationship is going well is a higher frequency of quality sex and experimentation. If it's just becoming monotonous, vanilla sex (even if it's everyday) that's not a good sign. Time to spice it up.

Post: #3

Studies show that men in committed, monogamous relationships have dips in their testosterone and libido. Seems we just aren't built for shit. The things that shoot their libidos back up are divorce/break ups & sex with other women, even if the other chick isn't as attractive as the one you're with.

I believe that the key is spicing it up with other women, which assures that you're hormonally equipped to keep the sex good in the LTR.
By that, I don't mean lying to women. I consider that bitch-ass-ness. I mean designing a relationship where she participates in your relationships with other women. Don't accept the relationship model that undermines your sexual desires. The sex will stay fresh.

Post: #4

NO. Decidedly FUCK NO. Denying me sex gets you shown the door. The only acceptable situation for an LTR is sex on demand. Any lizard who uses sex as a weapon is dead to me.

Having said that, if she's hot, totally in love and gives you no shit whatsoever, you may consider it. However, bitches are not wired that way and they will eventually do something to piss you off.

Can you tell I'm a little bitter?

Post: #5

(09-12-2012 10:42 PM)Mon Wrote:  I believe that the key is spicing it up with other women, which assures that you're hormonally equipped to keep the sex good in the LTR.
By that, I don't mean lying to women. I consider that bitch-ass-ness. I mean designing a relationship where she participates in your relationships with other women. Don't accept the relationship model that undermines your sexual desires. The sex will stay fresh.

I think I believe so too. But does it have to be "what mama don't know won't hurt her" kind of way? I've never really been in an Open relationship, which is very different from a Fuck Buddy relationship. Anyone care to share their experience?

(09-12-2012 11:07 PM)Sphere Wrote:  NO. Decidedly FUCK NO. Denying me sex gets you shown the door. The only acceptable situation for an LTR is sex on demand. Any lizard who uses sex as a weapon is dead to me.

Having said that, if she's hot, totally in love and gives you no shit whatsoever, you may consider it. However, bitches are not wired that way and they will eventually do something to piss you off.

Can you tell I'm a little bitter?

I feel you. However, I feel that any girl no matter how hot, feminine, sweet, etc. after time of easily putting out everytime for sex is going to make you bored quickly, which leads to "moving on". Hence why I mention the key to a "good" relationship, which I isn't it something that both parties need to work on and put effort? At least thats what they say...

Post: #6

I'll offer another angle for those of you in *really* long LTR: less sex for her. Make *yourself* scarce. It's fun to turn the tables this way, of course assuming your LTR has a sexual desire for you, but good application of LTR game can help here.

Post: #7

(09-12-2012 11:07 PM)Sphere Wrote:  NO. Decidedly FUCK NO. Denying me sex gets you shown the door. The only acceptable situation for an LTR is sex on demand. Any lizard who uses sex as a weapon is dead to me.

Having said that, if she's hot, totally in love and gives you no shit whatsoever, you may consider it. However, bitches are not wired that way and they will eventually do something to piss you off.

Can you tell I'm a little bitter?

And there it is.

Post: #8

Being in an LTR I can say that if you slip up occasionally on being dominant, maintaining frame and the like, it isn't all that big of a deal as long as you consistently ravage and dominate her sexually.

Show her who's boss sexually and she'll eat out of your hand no matter what you do, within reason.

The only benefit to occasionally having less sex, as I see it, is that she may wonder if you're getting it elsewhere. At least subconsciously, this might spark her to ramp up her game and the jealousy might lead to some hot sex. Other than that, I agree that spicing it up is key.

I also can say that having some action on the side does wonders for keeping things fresh.

Post: #9

I think its like this.. If you love a certain flavor of cheesecake and if you have it every day lunch & dinner, some day you will get tired of that flavor.. over done. You will want a different flavor.

I dont think there is a thumb rule here, but "familiarity breeds contempt" applies here. For every hot girl/ super model out there, there is some guy who's tired of doing her.

Some hunger & some anticipation can make a meal more appetizing. Too much and you burn through it.

Post: #10

xmlenigma Wrote:Some hunger & some anticipation can make a meal more appetizing. Too much and you burn through it.

I second Gmac. Throw some kink in the mix and the sex stays fresh for ten times longer. Most (all?) girls can be persuaded into light bondage, and so many are open to so much more, you might as well screen out vanilla girls if your aim is interesting relationships. Read "My Secret Garden" if you don't believe women are as freaky as men.

Also FretDancer, have you considered cutting back on porn?

Post: #11

I'd say she only stays an LTR if the sex isn't boring. But I'm more in it for the sex than "thrill of the hunt."