Post: #1

Ive recently acquired a new girlfriend which i might add, is at least very attractive to me, basicly a bomb shell. We met 2 weeks ago and last weekend i took her to bed to do what any man would have done in my shoes.

Then she comes up with this "I am a virgin" bullshit, which troubles me greatly..

How can a 19y old hottie, who knows how to kiss and who claims to have had a boyfriend in her hometown for 1 year but she didn't really feel anything for him, be a virgin.

I mean ive had my share of women in my life, this is my 5th virgin, and she by no means behaves, acts or talks like a virgin. She knows how to be sleezy, she doesn't seem naive at all, and during sex it didn't even hurt her 1 bit, i just saw blood on the condom but apart from that nothing which could convince me that she in fact was one.

She did lay there like a "starfish" if you know what i mean. Girls who don't do shit in bed are "starfish to me".

I told her when we began dating that im more into experienced women rather than any of that good girl crap. On which she didn't comment at all.

Why would they lie about this shit? Is it supposed to make them appear special? Is it supposed to make me feel responsible...

I don't trust her 1 bit...shes a great girl and to be honest i need a break from picking up chicks left and right from clubs because i really need to be studying and working on my shit.

I don't really care, i will continue dating her...but this lying bs gets on my nerves. She actually would of been fine by just saying nothing..

im like a detective, when my bullshit radar doesn't puzzle all the crap it gets, it just keeps calculating what the truth might be...its a gift and a curse..

What can i do, to get the truth out of her, any tests? anything?

She should have just said nothing, and that would have been the end of it..

I just hate it, when im taken for a fool.

Post: #2

if she actually was virgin then what's the problem? just told you the truth in bed situation, don't read too much into it

Post: #3

Who cares dude? As long as you're banging her on the regular, I wouldn't care.

Post: #4

You should tell her that if this is the case you are going to have to teach her some shit. #1 is don't be a starfish. Make her do some of that sleezy shit she does in the bedroom.

Post: #5

Fuck her if she's not a virgin.

Fuck her if she is.

What is the problem here?

When you start talking about shit like 'trust' it makes you sound like you're getting a little too emotionally involved. Why are you bothered about 'trust' in the relationship? At the end of the day, does she have keys to your place? Your car? Does she know some deep, dark secret about you that you never want getting out?

If the answer to all of those was 'no', then I don't understand how trust would enter the equation here. If you want to know if she's faking/faked being a virgin, then ask her upfront or fuck with her a little. But bear in mind that, as soon as you over-extend yourself and start acting too suspicious, she's going to think you're crazy and back off.

She's probably saying she is a virgin as either an excuse for being shit in bed, or that she doesn't want to come off as slutty (?).

Finally, if you've popped that cherry then she's not a virgin now - so all of this is completely irrelevant to the current scenario.

Post: #6

Quote:Girls who don't do shit in bed are "starfish to me".

We call them a sack of potatoes where I come from

Post: #7

It can't be a shit test, I'd just roll with it, and maybe try to find out on your own.

Post: #8

I think we're so used to chicks fucking by the time their 15, we don't allow ourselves to believe someone could be a virgin at 19. It's possible, and by your description of her, she might actually be one. You can learn to "act" sleazy or slutty. She could just be mimicking what she's seen or read. You can become a good kisser without fucking, especially if that's ALL you're supposedly doing. Also, not all women have naturally intact hymens, and not everyone has great pain or a lot of bleeding. I agree with the other guys here - you're fucking her, so it's all good. Start teaching her to do what YOU like, and quit starfishin'.

Post: #9

Girls lie about sex constantly-get used to it.

Post: #10

(08-13-2012 02:09 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

Quote:Girls who don't do shit in bed are "starfish to me".

We call them a sack of potatoes where I come from

I was thinking he meant her "brown" starfish. Or, if you prefer, balloon knot.

Post: #11

Lying about being a virgin or how many guys she's been with is how a women keeps her "value".
That's also why women slut around in different circles so there is less chance of the guys knowing each other.
It feeds into the male fantasy of marrying a virgin.

Post: #12

I actually feel this guys pain. If a girl tells me she is a virgin i dont care, but when she tells me about her past which i dont give a shit about and then she tells me about a boyfriend who she dated for a period of 2-3 years that didn't do anything its either 99% she is thinking im stupid as fuck or the 1% her boyfriend was a super beta.

Post: #13

I understand where you're coming from. This happened to me before. Basically this girl likes you and is trying to look more pristine and good in order to keep you. I would'nt say she's a slut, more in between, and she thinks she found a good guy so she pretends she's a virgin.

And you know why she does all that bs? Because it works. All women know the more guys passed on her, the least interest you have in staying with them long term.