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I've been living abroad as a single guy all over the world for well over a decade now.

Here are some lessons and hard truths that I've discovered over time.

1. At this point in my life, there's nothing that turns me off more than a girl flapping her mouth with an American, English, or Australian accent. Yes, there was a time when an American co-ed, a posh English bird, or an Australian beach babe would get me hard and make me go after it. No more. And it's not just me either. I know plenty of men, who had a lot of success back home, realize they're much more likely to find a sexier, more feminine woman abroad elsewhere.

2. What makes guys settle down isn't the desire to fall in love, it's the effort it takes to go out and hunt. In other words, guys simply get tired of hitting the bars, the clubs, the pavement all the time, just to be able to add to his pussy rotation. Let's face it. We all get lazy as we get older. Hustling like a young guy is something you want to do in spot instances, not all the time. Conversely, this means that the stronger your Jedi hold on the non-effort based flow of easy pussy that passes through your life, the less likely it is that you'll be tempted to couple-up long-term.

3. Most women, esp. from developing countries, have their eyes on the prize. The prize is usually relationship security with a guy who can provide a nice pad, sufficient dough, and a lifestyle they wouldn't have access to otherwise. Sure, they need to be able to laugh and talk with the guy as well, but don't be fooled. You're not all that special despite what you may think about your looks, your body, or your game.

4. This segways into my next point. My greatest gains in knocking out high-quality snatch on a semi-regular basis came from moving to a Post-Soviet country and significantly increasing my monthly expenses. Having a beautiful house in a prestigious part of town was the killer. Once they saw where and how I lived, it was as if their nesting instincts were triggered and mating season was on.

5. Being able to give a girl powerful orgasms keeps them hooked. This goes both ways, as I've come to realize that sex with select women is simply superior to sex with most women. And it doesn't come down entirely to looks. It's all about chemistry and what gets you off. There's one sexy Polish girl that I saw on and off for well over 5 years. I don't think we had one shag session when she didn't at least cum 2-3 times. Needless to say, she was *always* willing to spread it for me on demand. I'd go over to her place at 3am in the morning, stinking of whiskey, bang on her window, and she'd open the door and let me drill her while she was half asleep.

6. Expat circles and Couch Surfing have the least attractive women around. It never ceases to amaze me how social circles that are composed of mostly expats, or even worse, the "Couch Surfing" crew, are composed of overweight, asymmetrical-faced women regardless of what country you're in. The only exception to this are the girlfriends of expat guys, which is usually the reason why they guys are in the country in the first place. Having said that, you need the companionship of other guys in your situation while abroad, for your own sanity. So don't burn any bridges and maintain these ties.

7. There's always somewhere else. There's always another country, another town, where you hear rumors and whispers that it's the land of ever-lasting poontang. Where the women are young, hot, and all over you like swarming piranhas in the Amazon. These stories are usually false. But sometimes, just sometimes, you will find a place that fits your looks, your personality, and your stage in life. When you do, cherish that time, because it's fleeting and may not come around again. To quote a cliche, live in the moment instead of always trying to look for the next best thing.

8. Money makes it all go around. Guys who can't even afford to travel, much less expat it for a decade, know this more keenly than most. Keep your eyes fixed firmly on your cash supply and monthly income. You must keep this going. You must keep this growing, because chances are, whatever paradise you stumbled onto will get more expensive, not less, over time. You do not want to have to compete for jobs with the locals. You do not want to be on a local salary in a developing country. You do not want to be beholden to a supervisor who can decide to fire or transfer you and end the bachelor-optimized life you've set up abroad.

9. Having a kid is not the end of the world. Sure, it changes your life. But a variety of experiences, not things, make a life memorable. It brings responsibility and a certain amount of life perspective to have to worry about someone other than yourself for a change. My only advice on this would be research carefully how child support gets calculated in the country you have legal residence in. And if you're going to knock a girl up, make sure it's someone attractive and who's going to be a good mom.

10. Keep balance in your life. Chasing young pussy may be what makes us feel alive as men. But I can guarantee you it will fuck you up over time if that's your only hobby. Your health, your intellect, and a greater purpose in life are all important to keep you on a sustainable path instead of regressing into destructive adolescence. Take it from me. When I lost my health due to late nights, alcohol, and lack of daily cardio, the last thing I wanted to do was shag women. Doing the same boring shit for work every day on the other hand nearly drove me to numbing depression. It's the constant creative striving for unexplored horizons that makes men who we are.

11. Enough with the generalities. If you want to know where I think the pussy hotspots are of the moment, here they are: Philippines, Vietnam, China, South Korea, Japan, Poland, Estonia, Finland, Moldova, Romania, Lithuania, Far Eastern Russia, Brazil & South American interior (non-capital cities). Yes, it's going to depend on a lot of other factors. As an example, I just don't have that much luck with Russian or Brazilian women. In fact, I find most Russian women to be a turn off with their hot-cold attitudes. But another guy I know, who happens to be 6'6" tall and bald, slays these women like no one else I've ever seen. Certain archetypes trigger primal urges in women, so if you find a nationality that finds you to be eye candy, recognize that and enjoy it.

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1st of the month. Indian Race troll is on it again.

j/k great first post.

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Quote:11. Enough with the generalities. If you want to know where I think the pussy hotspots are of the moment, here they are: Philippines, Vietnam, China, South Korea, Japan, Poland, Estonia, Finland, Moldova, Romania, Lithuania, Far Eastern Russia, Brazil & South American interior (non-capital cities).

Thank you for narrowing it down to 1/3 of the world's population.

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(08-01-2012 02:17 AM)temujin Wrote:  But another guy I know, who happens to be 6'6" tall and bald, slays these women like no one else I've ever seen.

Hmmmm

Post: #5

Nice first post. Nothing astounding but you boil it down succinctly and it sounds like you've walked the walk.


The part about the 6'6" dude makes me skeptical though...

Post: #6

What about the 6'6" part makes you skeptical? I think it's common knowledge that Russian women like tall, powerfully-built guys (or better yet, rich, powerful guys) I'm neither by the way.

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The part where they just banned a guy who constantly bragged about his success in EE and Russia who was 6'6

Post: #8

Awesome. Alot resonated.. how old are you btw?

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(08-01-2012 05:00 AM)RichieP Wrote:  Awesome. Alot resonated.. how old are you btw?

Thanks. I'm late 30s. You?

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I heard that China is undergoing some huge sexual revolution. Apparently even twelve year olds are getting it on with their classmates. It's basically our rock 'n roll era times a billion.
Good post too. I hope the world does not Americanize too much before I get out and see it.

Post: #11

Good post. Welcome to the forum.

You wrote that you thought Far Eastern Russia was a good place,mind sharing your experiences in that area of the world? Not a part of Russia too many of us have been to.

Post: #12

Great first post. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.

I think your list really taps into a lot of discussions we have here. For example, number 7 always comes up, our neverending search for poosy paradise.

Post: #13

Thanks guys.

Vorkuta, the place you may want to check out is Krasnoyarsk Krai.

Unfortunately, this is not based on personal experience. It's on the words of a friend, but I have no reason to doubt the credibility of his stories. He speaks fluent Russian and set up shop there for a while, so obviously, that's going to make a big difference. He's not 6'6" though. Hah.

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Excellent post, bookmarked.

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Would you say Southeast Asia in general is probably a pretty good bet if you like that type of girl? I just notice the glaring omission of Thailand from that list and was wondering if that was intentional (that you had good information indicating that it's actually not that good a locale) or if you simply didn't know anything about it one way or the other so you didn't include it.

I should explain my interest in Thailand (no, not looking for hookers, though it would be a great locale if you were from what I hear): I hear Thai girls are easy and very sexually open, like Westerners, especially Westerners who look like me (white, blond, blue eyes, 6'2", good shape, late 20s), and I have a talent for learning languages so I was thinking of learning Thai here soon. It's also cheap there, a big plus. I just would like a place I can hit up in the next year or so where I can just go there for a month or two and clean up and it'll be quick, easy, and cheap. I figured that as someone who looks like I do and who would be able to speak the local language, Thailand would be a great choice for that. I would have picked the Philippines but Thai girls are definitely much better looking from what I've seen and heard.

I really would think that, under my circumstances, I ought to be able to go there and bang a dozen or so girls in a month or two, no problem. What do you think? Anyone else's opinion who has experience with Thailand is also certainly welcome.

Oh, and great post and thanks, that was really solid.

Post: #16

awesome post.

Post: #17

I wished all posts had the calibre of this one. +1

what country did you spend most time in? my guess is Poland

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(08-01-2012 01:39 PM)Shaman Wrote:  Would you say Southeast Asia in general is probably a pretty good bet if you like that type of girl? I just notice the glaring omission of Thailand from that list and was wondering if that was intentional (that you had good information indicating that it's actually not that good a locale) or if you simply didn't know anything about it one way or the other so you didn't include it.

I should explain my interest in Thailand (no, not looking for hookers, though it would be a great locale if you were from what I hear): I hear Thai girls are easy and very sexually open, like Westerners, especially Westerners who look like me (white, blond, blue eyes, 6'2", good shape, late 20s), and I have a talent for learning languages so I was thinking of learning Thai here soon. It's also cheap there, a big plus. I just would like a place I can hit up in the next year or so where I can just go there for a month or two and clean up and it'll be quick, easy, and cheap. I figured that as someone who looks like I do and who would be able to speak the local language, Thailand would be a great choice for that. I would have picked the Philippines but Thai girls are definitely much better looking from what I've seen and heard.

I really would think that, under my circumstances, I ought to be able to go there and bang a dozen or so girls in a month or two, no problem. What do you think? Anyone else's opinion who has experience with Thailand is also certainly welcome.

Oh, and great post and thanks, that was really solid.

You can definitely smash a dozen girls in 1-2 months. Dating sites are the best bet if you want to meet good girls interested in foreigners and avoid the hookers, most of these girls will fuck on the first night you meet too.

Post: #19

hey Shaman,

I don't have a particular fetish for Asian women, so there are probably people who can better address this.

I am pasting something a friend of mine once wrote. Keep in mind, he's a white guy in his late 40s and someone who doesn't really fit the Don Juan profile, so you can probably expect to improve upon his experiences.

Quote:Most human beings do not create dreams independently. Most of us lack information as to where we should be heading in order to attain maximum satisfaction, and we form goals that are often dictated by society- our parents, fellow students, relatives and friends. We want to be doctors or lawyers, or actors because these are respected professions according to what people around us tell us. We want to be respected. So, we choose one of them as "our goal". However, most often than not, we were nudged into such goal by nothing but peer pressure, and advice from people who know, or think they know, better than we do.

The same goes for countries. Few people venture into unknown/uncharted territories. Most of us want to avoid countries that are seen as "bad", unprestigious or unknown. That is why we want to go where everybody else goes, someplace that is classy and "in", so that next time when we are at a dinner table, and are telling our friends that we had been living in such and such a place, they will say "Wow"! If we work in Rome, or Hong Kong, or New York, or even Dubai, it is better than being in Bratislava or Asuncion,or Libreville; or so we think. No one will say "wow" if we go there. Plus, human nature prefers something known to something unknown, so we follow the crowd. By doing that, we often end up in expensive places where job competition is high and where people are unfriendly. Or worse, we find ourselves living in cultures where we do not quite feel comfortable with the people, hence, our stay there becomes miserable.

A friend of mine is an old-time resident of Thailand, and, for years he had been convincing me to move there, find work and live a happy life ever after. He sang praises to the country, the friendliness of its people, the beauty of the women and the exquisiteness of the Thai culture in general. So, since he was one of my best friends, one day I decided to take the plunge, and obtained a job in the Kingdom. It proved to be a disaster. I am very good at languages and I became fluent in Thai within a year. I studied the culture thoroughly, but, in spite of all my efforts, I could not help feeling that I made a severe mistake by moving there. Something about Thailand and "me" simply did not click. My personality, my character, my whole set of values were completely different. Thais like quiet and discreet people. I am gregarious and talkative. Thai people like neat and polite people. I am by nature sloppy and straight-to-the-point. Thai people do not like intellectual discussions, but prefer to speak "ngai-ngai" -just chit-chat. Knowledge is a personal thing to them. I am very much into knowledge, expression, conversation, etc. They are not. Thai people like people who dress in nice clothes; I do not dress in nice clothes. I can adjust to the culture but it implies changing myself too much. It goes against everything that I am. Hence, they did not like me so much. And the feeling was mutual.

In other words, it was a complete mismatch. Thailand and I simply did not connect. This was when I realized that the Thai dream was my friend's dream, and what was good for him was simply not good for me. Duh! One man's meat is another man's poison, as they say. No matter how hard I tried to live a normal life in Thailand, the culture was as alien to me as it could ever get. And it was not just the East/ West thing. I lived in some very traditional areas of Japan and I seemed to relate to people quite well. With Thailand it was just total incompatibility.

When I arrived in the Philippines some years later, a country that is not on many a travelers' list, I felt like I was a hand, and the Philippines was a glove. I fit right in. The way people behaved, talked, acted with friends, the way they sang songs and carried on discussions was very similar to the way I did the same things. Filipinos dressed modestly, so did I. They were intellectual, so was I. They enjoyed someone who was a joker, a talkative and gregarious person. Unlike in Thailand where they would always tell me to "shut up", the Filipinos wanted me to talk more and would sit there and listen to me for hours. They liked me and I liked them. I was like a star to them. Or so I felt. Whereas in Thailand I always felt that I was somewhat of a nuisance.

When I invited my Thailand-based friend to come over to the Philippines to visit the country, he did just that, but he felt out of place. He and the Filipinos simply did not "chime". Something was missing for him there. He became distressed and ended up going back to Thailand. So, while Thailand was good for him, I wound up living in the Philippines on and off for 15 years after that. We ( the Philippines and I) simply 'clicked'. Thailand and I, on the other had, did not click at all.

The moral of the story is this: just because a country is in the news and everybody including your best friend is singing praises to it, it does not mean that it will necessarily be a good country for 'YOU'. Go there and see how you and the people there "jive". It may or may not be a good match. Ask yourself how you feel there after a few weeks or so. There is that certain something that you will feel. It is kind of like ' love'. An affinity.You will feel the same when you meet a person of the opposite sex that you are considering falling in love with. Either there is chemistry or there isn't. If you force it, it will be pure misery, even if your parents think it's a match made in heaven.

Do not live another man's dream by blindly following him to a country X. You may adopt bits and pieces of the dream, maybe, his general approach to making such international dreams come true, his pioneer spirit and courage to move to another place, but it will have to be tweaked somewhat to fit your own requirements, including going to a whole different country to live, if necessary. What may be a good place for him, may turn out to be a total hell for you. Also, try and venture a bit off the beaten path. A job in Lithuania rather than in the Czech republic, for example, may be the best thing that has ever happened to you. Everybody was going to Prague, but you found out that Vilnius was where you belonged more. Some of your friends grimaced " Where is that?" , but you did not shrink away from the place because it was not as glamorous as moving to Prague. Later, you may learn that it may have been the best decision you have ever made.

Dare to be different. Follow your dreams even if you do not know 'where' they will come true. It is still better than blindly following another person's itinerary.

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Great post. What your friend wrote about Thailand as well. Seriously good shit here. Thanks for posting it and welcome to the forum.

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(08-01-2012 02:17 AM)temujin Wrote:  11. Enough with the generalities. If you want to know where I think the pussy hotspots are of the moment, here they are: Philippines, Vietnam, China, South Korea, Japan, Poland, Estonia, Finland, Moldova, Romania, Lithuania, Far Eastern Russia, Brazil & South American interior (non-capital cities). Yes, it's going to depend on a lot of other factors. As an example, I just don't have that much luck with Russian or Brazilian women. In fact, I find most Russian women to be a turn off with their hot-cold attitudes. But another guy I know, who happens to be 6'6" tall and bald, slays these women like no one else I've ever seen. Certain archetypes trigger primal urges in women, so if you find a nationality that finds you to be eye candy, recognize that and enjoy it.

Thanks for a wonderful post! I have spent a lot of time over the last 6 years, but only in a few countries. I too, have little interest in the English speaking women of the West. The places that you recommended as good are all over the place. Do they have something in common? What does the place have to have to make it work for you? Which of these places have you actually lived in?

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(08-01-2012 02:32 PM)temujin Wrote:  hey Shaman,

I don't have a particular fetish for Asian women, so there are probably people who can better address this.

I am pasting something a friend of mine once wrote. Keep in mind, he's a white guy in his late 40s and someone who doesn't really fit the Don Juan profile, so you can probably expect to improve upon his experiences.

Quote:.

When I arrived in the Philippines some years later, a country that is not on many a travelers' list, I felt like I was a hand, and the Philippines was a glove. I fit right in. The way people behaved, talked, acted with friends, the way they sang songs and carried on discussions was very similar to the way I did the same things. Filipinos dressed modestly, so did I. They were intellectual, so was I. They enjoyed someone who was a joker, a talkative and gregarious person. Unlike in Thailand where they would always tell me to "shut up", the Filipinos wanted me to talk more and would sit there and listen to me for hours. They liked me and I liked them. I was like a star to them. Or so I felt. Whereas in Thailand I always felt that I was somewhat of a nuisance.

Dare to be different. Follow your dreams even if you do not know 'where' they will come true. It is still better than blindly following another person's itinerary.

I’ve known people who like the Philippines and don’t like Thailand, and visa versa. I don’t think that I’ve met any intellectual Filipinos, but they are friendly though! I’ve been to both places and like them both. People click with certain countries. I’m lucky, that I click in several countries. Another, very nice post!

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hey Brian,

These are all countries where I think a decent looking guy who approaches women can get multiple girlfriends on his rotation without too much difficulty, limited only by his time and diligence. Some of them will be harder than others, due to the language factor (like Brazil, Russia, etc).

I've lived in a handful of these places but once you have a home base set up, it's not hard to do extended stays all throughout a region.

I may actually go on a long road trip by car with a friend soon although I'm not sure I want to be in a car for this long.

The plan is to travel from Sweden to Finland to Estonia to Latvia to Lithuania to Poland to Belarus/Ukraine to Romania. Should have more to report from the road including little write-ups and photos that I'll be posting on my blog, even if I end up doing a shorter version via airplane.

If you're interested in the link my personal blog, just send me a PM.

Post: #24

Yeah really like what your friend wrote about Thailand/ Philippines.

I have a similar experience here in Thailand. I love it for many reasons - food, safety, cheapness, cool expats, ease of girls - but the superficiality and aversion to depth/intellectual convo is a definite downside. I have not found one Thai, even lawyers and physics graduates, business owners etc, really willing to converse with me, really discuss something, etc. And girls, even educated ones, just dont want to "know" about anything, lol. It's all chit-chat and simple jokes and anything else seems to be intolerably tension-causing for them (not their fault of course, its conditioning). Interesting that he found the Philippines more intellectual. I suppose he's talking about in the context of working there amongst educated peers, etc?

Post: #25

Excellent post, Temujin.

I was wondering what exactly you were doing in these countries. Was it work related or more recreational? If it was the latter, what did you do to finance these trips? I would love to spend the next several years travelling through East and Southeast Asia, but I'm not sure how I would finance such a long trip. I suppose working as a language teacher would be an option, but are there better ways?