Post: #1

Went out solo last night to my favorite bar/grill. One of the waitresses, 28yrs old, a solid 8 got off work and sat at the bar a few seats away next to and old creepy guy (60yrs old). He immediately started talking to her all the while being real grabby on her arms and she was obviously not liking it. I laughed for just a second and she saw me laugh and smiled. Approaching is still difficult part of my beginner game but that was all I needed. I moved to the empty seat on the other side of her and opened her up with something along the lines of how she must love this bar if she stays in here and drinks after she just worked a shift.
She immediately thanks me for "the save" and we laugh about that. She's waiting for a friend so we chill and have good conversation for an hour or better, and then for another hour with her and her friend before they start talkin about leaving for another venue.

Very beginner here so I didn't want to seem like, "hey, invite me too!" needy bullshit, and didn't feel like the invite was coming so I acted like I had somewhere to be and paid my tab and took off after getting her number. I think she was into me a bit cuz she was asking plenty of questions and the conversation was ok. Lots of laughing and touching from her on my arms and that.

Suggestions on what to do next. Keep in mind, she works at my fav bar.

I feel like I should get her to a different place for drinks. So suggestions on restarting would be appreciated from you experienced guys

Post: #2

This isn't restarting. This is asking her to hang out.

Call or text to set up a date. I would call in this scenario.

Post: #3

the term "restart" refers to when a girl has failed to respond to your calls/texts or has flaked on a meeting with you

She hasn't done either, so restart analysis doesn't apply here

I would wait a few days, then try to exchange a few friendly texts with her. Then call to ask her to meet you for a drink at a place other than where she works

In the meantime keep approaching and don't invest any expectation in this girl

Post: #4

(07-07-2012 12:38 PM)Deadman Wrote:  Went out solo last night to my favorite bar/grill. One of the waitresses, 28yrs old, a solid 8 got off work and sat at the bar a few seats away next to and old creepy guy (60yrs old). He immediately started talking to her all the while being real grabby on her arms and she was obviously not liking it. I laughed for just a second and she saw me laugh and smiled. Approaching is still difficult part of my beginner game but that was all I needed. I moved to the empty seat on the other side of her and opened her up with something along the lines of how she must love this bar if she stays in here and drinks after she just worked a shift.
She immediately thanks me for "the save" and we laugh about that. She's waiting for a friend so we chill and have good conversation for an hour or better, and then for another hour with her and her friend before they start talkin about leaving for another venue.

Very beginner here so I didn't want to seem like, "hey, invite me too!" needy bullshit, and didn't feel like the invite was coming so I acted like I had somewhere to be and paid my tab and took off after getting her number. I think she was into me a bit cuz she was asking plenty of questions and the conversation was ok. Lots of laughing and touching from her on my arms and that.

Suggestions on what to do next. Keep in mind, she works at my fav bar.

I feel like I should get her to a different place for drinks. So suggestions on restarting would be appreciated from you experienced guys

There have been many times where a girl will obviously be into an interaction but for some reason (usually her having a friend there) won't outright invite you to the next venue. At this point you have to say fuck it and take charge of the situation and make sure you're really gauging her interest. Say something like, "Where you going? I was about to head home but maybe I'll join you." and gauge her response. Keep in mind, many girls are just as shy as guys are and they expect the guy to control the interactions. If she was touching your arms she probably wanted more and you could have pushed for that.

I would wait a solid week before seeing her and when you do, continue where you left off, "Hey there, miss me?" etc etc etc. Also girls at their place of work can be shy and require a few interactions before getting them out on a date. This has been my experience with servers and hostesses.

Post: #5

You should have taken control of the situation as thedude3737 said. You could have said "I know a better place over on x street and 34th, they make really strong drinks.

She would have said ok, or "no just meet us at Xbar". Then you show up 20 mins later because you had "to do something first". It'll give her enough time to be wondering if you'll show and then be happy when you do.

Suggest you go out on a weekday roughly a week from when you CALL her.