Post: #3101

Was in the book store today, with my daughters.
I had a voucher for books, so I was looking around.

A cute HB6 came in to the store, and asked one of the staff for help. She was looking for books on the stock market.

I was in the business section, when she came and started looking at books.
Me:"What are you looking for?"
HB6: "I'm looking for a book on the stock market".
Me: "Why? Do you want a career there?"
HB6: "No. I want to invest"
Me: "Not like that. You should do something different"
HB6 (intrigued): "What then?"
So I explained "Early retirement extreme" concept to her.
Light touching in the mean while and cold reading her

Me: "You are surprised that I understand you this deep"
HB6 (blushing slightly): "Yes"
Me: "You are the kind of person that needs some time for the information to sink in"
HB6 (caught in the headlight deer eyes): "Yes. You are correct"

However, since my daughters came and cockblocked me, several times, I sensed that I could not take the number.
Instead I gave her my business card and told her to call me.

Not putting my hopes up.

Post: #3102

So after a streak of blow outs, something to write about. Saw a blonde, not as hot as her but quite close. She was in a white jacket and tight fitting green trousers whilst sauntering down the street. Straight 7, if not more. Very nice body proportions.

She entered bookstore, so did I but didn't open until she left the store and did that on a street. She hooked well. Solid 10 minutes (or a bit more) conversation, fantastic eye-contact, she was soaking it up, kept her hand in mine for some good few seconds, touched her arm, took her hair in my hand asking if she was a real blonde or brunette. Told her she looked like a grasshopper in her green trousers. She was in no rush, the problem was she wasn't asking me anything and had to lead it at all times in terms of conversation. She told me she liked criminal novels, teased her she dressed like a good girl in her white jacket but having a dark, bad side, liking criminals.

She did enjoy the conversation, and laughed but I had a feeling it wasn't fully 'on'. But told her we should get coffee, she replied 'some day', then I told her to give me her number and... she didn't remember it but proactively got her phone out which... as she shown on the screen, had dead battery. So I wrote down my no in her diary. I'm not holding my breath but was satisfied with my approach and ensued conversation.

And that was all for today - there are so few girls on the streets of the capital that make me excited. Ironically, later on saw a girl in all black, with tight pants and amazing ass... as was getting ready to make my move, I realised it was a Norwegian chick with a boyfriend I approached in M&S. Oh, well...

Post: #3103

A good number of approaches the past few weeks or so:

At the store I saw a brown haired latina with thick long brown hair and a fit body. 5'8. I waited until she sat down at a lunch table then sat at the one next to her. I did my work. When she got up to leave 20 minutes later:

Me: Excuse me, is that a good book? (It was deepak chopra)
Her: Yes, I've actually met him.
Me: Really? How did that happen
She went into a story about it. We talked for 5 or so minutes.
When she got up to leave:
Me: Hey, we could grab a coffee or drink sometime.
Her: I'm here a lot , I'm sure we'll see each other.
Me: Why leave it to chance?
Her: haha, I'm sure I'll see you.
Me: Okay by J
(more on this girl later)

I was at college coffee shop doing laptop work. I noticed a cute young blonde sitting at a table with a guy. She was wearing a sorority shirt. The guy was talking non-stop. Every once in a while, she'd slip in an "uh huh" "okay" She seemed to be enjoying his company okay, but the guy wouldn't be quiet. He got up to leave after 30 minutes.

A few minutes later I was looking around and saw her looking at me. She looked away. I did some more work. 10 minutes later, I looked around and she was looking at me again. She looked down.

I finished my work and got up to leave a little while later. I walked to her table:
Me: Excuse me, is that a good laptop?
She looks up smiling: I'm sorry what?
Me: That's an Air right? Is that a good laptop?
Her: oh yes, I love it! (she went on about her laptop for a few minutes and I asked some basic questions)
Me: I think you're probably a junior or senior....( appraising her)
Her: I'm a sophomore!
Me: Okay, I knew you weren't a freshman. You don't have that clueless look
Her: haha.
I asked her about her major. She reciprocated with questions. I told her I had to run in a few minutes while sitting down at her table. There was good eye contact and smiling. When I told her what company I work with, she said her mom also worked for the same company ( think this fucked me up) she asked me more details about my job,etc.
I changed subjects about fun things to do around town which we discussed a few minutes.
Me: Well, you seem like fun, let's do coffee or a drink sometime.
Her: She really thought about it for a few seconds then "Thanks for saying that. I can't say yes"
Me: Well, it's no problem ( in retrospect I should have pushed more. I think she thought I may run into her mom at the office or something , even though I work in a different location)
Okay, cool. Bye Grace.
Bye robreke!

I was sitting at a table doing work a few days later in the same grocery store I met the Latina in. I see her walking up.
Her: Hey
Me: Hey J.
I notice her shopping bag and make fun of all the leaves and kale sticking out of the top. We jibe for a few minutes. I tell her I'll walk out with her as I'm leaving too.
Me: Hey, I want to go check out the museum one day. Want to go?
Her: Yes sounds good.
I get her number. Texted a few days later. We met for a coffee one afternoon. Today we're texting about our second date tonight.

Today, I'm walking through the grocery in the bulk grocery section. I see a tall beautiful young chestnut haired girl with her hair in a pony tail. I walk near her.
Me: Excuse me, do you usually buy in bulk?
Her: Yes pretty often.
Me: I've been thinking about that because I end up wasting a lot of money on not eating a lot of what I buy.
We talk about this for a few minutes.
Me: I think you're not from this area. You have a bit of an accent.
Her: I'm not from here.
Me: It's a bit of a midwestern accent.
Her: Yes, I'm from Las Vegas.
I make a little fun of this saying it's an unfriendly city but she seems like a friendly girl which she likes. She asks where I'm from and what I do. Asks if I like my job.
After asking if she has a busy weekend plan she says, just a few things not really. She starts to walk away.
Me: Well you seem cool, we should do coffee or drinks one day.
Her: Well, thank you but I have a boyfriend.
Me: Hmmm, sounds serious.
Her: smiles.
Me: Sure you don't want my phone number just in case? ( I could have rephrased this better)
Her: I don't think so , thanks. It was nice to meet you.

I got another girls number a few days ago but she didn't respond to the first text.

I also did a few others. Most girls will usually smile and seem a little intrigued but walk off. I'm going to get more aggressive with ploughing and showing intent.

Post: #3104

(01-26-2017 01:51 PM)robreke Wrote:  A good number of approaches the past few weeks or so:

At the store I saw a brown haired latina with thick long brown hair and a fit body. 5'8. I waited until she sat down at a lunch table then sat at the one next to her. I did my work. When she got up to leave 20 minutes later:

Me: Excuse me, is that a good book? (It was deepak chopra)
Her: Yes, I've actually met him.
Me: Really? How did that happen
She went into a story about it. We talked for 5 or so minutes.
When she got up to leave:
Me: Hey, we could grab a coffee or drink sometime.
Her: I'm here a lot , I'm sure we'll see each other.
Me: Why leave it to chance?
Her: haha, I'm sure I'll see you.
Me: Okay by J
(more on this girl later)

I was at college coffee shop doing laptop work. I noticed a cute young blonde sitting at a table with a guy. She was wearing a sorority shirt. The guy was talking non-stop. Every once in a while, she'd slip in an "uh huh" "okay" She seemed to be enjoying his company okay, but the guy wouldn't be quiet. He got up to leave after 30 minutes.

A few minutes later I was looking around and saw her looking at me. She looked away. I did some more work. 10 minutes later, I looked around and she was looking at me again. She looked down.

I finished my work and got up to leave a little while later. I walked to her table:
Me: Excuse me, is that a good laptop?
She looks up smiling: I'm sorry what?
Me: That's an Air right? Is that a good laptop?
Her: oh yes, I love it! (she went on about her laptop for a few minutes and I asked some basic questions)
Me: I think you're probably a junior or senior....( appraising her)
Her: I'm a sophomore!
Me: Okay, I knew you weren't a freshman. You don't have that clueless look
Her: haha.
I asked her about her major. She reciprocated with questions. I told her I had to run in a few minutes while sitting down at her table. There was good eye contact and smiling. When I told her what company I work with, she said her mom also worked for the same company ( think this fucked me up) she asked me more details about my job,etc.
I changed subjects about fun things to do around town which we discussed a few minutes.
Me: Well, you seem like fun, let's do coffee or a drink sometime.
Her: She really thought about it for a few seconds then "Thanks for saying that. I can't say yes"
Me: Well, it's no problem ( in retrospect I should have pushed more. I think she thought I may run into her mom at the office or something , even though I work in a different location)
Okay, cool. Bye Grace.
Bye robreke!

I was sitting at a table doing work a few days later in the same grocery store I met the Latina in. I see her walking up.
Her: Hey
Me: Hey J.
I notice her shopping bag and make fun of all the leaves and kale sticking out of the top. We jibe for a few minutes. I tell her I'll walk out with her as I'm leaving too.
Me: Hey, I want to go check out the museum one day. Want to go?
Her: Yes sounds good.
I get her number. Texted a few days later. We met for a coffee one afternoon. Today we're texting about our second date tonight.

Today, I'm walking through the grocery in the bulk grocery section. I see a tall beautiful young chestnut haired girl with her hair in a pony tail. I walk near her.
Me: Excuse me, do you usually buy in bulk?
Her: Yes pretty often.
Me: I've been thinking about that because I end up wasting a lot of money on not eating a lot of what I buy.
We talk about this for a few minutes.
Me: I think you're not from this area. You have a bit of an accent.
Her: I'm not from here.
Me: It's a bit of a midwestern accent.
Her: Yes, I'm from Las Vegas.
I make a little fun of this saying it's an unfriendly city but she seems like a friendly girl which she likes. She asks where I'm from and what I do. Asks if I like my job.
After asking if she has a busy weekend plan she says, just a few things not really. She starts to walk away.
Me: Well you seem cool, we should do coffee or drinks one day.
Her: Well, thank you but I have a boyfriend.
Me: Hmmm, sounds serious.
Her: smiles.
Me: Sure you don't want my phone number just in case? ( I could have rephrased this better)
Her: I don't think so , thanks. It was nice to meet you.

I got another girls number a few days ago but she didn't respond to the first text.

I also did a few others. Most girls will usually smile and seem a little intrigued but walk off. I'm going to get more aggressive with ploughing and showing intent.

Touch them. When you shake their hands, keep their hand in yours. The longer the better (I'd say it would become weird past 30 seconds), if she doesn't pull her hand away, great sign. Stand close ( 25-40cm away). Touch their forearms, hips, hair, face. Show you're a sexual and confident man (most men wouldn't have dared to do that day time, just minutes into a conversation but it's surprising how amenable to kino girls can be from the get go). Let them know what you want by being physical. And look into their eyes deeply. Look away when she's talking, let her earn your interest. When you talk use evocative language charged with emotions, double entendres, similies. Basically, sexy vibe from a sexual man - most men hide their intent. Give her a supercharged 10 minutes experience she will memorise for a long time to go, regardless of the fact you get her number and ultimately bang or not.

Post: #3105

(01-26-2017 02:45 PM)ksbms Wrote:  Touch them. When you shake their hands, keep their hand in yours. The longer the better (I'd say it would become weird past 30 seconds), if she doesn't pull her hand away, great sign. Stand close ( 25-40cm away). Touch their forearms, hips, hair, face. Show you're a sexual and confident man (most men wouldn't have dared to do that day time, just minutes into a conversation but it's surprising how amenable to kino girls can be from the get go). Let them know what you want by being physical. And look into their eyes deeply. Look away when she's talking, let her earn your interest. When you talk use evocative language charged with emotions, double entendres, similies. Basically, sexy vibe from a sexual man - most men hide their intent. Give her a supercharged 10 minutes experience she will memorise for a long time to go, regardless of the fact you get her number and ultimately bang or not.

Excellent. I will make sure to keep her hand in mine as long as she allows it.

Post: #3106

Did 4 approaches today and learned a ton. Anyone wants to give feedback, I'm all ears.

Approach 1:

Had to be on campus again and was at the small coffee shop/student union area doing some work over lunch. There was a decent looking caucasian girl sitting next to me. As soon as I was done my work, I did the elderly opener:

Me: Excuse me, is that a good laptop?

We talked about her airbook and its benefits and I talked about my surface pro 4 for a min or two. Knowing that the goal isn't to stay on the initial topic forever, I made a statement about her just to change topics. I probably could have segued into it more smoothly but at least I was able to move it away:

Me: you seem like you're in HR
Her: oh i'm in business

I said something about that. She asked me about what I do

Me: I'll let you guess. I guarantee you won't get it.
Her: hmmm business admin?
Me: You're only saying that because I'm Asian!

She tried to backtrack and said it's only because I was dressed nicely. I use this response quite a bit to varying success. I suppose that we live in such a hyper pc culture that some people are worried about being "offensive"

We talked a bit more, found a commonality because her mom is in the field I'm in. Talked about her field of study what I used to study etc. It was time for me to go back to class so I told her it was nice talking to her and that I'd see her around.

Takeaways:
- Why did I not go for the number? My goal was merely to have a flowing convo with a chick. I believe I accomplished this. I wanted to see if I could have a convo where I didn't feel pressed to avoid silence or feel that I was pulling teeth or going into interview mode.
- The elderly opener is great. The challenge moving forward is to use it but to add in flirty elements.
- Body language was good. Didn't fidget, was relaxed, eye contact was solid and voice projection strong.


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I had to go to a local mall and the goal was to approach a chick that at this time, I would consider currently to be "out of my league" and to approach a chick that is in my league. Although I don't fear failing, I did have anxiety due to the innate anxiety that comes from cold approaches, but also due to the fact that I live in an area that is DEFOCK 3 and this mall has been known to have security stop guys from approaching.

Approach 2:

I been fasting for 16 hrs at this point and was amped from caffeine was I was a bit nervous. Saw a girl at the food court by herself on her laptop. Caucasian about 6/10. Told myself I would approach her when I'm done eating.

The worst thing is not actually doing the act, but the anticipation leading up to it. While I was eating, I felt my stomach turning, heart was racing but I slowed everything down with my breathing. When I was done, I walked over and motioned her to remove her headphones

Me: This is random but I thought you're cute and wanted to say hi (with a bit of a crack in my voice from the nerves)
Her: Smiling: "oh thank you."
me: "So what brings you here today?"
Her: cutting me off immediately: "thank you but I have a bf"
Me: "oh cool. have a good one."

Takeaways:
- It's been a long time since I went direct. The nerves will likely always be there but with more reps, I'm sure I'll deal with them better and not crack on the introduction
- After the opener is where I struggled. I had no idea what to say. Immediately after, I came to the conclusion that the next things I say doesn't have to be of substance, but they do have to disarm, be entertaining, but light-hearted or be funny. "What brings you here today" could be okay as long as it's not boring. This time it definitely was BORING. That's not to say that she blew me off because I said it incorrectly, but more times than note, the way I said it would not lead to a positive outcome. I'll need to get more reps and work on being more fun after the initial opener.
- Some ideas I had (also discussed with friend) is to develop that rambling skill and cold read by making statements that are playful and a bit outlandish. More on this below.


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Approach 3: Asian girl, anywhere from 6-8/10 because she had a ton of make up on. Saw her walking towards me and stopped her:

Me: "Excuse me, I thought that you're cute and wanted to say hi"

She was very nervous at this point.

Her: "Oh hi"

This is where I struggle because it's almost like I freeze up and don't know what to follow up with

Me: "You don't seem like you're from around her"

Her: "I'm from China"

I said something but the vibe was off. She said she was sorry and had to go.

Takeaways:

- Need to think faster, be wittier, disarm, be fun. It could have been that she didn't like my look to begin with and nothing would have worked but if I don't do the aforementioned, any of the potential yes girls will be no.

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approach 4:
I felt pretty good about just getting out there and was walking towards my car to go home. Then I saw this 8/10 caucasian girl

Me: Excuse me I think you're cute and wanted to say hi

She was immediately friendly and receptive. Stuck her hand out and we shook hands

Her: "oh hi! nice to meet you!"

Me: So what brings you out here today... I always wonder what people are up to at a mall in the middle of the day

(I think this worked in this situation because I was more relaxed, it just "felt" better and more playful)

Her: "ya I wonder as well. I'm actually going to work just now so I have a reason to be here. I see a lot of people especially in the am and wonder what they're doing"

Me: "they could be super rich like my people (I'm asian) and making expensive purchases, or they could be homeless?"

She laughed. At this point I had a nagging feeling dreading awkward silence because it felt like it was going there and I didn't know what to say. I ejected.

Me: "well it was nice talking to you!" (LOL)

Her: somewhat perplexed "nice talking to you too"

Takeaways

- Afterwards, I came up with a ton of things to say to keep the convo going. I could have done cold reading such as: "you're friendly and look fit... let met guess where you work... at a chocolate store!" The key I think is being able to ramble while making statements that are playful and absurd. This will build excitement, keep the convo going, open conversation topics. Like all things in life though, it takes practice. I need to balance rambling enough to avoid awkward silence but not do so that I don't give her a chance to talk. Conversely, I can't hope to expect her to talk if I don't give enough convo threads. The fine nuances will only be fine tuned with enough repetition and trial and error.
- I will NEVER worry about awkward silence again and bitch out by ejecting early. Of course, I'll need to lead the convo but I'm not ejecting until I accomplish my objective or if she's not interested at all, she can leave. No good comes from worrying about silence.
- Another thing I will look towards is insta-dates. Rather than hoping for number and meeting later, if I have the time, I will say: "hey let's be adventurous and do (coffee) right now" or something similar.

I will internalize: be a little be silly, be confident, give opportunities for the convo to flourish by making statements, rambling but at the same time, allowing for the chick to talk. I will free my mind and let words and ideas flow. My friend said I should treat each approach as a "first date" and this a great way to look at it.
- I will also do what ksbms said: allow the handshake to linger to show sexual intent and confidence.

Post: #3107

Just realized I first started doing approaches when I was 12.

I'd shower, throw on a dress shirt, some Axe body spray, get dropped off at the school. Gotta be cool, socialize with everyone I knew, and wait for the right moment.

The slow dance.

The first time I approached a girl, "hey, wanna dance?", I got shot down.

I didn't ask anyone else, and waited the rest of the night out. Finally, the last song came on.

I approached the same girl again. "Sure you don't wanna dance?" She shakes her head. I look around, said fuck it, and asked another girl.

It was the first of many dances I would have, but the worst slow dance ever, like two palm trees swaying, but I'll never forget that horribly awkward but rewarding dance.

We ended up going out for a short time, until I broke up with her (12 year old "relationships") to chase girls at another dance because she wasn't going.

I wasn't going out to get laid at that age. But any physical contact with a girl was considered a successful night.

Old-school recreation hall/gymnasium dances helped out my game at a young age. It's too bad they're not more popular than the clubs today.

They're a fantastic way to meet women, engage in conversation, and get intimate.

Post: #3108

Was milling around city-centre and university campus and there truly weren't any pretty (I wouldn't even think of hot ones) girls on the streets of the capital. Finally, at dusk, I saw a girl emerging from M&S but it was already after a couple hours I spent walking around and I wasn't 'on'. But I had to do that so followed her for a bit and I think she noticed me. She was cute, though not my type but body was damn fine and legs were great. She had her headphones in but was walking rather slow with her shopping bags. So, at a bit better lit area of a pavement, I jogged up, tapped her on her arm, said 'excuse me' and she stopped for half-second, took one headphone out, turned her head, looked at me, put it back and resumed walking. Damn. My mistake was not getting in front of her. Always get in front, and with strong entitlement and physical presence. My open was pretty poor, from the side, voice too quiet, and darkness didn't help either.

How you open says a lot to a girl on a subconscious level.

So after quick diagnostics, some 30 minutes later, I spotted a leggy brunette, slightly taller than me, marching at a faster pace, clearly going back home, with her headphones in and it was after dark, though that part of the main street in the city centre is quite well-lit. So this time, I took proper few steps in front of her with a u-turn and got in front of her. She stopped, I motioned to her to take her headphones out, she complied and I opened, I think, with something how differently she looked. I was so focused on getting the open text-book correctly, I didn't have anything really prepared and an interaction died down after around 1 minutes mark. Partially, because as I was looking at her face and I realised I didn't fancy her that much. But was happy with rectifying the open as it should have been done.

Saw a very tidy, petite Irish girl with a superior, tight, posterior in Tk Maxx. She ventured slowly into men's shoes section (I had bad feeling why she was there) so causally opened how she got into wrong section. Interaction was flowing, she was curious about me, played with her hair, I was very relaxed and spoke with slow and low voice, she crossed her legs, eyes were sparkling, clearly an interested little minx, if it weren't for the boyfriend, whom she mentioned, I believe I'd get a number easily. I saw them together two minutes later as he was on the same floor but just in a different section.

And that's all for today.

Post: #3109

It's the Lunar New Year holiday this weekend so I wasn't sure what to expect from the scene but it presented plenty of opportunities.

First venue was Thursday Party (basically a college bar where everyone speaks a bit of English. Anyone who says they don't just isn't interested in talking to you). Stood by the bar and saw a pair that looked pretty cute but before I did anything I watched like five guys get murdered in a row and just took a step back. Joined a group of random slapdicks to joke around a bit. One of them turned out to be an approach monkey and it put me in the right mood ("I can do this better than this guy, jesus christ"). Somehow stumbled into a 9 and had a decent 20 minute conversation (of course Gangnam is where she usually parties) but her friend was a lead brick. They decided to switch venues so I just grabbed the number and let them loose.

Had a few conversations in the smoking pit that were aight. It's always fun telling people I'm a farmer or a drug dealer or whatever cockamamie jibberish I come up with. Wound up meeting an actual dealer and a 17 year-old kid who sneaked into the bar so that's something. Decided to bounce around 1ish.

Popped into The District (a multi-layer bar that's not exactly fancy but hoodies are rare) and did a lap to see what was up. Spotted a bored looking 7. Turns out she's a flight attendant but hates her job. I suggest farming and she almost drops her drink laughing. Maintained good eye contact and she was playing along in the convo until her friend shows up and whispers something in Korean. Suddenly "Nice meeting you, go enjoy your time." Oh well.

Found a good spot to post up with lots of traffic. One girl basically drops herself into my lap and I open with a comment about people watching. She bites and we talk about places we like in the area. She asks what I do and I turn it around into why she chose to become a chef. Her body language started taking a bit of a dive close to the 10 minute mark and as if on cue she told me to have a good time and went back into the crowd. Her loss

I ran into the 9 again at Glam bar and her friend was looking kind worse for wear. Still wearing all her winter gear indoors and shuffling like a zombie. 9 grabs my hand and locks fingers for a second when I say hi. I suggest hitting up Fountain and her friend just gurgles and 9 shakes her head disappointedly. I already had her number so I just left it but I think I made a big mistake not at least trying to set something up later with her. She texted me later in the night but I'm expecting it to turn to dust.

Ended the night in Fountain. No quality approaches to speak of. I think it was pushing 3 or 3:30 by this point and people seemed to be paired up or taking off. Saturday (today) is the actual important day of the holiday so some people probably had to be in at least some sort of functional state the next morning even if they were out on Friday. Anyway, place is basically just a cattle call until first train 5am. Cattle call hail Marys are the exact opposite of what I would call a strength. I tried a few and just gave up. My attitude definitely doesn't help these sort of approaches but I'd rather work on getting quality women earlier than do whatever I have to to feel good about battling for scraps.

Grabbed a drink on the way home and some wild-eyed girl starts hiding behind me. She moves around and kinda pulls her into me and I'm thinking this is either a reward for sticking to my guns all night or trouble. After a bit of odd conversation her "brother" shows up and immediately starts asking who the fuck I am and why I'm talking to his sister when she's drunk. She gets all mad at him since we were just chatting (I definitely would've tried to fuck her though) and eventually a combination of my not backing down and the store staff threatening to call the cops chases them off.

Not a night without stories but another night without pussy. Kind of ironic that the weather is warmer while my streak gets colder.

Post: #3110

In Mexico City, walking around The Condesa. I have an hour to kill before I am meeting one of my plates. When in the DF I usually spend time in coffee shops and cafes in The Condesa but my daygame is still pretty rough so I'm really trying to look for IOIs and open.... So, I'm walking around and as I pass a GNC I notice a blonde, thin, really well dressed girl smiling at me and looking me in the eye. I walk past her and go around the corner. I am actually looking for gum as I smoked a small cigar and don't want to have cigar breath when I meet my date in an hour.

It takes me about 20 seconds but I decide to turn around and walk in her direction, well, as it turns out she is now walking in my direction. I face her and walk directly towards her and say Hola, she immediately replies in English and asks me if I am a tourist. I say no, not really, I spend a lot of time in the DF. We chat a little more, then I ask her if she, would like to go for a coffee tomorrow as I am on the way to meet a friend and I hand her my phone. She laughs and we chat a bit about how funny it is meeting someone on the street. She puts her number in my phone and I give her my number and then call her phone to make sure it rings, it does. We then chat for a bit and we say goodbye. I give her a hug and kiss on the cheek Mexican style (they do the one cheek kiss thing here) and then we go our separate ways.

So, then I go to Starbucks to meet my girl and a few minutes later I see this girl come walking toward Starbucks (I had told her I was meeting a friend at starbucks), she said, 'the number you gave me was different that the one you called from' (I have a Google voice number). So I explained that and then said goodbyes again.

She sent me a WhatsApp that night and we chatted on Whatsapp for about forty-five minutes. Turned out she had to work the next day and I was leaving town the day after next and I had a date already the next night so I didn't get to see her but when next in the DF....

Post: #3111

Did four more approaches today. Really pleased. This is exciting and im enjoying it.

Girl 1: Said she looked nice, she stopped as I was talking, then walked away, didnt say anything.

Girl 2: Said she looked nice, she said thanks! I said - I couldnt work out where you were from, she went to uni here and was from london, she said she had to go and left

Girl 3: again said she looked nice, said I liked her ripped jeans, I was wearing matching ones and said this, then did a "knee touch" she was loving it, she had a map on her phone of the station, her train was arriving in 10 mins!! I told her to wait, she had an accent, she was from new Zealand, but now she really had to go. Bad timing!! but said it made her day.

Girl 4: best girl of them all, and a real hotty, blond hair, pretty face, was on her phone, I stopped her, said sorry this is really REALLY random but you look incredible!! again she loved it, she wouldn't stop laughing during our interaction, I said I liked how she was multi-tasking on her phone, tinder, whatsapp, she said she didnt use tinder, I then said I liked her glasses, we had matching ones, she said hers were better because they were bigger, we compared, wont go through the whole interaction but it was great, hook came about 5 mins in - what are you doing here she asked me. Anyway, 10 mins in I said I had to go, lets go for a drink sometime. Got the number. She knows hardly anything about me, and I ended the interaction - hope this is a good thing? Will text in a couple of days and ask out, hoping the interaction was good enough to avoid a flake, seemed pretty solid.

Going out agian tomorrow and monday, I have no plates now and really need abundance so I dont focus too much on one girl / care too much.

Takeaways- If a girl says she has to go, she is hesitating, I need to work on getting her to stay - when new Zealand girl 3 said she had to catch her train in 20 minutes I shouldve said, your train comes every 20 minutes, im once in a life time!

switching it up with the open, I like the open I used on girl 4 and will test this out tomorrow.

Thanks for reading, any advice/hints welcomed, gunna report back tomorrow!

Post: #3112

(01-28-2017 01:37 PM)wonderer1 Wrote:  Will text in a couple of days and ask out, hoping the interaction was good enough to avoid a flake, seemed pretty solid.

Good work regarding the approaches and getting a number, however...

A couple days?! You should think of sending out a feeler in the evening of the same day - when the girl's got little to do and is slowly getting ready for bed so you'll be on her mind unless you know she'd have her attention hijacked by other activities at that time. If an interaction was very strong, you can send a feeler in 2 hours time, just ask your intuition what would work best. If the interaction was lukewarm, at the latest the next day, probably around lunch time - generally, at a time you can anticipate she wouldn't be busy so she can read the message and have some lingering thoughts reminding her of you for some time before she goes back to doing XYZ. But waiting a couple days won't earn you anything - she knows why you talked to her. The longer you wait past 24h period, the greater chance she'll start questioning herself, or other guy will gain higher priority or you'll become a distant memory.

My personal experience is if the girl won't msg me back on the same day, she won't message me at all. Usually, I expect, if she's genuinely interested, to msg me back in 2-4 hours at the latest. It's a very rare occurrence she'd msg me the next day or later (if it's a week(s)/month(s) probably something significant happened regarding her romantic situation).

Post: #3113

Last night:
7 Approaches
5 Numbers
1 Same night response "nice to meet you too "


One of the numbers was from a girl that my friend introduced me to so I'm not going to count her for explanation purposes.

The Set Up
I go hard in the paint so from about 9-11 I'm presuming (by myself IDC) while watching a movie called "Massacre on Isle 12". A very non PC movie with a lot of jabs that will put a smile on your face.

I'm feeling pretty sauced so I make one last drink and take a shot before my homie comes to pick me up at 11. At this point I'm 4-5 drinks in (made them strong) and 5 shots.

We arrive DT to meet my roommate and two other girls (3 guys 2 girls--henceforth known as the squad" and head to the Ranch, I'm feeling good and making some small talk with random other girls. West is deserted this Friday so we all head to dirty sixth.


Approaches

1)
Bar: "Nook"
Title: "Blondes everywhere I go and the guy with 4 dicks"

I'm walking to the restroom and I witness this short cute blonde with this southern georgia peach look. She just got out the rest room and is playing with her hair in the mirror.

I lick my hand and say something like "hey I gotchu" and fake try to pat her hair into place. She smiles back and says something about me being gross. I ask her her name and put my spit hand out, then put my clean left hand out. She shakes my left hand and I say "I would use my right hand but you know.." She gives me her name.

I then stick out my right hand (spit hand) and she says "Eww! you spit in it!" She then shakes my hand and a accuse her of being on some dirty girl type shit. She's eating this up. We exchange numbers and I go to the Restroom. I run into her a little while later and ask her if she got my text "hi its mufasa blah blah nice to meet you crazy hair lady". She checks her phone and starts laughing. I wish her a safe night and head to the dance floor (empty except for the squad)..

phone numbers: 1/1
Time: 12:39 AM

2)
Bar: Nook

Im out on the dance floor wild'n out and I notice a pack (4-7) girls at the top of the stairs and head up to talk to them. I can't remember what I said but it was well received. Some blah blah happens and they are entertained by my energy (probably my balls because no one was talking to them) so I invite them to the dance floor...None Follow..

I'm back to wildn out Im dancing on benches the whole shebang. I grab one of the stools and put it over my pelvis with the legs sticking forwards like I have 4 long ass metal dicks. Dancing to the beat I'm doing pelvic thrusts and changing rotating the legs of the chair like a gatling gun in rhythm with the bass lines before putting it back down.

One of the girls from the pack comes over from upstairs (Damn it almost worked). She dances down from the stairs past the squad to my area. We do some dancing. I don't touch her (intentionally). Her friends are watching us. She goes back upstairs and I know I've got them when my roommate sees the opportunity too and makes his move--I hold back thinking he's got this. They're not receptive and they bounce.

Bad game on my behalf I should have been a minute behind him to provide a boost his social value.

phone numbers: 1/2
Time: Around 1 AM

3)
Bar: Chupacabra
Title: Peacocking on Fleek/Bad and Boujee

The squad is lit. We grab a round of drinks/shots (my roommate has witnessed my ritual of 4-tequila shots in a row before I head out) my roomate gets me two.

We had to the stage and proceed to own that bitch.
We're dancing inviting girls up by their hands it takes little time before we've got a decent size dance party on the stage. I walk over to the bar (god knows why--I'm broke right now lol) and I notice three tacky ass chicks--they're out in sweats, they look nice tho in the face so I walk up to the three of them.

I think I said "what the fuck (or hell) are y'all wearing?"
One of them isn't having it (my target) and she says "What did you say?!" in a hostile tone.
I fire back "y'all look like y'all got kicked out of a slumber party" They all laugh.
My target tells me that its her friends birthday and they went to go get some food.
I interject "Yea y'all just told her that to drag her ass DT huh!" They laugh again.
Insert some smalltalk BS here. I turn to my girl and tell her that she's my type and ask her for her phone number. She smiles and gives it to me.
I head back to the dance floor.

phone numbers: 2/3
Time: 1:44 AM

FUCK i just deleted her number while writing this. FUCK! I blame you guys.. :/

4)
Bar: Left the Bar out on 5th street now
Title: #LFG Part 1

The squad disbands as we walk the girls to their cab and I get one of their numbers. As they walk away and I say something like "Lets fucking go"..IDK it was something cheesy lol

Three girls with interlocked arms are walking briskly; I power walk my ass up to them and say something along the lines of "hey wait" and roll up next to them. Two of them give a light smile and there is no bitchy "fuck off vibe" So I continue pursuit...

I do a little trip over one of the lines on the ground and another guy comes out of no where and tries to jump in on my girls (FUCK I hate when guys fuck this up, timing is everything..). Their faces turn bitchy instantly and I say "ah shit" one of the girls cracks a small smirk and I turn around and walk back to my friends.

Phone numbers: 2/4
Time: 1:50ish AM



5)
Bar: Out on 5th Street
Title: LFG part 2

Three more blondes are a stones throw away so I make my approach. They're standing there and I sick my hand out and ask them their names. My targets name is 'Allah' which prompts me to instantly yell out "ALLAH AKBAR"...she did not like that lol...

She's not very happy with me and she says that people say that all the time to her. I would say at this point she's extremely dismissive and pissed at me. I walk back for a bit ending our interaction.

After about 60 seconds I walk back up and say "lets start over whats your name?" Sound like some Disney shit so I'm confident in this... She smiles and says Allah. At some point my roommate nailed the wing man approach and tells them that I'm an olympic level athlete and THE TIDE TURNS
Blah-Blah-blah and some kino later she has her arm around my waist and mine around hers. We're laughing (well she's laughing and I'm playing along). Im killing her heart with eye contact and body language; shes all smiles melting like butter in my hands. I ask her for her phone number, she complies. We talk some more before we split.

Phone Numbers: 3/5
Time: 1:54AM



6)
Bar: Infront of Maggie Mae's
Title: LFG part 3

Me and the boys are leaving talking about the the two girls in the squad and I'm asking about the one who's number I got. She's 30+ with 3 kids but sexy as hell into that fitness obstacle course shit.
As we walk and talk we pass infront of Maggie Mays when I see one of the most beautiful latina girls I've ever seen. Her homies are buying her food with their backs to her and I double back straight to her.

I think I told her she was beautiful and asked her what her name was. She miles and says "Blah-blah". One of her homies turns around and I'm thinking shit here comes a cock block or boyfriend or whatever. He hands her some tacos (lol) and I can tell he's thinking about cock blocking me but he choses not to. I dont remember what was said but it was short. I asked her If she would like to go on a date with me to which she smiled and said yes. I took her number down and as I walked away shot her a text saying "mufasa the tall blah blah, Nice to meet you."

When I got home latter that night she sent me a text back
"Its blah-blah it was nice meeting you too (:"

Phone Numbers: 4/6
Time: 2:23 AM
Her response:2:54 AM

Im so pissed I deleted pajama girls number. Fuck she probably had the best body other than crazy hair lady who is a close second.

Edit: I found it. Just remembered that I google searched her number trying to find her name. fuego

Post: #3114

(01-28-2017 03:45 PM)ksbms Wrote:  

(01-28-2017 01:37 PM)wonderer1 Wrote:  Will text in a couple of days and ask out, hoping the interaction was good enough to avoid a flake, seemed pretty solid.

Good work regarding the approaches and getting a number, however...

A couple days?! You should think of sending out a feeler in the evening of the same day - when the girl's got little to do and is slowly getting ready for bed so you'll be on her mind unless you know she'd have her attention hijacked by other activities at that time. If an interaction was very strong, you can send a feeler in 2 hours time, just ask your intuition what would work best. If the interaction was lukewarm, at the latest the next day, probably around lunch time - generally, at a time you can anticipate she wouldn't be busy so she can read the message and have some lingering thoughts reminding her of you for some time before she goes back to doing XYZ. But waiting a couple days won't earn you anything - she knows why you talked to her. The longer you wait past 24h period, the greater chance she'll start questioning herself, or other guy will gain higher priority or you'll become a distant memory.

My personal experience is if the girl won't msg me back on the same day, she won't message me at all. Usually, I expect, if she's genuinely interested, to msg me back in 2-4 hours at the latest. It's a very rare occurrence she'd msg me the next day or later (if it's a week(s)/month(s) probably something significant happened regarding her romantic situation).

OK thanks, maybe ill message tomorrow, its a sunday too, I know she was going out tonight, just wanted to be different from others, I reckon guys will text her tomorrow from tonight and I wanted her to be thinking about me, she actually got her phone out after i got her number - probably wanted me to call her then so she had my number. Felt the interaction was strong. I was going to text monday to leave two days - in my expereince thats whats worked best - but I dont have as much experience as you guys.

Post: #3115

Felt quite a bit under the weather, some joints pain and mild headache but I've committed to do at least an approach a day, and if I didn't - bad weather, no girls I found attractive - then it carried to the next day.

Was hanging out with a friend, then saw a girl in M&S. A girl had amazing body and an ass, draped in black hot pants, worth a swimsuit model's photo for a calendar! But it was my first so didn't muster the courage to investigate until she left and walked down the street. Open was from the side but she stopped, though faced me with her left side, 90 degrees, had to slightly manoeuvre in front of her. Was slightly disappointed with her face, for Norwegian girls tend to be prettier. All in all, ploughed through but she neither asked questions nor seemed interested. In fact, her replies where very short, if not curt, and was breaking eye-contact. I felt it was no-go early on but for the sake of experience carried the conversation. When it came to closing she told me she had a boyfriend. Funny thing, girls, knowing what's up (I told her I liked her long legs and something else, don't remember what) they don't eject immediately but seem to busk in the attention. At the very end, she added she doesn't talk to strangers - honey, you've just talked for 10 minutes to one and laughed a few times...

Next was a sexy Iranian girl in grey coat, grey hot pants, grey sneakers with a grey laptop cover - which I pointed out to her, her greyishness. She was walking with a wheeled suitcase so wasn't sure what was she up to - leaving town or just arrived? Before I came up to her, she turned into a small alley but decided to follow and caught up with her in front of her house fumbling with her keys. Situation was delicate, as it was very quiet, small alley, no-one else there, so didn't come up close in case I'd scare her, thus opened standing 3 feet away. She seemed friendly, asked me a few questions but I think I didn't convey sexual intent so she said 'it was nice ta...' and I interrupted her asking her out, she said she had a boyfriend but I pressed anyway saying I'm not a boyfriend type and if I text her she didn't have to reply. So she put her digits in. There were a few good seconds of intense eye contact, I guess had I stopped her on the street, the interaction's dynamics would've been better. Texted her a few hours later and, well, no reply. I'm not surprised.

It was dark, saw a girl in black down coat and hot pants (what is with these girls, all wear hot pants) and sneakers, crossed the street in such a way she must've seen me coming towards her - after darkness opening from behind I think can scare a girl. So u-turned, caught up her as she crossed to the other side of the street, she hooked, commented on her outfit, she was from US, but after 2 minutes she just said 'I need to go'. I get no traction whatsoever with US girls... I talked to 4 so I guess by now, if they have a US society at the uni, I'm a well-known man, lol.

So, so far it's 0/20.

Post: #3116

(01-28-2017 09:33 PM)wonderer1 Wrote:  

(01-28-2017 03:45 PM)ksbms Wrote:  

(01-28-2017 01:37 PM)wonderer1 Wrote:  Will text in a couple of days and ask out, hoping the interaction was good enough to avoid a flake, seemed pretty solid.

Good work regarding the approaches and getting a number, however...

A couple days?! You should think of sending out a feeler in the evening of the same day - when the girl's got little to do and is slowly getting ready for bed so you'll be on her mind unless you know she'd have her attention hijacked by other activities at that time. If an interaction was very strong, you can send a feeler in 2 hours time, just ask your intuition what would work best. If the interaction was lukewarm, at the latest the next day, probably around lunch time - generally, at a time you can anticipate she wouldn't be busy so she can read the message and have some lingering thoughts reminding her of you for some time before she goes back to doing XYZ. But waiting a couple days won't earn you anything - she knows why you talked to her. The longer you wait past 24h period, the greater chance she'll start questioning herself, or other guy will gain higher priority or you'll become a distant memory.

My personal experience is if the girl won't msg me back on the same day, she won't message me at all. Usually, I expect, if she's genuinely interested, to msg me back in 2-4 hours at the latest. It's a very rare occurrence she'd msg me the next day or later (if it's a week(s)/month(s) probably something significant happened regarding her romantic situation).

OK thanks, maybe ill message tomorrow, its a sunday too, I know she was going out tonight, just wanted to be different from others, I reckon guys will text her tomorrow from tonight and I wanted her to be thinking about me, she actually got her phone out after i got her number - probably wanted me to call her then so she had my number. Felt the interaction was strong. I was going to text monday to leave two days - in my expereince thats whats worked best - but I dont have as much experience as you guys.

Text her yesterday and she never text back! My interaction was solid but i didnt know about texting on the same day, need to keep those emotions going! even one day is too long and theyll forget about you and the moment. Going out again soon today.

Post: #3117

(01-30-2017 08:27 AM)wonderer1 Wrote:  Text her yesterday and she never text back! My interaction was solid but i didnt know about texting on the same day, need to keep those emotions going! even one day is too long and theyll forget about you and the moment. Going out again soon today.

Getting a number means nothing. Girls give them out cheaply. If you're persistent enough, they will give you it just to get rid of you (sad but true) or, even if she was genuinely interested, something will significantly change in a short period of time (e.g., she got back with her ex) or whatever - if she's hot, she's got multiple suitors probably. You don't see the competitions but it's there. More so than, I think, guys can imagine. And on top of that, she gets her ego stroked by a day-gamer!

Your lead is 'live' only after she replies. Otherwise, assume it's dead by default. The time she takes for her first reply and enthusiasm or lack thereof will tell you how to proceed. The more words, emoticons, and call-back humour, the better.

A feeler-first text sometimes can make it or break it. Intuition is your best bet. Don't introduce yourself in your first message writing "Hey it's the Player you met at the crossroads yesterday at 13:44pm. Such a coincidence! It was very nice meeting you!" (Slightly over the top example). This communicates low-value, for you don't believe she'd remember such an unusual event. Much better "So that's the blonde I met at the crossroads. Nice meeting you."

Post: #3118

I did about 10 approaches today, I wont go through them all, some had boyfriends and carried on walking, some stopped and talked then said they had a bf, I was cheeky and said are they permanent ones? Do you want a side piece?

I got two numbers, one had a bf but I said lets all meet up as friends - bad move really but she knows why I approached her.

2nd number - we were talking about star wars and festivals, she hooked me about festivals, I said lets go for a drink some time, she said she doesnt do dates, I said no no not a date a hang out do you do coffee, got the number. I'm feeling a no response already!

I got better at stopping girls from leaving, when they said they had to go, I said one sec! i need to go soon anyway, then carried on the conversation.

There was another girl who was hooking me, we were walking along, but she knew too many people and kept stopping to chat, my mistake is I shouldve stopped too, she was a cute Colombian. You live and learn!

Going to try and learn from my mistake with the last girl and text in a couple of hours.

Any advise / criticism welcome, I haven't gone in dept with the interactions here as I dont want to bore you!

Post: #3119

Haven't done approaches since my last post and only did 1 today and it was a rough one. Was driving downtown and saw this girl as I made a turn. A few blocks later, I parked my car to get some food. When I stepped out of my car, I saw her and approached without hesitation. I'm happy I approached but she wasn't very good. White girl who looked out of shape with large legs.

Me: "Excuse me"
as I motioned her headphones off which she didn't take off
Me: "I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi"

She gave a mixed look of annoyance with disgust and said "no. thanks" and walked off. LOL

I was a little shook after that but laughed it off.

Not that I could have done anything differently to change the outcome but some takeaways is that I noticed when I did my approach, I was low energy and wasn't fun or flirty with my demeanor or expression. That won't cut it with other girls either.

Post: #3120

Went back to the new restaurant I wrote about last week, the girl recognized me and was very friendly when I ordered.

Her: Hey! What can I get for you?
Me: I liked what I had last week, let's do the yakitori combo again.
Her: Great, can I have your name to put on the order?
Me: It's RunsWithScissors, and yours is <her name> right?
Her: Wow you remembered!
Me: I'm usually pretty good with names.
Her: I'm terrible with names, I sometimes wish I could take pictures of everyone with a polaroid so I could remember.
Me: You know, they make these fancy new gadgets that can take pictures and store people's names, called cell phones
Her: <laughs>

I sit down, she brings my water, in a minute brings my food and makes multiple long eye contacts, later offers a free cookie sample they are giving out, again with solid eye contact and big smiles.

I finish my food and am finishing the chapter in my book, she's busy as hell with customers, finally she gets a free moment and I grow a pair to go talk to her as I clear my table.

Her: How was everything?
Me: It was good thanks.
Her: And how was the cookie?
Me: It was good too, I'm not a big cookie fan but I enjoyed it.
Me: So, you look like the active type...
Her: Yes, I am!
Me: I'm going to the climbing gym after work, would you like to join me?
Her: <looks a little surprised but still big smile> Yeah! I don't get off work until 6 tonight though.
Me: That's ok, I usually go around 6 or 6:30
Her: Or on Sat or Sun I get off earlier
Me: Sunday would work for me too
Her: Ok great, umm how should we....
Me: Can I have your number?
Her: Sure!
Me: Thanks, I'll be in touch.

It wasn't particularly smooth, I was a little nervous, but I was clear and direct with my interest in meeting up with her and that felt good. If she's over 25 I'll be shocked, I'm almost 42 and never thought I'd be able to get the number of a girl that could be 20 years younger than me. I plan on texting her in a few hours and see if she'll join up with me tonight, otherwise try and set something up for the weekend.

Post: #3121

did an approach on the small campus coffee where I'm doing some more work related stuff.

What's tripping me up here is the campus is small, I don't want to be singled out or recognized as a guy picking up there because it's so small. Saw an avg girl sitting by herself and wasn't going to wuss out:

Me: excuse me, this is random but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi

My voice was kind of cracking and weak due to nerves and people were sitting close by. She said thanks and was wearing earphones which she did not take off at all during the convo. When I saw down, I was not into her at all as she was not attractive but I still had the nerves going.

Me: do you mind if I have a seat with you for a few min.

Her: "sure... but I'm just doing an assignment for class right now"

Me: "Let me guess... you're doing HR?"

Her: "No marketing."

me: "So what exactly does someone in marketing do?"

Her: "that's a really broad question"

Me: "I suppose it is. Do you guys go in and present big ideas to clients?"

She said something which I forgot. I then asked her what she wanted to do with it and she said get into PR or something. I said "oh. You seem like you'd be an NGO type of person" She said maybe and I said "well i guess your'e not working for trump as your life goal then" to which she laughed.

She asked me what I do and then I made her guess but she didn't really seem into it.

I ejected soon after this and it wasn't great at all.

Takeaways:

- I'm probably going to stop doing direct approaches at this coffee shop at this small campus. It's DEFOCK 3 here with sexual harassment posters and I don't want to be the guy seen as trying to do pick up. It's also messing up my game because I'm nervous as hell when going direct.

- I'll need to make sure that I'm calm/relaxed and warm/fun when doing the initial approach. Being nervous like I was today made me come off as really weak. This will be dampened by more approaches.

- I started incorporating statements which is good BUT I'll have to make them a bit more fun and flirty. Perhaps point out some attributes and then make the statement into what she does or whatever.

- the flow isn't good right now but I presume with practice, it'll get better. I still need to tune out that nagging voice in the back of my head that fears silence and forces me to almost throw out rapid comment statements/questions in fear of an awkward moment.

Heading out into the city this to meet a few friends. I'll likely do 2-3 approaches along the way. Need more practice.

EDIT: I'll need to free my mind from the boring logical questions type stuff. Not sure how but I'll figure a way.

Post: #3122

Only did one in the city tonight on route to meeting my friends.

Was coming off the metro and this white chick 7.5/10? Tons of make up though and she looks like a typical white "hot" chick. She was behind me on the escalator. I went indirect:

Me: "It's gotten cold again"

Her: "ya I know"

Me: "it was just warming up and now it's freezing again"

Her: "Ya I made a huge mistake"

Me: "how so?"

Her: "Well I was going to wear something warmer than a dress and tights. Something thicker"

Me: "You mean like like pajamas?"

Her: *laughs* no.

Me: "well it was nice talking to you"

Then I walked off. A few seconds later I asked myself what the hell I was doing so I jogged over to her again

Me: "hey excuse me! I thought you were cute and I'm not sure why I walked away!"

I said this with a smile, high energy.

Her: "oh thanks!"

Me: "I'm --------"

Her: "I'm -----"

*we shook hands*

Me: "You seem like you were coming off of working and doing something really important..."

Her: "not that important"

She said something about it was a hectic day because it was her first day at some law firm or doing law school or something like that

Me: "Oh man. You must be really cut throat and lack a heart"

Her: *laughs*

Me: "ya, I hear you though. I'm doing some new training as well and the learning curve can be a bit challenging at times"

Her: "Oh what do you do"

I told her and then said "ya you know, boring stuff" (it's not boring)

Her: "ya it was so crazy today. I'm going to go home and have a glass of wine"

Me: "watch some netflix and cry a little?"

Her: "ha ya."

Me: "hey i gotta go meet my friends. can i get your number"

Her: "ya sure"

Me: "ok i'll send you a text. Only if you're not one of those heartless lawyers though"

Her: "oh i'm not like that!"


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Take-aways

I texted her at around 930 after I was done with my friends but no reply. That's okay though because this approach was A LOT better.

- I need to come in with this type of energy. It wasn't over the top but it wasn't monotone and boring. I like the indirect stuff.
- I'll be aware to hold the handshake longer next time
- I'm still stumbling with words a bit but it wasn't as bad this time. Practice will improve things.
- I find that there's still way more improvements to make but it's foolish to say whether 1 individual set was "successful" or "unsuccessful" based on my actions alone. Clearly this girl was a lot friendly and it made conversation a lot easier. If the girl was closed off or looked at me like I am a lepper like that other girl earlier in the week, nothing I would have done would have changed anything.

It's disappointing that she didn't reply. However, I can only do my best and as long as I keep getting the reps, keep trying to improve, that's all I can do.

George Washington:

Quote:"'Tis not in mortals to command sucess, but we'll do more... we'll deserve it."

I will put in the work and providence will meet me half way. I can't possibly expect to be out of the game for so long and to kill it after just a handful of approaches. Most of all, I'll be at peace knowing that even if I fail, at least I gave an effort.

Post: #3123

So the lawyer girl from the previous post actually replied at 830 am this morning:

Quote:She responded this am at 830:

Her: "sorry for the late response"

Her: "It was nice meeting you as well. I have to say it didn't get too wild at all. A bit of Netflix and then I passed out. Hope you had a nice night out."

I always have stuff to do so I didn't reply until 530 pm. I don't want to be having a drawn out text convo texting back and forth during the day or waiting for texts. Not sure if this is the correct move waiting all day.

I also didn't know if I should exchange a few texts and tease her for passing out before asking her out. My buddy said I should just keep it simple and ask her out. I chose to KISS.

I texted her: "Ya had a great night. It seems like we can both step away from work for a bit. You free for a drink sunday evening?"

Any thoughts/guidance would be appreciated.

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Two for the day:

Approach 1:

Had to stop a shopping mall. Saw a white chick, cute, in work out gear. I was wearing my workout stuff too.

Me: "Hey, excuse me. This is kind of random but since we're both in workout gear and I think you're cute, I wanted to say hi" *I smiled here* "so hey"

We both laughed. She started blushing

We shook hands but I could tell she was in a rush.

Me: "It seems like you're in a rush"

Her: "ya I am i'm sorry!"


Takeways

- Approaches are getting better. A lot more smooth, natural, and even a bit charismatic?
- Definitely need to hold her hand longer
- Not sure if I should have stopped her for a few min. Probably could have. It's nice seeing a girl blush like that.


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Approach 2:

In the gym, I was talking to a chick personal trainer about our training. This other girl came by the squat/rogue area and talked to her. Trainer girl introduced herself to me and then had to leave. I eventually chatted up the other chick who was about to squat.

It was pretty natural. I asked her if she does powerlifting as well. Told her that I did one meet a long time ago and what happened.

I eventually asked her what she does for work.

Her: "Oh i'm getting into teaching. I was a personal trainer and might get into it again"

Me: "oh that's interesting"

Bit of a pause as I did my set.

Me: "wait a sec, are you going to teach high schoolers?"

Her: *laughs* no elementary

Me: "oh man. you teaching high school woudl be trouble. All the high school boys would be hitting on you."

She joked about how someone warned her that she had to dress really professional or she'd fit in because she looks so young. I said "ya, no more lululemon pants for you!"

I asked her how old she was and she said 24. I said she looks young but then again, I'm 55... She said "what!? no way!

me: "ya. Asians age well!"

her: "no way!"

Me: i looked at her incredulously as she thought I could pass for 55. (I'm in my early 30s and look like i"m in my 20s"

Me: "come on! Of course i'm not 55"

Then I put my weights away and said to her:

me: "hey, this is random and I don't do this often because it's the gym but can I get your number"

She hesitated and said she was flattered but she's getting married in a few months.

We laughed and I said "well that would be weird if the 3 of us hung out"

She said we could still talk in the gym though and I jokingly said "no way, you're cut!"

We said our goodbyes and see ya around.

Takeways

I find that one sign that shows a girl has disqualified you is if she does'nt ask ME questions. Roosh mentioned this in day bang about bait. That's why I asked her what she does for work. Normally this isn't a "cool" topic I suppose but we were having a fun convo and I wanted to see if she would ask questions. So I suppose that even if a convo is good, if she doesn't ask about you, you're probably out. I'll keep looking for this pattern.

Overall, I'm happy with the progress. I haven't had any closes or anything but more times than not, I am able open with confidence and it seems like the convos are getting better and more natural. There's so many women out there and as long as I keep at it, there's gotta be a few that find me suitable as a potential mate. There's definitely a lot of career oriented girls like the lawyer chick above who have been lied to by feminism and are miserable, numbing themselves to sleep with alcohol. They likely encounter lame guys or get pumped and dumped by ultimate chads on tinder. They're probably yearning for a guy who isn't a reject to approach them in real life.

Post: #3124

Went to the supermarket today. A girl with long hair was walking in my direction but changed course and went back toward a corner of the store. I went for her, an old guy was nearby.

Hey, did you know you were cute?

Didn't get it so I had to repeat. I was standing side by side her. She smiled and said thank you.

It must be difficult to maintain.
[No longer smiling] Yeah.

Didn't know how to turn the pull that I had created into a push. Told her she looked like a student. She said yeah but then left without saying goodbye.
OK I made almost every possible mistake! Talking all about her, not challenging her, not maintaining strong eye contact.

Post: #3125

Did 5/6 approaches today. Very slow start, honestly 30 mins and couldn't find anyone worth approaching. This really killed my vibe and energy, also put a lot of pressure for a girl that I did find. I wish I could just do approach after approach after approach. I can do this in London but its one hour away, so I dont see the point in picking up girls there, but I know I could do 100 approaches and the quality of girls would be high. I had a coffee and recollected myself, the approaches then started to come.

The model kind of went out the window, I was asking too many questions, some girls had bf's but I still put a smile on their face, I love putting a smile on a pretty girls face, it puts a smile on mine.

Before I left I had a really good interaction with a real good looking girl, she wouldnt give me her number but gave me her snapchat, now im home shes removed me from it! Not sure what I did wrong here, the conversation was good, we talked about where she was from, she hooked me, we talked about uni, sushi, then I went for the number, not sure how long the interaction was, maybe it was too short? I was asking questions rather than making statements but she was laughing and enjoying it. Its difficult to keep track of time when youre in the moment. I asked what she was up to and she was just going home, I reckon I couldve got the insta date but bottled it. Ive found her facebook - should I add? nothing to lose?

Takeaways:

If I don't get the number, keep talking and ask again, dont accept anything but the number.
I try to go for the perfect approaches - im conscious of people around us - the last approach was on the high street - im not worried about other people now
Go for the insta date!!I havent done this yet, but this is my next step


Questions for you guys:

How long are your interactions?
Do you only day game in sunlight? It was starting to get dark, I wanted to continue gaming but Im worried girls will feel threatened by me as the sun goes down.