Post: #3001

I am polite, deferential, and gentlemanly by nature and upbringing; therefore, it is sometimes difficult to break through the reserve except after 2 drinks. I notice a vast discrepancy between what my tense "game" image maintenance/strategy dictates and what the explosive energy of the present moment says to me. I have less patience for cultured subtleties .
In the gym, a few hours earlier before going to a bar, I had lifted weights like a wild, giant gorilla.

Post: #3002

Standing in line with my kids at the popular ice cream shop downtown and two slender attractive college age girls get in line behind us. They are looking at the desserts in the display case and chatting about the flavors, I open them by mentioning my older son tried a slice of the Grasshopper ice cream pie and wasn't able to finish it because it was too large of a portion. We exchanged a couple sentences about that then get served. The girls catch up to us in line and the hotter one steps close to me and says "We're getting the Grasshopper pie to split." I said something innocuous like "Oh awesome I'm sure you'll be able to finish it between the two of you." We pay and go sit at a table, a moment later they pay and sit at the table next to us.

While we're eating I turn to them and mention that they could have gotten the joke flavor (had salmon in it) to go with their pie, they ask a couple questions about the joke flavors and my son tells about the flavors he's tried, I mention he's vegetarian so always has to ask about the flavors before he tries them. We exchange a few sentences then go back to our desserts.

My younger son finishes and moves to the other side of their table to play with the giant Jenga set, he builds the whole stack and then walks back over to me and his brother, the hotter girl asks him who he is going to play with and he says "Probably my brother". As he gets back to me I nod at the girls and suggest he ask them to play. He marches right over and asks if they want to play and the hotter one enthusiastically agrees to play for a few minutes. I chat up the other girl while they are playing, turns out they are sisters and she's the younger, the hotter sister works with kids even though their family never expected her to because she didn't use to like kids, they moved from Chicago, hotter sister lives up in a mountain town and the one I'm chatting with lives in the dorms here at our local college. I bring up the Cubs (I'm not a sports fan but see enough headlines) and ask how it made her feel for them to win, we talk about the news stories about really old people finally realizing their dream of seeing the Cubs win, she talks about the Blackhawks parade being too crowded with 3million people and how this parade had 6million people so she's glad she didn't go to it, etc. At one point she asked my older son his name, and he asked hers, unfortunately she didn't ask mine, I let it be figured it was a test to see if she had any interest.

We talked for 5 minutes or so, at one point I mentioned how we were doing our usual Sat eve routine and would be headed to a nearby pinball arcade/bar that was really cool and said they should check it out sometime. The hotter sister wrapped it up with my son and we got our stuff together to leave.

They were very friendly with us, I don't think the younger was interested, I think I probably should have joined the hotter/older one playing Jenga with my son for a couple minutes to see if there was any interest. I don't blatantly hit on chicks while I have my kids with me but do set an example of being a very social guy who talks to everyone, they are very outgoing kids who make it easy to interact with strangers. Overall I'm pleased with myself for making as much effort as I did especially since I was feeling a bit down that afternoon, and also frustrated/disappointed that I didn't try to make more of a connection with the other sister.

Post: #3003

Today I went to attend a driving course. One of the classmates is a solid chick (7.5/10). Nice, hourglass figure, but slighly on the chubby side. Nothing some gym classes and good pounding can't handle.



There was a discussion, and I easily Amoged all the males (I have adopted a lot of Trump's mannerisms, plus I am quite good looking, so it was rather easy).



I have started conversation with her (and other chicks who were WNB). I gave her drops of attention (in order not to appear needy), but I did not receive any IOI's. Soon, she mentioned that she has a boyfriend and asked if I have a girl. I short, I went full Heartiste there (you can easily presume what I said).



Unfortunately, she did not lie - her BF was waiting for her after class. She kissed him first (I think), which means she really cares about the relationship.



Am I angry?



No, why I should be?



I did very well there. But... sometimes, there are battles which will take a lot of effort, and have little gain. This was one of them. If you ask me, I would prefer to spend that energy somewhere else, on a chick that is sluttier and/or single.



Also, as the poster above me said...I left an impression that I am not afraid to state my opinion (typical Sigma) and that my SMV is high (when I went full Heartiste).



I hope that my experience will be of use.

Post: #3004

While leaving my apartment building, ran into a decent looking neighbor with her dog. Was feeling good, opened her with a comment about the dog. I'm not a dog person and couldn't get the creature's gender correct. Asked her for the dogs name, and played with it while making small talk. Started getting nervous and let her go, wished her goodnight as she walked into her and her man's apartment.

Post: #3005

Reading through this thread has been inspirational in many ways, and I want to join the discussion, learn, and hold myself accountable.

A bit of background - I discovered game quite a while ago (when I read...the game), and approached but ended up finding an easy niche for myself and my game kind of leveled out because I didn't have much need for it. Fast forward, I ended up getting married (met via cold approaching, actually), but despite my commitment, I feel like something is missing from my life. I work in a different city and want to approach just for the sake of approaching (and maybe just getting a drink or something during work hours... we'll see where that goes). There is something about talking to a new beautiful woman...

Approach #1 -- Decided to start my journey at a local mall here. Spend about thirty minutes walking around scoping the scene and thinking about this thread and walked by a cute girl sitting in a cafeteria. She was wearing all black so I assumed she works at one of those mall kiosk selling israeli sand...

- Hey, do you know where I can find a starbucks?
-- gives directions...
- wow I wasn't expecting that, your accent is very nice, where -are you from?
-- Israel (looks down at phone).
[I move on]

Review: This was my first cold approach in a while, so I just needed to walk up and get the approach out of my system. Although it went horribly, it was still a monumental step of getting back in the game.

Notes: I found that I'm not making enough eye contact and looking away from the girl - this is bad news, need to keep eye contact throughout the convo and smile.

Approach #2 --
Went to mall again, walked around and saw a very cute hispanic girl sitting around eating from tupperwear. Sat down at a table next to her.

- do you work here?
-- yes, why?
- I'm looking to buy something for my cousin, shes about your age, do you have any advice for trendy store?
-- [smile] at nordstrom?
- wherever
-- yeah theres a lot of good stuff on the third floor [smile]
- what about other places?
-- yeah theres a place.. [describes other places]
- [I ramble for a bit about different comments about the mall and then were both stuck smiling at each other.]
- ok, well it was nice to meet you, thanks for your advice!
-- ok, nice meeting you.

Comments: F*CK! This is my second approach, so I won't be beating myself up too much here, but its clear that I need to practice and approach more - this was a free god-sent gimmie. Next time going to follow-up more with:
"are you on break?";
"what department do you work in?";
"ramble ramble.... whats your name?";
"I know this is weird but do you want to grab a coffee next time you're working?"

Not going to beat myself up too much because I realize this is a process and takes time. Going to try to hit 100 approaches asap as time allows.

Post: #3006

Walking back to work from having lunch and shopping for a few things at Whole Foods, a slender, cute girl probably in early 20's steps out of the doggy daycare as I walk by, we briefly make eye contact and I keep walking to the corner and wait for the crosswalk to turn. She walks up a few moments later, we acknowledge each other and say hello, she stands beside me on the corner.

Me: I saw you come out of the doggy daycare do you work there?
Her: Yes, on my lunch break.
Me: Me too, I work just across the street from you, headed back there now
Her: Cool. Yeah I wanted to get out to enjoy this beautiful weather
Me: I know it's amazing right, I try to do this often
Her: I work in the daycare so get to be outside with the dogs a lot
Me: How long have you worked there?
Her: Since June. How long have you worked in the bank?
Me: I don't work for the bank, we've got some office space on the 3rd floor.
... <chat about the layout of the doggy daycare, mention my conference room windows look out on the shop so we get to see the dogs come and go during our meetings. At this point the crosswalk changes and we walk across the street together> ...
Me: So have you always been an animal lover?
Her: Oh yeah I love animals, I'm a Zoology major at the local university
Me: I dated a girl who studied that, she wanted to be a vet

I don't remember exactly what she said at this point as we reached the other side of the street, she was continuing straight probably on a walk to the park, I was turning left to get a coffee before heading back to work.

Me: Well I'm going to grab a coffee before heading back to work, good talking with you
Her: Ok bye

As soon as I said that I kicked myself for not inviting her to get a coffee with me right then. She was quite friendly, didn't seem to just be polite. I still struggle with having the confidence to believe that a woman nearly 20 years younger than me, college student, tiedye sweatshirt, would be interested in me. Gotta keep practicing and get past this limiting mindset.

Post: #3007

(11-10-2016 04:33 PM)RunsWithScissors Wrote:  Walking back to work from having lunch and shopping for a few things at Whole Foods, a slender, cute girl probably in early 20's steps out of the doggy daycare as I walk by, we briefly make eye contact and I keep walking to the corner and wait for the crosswalk to turn. She walks up a few moments later, we acknowledge each other and say hello, she stands beside me on the corner.

Me: I saw you come out of the doggy daycare do you work there?
Her: Yes, on my lunch break.
Me: Me too, I work just across the street from you, headed back there now
Her: Cool. Yeah I wanted to get out to enjoy this beautiful weather
Me: I know it's amazing right, I try to do this often
Her: I work in the daycare so get to be outside with the dogs a lot
Me: How long have you worked there?
Her: Since June. How long have you worked in the bank?
Me: I don't work for the bank, we've got some office space on the 3rd floor.
... <chat about the layout of the doggy daycare, mention my conference room windows look out on the shop so we get to see the dogs come and go during our meetings. At this point the crosswalk changes and we walk across the street together> ...
Me: So have you always been an animal lover?
Her: Oh yeah I love animals, I'm a Zoology major at the local university
Me: I dated a girl who studied that, she wanted to be a vet

I don't remember exactly what she said at this point as we reached the other side of the street, she was continuing straight probably on a walk to the park, I was turning left to get a coffee before heading back to work.

Me: Well I'm going to grab a coffee before heading back to work, good talking with you
Her: Ok bye

As soon as I said that I kicked myself for not inviting her to get a coffee with me right then. She was quite friendly, didn't seem to just be polite. I still struggle with having the confidence to believe that a woman nearly 20 years younger than me, college student, tiedye sweatshirt, would be interested in me. Gotta keep practicing and get past this limiting mindset.

Nothing really wrong here. Hopefully, you'll see her again on your break. Ask a few more questions regarding her major, then you can gently segue into meeting up with her at a more favourable time and place.

No need to abruptly ask "Would you like to go for a drink?". More naturally, express interest in learning a little more about her field and getting to know her. For example, you could say "That's very interesting what you're studying. I'd like to learn a bit more about it (and about you) if you have time... perhaps some time next week?"

This is a femalespeak - if she doesn't want to, she can back off gracefully. Explicitly, due to having no time, implicitly telling you she's not into you. Women do get what you're really asking about and appreciate your smoothness even if don't interested in you because it isn't confrontational and doesn't put her on the spot to make an immediate decision.

Another advantage is that her committing to drinks would be a big step forward. Her agreeing to drinks is a tacit agreement she's open to having sex (which is great but if a lead is not really 'turned on', then it might backfire). What I'm saying isn't a firm rule, everything depends on the context so you can make your likelihood estimations coming from the feedback she provides during interaction. Statistically, most of the feedback will put most girls as the mean of the Gaussian curve - her being neither too into you or against you.

Hence, if you don't get too much positive feedback, best to not go all guns blazing. Expressing an interest to meet her up but not specifying context and taking little incremental steps will let you decide what to do next.

Say, she expresses mild enthusiasm to meet again and tell you more about her major. You take her number (or, in ideal scenario, she offers one, if she declines but offers facebook, then it's not looking good) and then probe with text msgs before setting up a date (probably between two to five). The more she writes back and the sooner she replies, the better. If her replies are quick and very engaging, if you feel bold, invite her straight to yours. If it's lukewarm, she takes hours to reply, make a low investment of having a walk (to a park, museum, you name it) - you spend nothing (to little) and can easily break off if the date goes sour.

The more practice, the better you'll get.

Post: #3008

Thanks for all the input, I appreciate it, especially the "femalespeak" examples. To be clear I didn't intend to invite her straight to drinks, rather to the coffee shop where I was headed that is 20 feet away. I also think it would have been good to see if she hung around to continue our conversation after we crossed the street or if she just kept trucking on her walk.

Post: #3009

(11-11-2016 02:13 PM)RunsWithScissors Wrote:  Thanks for all the input, I appreciate it, especially the "femalespeak" examples. To be clear I didn't intend to invite her straight to drinks, rather to the coffee shop where I was headed that is 20 feet away. I also think it would have been good to see if she hung around to continue our conversation after we crossed the street or if she just kept trucking on her walk.

Frame it the right way.

When you see her again on a break:

"I liked how you just smiled at me. You've just earned yourself full 15 minutes of my time. I'm heading for a coffee to X, you're invited."

Start walking without waiting for her reply.

Post: #3010

I see a beautiful ass in yoga pants, I could not see her face but her figure was phenomenal!

I sped up my walk so that I got along side of her and then quickly SLIGHTLY AHEAD OF HER with ABOUT 5 FEET OF SPACE IN BETWEEN US..

Within seconds, I notice that she reacts to the cold breeze..

me: burr its cold today
her: oh my god it is
me: funny cause it was warm yesterday
her: i know it got freezing over night
me: has your thanksgiving break started yet?
her: got my last class right now
me: oh nice, what do u study like fashion or something?
her: lol no business
me: ya make that money girl
her: hehe
me: I gotta run but u should give me your number
her: hehe oh i have a boyfriend
me: oh are u happy with him?

She stopped. She looked at me. I could see her mind working..

I think she was pondering whether or not should was willing to cheat on her boyfriend with me..

her: uummm jeez I really should go to class, I'm late..

Her legs were not moving.

I could feel the seductive tension..

I ejected myself! Fuck!!! Mistake!!! I should have walked her to class but I don't like messing with guys girlfriends!

I should have told her that we could just be "friends". I have a feeling she might have been interested. She was looking me in the face with this inquisitive look in her eye.

Oh well!

Next!

--

A stunning, sexy, little white girl walks passed me.. Yoga pants, shoulder length blond hair, tight body..

I pivot, walk in her direction and start a "fake phone call"... I quickly catch up to her as I speak into my phone:

"Don't give her any rules, I don't want any restrictions on her.. We don't want to limit her imagination at all.. If we give her rules, she will stay within the rules.. We want her to feel totally free to do it the way she wants.. "

I say this so that she can hear me.. I want my words to catch her attention.. It often does..

This little "fake phone call" thing can really help lubricate a street approach.

I end the fake conversation:

"Okay, email me and tell her I said to it however SHE FUCKING WANTS!"

I take the phone down from my ear..

I am 1.5 steps ahead of her, I notice her over my shoulder..

me: you're so fit, can u be my personal trainer?
her: ha thank you
me: whats ur secret?
her: oh I don't know hehe
me: has your thanksgiving break started yet?
her: yes!
me: nice

We walked and talked for a minute.

me: u from around here?
her: no san diego
me: cool. I got family in la jolla
her: its so nice up there
me: it is -- Hey I gotta run but you wanna get coffee or something sometime?
her: um ya sure

Got her number.

--

I see a slim, sexy girl in tight pants.. Tight little body...

Again, I walk alongside of her and start my "fake phone call":

"Don't give her any rules, I don't want any restrictions on her.. We don't want to limit her imagination at all.. If we give her rules, she will stay within the rules.. We want her to feel totally free to do it the way she wants.. Okay, email me and tell her I said to it however SHE FUCKING WANTS!"

I hang up and within moments I open her..

me: cool pumas
her: thanks
me: those are vintage, very cool
her: ya they are hard to find

She went on a rant about her shoes and how she found them.

I forgot what happened next?!?!?

Next!

--

I see a sexy, white girl with luscious hair..

I time my steps so that we reach the corner at the exact same time..

me: look at that hair!

She looked at me with a big grin.

me: is that natural?
her: umm yeah!
me: I wish mine was like that.. mine grows too straight!
her: haha

We entered the library and she went over to the printing stations.. I pretended look up something on a computer.. Within about 2 minutes I walked back over to her..

me: hey
her: hey
me: this is super random but I wanted to ask u wanna maybe want to get a drink or something some time?
her: sorry I have a boyfriend.

Next!

--

I spot a pretty, slim, little asian girl and catch up to her in the science department as she is putting something into a storage locker..

me: wow u get your own little lockers down here
her: yes
me: what branch of science do u study
her: chemistry
me: u guys make the best drugs
her: haha
me: you're so slim, you're using chemistry to control your body.
her: ya but I love to eat!
me: me too. I actually study nutrition

I kept walking passed her because it seemed incongruent to stop.

But, quickly, I turned and took a few steps back in her direction..

me: hey ummm my name's gio
her: oh hi
me: we should get coffee sometime
her: ha thanks but I'm ok

Next!

--

I see a beautiful latina, grey yoga pants, slim and sexy, long brown hair, bubble butt, slim waist..

I follow her into a building and she gets in line... She actually CUTS IN LINE by going directly to the front..

me: hey no cutting

She turns in embarrassment..

her: oh I was just reading the signs
me: I was just teasing, I don't care if you cut, go ahead
her: haha
me: what are you trying to do?
her: I'm transferring
me: why?
her: I don't like it here

Blah, blah, blah

her: I don't have any freinds lol
me: that is so funny
her: don't make fun of me
me: I'm not

We talked a little bit about San Francisco & Berkeley

me: u need the right tour guide, when are u leaving?
her: at the end of the semester
me: u should give me ur number and I'll show u how to have fun around here
her: haha really?
me: yeah what is it?

Got her number.

--

I saw a gorgeous Mediterranean girl.. We made eye contact and held it for a moment.. I took a few steps towards her..

me: wow your eyes are so green!

She smiled.

me: those must be contacts!
her: nope
me: wow you have great eyes
her: thank you
me: are you algerian?
her: no why would you ask that?
me: was just guessing
her: i'm russian and palestinian
me: I knew it
her: you said algerian
me: but I meant russian
her: what hehe

We had a nice chemistry. We talked for a few minutes..

me: nice meeting you
her: you too
me: should we try to see each other again sometime?
her: I'm flattered but I have a boyfriend and I'm not that kind of girl
me: I respect that

Next!

She was hot. The vibe was pretty good because we had a natural appreciation for each other aesthetically and in terms of attitude. My honest and direct approach worked well.. Holding the eye contact with a slight smirk/smile worked.. I am always careful to NOT walk around with low energy body language.. My facial expressions are playful and inviting..

**********

A note about the "Fake Phone Call" trick..

After much trial and error, I like the little script that I am currently using..

"Don't give her any rules, I don't want any restrictions on her.. We don't want to limit her imagination at all.. If we give her rules, she will stay within the rules.. We want her to feel totally free to do it the way she wants.. Okay, email me and tell her I said to it however SHE FUCKING WANTS!"

I know girls take notice.

I designed this script specifically so that they would take notice.

I know that this "primes" them and introduces them to me BEFORE I ever even talk to them!

Just today, I came across a book about persuasion, here is what the author says about the MOMENTS BEFORE THE MESSAGE IS DELIVERED:

Quote:"social psychologist shines a light on effective persuasion and reveals that the secret doesn’t lie in the message itself, but in the key moment before that message is delivered.

What separates effective communicators from truly successful persuaders?

Using the same combination of rigorous scientific research and accessibility that made his Influence an iconic bestseller, Robert Cialdini explains how to capitalize on the essential window of time before you deliver an important message.

This “privileged moment for change” prepares people to be receptive to a message before they experience it. Optimal persuasion is achieved only through optimal pre-suasion. In other words, to change “minds” a pre-suader must also change “states of mind.”

His first solo work in over thirty years, Cialdini’s Pre-Suasion draws on his extensive experience as the most cited social psychologist of our time and explains the techniques a person should implement to become a master persuader. Altering a listener’s attitudes, beliefs, or experiences isn’t necessary, says Cialdini—all that’s required is for a communicator to redirect the audience’s focus of attention before a relevant action.

From studies on advertising imagery to treating opiate addiction, from the annual letters of Berkshire Hathaway to the annals of history, Cialdini draws on an array of studies and narratives to outline the specific techniques you can use on online marketing campaigns and even effective wartime propaganda. He illustrates how the artful diversion of attention leads to successful pre-suasion and gets your targeted audience primed and ready to say, “Yes.”

Post: #3011

"Don't give her any rules, I don't want any restrictions on her.. We don't want to limit her imagination at all.. If we give her rules, she will stay within the rules.. We want her to feel totally free to do it the way she wants.. "


Machiavellian stuff.

You are oozing non judgment from your pores before you even meet her.

Post: #3012

(11-21-2016 05:31 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  I see a beautiful ass in yoga pants, I could not see her face but her figure was phenomenal!

I sped up my walk so that I got along side of her and then quickly SLIGHTLY AHEAD OF HER with ABOUT 5 FEET OF SPACE IN BETWEEN US..

Within seconds, I notice that she reacts to the cold breeze..

me: burr its cold today
her: oh my god it is
me: funny cause it was warm yesterday
her: i know it got freezing over night
me: has your thanksgiving break started yet?
her: got my last class right now
me: oh nice, what do u study like fashion or something?
her: lol no business
me: ya make that money girl
her: hehe
me: I gotta run but u should give me your number
her: hehe oh i have a boyfriend
me: oh are u happy with him?

She stopped. She looked at me. I could see her mind working..

I think she was pondering whether or not should was willing to cheat on her boyfriend with me..

her: uummm jeez I really should go to class, I'm late..

Her legs were not moving.

I could feel the seductive tension..

I ejected myself! Fuck!!! Mistake!!! I should have walked her to class but I don't like messing with guys girlfriends!

I should have told her that we could just be "friends". I have a feeling she might have been interested. She was looking me in the face with this inquisitive look in her eye.

Oh well!

Next!

--

A stunning, sexy, little white girl walks passed me.. Yoga pants, shoulder length blond hair, tight body..

I pivot, walk in her direction and start a "fake phone call"... I quickly catch up to her as I speak into my phone:

"Don't give her any rules, I don't want any restrictions on her.. We don't want to limit her imagination at all.. If we give her rules, she will stay within the rules.. We want her to feel totally free to do it the way she wants.. "

I say this so that she can hear me.. I want my words to catch her attention.. It often does..

This little "fake phone call" thing can really help lubricate a street approach.

I end the fake conversation:

"Okay, email me and tell her I said to it however SHE FUCKING WANTS!"

I take the phone down from my ear..

I am 1.5 steps ahead of her, I notice her over my shoulder..

me: you're so fit, can u be my personal trainer?
her: ha thank you
me: whats ur secret?
her: oh I don't know hehe
me: has your thanksgiving break started yet?
her: yes!
me: nice

We walked and talked for a minute.

me: u from around here?
her: no san diego
me: cool. I got family in la jolla
her: its so nice up there
me: it is -- Hey I gotta run but you wanna get coffee or something sometime?
her: um ya sure

Got her number.

--

I see a slim, sexy girl in tight pants.. Tight little body...

Again, I walk alongside of her and start my "fake phone call":

"Don't give her any rules, I don't want any restrictions on her.. We don't want to limit her imagination at all.. If we give her rules, she will stay within the rules.. We want her to feel totally free to do it the way she wants.. Okay, email me and tell her I said to it however SHE FUCKING WANTS!"

I hang up and within moments I open her..

me: cool pumas
her: thanks
me: those are vintage, very cool
her: ya they are hard to find

She went on a rant about her shoes and how she found them.

I forgot what happened next?!?!?

Next!

--

I see a sexy, white girl with luscious hair..

I time my steps so that we reach the corner at the exact same time..

me: look at that hair!

She looked at me with a big grin.

me: is that natural?
her: umm yeah!
me: I wish mine was like that.. mine grows too straight!
her: haha

We entered the library and she went over to the printing stations.. I pretended look up something on a computer.. Within about 2 minutes I walked back over to her..

me: hey
her: hey
me: this is super random but I wanted to ask u wanna maybe want to get a drink or something some time?
her: sorry I have a boyfriend.

Next!

--

I spot a pretty, slim, little asian girl and catch up to her in the science department as she is putting something into a storage locker..

me: wow u get your own little lockers down here
her: yes
me: what branch of science do u study
her: chemistry
me: u guys make the best drugs
her: haha
me: you're so slim, you're using chemistry to control your body.
her: ya but I love to eat!
me: me too. I actually study nutrition

I kept walking passed her because it seemed incongruent to stop.

But, quickly, I turned and took a few steps back in her direction..

me: hey ummm my name's gio
her: oh hi
me: we should get coffee sometime
her: ha thanks but I'm ok

Next!

--

I see a beautiful latina, grey yoga pants, slim and sexy, long brown hair, bubble butt, slim waist..

I follow her into a building and she gets in line... She actually CUTS IN LINE by going directly to the front..

me: hey no cutting

She turns in embarrassment..

her: oh I was just reading the signs
me: I was just teasing, I don't care if you cut, go ahead
her: haha
me: what are you trying to do?
her: I'm transferring
me: why?
her: I don't like it here

Blah, blah, blah

her: I don't have any freinds lol
me: that is so funny
her: don't make fun of me
me: I'm not

We talked a little bit about San Francisco & Berkeley

me: u need the right tour guide, when are u leaving?
her: at the end of the semester
me: u should give me ur number and I'll show u how to have fun around here
her: haha really?
me: yeah what is it?

Got her number.

--

I saw a gorgeous Mediterranean girl.. We made eye contact and held it for a moment.. I took a few steps towards her..

me: wow your eyes are so green!

She smiled.

me: those must be contacts!
her: nope
me: wow you have great eyes
her: thank you
me: are you algerian?
her: no why would you ask that?
me: was just guessing
her: i'm russian and palestinian
me: I knew it
her: you said algerian
me: but I meant russian
her: what hehe

We had a nice chemistry. We talked for a few minutes..

me: nice meeting you
her: you too
me: should we try to see each other again sometime?
her: I'm flattered but I have a boyfriend and I'm not that kind of girl
me: I respect that

Next!

She was hot. The vibe was pretty good because we had a natural appreciation for each other aesthetically and in terms of attitude. My honest and direct approach worked well.. Holding the eye contact with a slight smirk/smile worked.. I am always careful to NOT walk around with low energy body language.. My facial expressions are playful and inviting..

**********

A note about the "Fake Phone Call" trick..

After much trial and error, I like the little script that I am currently using..

"Don't give her any rules, I don't want any restrictions on her.. We don't want to limit her imagination at all.. If we give her rules, she will stay within the rules.. We want her to feel totally free to do it the way she wants.. Okay, email me and tell her I said to it however SHE FUCKING WANTS!"

I know girls take notice.

I designed this script specifically so that they would take notice.

I know that this "primes" them and introduces them to me BEFORE I ever even talk to them!

Just today, I came across a book about persuasion, here is what the author says about the MOMENTS BEFORE THE MESSAGE IS DELIVERED:

Quote:"social psychologist shines a light on effective persuasion and reveals that the secret doesn’t lie in the message itself, but in the key moment before that message is delivered.

What separates effective communicators from truly successful persuaders?

Using the same combination of rigorous scientific research and accessibility that made his Influence an iconic bestseller, Robert Cialdini explains how to capitalize on the essential window of time before you deliver an important message.

This “privileged moment for change” prepares people to be receptive to a message before they experience it. Optimal persuasion is achieved only through optimal pre-suasion. In other words, to change “minds” a pre-suader must also change “states of mind.”

His first solo work in over thirty years, Cialdini’s Pre-Suasion draws on his extensive experience as the most cited social psychologist of our time and explains the techniques a person should implement to become a master persuader. Altering a listener’s attitudes, beliefs, or experiences isn’t necessary, says Cialdini—all that’s required is for a communicator to redirect the audience’s focus of attention before a relevant action.

From studies on advertising imagery to treating opiate addiction, from the annual letters of Berkshire Hathaway to the annals of history, Cialdini draws on an array of studies and narratives to outline the specific techniques you can use on online marketing campaigns and even effective wartime propaganda. He illustrates how the artful diversion of attention leads to successful pre-suasion and gets your targeted audience primed and ready to say, “Yes.”

I have just bought this book. Thanks for recommendation!

Post: #3013

(10-18-2016 07:30 PM)Half Century Wrote:  Coffee Shop Fuck Up:
So there I was in a coffee shop, where I usually order to go for my commute. Free time today, decided to actually sit down there, having read Day Bang and wanting to try out this particular venue.

Agree with Gorgiass.

Macro level feedback HalfCentury - You worry too much, you think too much. Seriousness is the antithesis of game. Gio is a great role model, telling girls he tried to hit them with their car door.
Best framework I can highlight for you is to think of talking to them as talking to a child. You want to make them laugh, but you dont care much eitherway.

That being said, seemed like the mom had the highest chance. Don't ignore your gut. If youre commonly in coffee shops, prep one or two openers you can use in a crunch. I opened one on Tuesday afternoon outside Coffee Bean by asking her where Starbucks was, which confused her because she was holding a Coffee Bean drink. You can stack on stuff like that by insisting on wacky scenarios like you own SBUX stock and want your money to come back to you.

Have fun If you're nervous because somebody might recognize you, dont do it and go somewhere else where the chances are lower.

Post: #3014

Gio great posts. I laugh my ass off whenever i read next!

Do you feel you have the tendency to go for the closes too soon?

Is that a strategy for time saving/mass approaching?

It seems like in many of the approaches you do great to get your foot in the door but you try to close before having created any attraction or some slightly longer interaction.

Obviously youre there and can judge whether the interaction was ending anyway, but just wondering if thats deliberate

Post: #3015

(11-24-2016 07:02 AM)Beirut Wrote:  Gio great posts.

Do you feel you have the tendency to go for the closes too soon?

Yes, sometimes..

I know I can be better about building some sort of attraction BEFORE I go for the number..

I don't feel the issue is "closing to soon" -- I think I just need to get better about creating a connection quickly.

(11-24-2016 07:02 AM)Beirut Wrote:  Is that a strategy for time saving/mass approaching?

Not really.

It's just that I often approach girls who are moving quickly.. Going to class, leaving class, on the street, public transportation, in the grocery store, etc.

I usually don't have a lot of time... So, I move quickly..

(11-24-2016 07:02 AM)Beirut Wrote:  It seems like in many of the approaches you do great to get your foot in the door but you try to close before having created any attraction or some slightly longer interaction.

Yes.

I need to get better at creating attraction in these fast approaches.

Do you have any advice to help me do that?

(11-24-2016 07:02 AM)Beirut Wrote:  Obviously you're there and can judge whether the interaction was ending anyway, but just wondering if thats deliberate

It's not deliberate -- it's done mostly because I approach moving targets and I have a limited amount of time.

KEEP IN MIND THAT I AM APPROACHING GIRLS HALF MY AGE WHO ARE OFTEN BETTER LOOKING THAN ME. I know I will have a low rate of success. I don't worry about the failures, I just focus on finding success.

I admit, I'm not great at building attraction.

I usually have success when the girl is immediately attracted to me and my vibe.

**********

A few more recent approaches:

I beautiful Scandinavian blond super model looking bitch walked right passed me.. We made eye contact..

I immediately turned around and caught up to her, getting slightly in front of her to get her attention..

me: hey
her: hello
me: I know its super random but I wanted to come introduce myself, I know I'll never see u again and I was already regretting walking away
her: oh hi thats so sweet of you but I have a..

Next!

Fuck she was hot!

--

I pretty, young, white girl walks passed me, slim and sexy..

I get myself directly ALONGSIDE of her and notice the pins on her bag..

me: you're a pin collector
her: hehe not really a collector but I do keep the ones I like
me: a collector of the cool pins
her: ya sort of I guess
me: you ever tried making your own?
her: no
me: its not that hard, you could design and produce your own
her: huh I never thought of that

We walked and talked. I told her about my friend who makes pins and sells them at festivals, concerts, etc.

She was pleasant. She conversation flowed nicely..

me: did u grow up around here?
her: No, im from newport beach
me: i love that area
her: ya its nice
me: Berkeley is treating u well
her: ya I love it

Blah, blah, blah..

me: hey u wanna get coffee or something sometime?
her: uh yeah

Got her number!

--

At the market, I see a sexy blond in yoga pants, hot body!

Some guy is blocking her path as she is trying to push her shopping cart.. I make eye contact with her and we both sort of roll our eyes at the slow moving fat guy...

me: beep beep

She laughed.

I walked away but two minutes later, I see her in the dairy section.

me: you should have just bumped your cart into his and pretended it was as accident lol
her: lololol
me: I do it all the time
her: hehe
me: are you an athlete?
her: no but I work out a lot
me: oh well, crossfit made working out a "sport"
her: ha thats true

We talked for a minute.

me: hey whats ur number, lets go for a jog on the beach or something
her: oh sorry, I'm with someone

Next!

--

Jogging down a busy street, a beautiful, sexy, tight bodied asian walks right past me...

I immediately turn and jog over to her..

me: hi
her: hi
me: I was jogging the other way but I wanted to come say hi, you look great and I know I'll never see you again, I mean, you just never know in life
her: hey no its totally fine, you never know
me: what are u up to?
her: oh just meeting a friend for dinner
me: nice, lots of good options around here
her: yup
me: my name is gio
her: hi gio, Im ann
me: are u from around here?
her: umm, well, I grew up in San Jose

Blah, blah, blah..

me: well, I better get going but ummm.. wanna try to talk again?
her: sure

Got her number!

--

In a liquor store with my friend, a beautiful red headed white girl comes in and buys a box of crackers..

me: those are my favorite
her: ha
me: so good with a nice sharp chedder
her: yes
me:what do u eat them with?
her: salami
me: hahahaha

I exit the store to wait for her outside.

She comes out.

me: hey I love your diet
her: haha
me: you must have great genetics to stay in such good shape
her: ya I guess
me: are u from france or something?
her: lolol no im from san jose
me: oh u seemed frenchie to me, ever heard of the book -- "french women don't get fat"
her: yes i have heard of it

We talked for a minute.

me: well I don't wanna hold you up but u wanna talk crackers and cheese over wine sometime
her: I'm really flattered but..

Next!

Post: #3016

Some approaches as of late:

Tall, mid 20s blonde at the lunch buffet looking at soup.

Me: excuse me, is that good soup?
Her: I'm not sure, I've never had it.
Me: oh, so you're no help (smirk)
Her: Ha I guess not.
Me: Yeah, with fall coming up, I'm really in the mood for a good soup. I always just get the regular buffet food.
Her: yeah, it's good soup weather but I always like something more substantial too.
Me: Me too. I moved here recently and am just kind of getting used to this place.
Her: where from? (interrupting)
Me: and I haven't tried the soup yet, but looks good. (Pause) Where would you guess?
Her: (wrong guess)
Me; told her, blah blah. Told her she had a bit of an accent but she actually was from somewhere close.
Talked another minute.
Me. By the way, what's your name?
Her: Hailey.
Me: Nice to meet you Hailey (shake her hand and say nothing smiling)
Her: what's your name?
Me: robreke
talk a few more seconds.
Me: Well, I've got to get to work and I know you're on your break. Could I invite you for coffee or a drink sometime.
Her: Yes
Got the number...been texting on and off. She said she was going to text me last week when she had a free night but never texted so I reopened her today with a Thanksgiving text. I will wait until after the weekend to reinitiate.

Was getting at the grocery and spotted an athletic young woman across the store. Walked to her.
Me: Excuse me.
She looks
Me: Is that good ( I don't even remember the item in her little carry box)
Her: blah blah ( seemed intrigued and somewhat friendly.)
side note: I call this "receptivity game" if they're nice and talk, good sign. If stand offish and 'why are you talking to me?' vibe...it's more difficult. Obvious but simple approach.
Me: oh okay, I was at a friends the other night and she had some and was saying it was good, but I still haven't tried it.
Her: Yeah it's pretty good blah blah.
I asked another dumb question or two then...
Me: So, you have a slight accent, i think you're not from this city.
Her: I have an accent? Well, you're right I'm not from here I'm from Alabama.
Me: Oh I recognize a southern girl when I hear one. I moved here pretty recently so I've been paying attention to the way people talk.
Her; Really? where did you move from?
Me: take a guess.
Her: California?
Me: No, I don't think I can talk to you anymore since you guessed that. ( amused smirk)
Her: somewhat amused, "well I give up"
Me: I told her where and she asked another question about it.
The vibe was going well, good eye contact and smiling and I was asking her about what she does in her free time then, I see her look past me and say.
Her: Sadartha! hey!
I turn around and she her Indian girlfriend walk up. They both start gabbing. They were at the store together just separated. I say hello to her and she's friendly but the cockblock has happened.
Me: Hey, thanks for the feedback.
Her; Sure, good luck.
Damn...I'd have got her number.

a few days later. Very attractive brunette. Tall, mid 20s, slim and in shape walks to the wine section.
Me: I siddle up beside her as she's looking at red wine. "excuse me" she looks. "Hi how are you" I say softly with a slight smile as she makes eye contact.
Her: I'm good.
Me. Can I tell you something real quick?
Her: yes, go ahead.
Me: I was just looking at wine, I saw you and thought you looked really nice and wanted to say hello.
Her: oh thank you.
Me: Yeah, I tell you what I noticed. I was in Europe last year for a few weeks. You remind me a lot of some of the ladies I saw in Northern europe.
Her: Oh, that sounds fun. ( her body language was a little cautious and she had a polite smile. Her eye contact was on and off. She was not sold at this point but just on polite "auto pilot")
Me: yeah, I was in such and such a country.
Her: nice, I went backpacking through Europe last year but didn't go there.
( I should have expounded upon this, and asked more questions, I was too in my head and 'sensitive' to the fact that she was a little guarded in her body language)
we chatted for another minute but I didn't plough or flirt enough. she was crossing her arms a bit and on off eye contact. It wasn't great game on my part...I could have tried harder to sell her.
Me: well, I have to go meet some friends soon, but nice talking to you.
Her: you too robreke.
Me: Hey, would you like to grab a coffee or drink sometime?
Her: I'm going to pass, I recently got out of a long relationship.
Me: nodded a little and said " I understand, been there done that. Have a good week."
Her: you too. thanks.

Later that afternoon: Cute blonde with tight yoga pants and bubble ass. Prob mid to late 20s. She was putting things in her grocery cart in produce section. Same opener as above.

Me: yeah, you remind me of some of the ladies in the scandanavian countries I saw when I was visiting there.
Her: well, I'm half scottish half dutch so that makes sense.
She smiled politely and just walked away saying thank you.

Next day, I see a attractive blonde woman doing laptop work sitting at a table at a big grocery store. She gets up to leave and I time my walk so that we are walking at each other as she is exiting the store. As we come even to each other but before we pass, I slow and say:
Me: Excuse me.
Her: she stops and looks at me "yes?"
Me: Hi how are you? ( said in an easy voice with a easy smile and eye contact)
Her: I'm good how are you?
Me: Good. can I tell you something real quick?
Her: Yes.
Me: I saw you and thought you looked really nice and wanted to say hello.
Her: Oh that's nice, thank you.
Me: you got it. I tell you what I noticed. I was in Europe last year......
she was quite talkative. I told her she looked like she'd been busy working. She told mer about her job etc etc. The whole time there was intense eye contact. This woman was a stunner. Blonde hair, blue eyes, 5'8. Athletic fit body. Any man's trophy so I felt she was "testing" me with her intense eye contact to make sure I was 'that kind of guy' Probably a semi Alpha to Alpha female. I met her eye contact strongly the whole time. After 5 minutes of chat.
Me: So what do you do for fun in your free time?
Her: well, I like the outdoors. I have a dog. I also have a boyfriend ( she said this last and kind of waived her hand dismissively)
I asked her a few questions about her dog
After I asked her name, she asked me mine.
Me: well, I need tog get back to work Lauren but nice to talk to you.
Her: sure.
Me: Hey, I know you have a boyfriend, but, this is (name of city) and things change so, maybe we could do a coffee or drink sometime.
Her: absolutely.
Number closed. As she left she thanked me and told me I made her day.
I texted her a few hours later and no response. I'll do one more text next week and just let her know I'm open to a low key cup of coffee and drink if she ever is. In retrospect, I should have carried the intense eye contact and seeming attraction with scheduling a "clandestine" date right then and there. "hey, I'd like to hear more about where you grew up...what's your evening look like" some r-selection if you will. Instead I just got the number as the "consolation prize"

I also approached a completely fit English girl who had just got into town. After a few minutes of flirting and her asking questions, she tells me she's with a tight knit group and one of them is her husband :\ So, I ejected politely. As I walked away I saw an English looking dude who had dropped something into her grocery cart as I was talking to her earlier making eye contact with me. Probably him or one of her 'guardians' He was just kind of standing off 20 feet away as I chatted and flirted with her, her reciprocating mind you. Hypergamy man....

Post: #3017

I don't know if anyone here watches the show "impractical jokers". But today my homie put me on it and I jumped into the second episode of the first season.
Basically they go out in public and compete against each other in social competitions. The dude that is doing the task has to say/do whatever the other three comedians tell him to do. As I'm watching it I start to notice the girls reactions and holy shit...





















GAH.
FUCKING.
DAMN.

Those reactions?!? This show may low key be a goldmine of day game and night game approaches--maybe you dial it down or dial it up but damn son! This type of outlandishness is right up my alley--no homo. Watching them you can literally see their interest spike and at anytime they could have flipped the routine into a phone number or an instadate. That one with the dolphin pussy--she was ready to go! Going to start experimenting on this stuff. Thumbs up lol

Introducing: Impractical Joker Game

Post: #3018

(11-24-2016 07:21 PM)robreke Wrote:  excuse me, is that good soup?

Could I invite you for coffee or a drink sometime?

I saw you and thought you looked really nice and wanted to say hello.

Would you like to grab a coffee or drink sometime?

I saw you and thought you looked really nice and wanted to say hello.

Maybe we could do a coffee or drink sometime.

Robreke,

I want to thank you for posting these approaches.

They remind me of my approaches. Reading yours has giving me a new perspective on mine.

I need to be more emotionally engaging, polarizing, and passionate about humor -- while at the same time being less polite, formal, and rudimentary.

I am not criticizing you. I am critiquing myself.

My language has been too logical and methodical. My tone has been too well mannered and cordial.

I have been too concerned with social custom and not concerned enough about getting panties wet!

It's time for me to add some crazy comedic vibes to my approach.

(11-24-2016 07:21 PM)robreke Wrote:  I should have carried the intense eye contact and seeming attraction with scheduling a "clandestine" date right then and there. "hey, I'd like to hear more about where you grew up...what's your evening look like" some r-selection if you will.

Yes!

More passion, more sexuality, more fun!!

Less chivalry!

*****

(11-25-2016 03:51 AM)Mufasa Wrote:  the show "impractical jokers".





Introducing: Impractical Joker Game

I love it!

This is exactly the direction that I need to go!

Thanks again Mufasa! Once again, you have helped my game!

My approaches just got crazier!!

I can't wait to hit the streets!

Post: #3019

I admire Sal's ability to approach table and pretend to be one of the friends. Shitload of confidence!

Post: #3020

^ I've found probably what you have, Gio. That is, if a interaction with a girl is too "polite" and cordial, there's often not enough attraction sparked. I may get the number, but there's a higher likelihood of a flake.

It's what what some PUAs call "spiking" meaning, disagreeing, making a little fun of her or busting her balls a bit.

If I don't do this and just have a pleasant conversation with her, I'm just another "nice guy" who tried to hit on her. Gotta spit a little bad boy, outcome independent, alpha smack.

Attractive women are used to guys kissing their ass and agreeing with them. If I disagree with something she says, I may tell them or tell them my mom warned me about girls like her, etc. In short, bust on them, just a little, like they're my friend's bratty little sister. I always do this with a humorous smirk or smile of course.

Once I get good feedback from this (IOIs) then, I'll switch to comfort a bit. I'm also experimenting with, when I shake their hand as we're exchanging names, I don't let go first. I very lightly hold on and let her let go first. I'll keep holding her hand for a bit as we talk if she's cool with it. More attraction sparking.

I've just started with this but I'm going to see where it goes.

Post: #3021

(11-25-2016 03:57 PM)robreke Wrote:  ^ I've found probably what you have, Gio. That is, if a interaction with a girl is too "polite" and cordial, there's often not enough attraction sparked. I may get the number, but there's a higher likelihood of a flake.

It's what what some PUAs call "spiking" meaning, disagreeing, making a little fun of her or busting her balls a bit.

If I don't do this and just have a pleasant conversation with her, I'm just another "nice guy" who tried to hit on her. Gotta spit a little bad boy, outcome independent, alpha smack.

Attractive women are used to guys kissing their ass and agreeing with them. If I disagree with something she says, I may tell them or tell them my mom warned me about girls like her, etc. In short, bust on them, just a little, like they're my friend's bratty little sister. I always do this with a humorous smirk or smile of course.

Once I get good feedback from this (IOIs) then, I'll switch to comfort a bit. I'm also experimenting with, when I shake their hand as we're exchanging names, I don't let go first. I very lightly hold on and let her let go first. I'll keep holding her hand for a bit as we talk if she's cool with it. More attraction sparking.

I've just started with this but I'm going to see where it goes.

Was talking about that with a former plate and she confirmed that was the main reason why we hooked up. She was like "well I liked the way you look before we talked but when you approached me, at first I was afraid you were just another guy following me like a puppy all night being clingy."

In my head I was thanking our ancesters for discovering alcohol because that helped me A LOT! And, I also took it as a hint that I need to work on my posture/bodylanguage.

Post: #3022

(11-25-2016 03:16 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

(11-25-2016 03:51 AM)Mufasa Wrote:  the show "impractical jokers".





Introducing: Impractical Joker Game

I love it!

This is exactly the direction that I need to go!

Thanks again Mufasa! Once again, you have helped my game!

My approaches just got crazier!!

I can't wait to hit the streets!

I know right!!
I saw this shit and got hyped as fuck. This is the type of stuff that makes the game fun! look at how much fun they are having gotta love it!

Post: #3023

Tonight I'm going to use Sal's "penny for your thoughts" opener.

me: what are you thinking?
her: blah blah
me: Im thinking I'm the baddest boy in the whole wide world

The six flags porno opener
me: "would you love a man with a huge porno collection...like myself"

Should be fun

Post: #3024

(11-25-2016 03:51 AM)Mufasa Wrote:  



















Introducing: Impractical Joker Game

This post has changed my life!!!!

I was stuck at a plateau and in a comfort zone where I just made friendly and polite conversation with women.. I wasn't creating enough of an emotional charge. I wasn't having enough fun!

This show made me realize that I desperately need to get back to ENTERTAINING MYSELF! That is when I am at my best!

I have been doing crazy shit. Almost too crazy! I literally walk around like I am a stand up comedian and I do crazy shit like the stuff on this show! It's so funny!

I will post details soon.. I have to go right now cause I'm going to a university campus to get a college girl! Friday at lunch is prime time on campus!

I will be back in this thread soon!

MUFASA, THANK YOU -- YOU CHANGED MY PERSPECTIVE AND MY LIFE!

I'm seriously thinking about doing some stand up comedy.

Post: #3025

I attended an Ecstatic Dance gathering last night.

It was about 15 minutes in when I got there, and a blonde opened her eyes to catch mine as I joined the circle. She was easily the best looking out of the other girls there, and would be an 8 if not for a forgivable sprinkling of acne on her lower cheek. Looked hippie, which was expected given the event.

The dance itself took 2 hours, for some reason I was a bit more energetic than usual. The gender ratio was only just tipped against the guys.

I ended up sitting next to her in the circle after the dance. In our brief thank you spiel, she revealed herself to be American. I wrestled mentally for an opener for a second.

"So what's it like to start experiencing Ecstatic Dance in every continent?" I asked.

"Haha! I guess you could say it's going to get like that" she replied.

I mentioned having gone to something similar in Africa, which piqued her attention.

"What's your name? I'm Ali," she introduced herself.
"JWLZG," I shook her hand.
"Here, I'll hug you," she said. We did.

We chatted about how time flew ridiculously during that session, joked a little about having to tell the time using the stars and moon, and mentioned that my mobile got stolen. She asked about safety here, whether it taken from my person, and I told her deadpan that someone randomly reached into my pocket and grabbed it.

"Please tell me you were messing with me, because I am pretty gullible," she admitted.
I did imply that wasn't the case. I would end up using that fact to troll her throughout the night.

I swung the topic towards her plans in Australia, we chatted a bit about the festival scene here, and I inserted a tease about building up a wristband collection to cover her forearm.
She was rather receptive to me from the get go, and our bodies eventually rotated to face each other.

I think we must've touched on our plans for tonight, because she mentioned having to catch and tram to her hostel and having missed her last one. That tram line was the same as mine, which I told her.
"How about we catch that one together," I suggested.
"OK, sure," she agreed.

The organiser went over to speak to her while she packed her backpack. I went to talk to 3 of the other guys. Despite the somewhat even gender ratio, the 2 of us were the only ones who had gotten together.

We headed out the room. It was located in a large sustainability centre and urban farm that hosts lots of alternative events like this. She said something about her night vision not being fantastic.

"Didn't eat enough carrots when you were little?" I teased.
"I think I tried to," she said *Ramble*
"Cool — So you've got that myth in America as well?" I asked.
"What, carrots giving you good eyesight. I think so, where did it come from?"

I rambled shit for a little bit more about that myth originating from a Peanuts cartoon. I figured by now that explaining that it was World War II folklore would be a massive panty dryer.

We bantered a bit about trust and getting lost among the large veggie patch we were walking through, then she asked me how long I'd been living in Australia, and said she could hardly tell the difference between an Australian and a British accent.
"Like you can't tell whether I'm switching between them or mixing them together to confuse the hell out of you," I suggested.
"You are messing with me again, are you?"
"What, do I sound like Hugh Grant or something," I suggested dryly.
"You do, actually," she said.
"Glad you time in the UK wasn't a waste," I replied.

I actually have that as my Tinder bio, but I felt I shouldn't be to crass mentioning that. We talked about Melbourne a little bit more, and when she compared it to home, I asked, "So whereabouts are you from in Colorado? Boulder, Denver?"
"Wow! You already know the cities there!"

She explained a bit about living in Denver, and also in the mountains. When she added that she liked snowboarded, I dropped the fact that I'd used to teach it. That prompted a bit more awe from her. We talked about that some more, I commented on how I liked the pattern of her cardigan, then segued into my asking what brought her to Australia.

Her answer was pretty hippie, hah, along the lines feeling a calling or a pull to see the world after finishing nursing school.
"What, like an ecstatic dance rhythm?" I suggested cheekily.
"Haha, yeah that!" She said. Predictably, she said something about how she felt the Indigenous spirit in her motivation to visit here.

We reached the tram stop, and I observed the next one would take another 20 minutes to arrive. I relayed that news to her.

"How about we walk, if we're lucky it might even catch up with us," I added as an afterthought.

"OK, let's do that," she complied.

We bantered a bit about left and right hand driving, and when she mentioned wanting to visit the Great Ocean Road, I pulled her leg about being 42 when I mentioned not having not been there in almost a decade. She mentioned her disappointment at the beaches here (her hostel is in a major coastal suburb) and I told her she'd going to the wrong ones, then brought up Brighton (where I grew up), thinking it'd be bait for later.

We talked about living in cities for a bit, I think we were talking about slang, I mentioned something about her chilling at her hostel's beer garden if she didn't come here, and we chatted about drinking for a bit. I could've mentioned that I'm a bartender but maybe I felt like I'd DHV'd enough already, that any more would be trying too hard.

By now, we had approached the junction with my street, this was partly why I'd suggested walking instead, the 500 m distance.

"This is my street. D'you wanna come over and hang for a little bit?" I told her.
"Sounds great, I can't really stay out because I've got to check out of my hostel tomorrow....but we should hang out!" She said.
We talked about her name for a bit, she took my number and texted me.
"I only just got an Australian number, so I'm glad to be able to use it," she said.
"Well, here's to popping your Australian number cherry," I said, prompting a high five with my arm. She took it.
"Yes, exactly!" She said and repeated what I said.

She made to wonder where the tram stop was, I told her to turn around.
"But isn't it in the midle of the road?" She asked.
"Yeah! You just need it pull that structure out into the middle of the road and it'll stop for you," I told her earnestly. The tram stop was built exactly like a bus stop.
"....You are messing with me again are you," she asked eventually. "I really am having a blonde moment."
I took a lock of her hair and said,"Just a bit."
We laughed.

We talked about getting together and she said that she'd be here until the 11th.

We hugged and parted ways.

Really successful approach overall, got receptive signs and led, but I felt like I could've been a bit more assertive with suggested coming to mine. It was about 22.15 and I know the tram to her hostel takes an hour, so it could just have been feasible, especially given I could've driven her there.

I'd better text her back, it's already past midday the next day.