Post: #601

(02-21-2019 11:44 PM)aeroektar Wrote:  Planning my trip now, have a few questions for the vets. Are pharmacies in Vietnam as laid back as Thailand? Can I get testosterone easily? Are there any good gyms around district 3 that let you pay to use for the day? Do I need proof of onward travel to enter the country? Feel free to PM me.

As for T, it's hit and miss. If you buy small doses, they may not say anything. But for higher dosages, they might start asking questions. An official doctor's prescription letter will stop their inquiry right there. If you don't have that, it's not going to be that easy.

And yes you should have proof of onward travel, not to show immigration officers, but to show the airlines.

Post: #602

Data point here: VOA, no onward proof needed.

Post: #603

Any recommendations on good hostels or hotels in HCMC?

And fun places to hit up?

Post: #604

(02-20-2019 11:01 AM)worldtraveler3 Wrote:  "Bumble here is virtually a waste of time unless you want a western woman for a relationship (people don't use that app for hookups as much)."

would you date a western woman for relationship? Alot of those in Bali too, i would say tinder is 40% western woman looking for a guy and many of them live in Bali as a 'nomad'.

Short answer is yes.

I simply struggle having a relationship with someone who isn't completely fluent (and I've tried) so it rules out a lot of locals.

My last two exes were Kazahkstan and Phillipines (but both spoke near perfect English, were educated at university, and both had a great enough vocabulary to not have to simplify my speech).

I've dated western women here too but they tend to only stay for 6-12 months so I always avoid anything beyond sex with them.

Post: #605

(02-18-2019 11:46 AM)croquet Wrote:  Throwing this out here for you Saigon vets: After walking all of D1, D3, D4, and D2 Thao Dien, Binh Thanh Saigon Pearl I still couldn't shake the impression that late night food after 12am is pretty much only around Bui Vien.

Am I missing a hidden area somewhere? Posting up in a tower above a mall is great until 10pm when the mall shuts. Is Bui Vien the only place for late night food?

For the most part, yes. Most places close at 11.

There are places for late night food though. D1, D3, Binh Thanh and D4 is a massive area, so you probably didn't cover it by walking.

It's easier to find food if you have a motorbike though. Just keep driving until you see a restaurant that isn't gated. They tend to be on the major streets that still have traffic at 3AM.

For those in D7: Nguyen Thi Thap (near the Lotte Mart) has a lot of 24/7 places.

Post: #606

I did find the late night food, and within very close distance to my place. I'll say this, a lot of them are pop up shops beside the road only serving the night. If you walk around in the daytime you won't see them.

Post: #607

For late night pizza (and great pizza at that): Pizza 4P's at Ben Thanh market in D1 is open until 02:00 AM every night except Sunday. In case you want something other than Vietnamese street food.

You can also go to Pho Quynh, which has good Pho and is open 24/7, near Bui Vien.

I'm sure you can find lots of other late night food options near Bui Vien. Whether you want to go to that area or not is another story.

Post: #608

Baozi in D1 is open till 1am, it's kind of a hipster joint, plays loud rap, but the food is good.

Anyone know where to buy good quality vitamins and supplements? I'm having trouble finding a general health food store, like Healthy Options which is all over the Phils. I just ran out of Vitamin D, zinc, and need apple cider vinegar.

Post: #609

Just arrived in Hanoi! If anyone wants to meet up, hang out or hit the clubs together, etc., send me a PM!

Post: #610

The girl (29) I'm currently seeing has become quite possessive, talking about "the marriage", wanting to see me every single day after work, buying me all kinds of stuff (almost anything I mention she buys me) and treating me possibly better then any women ever has.

I don't have long term intentions for her. The sex isn't great for me which is a deal breaker, in most positions even when she's warmed up and dripping wet she can't take it balls deep without tapping out after a few seconds because of pain. If the sex was great I'd honestly try to make something long term work because she's one of the greatest women I've ever met.

This is why sex after the first or second date is ideal (for me at least), I can assess the situation quickly and decide if we will be a good match before she catches serious feelings. All of the quality Vietnamese girls I've met want to form a relationship and build bonds before sex.

How do you guys let these genuine good girls down?

Post: #611

(03-13-2019 03:21 AM)aeroektar Wrote:  The girl (29) I'm currently seeing has become quite possessive, talking about "the marriage", wanting to see me every single day after work, buying me all kinds of stuff (almost anything I mention she buys me) and treating me possibly better then any women ever has.

I don't have long term intentions for her. The sex isn't great for me which is a deal breaker, in most positions even when she's warmed up and dripping wet she can't take it balls deep without tapping out after a few seconds because of pain. If the sex was great I'd honestly try to make something long term work because she's one of the greatest women I've ever met.

This is why sex after the first or second date is ideal (for me at least), I can assess the situation quickly and decide if we will be a good match before she catches serious feelings. All of the quality Vietnamese girls I've met want to form a relationship and build bonds before sex.

How do you guys let these genuine good girls down?

At 29 she's expired goods and knows it, so she's trying her best to land you. The best thing you can do is let her down promptly if she's really a good girl. Don't waste any more of her (very limited) time.

Post: #612

(03-13-2019 03:21 AM)aeroektar Wrote:  The girl (29) I'm currently seeing has become quite possessive, talking about "the marriage", wanting to see me every single day after work, buying me all kinds of stuff (almost anything I mention she buys me) and treating me possibly better then any women ever has.

I don't have long term intentions for her. The sex isn't great for me which is a deal breaker, in most positions even when she's warmed up and dripping wet she can't take it balls deep without tapping out after a few seconds because of pain. If the sex was great I'd honestly try to make something long term work because she's one of the greatest women I've ever met.

This is why sex after the first or second date is ideal (for me at least), I can assess the situation quickly and decide if we will be a good match before she catches serious feelings. All of the quality Vietnamese girls I've met want to form a relationship and build bonds before sex.

How do you guys let these genuine good girls down?

"she can't take it balls deep without tapping out after a few seconds because of pain. "

Maybe she has endometriosis. Women with that can feel pain during sex and it also happen that they cannot have childrens.

Post: #613

(03-13-2019 03:21 AM)aeroektar Wrote:  How do you guys let these genuine good girls down?

I know, this is way more easier to recommend, than actually to do it in a real life, nevertheless, is not there a most honest and direct possibility, that You just tell her about the sex problem? Of course it hurts her emotionally, but it will hurt her anyway, when You leave her. As You said, as she is a good girl, she could benefit&learn most of that honest feedback or lesson..

Post: #614

To update the situation, I've continued to see her and the sex has improved dramatically, she just needed time to adjust to my benis. I told her to slow down with the marriage talk and serious talk so soon and just enjoy the time we're together. She was also throwing minor shit tests at me, I told her I wouldn't see her anymore if she kept that up, she is now behaving accordingly. I'm going to try to keep contact with her when I leave next week.

Post: #615

How old is she?

Post: #616

(03-22-2019 12:18 AM)aeroektar Wrote:  To update the situation, I've continued to see her and the sex has improved dramatically, she just needed time to adjust to my benis. I told her to slow down with the marriage talk and serious talk so soon and just enjoy the time we're together. She was also throwing minor shit tests at me, I told her I wouldn't see her anymore if she kept that up, she is now behaving accordingly. I'm going to try to keep contact with her when I leave next week.

She sounds like a bit of a psycho (well her 29 yo age could explain why she is a bit marriage obsessed because both her biological and cultural clock don't have a lot of time) , even if you currently have her behaving.

The thing with any chicks is that they can suppress some of their behaviors, but even early on in your relationship, you have mentioned that she has shown you that she is obsessed with certain things including a long term relationship (marriage), and you are going to likely end up causing her to go crazy if she does not get what she wants out of the deal... which you seem to have no intention in that direction.

Gotta be careful with these kinds of girls and not tie them up if you do not intend long term relationship, especially if you are leading them to believe that you might be able to deliver what they want.. It seems to me better to move on to next one..

Post: #617

I would say she's average on the psycho scale, but even these girls have the potential to go off the rails.

We talked about cultural differences and compromise, she fell into my frame and for the time being accepted (without any sort of label) a western style casual BF/GF situation.

I agree that she is suppressing her feelings and it won't last long, they will come out and we will agree that it wont work and move on. I'm not going to string her along.

Post: #618

(03-22-2019 12:55 AM)aeroektar Wrote:  I would say she's average on the psycho scale, but even these girls have the potential to go off the rails.

We talked about cultural differences and compromise, she fell into my frame and for the time being accepted (without any sort of label) a western style casual BF/GF situation.

I agree that she is suppressing her feelings and it won't last long, they will come out and we will agree that it wont work and move on. I'm not going to string her along.

if you already made up your mind you shouldnt probably make her waste any more time.

Post: #619

Hey guys I'll be in Ho Chi Minh in a couple days. Coming from the US. Not sure how long but at least a few weeks to a month. If anyone wants to meet up let me know. I'm staying in Binh Thanh. Pm me.

Post: #620

(03-13-2019 03:21 AM)aeroektar Wrote:  How do you guys let these genuine good girls down?

"Genuine good girls"



1. I breakup with them for no apparent reason.
1a. She is usually an emotional trainwreck for 3-7 days.
2. I completely ignore her.
3. She finds a BF.
4. She cheats on the BF with me.

I deal with 19-25 y/o women though. At 29 they might try harder to lock you down. You can still probably get a FWB relationship once she has a BF if you're smart though.

Ignore all the chumps that say Vietnamese women are loyal. They'll still cheat if they can get away with it (and you're a beta)... like any woman.

Post: #621

How long do VN visas last if you don't use them? I.e. if you buy one online but don't fly to Nam due to a trip cancellation. Would it still be good a few months down the line, or do they expire if you don't use them immediately on the allocated date?

Post: #622

(03-27-2019 06:13 PM)asiaslayer Wrote:  How long do VN visas last if you don't use them? I.e. if you buy one online but don't fly to Nam due to a trip cancellation. Would it still be good a few months down the line, or do they expire if you don't use them immediately on the allocated date?

It's not a visa you're buying, it's an invitation letter. You'll be on the letter with a bunch of other people. I'd say it wouldn't be a good idea to show up on a different date. The process is painful enough normally.

Post: #623

The E-visa is a lot easier than the normal invitation letter process. One Mile at a Time gives a great breakdown here: https://onemileatatime.com/vietnam-evisa-us-citizens/

I’ve used it for myself and my parents in the past year. Very convenient.

Post: #624

(03-27-2019 06:13 PM)asiaslayer Wrote:  How long do VN visas last if you don't use them? I.e. if you buy one online but don't fly to Nam due to a trip cancellation. Would it still be good a few months down the line, or do they expire if you don't use them immediately on the allocated date?

The visa begins on the date printed on the letter.

Ex: A letter that says 3/26 means that your visa begins on 3/26 (and expires on 4/26 for a 1-month visa). Your visa still begins on 3/26 even if you get here on 3/30 or 4/15.

Post: #625

In HCM April 6-10. First time. PM if you want to go out.