Post: #1

This girl I have been talking to for like a month has a boyfriend. About 2 weeks ago, we kissed, and have been kissing when we hang out since then. Last Thursday, I had her in my room and we were kissing and then she stopped and said she couldn't do it. She was crying a little.

She said that she will break up with her boyfriend eventually, but that she doesn't want to break up with her boyfriend and then get screwed over by me immediately. She wants to get to know me better.

I told her to make her decision. Now I am going to stop talking to her pretty much. Is that the right thing to do, or should I keep playing the makeout friend and hope she decides to go out with me?

Post: #2

I wouldn't force it.

I have been in this situation many times and either they never hook up with you, or one night while you are watching The Rise of The Footsoldier ( http://www.thegmanifesto.com/2009/01/dop...ldier.html ) she rings your doorbell.

The main thing I think you don't want to do is oversell the deal.

Post: #3

Pursue other girls.

Post: #4

Of course she's not gonna make a decision. Chicks don't generally know how to do that.

Depends how bad you want it.

Next time she's in your room, how about fixing her up a drink and going from there?

Post: #5

Best neutral bet for me would be to keep it tense and amicable with her but make sure you go out with other girls and she notices it.

Women are lazy to change relationships, but once the bug of jealously or simply they rationalize that they are ready to let go something, they do it faster than any man.
So it is a matter of creating the spark for her to leave her bf. Then is yours and the best spark is jealously.
Go a bit aloof with her and non-supportive.

A friend used to say: "like a dog that returns to its vomit" .....about girls

Post: #6

This is a bit offtopic and not contributing much, but here it goes:

I just found out from my very good female friend that one of my regulars has a BF and that they are actually living together. All I could really do is just laugh. I mean, my friend is telling me this "I was talking to this girl(=my regular) and she said that she's looking to buy a flat with her boyfriend who she currently lives together with in a rented flat" and my face goes to total W-T-F-? :-D I guess the fact that girls cheat isn't really something to stop the printing machines, but it's a bit funny when you find it out like this. Well, this answers to many of my questions, eg. why she's not always available and not wanting it as bad as the other girls.

So my advice to you is: decide what you want. If you want something bad, game face on and go for it!

Post: #7

Best thing you can do is act like you don't want them to break up. Make sure she knows you are talking to other chicks and keep it really cool and calm. If you force the issue you become clingy. Chick wants to fuck....now just shut up and don't say anything stupid.

Play it cool. What do you give a shit if she is cheating on her boyfriend.